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writes: My new bf sais he wont wear condoms, I am on the pill though. Should i have sex with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): no cos he could giv u an std
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): dont do it, ure leaving urself open for imfections and the pll aint 100%, using the femidom is an idea but want protect u from sti's i say he has a choice of which coat he is gona wear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): Sounds like somebody needs to learn some respect. Er, yes, your boyfriend.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (14 June 2006):
 make him wear a condom or don't give him any sex do not sleep with him sling him out get a sensisble man
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reader, bonym  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 I certainly would not be sleeping with him if I were you. He needs to learn some respect for you, if you want to be protected against potential diseases he needs to use protection. Its selfish of him to refuse to wear a condom, what is his excuse for not wearing one? Like Dr Pscyh said, abstain from sex with him for a time until he learns some respect and manners. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): no you should not have sex. I think your BF is taking the pee out of you, its up to you what you do and sex should be when two people know they are happy with what they are doing and confident too, not forgetting feeling safe! If your BF continues to be so stubborn you should consider being with him. xx
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (14 June 2006):
 Tell him, "You don't wear a condom, you don't wear me",This guy need to learn respect and quick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): Very good advice from the others,
Like Yos said, you might want to consider not using condoms later on in your relationship, but right now I would say you are being sensible and wise to choose condoms at this stage.
And, like the others have said also, I think it would be a very good idea to ask him to have a full checkup at a sexual health clinic. It is very possible that he could have an STD that has not shown any symptoms yet. Again, if he respects you, he should agree to this - as should you if you have had any sexual partners before him and not been checked out.
Good luck with everything, stand your ground with him and I'm sure everything will work out just fine!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (14 June 2006):
 No purely and simply. If he has no regard for you then NO! Think how many other hes said this to and how many things he may have already caught ? If he respects you and wants sex with you then he has to be prepared to use a comdom. Its up to you, you both have a say in this, you have to both agree, just because he thinks hes okay and you wont catch anything doesnt mean he is. Get to know each other a bit more first and use condoms until you really trust him, you dont want to catch something that you later regret!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 DrPsychs' advice is very good. If he refuses it shows he doesn't respect you, do you want to be having sex with a man that doesn't respect you? Also, the chances are he hasn't worn a condom with previous sexual partners too, meaning that he has a likelyhood of having one or more sexually transmitted diseases.
In the long run if you stay together you may want to consider not using a condom, if you have been together for a a long time. However, given his behaviour, I'd recommend you see a clean STD test result from him before you do this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): NO
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (14 June 2006):
 Cross your legs...if the BF won't wear a condom at your request then it means that he doesn't respect you as a person, or respect your body. If he isn't wearing condoms with you, it means he won't have been bothering with former partners either (and don't believe him if he says he is a virgin). The pill doesn't protect you against all the nasty stds that are lurking around in the underpants of the nation...many times people are blissfully unaware they have anything wrong because many STDs are not even giving out symptoms until advanced disease has set in. Make him wear a condom because it shows that you are an equal in this relationship, and strong enough not to be bullied into a situation you are not happy with.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (14 June 2006):
 dear reader the only advice i can give you is no.i would like to ask you how long you have been with your b/f? and if you know him well even to have sex in the first place you need to think of who he has been with him the past anything that could put you in any kind of danger. also the pill isn't always 100% affective against pregnancy. you really need to think this through before you take things any further.be carefull and stay safe keep me posted as to what you do xxx
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