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I moved 200 miles away from everyone I love to be with him - he just goes out to smoke up w/ friends and is still on a dating site!!
Q. I met my boyfriend last year on an internet dating website and after spending one weekend together, we were inseparable so we both decided that I should leave my job, my friends, my family and move the two hundred miles so that we could be ...
A. 6 December 2006: Online relationship is very safe but it is when you move in together with someone when you really learn about each other.
Your decision to give everything was perhapes premature and impulsive as you did not know him that well.
Perhaps there is... (read in full...)
His ex is pregnant and I'm afraid of what will happen to our relationship!
Q. I am dating this guy for a month and two weeks we recently found out that his ex is pregnant. The thing is I am not 100% sure if they really broke up... they live far from each other and I live closer to my boyfriend..... I am now worried that...
A. 6 December 2006: Driving yourself crazy with worry will not change things or ensure that is stays with you.
I am sure if you have known each other for a year before starting a relationship, he was sure that he liked you before going for it.
However, your relation... (read in full...)
I like using the vibrator he got me better than having sex with him!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a very healthy sex life. However my problem is that I don't get the same "satisfaction" from intercourse as he does. He doesn't know this. Last year he bought me a vibrator as a present, and I'm worried I'm a bit addicted to ...
A. 6 December 2006: There is no reason to hide the fact you enjoy masturbating, regardless which tool you use to reach orgasm. To some men, this is a turn on.
However, if you feel "guilty" you do not have to tell him how often you masturbate.
Three times a week is ... (read in full...)
She asked my bf if he wanted to go to the bathroom with her - should I tell my bf she made me mad?
Q. One night my b/f and i were at a club with his 2 friends and the friend's cousin who i have met about 3 times. At one point she is gonna go the ladies room with her friend and she asks my b/f do you need to go to the bathroom? To me that is being ...
A. 6 December 2006: Not only I would tell your boyfriend that you did not like that as I would tell the "LADY" in question that it is unacceptable behaviour.
She was fishing for something and being a tease. Even as a joke, sounds of bad taste.
Telling them both ho... (read in full...)
My bf can't handle my past and doesn't want to hear anymore about it - we love each other, so how do we solve this mess?
Q. i need a solution so plz be fast help me out.i have a loving bf the problem is my past troubles him a lot he thinks of it all the time and comes wth weird thoughts,how do i stop himhe lves me a lot and i love him too, and i dont wanna lose him no ...
A. 6 December 2006: Past is past and should be left alone, it is your private business after all. If you boyfriend cannot respect that and move on with the present, you both have no future together, not happy one anyway.
Are there reminders that constantly pop up, ... (read in full...)
He comes in and out of my life and raises my hopes! How do I get over him?
Q. We fell in love in February and we were really crazy about each other but I had issues due to things in his past including his late wifes suicide which I found difficult to come to terms with, especially staying in the same house. I couldnt cope ...
A. 6 December 2006: He cannot expect you to wait for him forever. Everyone grieves differently and some people take years to recover.
Perhaps when you next get together, as well as remembering the good times, you can discuss your future together if any in more dept... (read in full...)
I sent him a loving poem and now since he's read it...he seems distracted. Did I do something wrong?
Q. a few nights ago me and my bf were talking online and i sent him a poem that i wrote for him it was very loving and i spent ages writing it. he read it and went silent for a while so i changed the subject and when we said bye to each other he said i ...
A. 6 December 2006: His silence does not mean that is distracted,why would be say I love you? Doubt it would be for politeness.
Try to express your feelings with him and find out why he seems absent. Could be totally unrelated but unless you ask, you will not find out ... (read in full...)
Are most men sex-mad beings who hop from female to female? Any thoughts?
Q. Are most men generally sex-mad beings? Who if finished with one girl they happen to be seeing or been with, go straight onto the next, without a thought of the person they had been involved with before?? Just curious on your opinions with th...
A. 6 December 2006: Some men are players, they see a challenge in changing from woman to woman, it is a sign that they are immature, insecure and are afraid to commit for whatever reason.
If you come across one, do not bother unless you are prepared to wait about ten ... (read in full...)
I'm a nice, sensitive guy and just want a happy relationship..so is that sensitivity working against me? Any ideas?
Q. I'm a sensitive guy but I think that it's working against me cos I see most of the girls go for guys that treat them badly. I know that I sometimes over analyse things and I'm maybe insecure in some areas. I'm generally very confident but my rela...
A. 6 December 2006: Please do not change this "thing" about you. The right woman will fall in love with you for it. Being sensitive is a virtue in a men not a fault. Girls that tend to fall for bad boys are the ones who need to change their masochistic patt... (read in full...)
Feel hurt and confused after having drunken sex with a friend...what should I do?
Q. Theres a boy who i have been close friends with for two years. eventually i told him i liked him as more than a friend but he said he didnt like me like that.I had accepted we would just be friends.A couple of months later i ended up staying at his ...
A. 3 December 2006: Why is drink used as an excuse to do what people sometimes really want to do?
Do not beat yourself about it so much.
It was mistake, no reason for you to feel stupid. Everyone makes mistakes, that is what makes us human not robots.
I am sure... (read in full...)
We are having sexual problems it hurts her virgina
Q. Me and my girlfriend are having sexual problems it hurts her virgina when we having sex, is their any tips for me...
A. 3 December 2006: Try to estimulate her for longer with foreplay and perhaps a more gentle position. I would advise your girlfriend to see a female doctor just in case or even geneocolist.
It may not be serious but a doctor would be more qualified to give advi... (read in full...)
He is dating another woman to 'test' our relationship? This feels wrong..should I walk?
Q. My (now ex) boyfriend and I have been together for a little over six years, and until about four months ago we had been talking about marriage, children, and settling down together in general. Out of nowhere he then told me that he was unsure about ...
A. 3 December 2006: Even if it is true what he say, this guy is using a girl as a test. Do you want a future with a guy that uses women as guiney pigs.
Be prepare to accept that this is an excuse that he has moved on and you should as well. ... (read in full...)
I know he loves me but why can't he admit it? Tell me--what can he be thinking?
Q. Dear Cupid i saw my ex the other day since not seein him for over a month , and yes you guess it i fell so in love with him again. i got there and he kept looking at me and he asked to kiss me and cuddled me and stuff. i felt so loved and everyt...
A. 3 December 2006: He sounds confused, only you know why you broke up in the first place. Is this a trust issue?
If he is not really to commit again, you need to respect that but you also need to move on.
Your ex should not lead you on if he does not want to give ... (read in full...)
We have mention seperation and she has left that decision to me
Q. Hi, My wife had a brief afair with a married man at work 6 months ago. She says she's not interested in him now but I find that our relationship is more strained than before. I feel that my wife dosen't love me although she says she does but she ...
A. 3 December 2006: If your wife says she still loves you, you need to talk again.
Do not be so quick to give her up! At least without a fight anyway.
When she comes home from work, have a run bath ready for her with candles and petals to surprise her.
Make dinn... (read in full...)
I fancy dying my hair
Q. I have VERY VERY pale skin, at the minute I've got a light brown/dark blonde hair colour. But have got bad winter roots and it doesn't look very good. I fancy dying it. But can't decide what colour? I've got grey/blue eyes in case you were wonderi...
A. 3 December 2006: Go for soft colours, brown with a hint of red like cappucino medium dark brown if you fancy a change.
Try semi permanent so that if you do not like it, you can remove within days.
You could try wig shop just to see colours against your face if ... (read in full...)
He wants total control of the relationship
Q. I got involved with my best friend of 5 yrs. last dec. he was sweet, kind, gentle, and in need of attention all the time. We would go everywhere together when he was here on the weekends. He was also married but had been apart from her for 2 yrs. ...
A. 3 December 2006: You should cut off all contact as this relationship is over. Why do allow contact with him? Be strong and move on.... (read in full...)
My man used to be all over me...now he's cooled off and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi I've been with my man for over a year now. He used to be all over me and give me kisses. Now, I can't even remember the last time we ever made out. I see him everyday but he never kisses me that way. Whenever I try to makeout with him he pulls ...
A. 3 December 2006: You must discuss this with him. Explain how you miss your intimacy and try to find out what changed.
xxx... (read in full...)
Everytime he wants sex and I don't, he gets mad at me then goes to bed. What should I do?
Q. I took my boyfriend's virginity and he keeps telling me that we need to slow down, now everytime that he wants to have sex and I don't, he gets mad at me then goes to bed. What do I do?...
A. 3 December 2006: Your boyfriend, regardless of his lack of experience needs to learn to respect your wishes too.
Talk to him about your feelings and reassure him that you are not reject him as such but you both need to be in the same mood to enjoy making love.... (read in full...)
How do I leave an emotionally abusive relationship after 11 years and 3 kids and no money? Any advice?
Q. I would like to know how do i leave an emotionally abusive relationship after 11 years and 3 kids and no money? My biggest problem is money and where do i go? I want things to be better between us, but they never will be. I know that, and how do i...
A. 3 December 2006: You need to be very brave and plan this escape carefully.
Speak to local Authority, the council may have temporary accommodation house they can relocate you to give you a fresh start.
Staying with abusive husband for financial security is not the ... (read in full...)
Bf went for a cup of coffee at a females house one night...should I be concerned and was this wrong of him?
Q. My boyfriend started a new job 2 months ago and had his first night out with them. They were in a pub for a while and when i rang him at midnight he said he had just left pub and was back at a colleagues house for a cup of coffee - the thing is ...
A. 3 December 2006: I agree with Ariel, how would he feel if the situation was reversed.
Was it not enough fun to have night out, or does he not have coffee at home?
Just in case he is so naive, he did not realize that this would hurt your feelings, tell him about so... (read in full...)
I'm bleeding lightly and can't stop urinating-does anyone know what could be wrong?
Q. Hi, just hoping some one can help. I'll give as much info as I can.... I'm 20 and me and my fiance are sexually active and the only protection we're using is the pill. I've been on this for about 6 months so I'm guessing my body has ajusted to ...
A. 3 December 2006: You may have a reaction to the pill as not all people are suitable to use it as birth control.
Urinating often could be a separate problem, perhaps a bladder infection.
Not necessary something to worry about but either way, you should consult ... (read in full...)
She claims to love two guys at the same time...is this possible or is she lying to me?
Q. Can a human being love two people in the same way? Please advice me on what to do. My problem is that I have a girl which i truly love, but she told me she told me she really love me with all her heart, and at the same time love another boy just...
A. 3 December 2006: We can all sit here and judge who is is allowed to feel this or that, but reality is that some people are more confused that others, and depending on the circumstances, this girl may need more time to decide who to choose.
It is possible to love ... (read in full...)
He wants to know everything about my past bf..and I don't want to tell him anything! What should I do?
Q. Hi. im in a new relationship for about 3 months now.Everything is perfect but he wants to know about my past especially with regards to a guy i was involved with previously.We all reside in the same community. i told him that i wasnt in love wit...
A. 3 December 2006: Your instincts are correct. It is natural that you boyfriend is curious, perhaps he does not want to make the same mistakes.
But if the reason is that he wants to be facts straight, it sounds to me that he is as controlling as the other one.
Your ... (read in full...)
Trying to figure out this girl's feeling toward me! Should I just ask her?
Q. i'm trying to figure out this girls feelings towards me. she is my best friend, and i love her to death, but i think we could possibly see each other as more than just that and i need opinions. she's in a relationship, and i'm not anymore but was ...
A. 3 December 2006: If this girl has the same feelings with you, maybe she is not that happy with her relationship which she needs to end if that is the case.
From your comments, you are both really into each other and should get together.
It is not fair on anyone t... (read in full...)
If he's sincere then why doesn't he ask me out for a date? Possibly afraid of rejection or what?
Q. May I know if a guy kept sending love signals to a girl yet the girl didn't respond much in return will the guy feel dishearten, it happens more than a year already till now, is this guy sincere but how come he don't dare to ask the girl out for a ...
A. 3 December 2006: Assuming you are both single, perhaps he is a player and see you as a challenge, perhaps it is fun for him to mess with your mind. Unfortunately, there are still a few natural flirts left, that just want to have a laugh and are not ready to commit ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing my married boss. I'm thinking about leaving my company - is this a good decision?
Q. I have been working at a company for 3 years but for the last year I have been "seeing my boss", he is married. At first it started as a bit of fun for me but now I have true feelings for him. I met someone a couple of months ago but it didnt wo...
A. 1 December 2006: Leaving the job is not running away from the problem, it is solving the problem.
You say that the boss seems to want you more. He does not want you enough if he is still married.
Either way you need to leave the company, if your boss's feeli... (read in full...)
I'm a Jew for Jesus, but he will only marry me if I renounce Christ! What do I do??
Q. He wants me to convert to Judaism and renounce Christ in order to marry me!!!! I am already Jewish but I believe in the son of G-d. I'm what you call a Jews for Jesus. He says he loves me and that I have to renounce my beliefs in order to get ...
A. 1 December 2006: Religion is very sensitive subject for many.
He is expecting you to give up your beliefs for him, but he would not do this for you?
What does this tell you?
If both of you love each other the same and miss each other, is there a way to compromis... (read in full...)
I'm cruel to animals and am genuinely seeking help. Please help me.
Q. I hate myself for this, and you're going to hate me too, but I need help so I'm posting it anyway. I own a cat and a dog, and sometimes I'm just evil towards them. I don't know why I do it, and every time a get a new pet I promise myself that I'll ...
A. 1 December 2006: If you feel that you cannot cope sometimes without loosing your temper, give them to RSPCA to find them a good home.
When animals need house training for example, it can be hard not to lose your temper but patience is a must.
The kindest thing yo... (read in full...)
How can I get over my ex? I can only go two weeks w/out talking to her!
Q. What's the best way to just disconnect with my ex. She just broke up with the guy she was seeing and I'm dying to be with her but she just doesn't seem to be interested and almost seems to go out of her way sometimes to avoid me at get together. I ...
A. 1 December 2006: You will not be able to move if you have constant contact. If she is not into you that way anyway, let go!
It is hard but the longer you leave it the more hurt you bring yourself.
Be strong and find a girl who can love you back the same way. Go... (read in full...)
I'm a single mom on income support. I feel so lost and alone - how do I get through the Christmas season this year?
Q. It's December, I'm a single mum on income support and just dread Christmas, my nerves are jangling at the thought of it! How do i get through it. I don't have any relative and few friends in the area and so i'm feeling so lost and alone. Money is ...
A. 1 December 2006: Christmas always puts a lot of pressure on people, no matter what the circumstances. It is a day like any other why do we have so much stress/pressure about it?
You can buy good gifts for your son in charity shop.
You will make new friends soon... (read in full...)
My fiance says our split is not permanent, but it's been three months. I cry everyday - I want to give him an ultimatum!
Q. I am really hoping someone can tell me how to deal with the emotions I am feeling, My fiance left me about 3 months ago, we had not been getting along for a while we argued over the most trivial things and the arguments got really nasty we hurt each ...
A. 1 December 2006: It has been 3 month and issues have not been worked at or resolved.
If he was not affectionate enough for your before, what makes you think that any of it has or will change? It is possible to love someone very much and not be compatible in some... (read in full...)
My 4 y/o daughter wants "private time" behind closed doors. Am I handling this the right way?
Q. My 4 year old daughter has within the last few months taken an interest in having private time. During her "private time" she stays in her bedroom and she demands that I do not come in under any circumstances. She even makes me pinky swear. She ...
A. 1 December 2006: Your daughter is very young to display these feelings but I have heard of cases of 5/6 yrs olds.
You did the right thing by reassure her not to feel guilty.
Most important, by discussing this with her, she will trust you to talk about it if she n... (read in full...)
How long should I wait to tell him that I love him?
Q. I have been widowed for six years. I have been seeing this guy for a month. I think I love him, how long should I wait to tell him? ...
A. 1 December 2006: Tell him that you like him first, I love you is very strong and powerful sentence.
Different relationships develop at different speed, do not be impulsive and if to scare to frighten him off, wait until he tell you first.
Good luck and lots of ... (read in full...)
We broke up because he wouldn't stop flirting w/ others in front of me!
Q. Im with a guy right now. I really like him. I met him in the end of June. we started dating in August exclusively. now we r broken up coz he is very over friendly with women. I call that flirting. He says hes not flirting, he says he's jus ...
A. 1 December 2006: Sorry to say but boyfriend is right, either you accept him the way he is or not.
He was like that when you meet him and it is part of his personality to be chatty, does not mean that he will take chatting further. You cannot expect someone to chan... (read in full...)
I want to love my family, my job and have no doubts about my bf anymore! Can anybody help me??
Q. i am a single mother of 2 children from diffirent fathers. they are not with me because i am working out abroad to support them. they are now leaving in my own country with me parents. my parents never stop saying everything is my fault and i feel ...
A. 1 December 2006: Sounds to me that you are under a lot of pressure so you are feeling depressed, cut yourself some slack and chill out more.
It is not fair that your parents blame your for everything.
Parents probably are trying to make responsible for your act... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to someone else and it's not my husband, what can I do?
Q. Hi, I am married but am really attracted to another guy. We are good friends - worked together, have since left my job, so at least the temptation is not so much there. I know for a fact if this person asked me out(I know he had feelings for me)i ...
A. 1 December 2006: You need to work on your marriage first. Bring some sexy ideas into your relationship. If you married this guy, you must have fancied something about him at some point.
The fact that you are attracted to someone else is a sympton that there is s... (read in full...)
My fiancee and I are having a baby but my heart is with someone else!
Q. Shew relationships, why do they have to be so complicated. I have got myself in a bad situation. To make a long story short...Im in love with a guy thats with someone else, and I am also with someone else. I am also pregnant with this guys baby that ...
A. 1 December 2006: Do you still love the father of your baby? It is possible to love someone and fancy another.
Your are very confused but there are a lot of things up the air at the moment. If you have told the other guy about your feelings, you do not know if he f... (read in full...)
I've been hurt in the past so I find it hard to start a conversation with a guy!
Q. I have trouble talking to guys at first. I dont know how to get them to notice me, and when I do, I can't start the conversation. I used to be totally outgoing, but now not so much because I've been hurt so many times....what are some good ways to ...
A. 1 December 2006: Sometimes you need to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince. Dont allow your past experience stop you from enjoying life.
Perhaps you have been other guys in the wrong place, wrong time.
If you were outgoing before, then just be yourself... (read in full...)
His baby is just born and he has already changed his mind
Q. Am i being petty and selfish? my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months we have lived together for about 5 months. He recently had a child with his ex g/f. Before the baby we discussed how we should handle things as far as his ex and the ...
A. 1 December 2006: Please remember that having a child changes your emotional state of mind even for men. He needs your support more than ever, try to be understanding.
You are not being selfish as it is natural that you feel insecure and need reassurance your... (read in full...)
Can't seem to have a relationship... Why!?
Q. Hi, I'm 23 and single. Have been single for a while and just wondering why I can't seem to have a relationship. Everytime I find someone I like I always do something to ruin it or turn myself off them for some reason. I keep saying that I'm happy ...
A. 1 December 2006: You are defensive and you push people away before anyone has the opportunity to hurt you. In your mind, it may be what you expect it will happen everytime.
There is no magic way to stop being hurt again, allow yourself to be happy by learning to t... (read in full...)
Are my ex and I going to be together again? Or am I kidding myself?
Q. Well this is sort of a follow up for my last question. I saw my on/off bf this weekend, we had a lovely time and he told me he was unsure that we did the right thing to "cool things off". I didn't question him any further... but now I'm all ...
A. 29 November 2006: Sorry, do not know the rest of details but sometimes relationships break up for a reason. Sounds to me that he is more curious and if he has made no attempt to get back together again, time to move on. If communication is not flowing at the same ... (read in full...)
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