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I have had my share of challenges in life but believe that we learn something new every day.

Hope to bring some comfort and helpful advice to someone who needs it.

Found this site looking for answers myself, even though I was not brave enough to ask them.

It is wonderful to know that so many people in this world still care about others. A big hug to all of them.

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I give good advice, so why are my ratings bad?

Q.   Dear agony aunts, I am feeling a bit down at the moment. Why? Because like you I am an agony aunt but unfortunately my ratings have been going down and it makes me feel well (excuse my French)…“sh***y.” I don’t think I give bad advice so I don’t ...

A.   27 January 2007: Remember the reason why you decided to become an agony aunts. I am sure it wasn't for the ratings. If you gave about advice to 100 people and helped 1 person out of that, looking at the ratings you could have 99% poor response but if you have mad... (read in full...)

She is having doubts about us. What can I do to reassure her?

Q.   I have been out with my girlfriend for 2 years now. However the last few days she has been doubting us and thinking about finishing us. It is both of our first serious relationships and she says she is confused and is doubting everything. I think ...

A.   27 January 2007: Remember the good times you had before, do something fun together, be attentive, caring and passionate. Keep the communication flowing, this will certainly help. Take care. ... (read in full...)

I've been waiting forever but he still won't marry me! So should I call it off and marry this other guy who's offering?

Q.   i have been engaged for 1 1/2 years now to my fiancee, when i mention to him about getting married he goes to a bad mood so i just stop and keep my mouth shut cos i don't want any arguments.i feel he doesn't wanna talk about this, but for how long ...

A.   27 January 2007: He is not ready for marriage and is avoiding the issue.... (read in full...)

I address my boyfriend as "sir" he seems to like this but everyone thinks he's controlling me. What do you think?

Q.   Everyone thinks he over-powers me and tells me what to do, but that's not true! I call him 'sir', but that's of my own will. He'll call my name from the next room and I'll obnoxiously and jokingly answer 'Yessuh' or 'Sir.' and they look at me like ...

A.   27 January 2007: If you call your partner Sir in serious situations, it is not natural as this indicated he has authority over you. Not matter the environment you are in, there should be mutual respect in a relationship. Does he call you "Mum" or "My Lady"? ... (read in full...)

Does this guys just want to friends or does he want more? Any advice?

Q.   This guy , seems to make a big effort to chat with me, like he'll talk to me on msn when he's offline , and look for ages in the play ground to find me . Does he just wanna be mates ? ... or ? ?...

A.   27 January 2007: He is curious to talk to you so yes he might like you. Get to know him first, take it slow first and then you can then decide if you want more than friendship.... (read in full...)

Don't know what to do on my dinner date with this girl I like. Any tips?

Q.   i'm goin on a date with this girl who asked me to go out for dinner with her. i dunno what to do lol i really like her. she asked me out so she must like me any hints tips? as much as possible thanks ...

A.   27 January 2007: She asked you out because she likes you too. Remember that. Your just having a drink followed by dinner,you enjoy both so do not put pressure on yourself, go with the flow and relax. Keep the conversation flowing, listen to her as well as talk... (read in full...)

Stopped using the pill, periods are late but pregnancy are negative! Any advice?

Q.   I stopped using the contraceptive pill (microgynon 30) about 4 months ago. My periods have been a couple of days late every month since i stopped using it, this month its still not here and its more than a week late! I've done a pregnancy test and ...

A.   27 January 2007: Stopping the pill sometimes affect your whole metabolism and it is normal to experience changes in your period cycle. Hormones may need to reajust without the help of medication (which was added by pill). Stress can also affect period. If you do n... (read in full...)

Do girls masturbate as much as us guys do?

Q.   i am 15 year old boy and at school all the boys talk about them w**king all the time, but it seems that girls dont and never have done, is this true....

A.   27 January 2007: Masturbating is as natural for girls as it is for boys. As to frequency, not down to sex but the individual. This is way to get to know your body better and it is healthy but still a taboo in some circles hence why not everyone discusses it open... (read in full...)

At school, my gf pretends we aren't going out...why does she do this?

Q.   hi i have a girlfriend but she doesn't hug me or anything and pretends that we are not going out wen we are at school plz help...

A.   27 January 2007: Your girlfriend may feel ashamed of having a boyfriend or does not want to get teased about it. Whatever the reason, she should share it with you. Talk to her and try to find out. Take care x... (read in full...)

For my b'day, my bf had wine and cake for me but no present! Am I expecting too much?

Q.   OK, i was just wondering on peoples opinions on this. It was my birthday a couple of days ago, had a lovely evening with my mates but then I got a bit disappointed. My boyfriend bought a bottle of wine and birthday cake, but no present for me. ...

A.   27 January 2007: I think women value gifts more than men. Some men are more generous than others. But then again it is not the size of the gift that proves their love. What counts is the intention, it was nice that he bought you wine and birthday cake which I am s... (read in full...)

He dumped me over some mean texts I sent him! What can I do?

Q.   hey peeps..im in a bit of a dillemma..iv been 'sleeping with' tthis guy for a couple of months now.and i guess you could say iv fallen for him!!!however, i wen out and got drunk the other nite, i kept texting him, pestering him to come bk 2 my ...

A.   27 January 2007: I am sorry to say that you pushing him to far and just scared him away. Best way forward is to keep busy, move on, meet someone else and take it slow next time. Remember that people need space. If you do not respect their space they will feel... (read in full...)

After 3 kids, my body isn't what it used to be and hubby is not as attracted me! What can I do?

Q.   I have recently had my third child...and unfortunately my body will never be the same as it was before kids. I have worked out hard and lost all the excess pregnancy weight but still have scars and sags that my doctor says are 'just part of being a ...

A.   27 January 2007: How far you are willing to go for a better figure is up to you but do it for yourself not just your husband. Naturally, you can eat healthy: drink 8 glasses water per day, 5 veg/fruit day, no fried food, no bread, no coffee, no smoking, no alco... (read in full...)

Met him 2 weeks ago..how do I tell him I want a future with him?

Q.   confused.met a guy new years eve,we kissed and went home seperately, we've been chatting flirtily online for the past two weeks but he lives three hours away and we are both at university.i really like him.how do we keep the relationship going?and ...

A.   27 January 2007: You do not know this guy enough to push things forward. Get to know him better first and take it slow. Consider the implication of a long distance relationship as well. When the subject comes up then be honest but if you mention it yourself now... (read in full...)

My self-esteem issues make me think I'm not good enough for him. Any advice?

Q.   Hi, Lately I've been dealing with some self esteem issues. Here's the thing...I'm in love with a really great guy, and apparently he's crazy enough to love me back and want to be with me. I just don't feel good enough for him. I mean he's an a...

A.   27 January 2007: Not feeling good enough is just a sympton of low self esteem. You need to build on your inner confidence and allow yourself to be happy. Being sexually abused was not your fault but a trauma imposed upon you. Stop punishing yourself, you cann... (read in full...)

Does cheating on my fiancee automatically mean marriage is the last thing I should do?

Q.   I have been dating this guy since I was 14- now 21 and engaged to him. I always wanted to get married young and having a family is the most important thing to me. We have never broken up or taken a break-he has cheated on me once 4 years ago and I ...

A.   27 January 2007: Cheating on one person might mean that you are not ready to commit to that person. If you rush into any decision you may regret it later. Having doubts is quite normal but allow yourself enough time to decide which one you would rather be with. x... (read in full...)

How long should foreplay last?

Q.   how long should forplay last for?...

A.   22 January 2007: How long is a piece of string? Should last as long as you both feel comfortable. Everyone may have a different answer but to me the purpose of foreplay is to have fun, enjoy "playing" and it should last until you are "can't take no more" befo... (read in full...)

How do I turn this friendship into a relationship with him?

Q.   my crush lives down the street from me. when im with him im always smiling and i tend to always have a fun time. i feel that he likes me because i gave him a small note a month ago and found it still on his desk in his room. certain things make me ...

A.   22 January 2007: His needs might be already met because you may give him what he needs. The note he keeps in his room, could be a souvenir,nothing else. For you to be in his room, you are giving him sex without him having to commit? It could be a non-commital... (read in full...)

If a girl fancies you, does that mean that they find you good looking/handsome/sexy?

Q.   If a girl fancies tyou, does that mean that they find you good looking/handsome/sexy? Thanks!...

A.   21 January 2007: Yes, to fancy a guy is to find him sexy, to enjoy his company and to think about him all the time. If he has a nice personality, the girl will fancy him even more. When a girl is sexually attracted to you or fancies you, there will be a lot of e... (read in full...)

Can a girl get pregnant on her period?

Q.   Well me and my girl have been together for 18 months and last week on friday 3 days before her period was over i had decided to have unprotected sex with her and wanted to know if you can get preganant while on your period?...

A.   21 January 2007: Yes you can. A woman is least likely to get pregnant during her period but it is still possible. During menstruation a woman's body is flushing out both the unfertilized egg and the lining her body prepared for the possibility of a fertiliz... (read in full...)

My fiancee ran his hand down this girl's back at the bar he hangs out in... what does it mean!?

Q.   What does it mean when you are out drinking at a bar with your fiance' that you are marrying in four months and you see him run his hand down another girls back as she is walking by? From top to bottom not touching her butt or anything? I know if a ...

A.   21 January 2007: I agree that is is a flirtatious gesture. But it if possible that he saw no harm in that of only a way to call her attention. I would not be happy if my partner did that either, and I would tell him so, tough if he did not like it. However t... (read in full...)

He lies to me about everything ..why?

Q.   My boyfriend cheated on me in past but now we are back together. Whats bothering me is that he continues to tell white lies ALL the time - like if i say are you still at work he'll say yes but then at end conversation he'll say no he's at home. O...

A.   21 January 2007: If this guy is a compulsive liar, it is part of his personality and there is nothing you can do to change that. Best thing to do is to forget about him and get an honest guy who deserves to be loved. There are plenty of fish in the sea, they are... (read in full...)

I slept with him but havent heard from him since ..why?

Q.   i met a guy for a first date.he's 28 and im 25.we got on really well. you could easily tell we we're comfortable with each other, he told my best mate before we met that he wanted a gf.so durring the date we jusy went with the flow, both thinking ...

A.   21 January 2007: This guy should have told you that he did not want a relationship not your friend. I think you slept together a bit to soon. Sounds as if he did not see you as a challenge anymore. All you can do is learn from the experience, take it slow next tim... (read in full...)

My husband takes me for granted so I cheated on him with a guy at work. But this guy is married aswell. Who should I choose? My husband or the married guy at work?

Q.   I have been married for 20 years to a guy who takes me completely for granted, we have no kids because he doesn't want any (I do!)Just lately I have been attracted to another man at work. I got a new job working in the same office as this man, I ...

A.   21 January 2007: You say that the other married guy does not want you all the time. He does not feel the same way as you and there is not evidence that his wife takes him for granted. He had affair with you because he could. You need to forget about married ... (read in full...)

He sucks at sex... comes to soon, lies on top of me, never brings me to orgasm... what to do?

Q.   I don't know whats wrong with my boyfriend - he's really bad at sex. We have sex daily but he comes so quickly. He comes within 3 minutes and it's really frustrating because obviously I need more than that. We will end up having sex like 3 times a ...

A.   21 January 2007: The first thing to do is to be honest with him and tell him what you need. If you do not let him know how to give you more pleasure, how will he know what to do? Show him how to pleasure you, try to have more foreplay before penetration so that ... (read in full...)

My husband puts more effort into pleasing his dad than pleasing me!

Q.   why does my husband seem to constantly feel the need to please his dad? he puts so much time and energy into it that he has none left for me and he also works for his dad. he is almost forty so i find this odd. he is always so exhausted when he gets ...

A.   21 January 2007: Your husband probably only wants his dad to be proud of him and that he deserves to some day take his place. Whilst you need to be understanding of his feelings, you both need to talk and spend some quality time together. You need to explain how ... (read in full...)

When I asked him out he said "let's get to know each other better, first". Is this his polite way of saying No?

Q.   ive liked this guy for a while now (about 10 months) and he claims he liked me the same amount of time but when ever one was singel the other was taken and finally after 10 months we both single. we have flirted loads and had a few kisses. last ...

A.   20 January 2007: You need to have a proper conversation with the guy and asked to clarify. It is very easy to jump to conclusions but in the middle of the street perhaps he did not feel very comfortable to talk about it. Good luck x... (read in full...)

My gf kissed another guy right infront of me! I don't know what to think or do!

Q.   I am 17 and my girlfriend is 16, the other nite we went to my m8s party. It was all goin gud until i sat down and saw my girlfriend kiss another guy right in front of me!! even though im not the type to start fights, i went over and started one. ...

A.   20 January 2007: Dear Hughesy28 You are following your heart and I wish you all the best. The way I see it, advice is only guidance and like a gift, once given to you, it yours to do as you wish. At the end of the day, it is your decision that matters. I ... (read in full...)

He said he doesn't want sex b/c he's "got something" that's none of my business. Then I found a vile text from him to another woman!

Q.   Dear Cupid My partner had been tempted to have a fling with a girl he met at the gym and I found a text he was going to send her, which was vile. He swore nothing came of it and never would. It forced me to look at myself and why he may want to ...

A.   20 January 2007: Sixteen years is a long time to throw again but if after this time he is not honest with you or has the courage to talk to you or get any help need to sort his problem out, then you should call it a day No matter how painful now, this guy does... (read in full...)

I'm a recovering alcoholic. I'm just wondering, in new relationships is it best not to mention it until later?

Q.   It's been four weeks since I split with my ex. I can now see what a damaging relationship it was. She had so many issues, played so many mind games and lied so much that I can now see that I should have got out much sooner. I have not made contact ...

A.   20 January 2007: How soon you disclose your past is down to you but I would not do it on the first date! If you meet someone where you see potential for a relationship then you will be respected for being honest from the begining. The fact you have been sober fo... (read in full...)

It's a dead relationship but can't break up as I wouldn't want to lose him as a good friend! What can I do?

Q.   Hmmm this is pretty complicated..but basically i'm in a dead relationship...I love him but more as a best friend. He means so much to me and I tell him everything. But i just dont have thos feelings anymore..sex feels so wrong..i feel like crying ...

A.   20 January 2007: You need to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others. Staying with him as a boyfriend to keep his friendship as you say feels wrong. Get the courage to talk to him and tell him that you love him as a friend. If he is such a go... (read in full...)

Met him through online dating and I don't think he's being consistant. Any advice?

Q.   I am unsure about online dating. I found a profile I liked and sent an email. For about 2 wks now we have been chatting, and finally met face to face for coffee on my lunch break. he is a doctor with 2 mos. residency left and on call. I feel like I ...

A.   20 January 2007: To much early days to talk about commitment but my gut feelings is that he is either hiding something or not being exclusive. Meet someone who can be more compatible with you and try to move on. This one is a no goer. Good luck... (read in full...)

I like him but he doesn't want a gf! What can I do?

Q.   i want to go out wit this lad but he dnt wnt a girlfriend wat shall i do ???...

A.   20 January 2007: If he is not ready to have a girlfriend, nothing you can do or say will change that. Rather than waist time waiting for him to be ready, he may never be into you that way. Try to meet another guy and move on. It may seem painful now but in time ... (read in full...)

He has hit, kicked, and punched me before, but i just let it slide because it's just so hard to get away from him! Any thoughts?

Q.   Should i still be with my boy-friend because i think that he is just using me for the money and my sex just like what he did before..Sometimes he tells me that he loves, but how am i sure that he just wants to be with me for more money. He has hit, ...

A.   20 January 2007: I would get somebody to protect you when you dump this control freak bully. What are you waiting for? This will get worse, he display phyco potential to become a stalker. Good luck and be strong, take no more crap from anyone. For future re... (read in full...)

She's unavailable and I had a crush on her-you can imagine my shock when she told me she liked me too! Any thoughts?

Q.   For the past couple of weeks, I had a crush on a girl who I knew a had a partner. I couldn't understand my attraction and I found myself thinking about her a lot despite the fact that we rarely saw each other. I was under the impression that she ...

A.   20 January 2007: If you both have feelings for each other and she is going to break up her current relationship, wait and see what happens. Be patient and give her space to sort things out. If her feelings are genuine, she will break up with her boyfriend and star... (read in full...)

Torn between 2 women! Do I tell my ex gf 'thanks but no thanks'?

Q.   I dated a friend of mine for about a month, then we decided we were better off as friends. So we moved on, and I started going out with this lovely girl who I absolutely love to pieces. But then today, me and the old girlfriend hooked up because she ...

A.   20 January 2007: If you love this lovely girl to pieces, then surely you do not need anyone else. It is natural to feel curious about an ex, you have history and good memories together but also you have broken up for a reason. Stay away from ex and move forward,... (read in full...)

My gf kissed another guy right infront of me! I don't know what to think or do!

Q.   I am 17 and my girlfriend is 16, the other nite we went to my m8s party. It was all goin gud until i sat down and saw my girlfriend kiss another guy right in front of me!! even though im not the type to start fights, i went over and started one. ...

A.   19 January 2007: To the previous Anon that left last comment: Sounds like you need more of a break and fresh air yourself, this site if for people who need or want advice. If you do not agree with comments what are you doing on this site? Chill out!!!... (read in full...)

I'm crazy about her but she's married! She says she feels 'something' but is commited to her marrige. What can I do?

Q.   I'm a single guy in my thirties. Last year i met this great woman at a place i don't go to very often. I asked her out as i thought she was lovely and amazing. She refused as she's married. A couple of months ago, i met with her again at the s...

A.   19 January 2007: If she said she felt "something", give her time and space to sort things out. You do not want to break up a marriage and have this on your conscious the rest of your life. This woman is trying to do the right thing, so try not to add pressure... (read in full...)

Does marriage counselling help?

Q.   I seem to have let love slip away. Now I feel no love or respect for my husband. I am ready to leave but feel that it is worth it to try to get it back. Does marriage counseling (or one of these highly advertised alternatives that you can order) ...

A.   19 January 2007: The only way to find out if councelling works if by trying it. It does work for some people and it is recommended by most. Councelling alone is not enough though, all it does is encourage more communication between partners. This you can try toda... (read in full...)

We came back from vacation and she dumped me for a man!

Q.   Gosh people i need help BIG TIME! I am a 24 year old woman and have being dating my best friend whom was also a woman for almost 7years but recently we took a trip together and ever since we came back she dumped me for this guy whom she has bee...

A.   19 January 2007: Regardless of sexuality, all break ups are hard to cope it. Perhaps you feel more hurt, not only she was dishonest but prefered another person whom you cannot compete with. The best way forward to move on is to accept the fact that this person i... (read in full...)

He says he doesn't want a serious relationship... So what did his mention of a child mean?

Q.   I met someone almost a yr ago. It took him along time to kiss me. He came out of a relationship. HE is divorced no kids. This is my problem he doesn't want a serious relationship (which to me serious we hang out about 3 to 4 times a week which ...

A.   19 January 2007: I agree with Jovial, he probably was only joking. Joke or not, the possibility has occured to him, at least thought about it even though for a few seconds. How long ago before saying he does not want a serious relationship and meantioning child? ... (read in full...)

Should I stop his boot fetish?

Q.   I am 33 years old and my boyfriend has a boot fedish. In the beginning I didn't bother me but now it is out of hand. I feel he doesn't care for me if I don't wear them. Should I just turn the other cheek? THX...

A.   19 January 2007: May this fetish has now become a routine and is no longer fun for you. It is natural that you want to please him but you also need to have fun with it. Have a talk with him and find a compromise. Perhaps if you both agree to do it less, he wil... (read in full...)

My gf kissed another guy right infront of me! I don't know what to think or do!

Q.   I am 17 and my girlfriend is 16, the other nite we went to my m8s party. It was all goin gud until i sat down and saw my girlfriend kiss another guy right in front of me!! even though im not the type to start fights, i went over and started one. ...

A.   19 January 2007: First she pushed him away, then she said she thought it was you? How much more punishment do you need? Not only this girl has cheated on you but rub your nose in it. The sooner you can dump her the sooner you can move on and find a nice girl tha... (read in full...)

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