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*irly.sugar42
writes:damn boys! i love this guy. he doest love me back but he flirts, now he saying we should have sex. what should i do? im in love with him and i realy want to.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 I lost my virginity when I was 15. To a guy who I loved, but didn't love me back.
I regret it so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): I guarantee at least 70% of the boys in your school & age would not try to use you like this. Maybe more. You could go find a different boy any time.
It's your life. You already know the hurt is coming with this boy right now. Either you choose to go on and hurt yourself or you don't.
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reader, DenimandLace44  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Honey the thing is he doesnt love you. He wants to use you.
You are too young. You dont need this baggage in your life right now. I promise you that if you give in, he will still not love you. He will use you and walk away laughing to flirt with some other girl and have sex with her. Its what these kind of boys do. They think it makes them cool. It doesnt, It makes them jerks.
You are 15 at the most. It is illegal as far as I know for a 15 year old to have sex in your country. (I may be wrong about that, but I think that 16 is the legal age of consent there)
There is ALWAYS a possibility of pregnacy. Pregnacy and having a baby is NOT the coolest thing ever when you are so young. I had my first at 17 and my second at 18 USING BIRTH CONTROL. It was a nightmare and a time in my life that I dont like remembering.
Enjoy your teenage years. In 10 years I promise you that if you have sex you will look back and regret it. If you don't you will not look back and wish you had've.
When you have sex, do it safely. And do it with someone you love and who loves you. Do it with someone that treats you like someone special and who values the gift that you are giving him. Not some creep that flirts with all of the girls at school. Hugs
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (10 October 2010):
 What's the rush to have sex nowadays?? I was just 17 when i lost my virginity! None of my friends ever teased me about it, I lost my mine to someone who I loved, and they loved me too.
This guy sounds like a player, out to get as much sex as possible with no thought to hurting feelings or unwanted pregnancies!! Run like the wind away from him. Can you imagine if you had sex with this guy and he was rough, or he hurt you??? Is that how you want to remember your first sexual experience???? I sure as hell wouldn't...
I don't want to sound mean or rude, but get a grip. This guy who you 'think' you love, is nothing but a player, wants to build up his own reputation without worrying about others. There are plenty of other guys out there who will treat you like a princess...
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Damn boys is right! You KNOW you deserve SO much more than this. He's not your boyfriend, he doesn't love you but he wants to sleep with you? Hell no! You are NOT a sex toy to be used and thrown away. You're a young lady with a heart and feelings and you DO NOT deserve this. He's a young guy, if he gets what he wants from you, he'll spread it around that you're "easy" and had sex with you-there goes your reputation. Since you let him have sex without commitment, he can move on to another girl without telling you or anything. Wait until you reach the proper age, until you have someone who adores you and treats you like a treasure, wait until you know you have a guy who respects you enough to know you and love you before sex comes into the picture. I know it's a lot of pressure now. But when you look back one day, you'll be glad you didn't give in. There's nothing worse than regret, trust me. Tell him thanks but no thanks, you are NOT that type of girl. He may get mad but whatever. You'll have your respect!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 If you want to get hurt then go for it.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 Do not even think about doing it. You are under-aged and not yet ready for something as emotionally and physically, impacting as sex. Neither is this boy apparently. If you love him then wait until you are both ready, mentally and physically.
I hope that helps.
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