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writes: This is really embarrasing but something has to be done. My boyfreind suggested that he do me up the bum, so I thought, why not! We used a condom. When my boyfriend took his penis out it had my poo on it. I was really embarrased but my boyfriend just said I need to go to the toilet but the problem is I didn't. We've tried this a few times now and it keeps happening! How do i stop this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): i think there is nothing wrong with it. its nice.!!!!! dont get me wrong its not an every day thing but when ur in love and things are good why not. ?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): you cant stop it.... us ladies might like it. men have the same problem!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): Pelvic floor exercises eh? Hmmm... I'll remember that for next time... If... Domo arigato Ariel-san. 8]
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reader, bonym  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Martini: Does that also mean that people shouldn't have oral sex, since the mouth is for eating, or licking, since the tongue is for tasting, or masturbation with our hands because it's for holding other things?
No your post should not be removed, why should it its your opinion and you have a right to agree or disagree with anyone!!!! But my point is that the anus is NOT for sex, full stop! As for the mouth etc, well each to their own when it comes to oral etc, and masturbation etc but in my opinion, God knew what he was doing when he designed us and the anus is for excretion only, in my view!!!!
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reader, shania +, writes (13 June 2006):
 What can i say?....all these agony aunts are right.Its also possible that your boyfriend is inserting his penis quite high up inside you so therefore there will be some shit on his penis...even though you dont want to go,also...do you want to keep having anal sex with him all the time?..If he is only penetrating you from the rectum then you will be walking round like John Wayne for a month!..Anal sex is ok for now and again but the vagina is designed quite perfectly for sex so dont feel pressured into doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Does that also mean that people shouldn't have oral sex, since the mouth is for eating, or licking, since the tongue is for tasting, or masturbation with our hands because it's for holding other things?
Anyway, sorry ladies/gents, I couldn't help it. Please delete this comment if you need to.
DrPsych and WendyG has some really good suggestions. If you're going to continue with anal sex, definitely consider what they have said.
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reader, bonym +, writes (13 June 2006):
I totally agree with Anja, God never made the anus for sex, it is purely for excretion purposes, the vagina is intented for sex. God is not stupid, he created our bodies very intelligently but we as humans take it upon ourselves to defile what He has made. Try sex the conventional and normal way then you wont have this problem. xXx
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 There is lots of useful information about this on this site:
http://www.puckerup.com/hygiene/?&=
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reader, Anja +, writes (13 June 2006):
 That's why the bum is not meant for f####g!! It is for excreting body waste, it wasn't made for sex!!
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (13 June 2006):
 You cant really stop this from happening without some of the mentioned methods.If your boyfriend tries to embarrass you, offer to give him some bum love and see if he can do any better.This answer may not help, but might make you smile
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (13 June 2006):
 It doesn't matter if you go to the toilet or not, the side walls of your bottom/ rectum will have some faecal matter on them - that is why some people have colonic irrigation (a pipe up the bottom) to clean out the rectal area. You only feel the need to go to the toilet when the bottom is fairly full of waste matter and you get those muscle spasms to tell you to dash. You therefore have no way of knowing how much is up there prior to anal sex. I know that some people do enema's prior to anal sex but regular enemas are just not a good idea for medical reasons - there are good bacteria up your bottom that stop you getting infections. By having an enema you risk flushing out those bacteria as much as the wastes, and regular use is associated with bowel dependence meaning it will be hard to go to the toilet normally. Regular use of laxatives is a definite no-no as your body will be flushing out good vitamins etc, and you risk becoming constipated as your bowel can be dependent on them. Ultimately anal sex is a messy business...maybe you want to rethink the anal sex thing altogether if it makes you embarrassed?
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Sorry but where else do you think poo comes from! Of course its going to be there, thats the normal place for it, even if you dont need to go the loo its still there ready for the next bowel movement! Doesnt matter how clean you are you may have to face facts that thats the place where its meant to be so its likely each time you will see some poo! You can do an anal douche, where you clear your anus with the flushing squirting of water, if you look at any site on the internet that sells such things they will tell you how to use them. I wouldnt however as the last person wrote use a laxative. This will not only make the area sore if you have had to rush to the loo beforehand, but might actually make you need to rush to the loo whilst in the middle of the encounter. It doesnt guarantee a poo free area as it still resides in the anus, If you take laxitives when you dont need to this can cause even more long term damage, and the bowel will stop fucntioning properly, will that is with overuse anyway. Only take laxtives when you need to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): You're going to have some poo up in there even if you feel that you dont need to go, I mean its your bum and poo is suppose to be there. One thing that you could do is take a laxative so many hours before sex so that you could make sure that that doesnt happen. I've only had that done to me once and then I learned my lesson, I made sure that I took a laxative so that it wouldnt happen again. Laxatives work for that. Try also drinkin plenty of water so that (trying not to sound gross or ofend anyone) you flush out all that waste from your bum. Its such a turn off and gross when that happens. LOL Good thing that you use condums when having anal. Try laxatives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Try using enema - liquid you squirt up your anus to help you clean out feces and such things. You might need to squirt that stuff up your butt a few times though.
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