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Been with my bf for 5 years but he has no photos of me up in his house. Should I be worried by this?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years,in his home he doesn't have anything to suggest he's in a relationship, not even a photo of me or me and him together. I believe it's to say he is single and available,am i right in thinking this?...
A. 17 January 2007: Maybe he is not the photos holding type of guy.
Does he have any other photos of any other person or relatives.
Sorry but it feels that you want to brand your man like cowboys do to cattle.
On a more serious note, even if he did have your photos ... (read in full...)
I want to see my boyfriend as often as I can but I dn't want to be overbearing. How do I get the right balance?
Q. Hi everyone My question is just how much is too much time to wanna spend with your bf. I wanna give my bf time to himself but also wanna see him loads Id luv to see him everyday but dont wanna be too much so how much can i ask if he wa...
A. 17 January 2007: Remember that people need personal space too, if you do not want to push them away then be cool and allow them to breath. You have your own life to live as well.
Frequency will depend from couple to couple. Six months does not mean that you shou... (read in full...)
I'm married but my male friend confessed he had feelings for me. I haven't heard from him for a while. Do you think its over with he and I?
Q. Hi there, I've been happily married for 10 years. I recently met a really nice guy who i thought would make a good friend. We have been chatting a bit; he calls to my place of work to see me (i work in a public building). He doesn't text or ...
A. 17 January 2007: You are happily married, stay that way.
This guy must really respect you as he is staying away. Best way.
Try not wish the friendship back, not just yet until his chrush is gone.
If he stays around, he may cloud your feelings, confuse you ... (read in full...)
I've never had a boyfriend and I really want one. Guys always seem to think I just want friendship. Where am I going wrong?
Q. dear cupid i dont know what is wrong with me. i have such low confidence and find it so hard to get a boyfriend. i lost my mother a year ago and my best friend last august and i have not motivation anymore. not having a boyfriend never used to...
A. 17 January 2007: Lisa
Perhaps you come across needy. If you feel sensitive and vulnerable, it is natural you may be giving out negative vibes that pushes people away.
Act strong, guys like confident and happy girls.
Allow yourself time to grieve and build... (read in full...)
How do I stop having a crush on my husband's cousin - I'm not sure how I'll act once I've had a drink around him!
Q. I'm just really looking for some advice. I'n not sure whether I am in love with my husbands cousin or whether it's just a schoolgirl like crush on him. I have only been married to my husband for almost a year and have a young daughter, but I ...
A. 17 January 2007: You need to be strong and resist temptation.
With children involved is more complicated and this is more than likely lust than love.
Perhaps you enjoy the attention he gives you, just tell yourself he is your husband's cousin and you have a daught... (read in full...)
There were photos of another girl on his phone. He also meets w/ his ex but says he dislikes her. I don't understand!
Q. My boyfriend and his ex were together for 2 years and were engaged. before he met me, he liked this girl i have met her once. while i was with him he kept looking at her. i looked at his phone once too, and there was a few photos of her on there. he ...
A. 17 January 2007: If he dislikes her, why keep photos to remind him of her?
Sorry, he is still into her, no matter what he says.
Move on and good luck... (read in full...)
He's asking me to chip in when I get a full time job... feel slightly put-out by this, but should I?
Q. I have been with my b/f for almost 2 years. He has paid for mostly everything. I pay for things here and there but its mostly him who pays if we go to a movie or to dinner or to a bar or for take out. I work part time b/c i am a full time student. ...
A. 17 January 2007: If you live together, it should be 50/50
Equal rights goes both ways! You were lucky that he was generous enough to offer you an easy start. But unless he proposed to you offering to be your "Sugar Daddy", I am afraid he is within his right to m... (read in full...)
My bf is really affectionate with me but I can't be affectionate with him due to my Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. How can I make him understand?
Q. I am a 39 yr old female who has been in a relationship for over 10 years. I man has always been affectionate and loves to talk. I guess he is every woman's dream. Don't get me wrong, he is not perfect. But he is close enough. The problem is me. I ...
A. 17 January 2007: I agreed with cd206, councelling is advisable.
Together and individual councelling would be good for you.
It is up to you how long you need to be able to trust again as everyone is different.
The only way to help him understand is by talking abou... (read in full...)
I find my husband-to-be an irritating little nerd... give me a wake-up call
Q. I find my bloke an irritating little nerd! Honestly, we are getting married in 8 weeks time and he gets on my nerves. He picks at my son (aged 15). States all the jobs he is 'going to do' and nothing gets done. He works shifts and sometimes we don't ...
A. 17 January 2007: Bit concerned that you are getting married to someone who feel is a nerd. If you do not love him, leave him.
You must have knowned the guy long enough to fall in love with him at some point. Something went wrong obviously.
If these querks a... (read in full...)
Would my man be embarrassed to receive roses at work?
Q. I want to send the man I love a bunch of roses, just cos im a bit of a soppy romantic and want to suprise him. However he is at work all day and so if I sent them to his home he wouldnt get them. Do you think it would be too embarrassing for him to ...
A. 17 January 2007: If your partner is the shy or easily embarressed type, he may not appreciated as much you sending it to him simply because his work colleagues may make jokes about it for weeks.
If you really want to send him flowers, do it at weekends when he is a... (read in full...)
Worried that my pregnancy will interfere with my sister's wedding!
Q. Dear Cupid, My question is that I have just found out I am pregnant - it's a happy result and my husband and I are delighted! However, my due date is 2 weeks before my sister's (who is also my best friend)wedding! I feel so bad that I can not be t...
A. 17 January 2007: Getting yourself stressed over this will not help matters or change either event. Both are going to happen no matter what.
Tell her how you feel, as best friends must share good news. I am sure she will be pleased for you not worried.
if you b... (read in full...)
Going out with a younger guy (24, I'm 33)... Do I wait until he's ready to settle or move on now?
Q. My boyfriend is 24 and im 33 i am ready to settle down get married and have children but he says hes too young yet. What do i do time is running out for me. Do i wait till he is ready or fine someone else am i wasting my time. I dont know what to ...
A. 17 January 2007: You cannot force him to be ready or speed it up no matter how much you love him. He may never be ready.
If you cannot wait, then you need to find someone who is ready.
x... (read in full...)
Bf broke up with me but says he loves me, then we got back together now but I feel that he just want companionship without commitment. Should I just forget about him?
Q. Hi, please help. I'm very depressed right now cuz my boyfriend just broke up with me. He said that now that he's going back to school he needs to do good and that being in a relationship will just make his grades go down. I asked him why he didn't ...
A. 17 January 2007: It is up to you what kind of relationship you have.
If you want a relationship with commitment then find another guy. Or ask him to come to you when he has decided to be committed, if you are still single that is!
IMPORTANT:never let a guy see yo... (read in full...)
I'm with my bf but it doesn't really feel like we're in a relationship. I don't know what to do about it. Help plz
Q. I have recently started going out with a lad that i've known for 2 years and we used to mess about all the time,but it doesn't feel as though i'm in a relationship as he doesnt really seem bothered. I don't know what to do about it....
A. 17 January 2007: Passion sometimes fades overtime. Saying that, no excuse for one to get lazy or take the other for granted.
Talk about this with your boyfriend, let him know how you feel and how much you enjoyed messing around.
If you remind him of what you like... (read in full...)
She has no interest in sex aged 26...
Q. my girlfriend has no interest in sex. she's 26 yrs old. is this normal?...
A. 17 January 2007: I think it is healthy to have interest in sex at any age.
At 26, one has plenty of energy and should make the most of it.
It is important to determine if this is phycological or physical sympton.
Your girlfriend may have had a bad experience w... (read in full...)
My husband died almost 2 years ago and I've become very close to his brother... would this be right?
Q. my husband husband died almost two yrs ago my brother in law and I have become good friends He thinks it's wierd to even think our relationship could go any futher. (what would family think...friends think..ect. ) I have know problem ( hopeless ...
A. 17 January 2007: Life is to short to live it by how other people expect you to live it.
It could be a coincidence you have fallen for someone of your husband's family.
If you love him and he loves you, then it is not wrong if you are both single and can make eac... (read in full...)
What does relationship mean?
Q. what does relationship mean?...
A. 14 January 2007: My perception of relationship is when two people who fancy each other or are in love make a commitment together to spend time with each other.... (read in full...)
I buy sexy outfits but he is just not intrested,I'm really hurt, why won't he respect me?
Q. Hi there, I know this is long but I have a long term relationship where I have encountered a number of problems and I don't know if I can go on, and I can't face breaking up with him. I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off for 3 years...
A. 9 January 2007: This person does and will never respect you. You have taken him back whenever he wanted to "give it another chance" and you still have not learn the lesson.
Sorry for the harsh words but he is not the "commited" type. He does not know what he want... (read in full...)
I have just found out that my bf is a drug addict. Just the thought of what he does makes me feel sick
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. I thought that I loved him. He is such a nice guy and he is really good to me, he helps with everything and I rarely have to complain about anything really. I have recently found out that he has ...
A. 9 January 2007: I wish I could believe that there is a miracle product out of there that would help anyone quit . watch for the lapses! Sorry to say but if he was injecting, it is 100 times harder to give up than smoking it. Be careful that he is not hiding it ... (read in full...)
He lies, he calls me names, he threatens me and it's like I am not important to him! What can I do? (Long)
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and I love him with all of my heart and soul but he hurts me so much! He is always lying to me. He says he won't do drugs and then he goes out with his friend and does them, he never answers my calls ...
A. 9 January 2007: This relationship is not healthy.
First paragraph was telling me that he was a control freak and a very shelfish one.
The rest told me that neither of you respect each other. A relationship should make both parties feel happy and enjoy that in ... (read in full...)
I have dreams about my friend, and he said he's gotten off to me - but he has a gf!! I know about her and could end their relationship - what do I do?
Q. it's a strange situation that i have brought upon myself. i've been single now since october and my sex drive has reached an all-time high. i'm friends with some guy and i think i like him. we are always playing around...physically and we like to ...
A. 9 January 2007: How would you feel if you were his girfriend, would you want another girl grind herself against your boyfriend.
If you believe in Karma, what goes around, comes around.
You may be allowing your sex drive to express to much as this guy is makin... (read in full...)
I hate my ex for what he did to me. How do I behave when I see him?
Q. Me and my ex split bc of trust issues. We were on-again off-again status for about 4 months after our relationship ended. Every time that we split was because he wasn't sure what he felt for me. He kept saying "I don't know" and I was always stuck ...
A. 9 January 2007: Ignore him as he does not deserve his existence to be acknowledged, because he is smaller than an insect?
Do not waist your time worrying about this insect, what he says or thinks.
Don't worry, your so called friend will get the same treatme... (read in full...)
I want out of my marriage...how do I break the news to my wife?
Q. I've been in an exclusive relationship with my current wife for more than 8 years. And I want to get out of the relationship, although my wife apparently very much wants to continue the relationship. What I want to ask is how specifically cou...
A. 9 January 2007: There is no easy way breaking the news to your wife. No magic potion or going round the houses.
If you feel that marriage is over and no point working at it, differences or negative things you said your wife has.
Assuming that you have talked ... (read in full...)
I like him but he's not for me. How do you know when to let a relationship go?
Q. How do you know when to let a relationship go? Ive been seeing a lovely man for 6 months now, we see each other once a week and at weekends. I enjoy his company a lot and enjoy spending time with him and we have a fun sex life. But I dont feel ...
A. 9 January 2007: Totally agree with Shandy Pop, is the spark is not there yet, call it day.
Delaying it may hurt him even more as emotions grow for him.
xxx... (read in full...)
How can I tell my bf that I cheated on him...again?
Q. Before the new year came in I succumbed to kissing a guy I found attractive. It was not intention at all. Since then I told my boyfriend of two years he was obviously upset because at parties when he is there I am always giving this guy attentio...
A. 9 January 2007: You are not ready to have a relationship, at least with your current boyfriend.
You may feel that you love him, perhaps you love the fact you have a boyfriend but it is not real love, otherwise youj would not "touch others".
Being drunk does not... (read in full...)
We are paranoid the other is going to cheat! How do we learn to trust one another?
Q. Hi, I am 31 and I have had real trouble with trust issues in all my previous relationships, ie I think I'm going to be cheated on or dumped all the time. I am now with a wonderful man(been together 6 months but v in love) who I will marry becau...
A. 9 January 2007: Being paranoid does not ensure that one is going to be faithful or not.
Trust issue pushs people away not together. You may share this problem in common which you both need to work on together.
If you really love someone, you do not need to ... (read in full...)
He said he was going out and then never came back! I heard he's now w/ someone else, but we had plans for the future!!
Q. i was going out with a lad we was together for 6months and i had a misscarage and 3 weeks after he said he was going to his mates and he never came back i have heard the he is with someoe else and i love him i have never loved anyone like i love him ...
A. 9 January 2007: There is nothing else to tell him, do not put yourself in a more embarrasing situation.
It is hard to accept when a relationship is over sometimes and one party may have strong feelings than the other.
Your ex may have meant "forever" when he said ... (read in full...)
My bf is unhappy with his job and social life, but takes it out on me! I feel like leaving him.
Q. Im really frustrated and angry with my boyfriend. He is unhappy in his job and has no friends. He is taking it out on me because I'm at university and see my friends a lot, I'm working part time and I'm quite happy. We live together but its 50:50, i ...
A. 9 January 2007: Your instints are telling you to get out now. Follow them.
Even though in four years, he has not hit you, do not wait til it happens.
He needs to change how is depressing him, stop feeling sorry for himself, and stop making you feel guilty f... (read in full...)
Last boyfriend broke up with me because I had pubic hair. What should I do?
Q. i was in a relationship recently and the guy broke up with me because i have pubic hair. it has downed my confidence. what should i do? how do i get rid of the hair without it coming in a rash. do guys hate pubic hair that much? please help me! i ...
A. 9 January 2007: Pubic hair is sign of maturity, clearly what this guy was afraid of. What an idiot he is!
So immature he didn't even have the balls to tell you the real reason for breaking up with you.
To make pubic hair more atractive you could keep it tidy and... (read in full...)
Im not sure I trust him. What should I do?
Q. hi, im 22 and my bf is 25, this is my 2nd serious relationship and his first. the problem is that he doesnt trust me at all, i dont really know what to do, its got to the point that i dont go anywhere without him unless he knows where i am...he ...
A. 9 January 2007: Being his first relationship, your boyfriend needs to learn some boundaries. It is up to you to define them and NOW.
Your diary is your private space, if you do not want him reading it, stop him.
A bit concerned that with his possessive way but ... (read in full...)
I'm at the point where either he trusts, loves and respects me or he moves on. Am I right in thinking this?
Q. Please, I do need advice I'm 32 and have been seeing my boyfriend for about 6 months. He is living with me, and we started out getting along fine, however more recently I have been noticing some serious problems (or what I perceive to be)....
A. 9 January 2007: I see 3 issues here
1 After six months, for some patners if it is there on the plate, no rush required! On a more serious note, sex naturally slows down although six months is to soon. Perhaps he does not feel adequate at your level in many are... (read in full...)
My bad depressing 2006 is spilling over into 2007...
Q. hi all, im not sure where to start, i had a real bad year last year , so far this year is not too bad.. but i cant seem to keep my head high and a smile on my face, ive been depressed before but it doesnt feel the same..just wishing something good ...
A. 9 January 2007: Depression is not something you can brush aside or give up in the start of new year. If only was that easy.
You can supress it for a while but you cannot ignore it forever.
It does not happen overnight and how long til recovery depends on personal... (read in full...)
He stopped having sex with me and I found out why..he started an affair! Any advice?
Q. This is so typical that it almost hurts to write it, but pain propels my fingers. He starts an affair behind my back, but then believing he should only have sex with one person at a time, still hangs out with me, but stops the sex (with me), b...
A. 9 January 2007: This situation is not healthy for any concerned.
You must be strong and stand your ground.
If this man really loved you, he would not need to see another woman "whilst you sort yourself out" and/or still continue once you have given him the oppo... (read in full...)
Someone in my family is watching animal porn. Is there something wrong with him?
Q. Should I be concerned if someone in my family is watching animal porn? Is there something wrong with him or is there a reason why they like to watch that? It makes me feel sick about it, but i'm not sure what i'm supposed to think about that. ...
A. 4 January 2007: Beastiality is not a healthy sexy fantasy and yes it is sick and unnatural.
This person needs councelling and fast. I would go beyond that and recommend that these mental issues are addressed with a qualified therapist.
I hope he gets help and... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my girlfriend sexually. Should I tell her this? Do I tell her the truth?
Q. I'm in love with my girlfriend but i'm not sexually attracted to her? What happens is that i loose interest half way through sex, but i didn't want her to know the real reason and made out that's because i'm unfit, smoking and drinking too much. ...
A. 4 January 2007: Dear Dazzlar, you will break her heart more if you are not honest with her. Neither of you are happy at the moment I am sure.
Angel of Love... (read in full...)
Flirting with my cousin's husband and guess what! now I can't stop thinking about him!
Q. i've been flirting with my cousin's husband on the internet and now i cant stop thinking about him. he keeps making suggestive comments and says that if he wasn't with her he'd slept with. every thing is so mixed up. what can i do? he's 34 and i'm ...
A. 1 January 2007: This is lust, leave well alone.
He is married, and to your cousin! Double the complication.
What man is not flattered by another giving attention whilst they are no longer available. Very few would act on it if they do not love or respect their pa... (read in full...)
I'm too scared to tell this guy I like him!
Q. well i have liked this guy for a while now when i began to like him he didnt want anything to happen between us we didnt really know eachother that well then but now we are so much closer i dont want to tell him i like him incase he doesn't feel the ...
A. 1 January 2007: What are you waiting for? You need to give him the opportunity he needs to know that you are definately into him and find out what this is.
Go for it!
xxx... (read in full...)
I like him so should I ask him-if he likes me or just wait it out?
Q. So.. A few weeks ago I told my best guy friend that I liked him, because it was killing me inside just holding it all in. He didn't show a positive response when I told him, so I told him I don't want things to change between us (when I really d...
A. 1 January 2007: He is displaying signs that he is interested in you, beyond being flattered stage I would say.
If you do not want to sound so obvious, when he next asks a personal question like having kids in future. Ask him direct then why does he want to know... (read in full...)
I'm always last on his priority list..I feel unwanted! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, thankyou for taking time to read this. I have been with my bf for 6 years, however i cant help but feel neglected. He never bothers with valentines, birthdays, anniversarys, he just never seems so spare a thought for me, its not like...
A. 1 January 2007: You have with this guy for six years, no commitment and no marriage.
He is not making an effort at all but of course you already know this.
He rolls his eyes when you talk about it?
So that it does not sound like you are nagging, sit him down and... (read in full...)
Why would he try to have sex with me when I was sleeping?
Q. Hi, this is my first ever question. my bf and i have been together for nearly two years. I came home late very tired, he stayed over at my place. we went to bed and i awoke to him trying to have sex with me. I just dont know what to think, we have a ...
A. 1 January 2007: He was a bit selfish assuming it would be ok. Let him know that you only enjoy it when you are awake so he knows your boundaries.
I am sure that he did not mean to hurt you, but by setting the record straight, he will have no doubts.... (read in full...)
Together 7 years and we live together but we have big problems. Should I move out?
Q. Q: Should I move out? Here's why... about two months ago, my boyfriend of 7 years became very protective over his cell phone. When I questioned him, he told me it was just texts from his male friends. I should have known better at that point, but ...
A. 1 January 2007: My heart goes out to you.
Trust has been broken and he needs to work very hard to rebuild it with you. Even if no physical contact took place, he has betrayed you emotionally.
If you think you can forgive him, a lot of talking is needed. 7 years ... (read in full...)
I have just found out that my bf is a drug addict. Just the thought of what he does makes me feel sick
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. I thought that I loved him. He is such a nice guy and he is really good to me, he helps with everything and I rarely have to complain about anything really. I have recently found out that he has ...
A. 9 December 2006: Heroin addicts do not show signs for years. My friend had been hooked for 10 years before I found out.
Heroin is not easy to give up by giving ultimatum, it is not like smoking.
First of all, it depends how often, how much he takes, assuming... (read in full...)
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