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writes: i have a partner who is 19 i have a two month child with him and i ask a hyperthetical question on what would he choose happiness or family he asked me and i choose happiness but he didnt answer so does he really love me as much as he should? also we have been together for approx 4 yrs and are engaged i asked him that if a mistake happen and i fell pregnant again what would he do he said he would leave me or make me abort or he could punch me in belly to make me miscarry. what is your advice on our relationship is it going anywhere does he love me or should i cut my loses and go our sperate ways your vikki
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reader, bonym  +, writes (9 June 2006):
 ......and i fell pregnant again what would he do he said he would leave me or make me abort or he could punch me in belly to make me miscarry.
Hold up, did I just read this? Your bofriend said he would MAKE YOU MISCARRY? My dear wake up, this guy is a loser and a waste of space. Since when did he take up the role of master and decide that he can cause the death of a foetus? How dare he. And my dear how on earth can he love you if he says something as disgraceful as this? You need to get rid of him, I am sorry but that is the most dispicable thing I have heard ALL YEAR. That defies belief. You deserve better, your young child deserves better. What a jerk he is. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006): You have an incredibly immature, troubled bf there, dear. He obviously does not want a family and you must have suspected this-in order to have asked him your hypothetical question. To a mature, committed, good man...family is happiness. Leave with your child. You have no future with a man like this. I am sorry to say this..but he is harboring deep resentment of you and he has huge head problems to have said such an abhorrent thing to you. Call in family and friends for emotional support and find the strength to get out of there...today.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (9 June 2006):
 Not the response I would hope to hear from someone that loves me!! Clearly he doesnt want any more children, and well that his choice, but mistakes do happen, at least you now know that should it happen he aint sticking around!! You need to find a loving partner on all counts, he really cant love you that much if he wouldnt show you any support in a time like that. cant believe he actually said he would punch you to make you miscarry, if that doesnt sound like a violent person i dont know what is. I think you may have reached the end of the road on this one, hyperthetical or not, he shouldnt have come out with such a response and mean it! I suggest you get out while you can, as this man clearly doesnt really want to be in the relationship.
Take care
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (9 June 2006):
 That is a truely disturbing response from him.
Yes, people get to a stage where they don't want any more children or the timing is bad for them to have kids but to say that shows a lack of respect for human life and a lack of respect of your body and emotions.
It sounds like he is not really in this relationship and personally he sounds like a violent idiot.
I think you have answered your own question here.
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reader, tux  +, writes (9 June 2006):
 Egads! Did he really mean that? I would say run.. but maybe he is just stressed out about the new child.. but that response is disturbing.
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