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Together 7 years and we live together but we have big problems. Should I move out?
Q. Q: Should I move out? Here's why... about two months ago, my boyfriend of 7 years became very protective over his cell phone. When I questioned him, he told me it was just texts from his male friends. I should have known better at that point, but ...
A. 1 January 2007: My heart goes out to you.
Trust has been broken and he needs to work very hard to rebuild it with you. Even if no physical contact took place, he has betrayed you emotionally.
If you think you can forgive him, a lot of talking is needed. 7 years ... (read in full...)
New bf doesn't respect my boundries..should I cut him loose?
Q. Am I over reacting or is this a warning sign? My new boyfriend spanked my bum last night. At first it was just along to the rhythm of the music in the pub and it made me a little uncomfortable but I didn’t want to say anything while we were in...
A. 1 January 2007: You have every right to be angry. The fact that he did that again, shows not respect and it a bit concerning.
Make sure he understands that it is NEVER to happen again.
If it does even joking, then let him go and spank somebody else. If someone ... (read in full...)
He says that relationships never work out... how do I convince him otherwise!?
Q. So I like this guy and he is the same age as me and he likes me too. But the problem is he doesn't want to go out because he believes that relationships never work out and that we will probably end up hating each other. I want to convince him that ...
A. 1 January 2007: He is very young to be so negative about relationships. Perhaps he has been hurt in the past or the example at home is not a positive one.
Either way take it slow with him, there is plenty of time to get to know each other as friends first and reas... (read in full...)
How do I get over the post-dumping blues?
Q. hiya i got a problem my gf now ex thought i was cheatting on her but i was not now that she dumped me i feel down, as iam not eating there food on the plate but i doint want it, and iam only drinking very little, and that i just sit in my room i get ...
A. 1 January 2007: Sweetie, You need to keep busy, not sit there thinking of her. Living in the past is not going to change your future.
Get out, socialize, meet new people.
I know it is easier said than done, but you need to kick yourself out of this to allow yo... (read in full...)
Want to end it but worried aobut his reaction...
Q. I want to leave my current BF alone but dont know how to do so! He is a very sensitive guy and he told me when his last GF called it quits he got depressed and even suicidal. We have been dating for eight months know and I don't see it going ...
A. 1 January 2007: There is not easy way of breaking up with anyone.
Face to face and the sooner the better is my advice. The longer you leave it, the worse it will get. He may be depressed but you cannot live a lie and make anyone happy if you are not happy your... (read in full...)
Any tips for increasing libido? I don't feel any sexual urges... at all!
Q. Can anyone suggest ways of increasing my labido? Im 21 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he's great, affectinate and passionate but I havent had sex with him for 6 months. I feel clostraphobic when he gets close to me. I love spending ...
A. 1 January 2007: See the GP for further advice.
You are quite young and are missing out. You do not say if you always had low libido, even though the advice is the same.
Try a change in diet, eat foods rich in Zinc and iron. Exercise might also help. Do not rule... (read in full...)
He has a gf but wants to break up with her, to be with me...should I continue with him or give up?
Q. There is this guy whom I would like to be with but he has a live-in girlfreind. He says he is done with her and wants her out. Do you see us being together or should I just give up on him....
A. 1 January 2007: Hopefully you are more aware of the circumstances. How long have they been together?
If he is done with her because he is bored for example, what makes you think that he will not do it to you?
Saying that, there might be a genuine reason for the ... (read in full...)
Is it cause for concern if your partner doesn't reciprocate, oral-wise?
Q. I haven't seen this certain question asked here, so I am going ahead and ask. If your p artner wants you to give him a bj, but in turn he won't return the favor, with no explanation what so ever. Should there be cause for concern, or not? I want ...
A. 1 January 2007: Has this changed from the past?
The only way to find out if by asking him why did he stop.
He may prefer to receive than to give and if you do not ask you do not get.
... (read in full...)
My ex bf treated his ex gf like a pricess, but not me! Why do guys not treat all their gf's the same...what was wrong with me?
Q. Do guys treat all of their girlfriends the same? See my ex didn’t treat me like the princess he claimed he treated his ex like. I keep thinking it must be something I was doing wrong and I guess I would get some reassurance if I knew he treated ...
A. 1 January 2007: This guy was on rebound and was not ready for any kind of relationship. As his ex let him down it put trust barriers up and it made him very cautious.
It is natural for him to feel unloved and think that he has cheated on for being nice to his ex. ... (read in full...)
How can I wish my husband "happy new year" when he repulses me?
Q. My husband goes out everynight for a few hours to the pub friday saturday and sunday when he comes in all he does is fall asleep we have 3 teenage boys and i feel so lonley its getting to the point that i don't like him to touch me as he repulsis me ...
A. 1 January 2007: If you husband is taking you for granted, you must tell him this to give him the opportunity to improve.
Do not sit and wait for him, go out yourself.
If the above does not work, then consider building a new life.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I lied to my best friend when she asked me if I had sex with her bf! How do I tell her the truth?
Q. I had sex with my best friends man and she found out about it.I told her it was a lie and that i never had sex with him.I dont want to keep hiding it from her so how do i tell her?...
A. 1 January 2007: By denying that you have slepted with her boyfriend, you are continuing the lie.
You need to face the truth and be honest with your friend if you want her friendship at all.... (read in full...)
My periods have stopped!
Q. I had taken birthcontrol for two in a half years and i stopped taking it about six months ago and still haven't had a period. now i'm scared i can't have kids what is wrong with me?...
A. 1 January 2007: You will need to visit the gGP in any case. There are to many possibilities for period to stop.
cystic ovaries is an option. Doctor may prescribe you some tablets to normalise period. Not necessarily serious but you needs to be checked out.... (read in full...)
I like my bf's brother...should I take this further?
Q. i have a boyfriend, and we love each other. but ive been talking to his brother and hangin out w/ him and i like him, but i don't know if he likes me and if i should get w/ him? ...
A. 30 December 2006: If you love your boyfriend, surely his brother or anyone else is off limits.
Having feelings towards others is a sign that you would rather be available.... (read in full...)
My bf says he's bored with making love to me! I feel so self-conscious! How do I deal with him?
Q. My bloke of two years said i don't do enough during love making. I thought everything was ok. He says i don't touch him as much as i used to do. I just lie there and let him do everything. It's not true and has made me feel so conscious. We do ...
A. 30 December 2006: When he least expects, gets some kinky boots on with a sexy babydoll top. Dont even drag him upstairs, get on top of him whilst he sits on the sofa.
It is natural that after 2 years, sex is not as exciting and could be seen as routine by eith... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's lesbian bombshell?
Q. I have been involved with a girl I really like for the past few months..She seems like a great person and we seem like a great fit..I am 30 and she is 25..We have the same morals, beliefs, sense of humor, ect..Last week we were talking and she told ...
A. 30 December 2006: Your girlfriend shared an intimate situation that happened before your time.
She did not have share with you, but she wanted you to know. There is no reason why you should doubt her feelings towards it. It was an experiment and she did not like... (read in full...)
I have a new bf...How do I explain my lack of sexual experience?
Q. I have been with my new boyfriend for 3 weeks now and i really want our relationship to work for the both of us, but feel that the trouble with us is that he is 15 years older than myself i am 36 and have only had a few sexual encounters in my life, ...
A. 30 December 2006: If you had sexual encounters before, I do not think that your boyfriend will notice your lack of experience necessarily but it sounds as if it important to you to explain to him just in case.
My guess is that if you tell him, he will be more und... (read in full...)
He 's balck..I'm white and my family are against interracial relationships! What should I do?
Q. I would like some feedback on what to do about this situation. I have met a great guy recently who I really like and who likes me. He is black and I am white. He has only dateed white women and his family has no problem with it. I've never dated a ...
A. 30 December 2006: If you let him go, you may regret it for the rest of your life.
Perhaps after getting to know your man, your family may learn to accept him over time. Specially once they realise how much he makes you happy.
As much as do not want to upset your fam... (read in full...)
How can I tell if I'm good in bed?
Q. Hi my name is Lizzie and I'm 21 and I'd like to know how can you tell if your any good in bed and if you're a good kisser. My friend recently got told she was a quote "lousy f***" and i thought this was horrible and it started me thinking have ot...
A. 29 December 2006: You can hire a sex education dvd to learn some moves.
I am not talking about porn, but dvd's the real life couples that have agreed to educate others in giving pleasure to each other.
A passionate lover will prefer that you move as much as he do... (read in full...)
She's either seeing someone else or is ashamed to say she loves me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 weeks now. She had a bit of a fling with a work friend a few months ago and he keeps texting her saying things like hed like to see her in nothing but a baggy shirt. Then i was on the phone to her...
A. 29 December 2006: A bit concerned about her not being forthcoming about who it is.
She is trying to tell you something but does not have the balls to see it through?
You need to talk to her face to face and ask her what is going on.
Either you deserve to know wher... (read in full...)
Does my attraction to this other guy mean--I don't love my bf?
Q. I am a long distance relationship- was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years before he moved overseas in July. I hate doing the long distance thing but I'll be moving to be with him early next year. When he first went it took me ages to get used to ...
A. 29 December 2006: Moving away is a big step and it is quite normal that you feel doubtful if you have not seen your boyfriend since July.
You are seeking elsewhere what you lack in our current relationship, physical contact. It is not fair on your boyfriend as he i... (read in full...)
His response to my text message really freaked me out! What do you think?
Q. I have a friend who texts me every day and we talk about anything. He's told me that he really likes me before and I told him that I like him too as a friend, but yesterday I sent him a text message saying; " okay I just got to the gym, I'll text ...
A. 29 December 2006: Your friend might like you more than you like him.
Either way you need to ask about his response and what was meant by it to put the record straight.
Daily text for you may only mean friendship but for him, may be more.
... (read in full...)
Are my kids being ungrateful or am I expecting too much from them?
Q. am i expecting too much from my children age 10 and 14. just had christmas on my own as the ex did not want me to visit. i had my 2 the w/e before and we had our christmas, i had to ask did they enjoy the w/e and the presents. the little one, got a ...
A. 29 December 2006: Try not to worry to much, I am sure they love you unconditonally, you should too regardless who they phone first.
How often did you kids call you beforehand? Do they have your number easily available or do they wait for you to call them?
Best ... (read in full...)
Where do I go? To my bf I'm unhappy with or this other guy that likes me as a friend?
Q. My boyfriend and I been together for a year...someone from my past came back into my life on the day of our 1 year anniversary and well me and the guy been talking everyday since..when i ignore him or act like i dont care about what he has to say he ...
A. 29 December 2006: I agree with female anon.
You have two issues to deal with.
1 If you really love your current boyfriend, stay with him, he gives you love and affection. But if you are finding yourself tempted by another, perhaps you do not love him really a... (read in full...)
I can get 'wet' like I think I shoud. We've used lube but is there a way I can do this naturally?
Q. Hi I recently started having sex for the first time, we had been doing stuff for a while - but wanted to make sure we were both ready before going the whole way. Before when we were doing stuff i never had trouble getting wet - but since we've ...
A. 29 December 2006: You may be putting to much pressure on yourself and not relaxing enough.
Try foreplay for longer before penetration. Give it time as you may need more practice.
If you are still concerned, best advice is to visit GP.... (read in full...)
MArriage is about to end because...she had the front flap of her ear pierced!
Q. I need some help and advice as I think my marriage of 7 years is almost at an end and I'm not sure what to do. Let me start with some background - been with my wife for almost 11 years now and she's known for pretty much all those 11 years t...
A. 29 December 2006: You may not like piercing, in your body you have the choice to decide it is for you or not.
But you need to respect that your partner has the same choice in life.
You need to decide if you are more angry with your wife getting an ear pierced ... (read in full...)
How many BJ's on average, is average?
Q. How many blow jobs does the average man get per week ? ...
A. 29 December 2006: This number might vary on frequency of making love sessions and depends on each couple.
Each relationship is different and both parties should be happy with the number.
I personally view blowjobs as foreplay which about 30% of the times my partner ... (read in full...)
Is winking really a way of flirting? How do you respond to a wink?
Q. is winking flirting? is it a way of man saying he wants you? How should you respond to someone winking at you?...
A. 29 December 2006: Yes, it is flirting. That is his way of saying he likes you.
If you like him, wink back or smile.... (read in full...)
Why is he acting jealous if he doesnt want to be with me? Does he still care ?
Q. Hi, well i never thought that i was going be here writing you this. Im really desperate. The problem here is that i met a guy like 3 months ago, he was so into me, but i decided not to take things seriously because he was far away, he was so into ...
A. 28 December 2006: Your talk face to face will be very important to establish what it to happen.
He is hurt about you pushing him away, probably explains why he is cold sometimes.
It is possible to love someone and not be in love with them anymore. But if he is je... (read in full...)
How should I find out if he wants to be friends... or more?
Q. I dated this guy a few years back and things just didn't work out then. Now we have both had a little time to grow up and think about what we really want. We went out almost every night for about 2 weeks and now I may talk to him one time a day. I ...
A. 28 December 2006: You are seeing each other more often quickly, it is possible that he is also interested. Otherwise why the sudden interest in keep touch once per day.
The only thing you will find out is by approach the subject. Yes, you need to ask him if he has ... (read in full...)
I feel neglected when he's watching TV... ideas?
Q. My bf loves to watch tv,but oftentimes i feel i'm neglected because he don't talk to me not like we're not watching.. what should i do? please help...
A. 28 December 2006: You need to tell him how you feel, find a compromise.
There must be favourite shows he prefers to watch, then make some quality time for both of you.
When commercial comes on, hold his hand whilst you wearing a sexy outfit, lingerie, to divert h... (read in full...)
I had dreams of being with him and now I just don't know what to do!
Q. I was in school when I met this man I fell in love with him from the first day then he used to be nice with me then he traveled I met him after 4years he asked me what makes me think of him for so long I told him I love him then he said why me then ...
A. 28 December 2006: sounds to me that he tried to let you down gently, so gently he did not have the guts to tell you straight.
He does not love you and never did.
You became obsessed with him, it is fair to say that he should have not kept in touch with you but you ... (read in full...)
He never tells about HIM or HIS life!
Q. i have been seeing my boyfriend for a year at the begin of jan,we only ever spend 1 eving /night tog,firstly it was about evry 3 weeks,now its about evry 10 days or so,but he spent xmas eve,xmas day/boxing day morning with me -and sent e-mail 2hours ...
A. 28 December 2006: Some men may find it difficult talking about their life, maybe because they are embarressed of being perceived as sensitive about their feelings.
he may also see this relationship as a "escapism" to his daily routine. Have you been to visit him ... (read in full...)
I am worried i wont see her again
Q. Hi, I have recently started to get feelings for a close mate from work, i've known her for sometime now as i am mates with her brother for a few years and i knew of her but didn't get to know her til she started working for the same company and her ...
A. 28 December 2006: If you really like this girl, try to understand and respect that she needs some space and she has a lot to deal with right now. She is being sensible in not getting involved with someone in her condition.
Being on rebound is bad enough, but faci... (read in full...)
she offered me an ultimatum of "re-concilling a relationship with her or not ever seeing my son again
Q. I am a father to a 15 year old boy, of which his mother and I have been apart for the past 12 years, but i have always made a point of maintaining a relationship with him. 2 years ago his mother offered me an ultimatum of "re-concilling a ...
A. 28 December 2006: Your ex is playing emotional blackmail game on you. the person who suffers the most here is your son.
You may have to Court/Mediation services to ensure you get to see your son. Look into this as each case is individual. It will not look favo... (read in full...)
How do i get over a mentally, sexually, financially abusive man
Q. ive been in love with the same mentally, sexually, financially abusive man for 10 years. how do i get over him and why am i still obssessing over him...
A. 28 December 2006: My heart goes out to you.
First you need to regain your self esteem and become very strong.
You need to get out of the situation you are in. That person does not deserve your love and they hurt you, they do not love you.
Without further deta... (read in full...)
I get jealous whenever i see women who are airbrushed
Q. Why am i so jealous and insecure? Im 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Hes a good man and will do anything for me and vice verca. Ive suffered from jealousy and insecurity now for many years, however i am better than i ha...
A. 28 December 2006: You are not alone in feeling insecure next to these women.
Remember, your partner chose to be with you because he loves you the way you are!
Sounds like you are suffering from depression and low self esteem. Find out about counciling and support ... (read in full...)
I might just be scared to love him
Q. How do I know if i love my boyfriend? I'm afraid I might just be scared to love him because he's leaving for the navy soon and I know it will hurt more. Any advice?...
A. 28 December 2006: You just know if you love someone. You miss him when he is not there, you wake up / go to sleep thinking about him.
Without more details, it it is dificult to say.
If you have doubts and have not been together for long, talk to him, he may be f... (read in full...)
I have no idea why on gods earth i cheated on him
Q. Hi!..i'm so Distrot!..i'm so upset i cheated on my boyfriend twice..once on Christmas..and once just a few houres ago..i have no idea y on gods earth i cheated on him i love him would never cheat and here i am and i gave to guys i don't even LIKE at ...
A. 28 December 2006: Not sure what kind of environment you are in to be put in a position to be forced into giving bj's. My advice is if you can, do not go to these places!
Forcing someone to give bj is sexual abuse. And the other one, he is no friend if he took adva... (read in full...)
She's gotten distant..I can help but think she's cheating on me! What should I do?
Q. So I've been seeing this girl for 5 months. We usually spend everyday together but since we're both off from school shes at home in Boston and I'm here in California 3,000 miles away. We've said "I Love you" and I truly mean it. She assures me s...
A. 28 December 2006: Asking her over the phone will appears that you are being paranoid and do not trust her. This may push her away.
Give her some time, let her chase you.
Worrying about it and loosing sleep will not ensure that nothing happens. If she really l... (read in full...)
I'm happy with my job and being close to my family. I have a LD bf but wonder...is is really the one for me?
Q. I met a guy over the summer and had a passionate affair, the one catch was that he was my flatmate. We both fell out with the other flatmates and had to move out. I unfortunately didn't have a job and had to move back in with my parents, which w...
A. 28 December 2006: If you are having doubts and feeling confused about either to stick or move on, do not rush into any decision yet. You need more time.
Moving in with this guy and find later that it was the wrong decision would make you feel more guilty and rese... (read in full...)
His ex gf sent him a christmas card and I'm wondering...is she just keeping him strung along?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together almost 6 months. He lives 50 miles away, we have our own houses and we see each other every weekend and in the week. He had a girlfriend and they kind of drifted apart after three years - 3 yrs ago (she couldn't ...
A. 28 December 2006: You both need to talk about this. He needs to understand how insecure this makes you feel.
But you also need to see how confusing this must be for him to. A three year relationship is not easy to erase and it is natural that a bond has esta... (read in full...)
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