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writes: hey! im 16 an whenever me an my mate go out an about men are always looking at her and beeping at her in cars, that always happens to her cos she is so tall and slim. but i am average height and quite curvy, but slim aswell, so why dont men look at me or beep at me? why are they all so interested in my mate. do men only like really tall girls? whats so good about her being tall?i have a nice figure but no one ever looks at me, they look at her instead. it happens whenever we go out!i get a bit jealous lol. any help or advise?
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reader, bonym  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 I have to totally agree with Camille, I mean if these men are beeping their car horns why do you assume that it is automatically for your friend? Could it possibly be that they actually like you? Dont be so hard on yourself. Coming from myself who knows what it is like to have low self esteem, when you feel low about yourself, it gives off a persona to others which comes across as very unatractive. Let me explain, if for example you are very confident in who you are, you are happy with your facial features and your body, usually you tend to carry yourself in a way which reflects your confidence. On the other hand, if you are down on yourself, then unknowingly you carry yourself in a downish way which affects your general appearance. Men generally prefer women who are confident because something about them stands out more, perhaps your friend takes all the attention off you because she is taller etc and more noticeable, but stop assuming that the men are only looking at her, they must be looking at you too! xXx
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reader, camille +, writes (13 June 2006):
 How do you know all the beeps and whistles are for her? Are you assuming so because of low self-esteem? Or does your friend presume it's all for her? I was the same at school, all my friend got more male attention, but don't worry, you'll get your fair share. It's not worth getting upset over as who cares how many people fancy you? It's quality not quantity so just sit tight and your Prince Charming will come. Jealousy is a destroying emotion so try to overcome that for your own sake. Just know that a whistle or a beep is a quick passing thing, not a long lasting love, just a quick instinctive lust which is pretty shallow and annoying. (Or get a new ugly friend? No? See, you aren't shallow so don't let it get you down).
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 June 2006):
 dear reader. don't worry yourself with this i had the same when i was younger and i bet you its the nice quiet men that like you ones that eren't just after one thing its hard not to get jealous but you need to stop looking for what happens if you hold your head up high with a smile on your face i bet you, you'll be getting bibbed at sooner then you think. but be care don't start dressing up just for the attention you could attract the wrong sort of men ok!
so chin up and stay safe
all the best keep me posted xxx
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