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writes: My boyfriend started a new job 2 months ago and had his first night out with them. They were in a pub for a while and when i rang him at midnight he said he had just left pub and was back at a colleagues house for a cup of coffee - the thing is there was no background noise - nothing, and on further questioning whose house it was he said it was the receptionist from work(obviously female). Should i be concerned or what can i say to him? I think they were alone. Is it wrong for him to return to her house alone? Please advise. Thank you xo Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): I think it is wrong. Because when you reverse situations with men, they say no the girl shouldn't do this or that, but yet for some reason it is ok when they do it. A cup a tea is where it starts and friends at the office makes it worst. If there wasn't anything in it, he would be saying good night I am heading home to my girlfriend, not walking through her door at those times. Just be careful keep your eyes open.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (3 December 2006):
 I agree with Ariel, how would he feel if the situation was reversed.
Was it not enough fun to have night out, or does he not have coffee at home?
Just in case he is so naive, he did not realize that this would hurt your feelings, tell him about so he does Now.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 December 2006):
 Well, everything depends on the integrity of the two people in question. I would not be happy about it. Does that mean I'm insecure? Probably a little. But, I believe that after the night of socializing with the group is over, why the need to carry on at the apartment. Some people might say you're worrying too much but office type affairs are very common and probably start of innocently. When you're in a rrelationship you owe a certain amount of respect to your partner. I mostly don't think it's appropriate for people to put themselves in compromising positions. Everybody believes they are above temptation until the moment they're weak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): Well you're concerned now. [wink] Is it wrong of him to return to her house alone? Personally, I don't think it's wrong, unless they intended to meet up for some sex or some naughty things, or to do drugs, or play video games too loudly that wake up the neighbors. Yeah.
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