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I have just found out that my bf is a drug addict. Just the thought of what he does makes me feel sick
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. I thought that I loved him. He is such a nice guy and he is really good to me, he helps with everything and I rarely have to complain about anything really. I have recently found out that he has ...
A. 9 January 2007: I wish I could believe that there is a miracle product out of there that would help anyone quit . watch for the lapses! Sorry to say but if he was injecting, it is 100 times harder to give up than smoking it. Be careful that he is not hiding it ... (read in full...)
After being with bad boys I found someone who treats me well. But..I found porn under his bed and I'm upset. What should I do?
Q. I am 22 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year now. I have a low self esteem because I got bullied at school (I didn't wear much make up so I guess the other girls were jealous). I had 2 boyfriends when I was at uni early on ...
A. 20 December 2006: All guys love porn, it is in their nature. If he treats you right, the fact that he keeps porn under bed should not be a threat to you (unless you uses it to get off with you).
Porn is a natural way for boys to aid their masturbation method and ... (read in full...)
He cheated and we are trying to rebuild trust. Now I find out he's up to it again! What should I do?
Q. Id like some opinions/advice. My boyfriend and i dated at college but he cheated on me a few times so we split up. Now we are 25 and we have got back together. He started a new job and had a xmas nite out with them and i found he had taken a girls ...
A. 20 December 2006: You know what to make of it!
Sorry to say but unless you want to share this guy, dump him and move on. He does not deserve you.... (read in full...)
Torn between hanging out with two groups of friends..what should I do?
Q. i have a good friend who is a girl (lets say emma). i have been friends with her for about 4 years now. she went out with another good friend of mine(rod) for about a year and a half and they broke up about 4 months ago now. they both hate each ...
A. 20 December 2006: If both Emma and Rod are both your real friends they will respect the fact that you enjoy their company.
You can see Emma on Friday and Rod on Saturdays to avoid confrontation, that way everyone gets some attention and fun. It is supposed to be f... (read in full...)
Worried about: my weight, lack of a girlfriend, sex, and shyness... Help!
Q. Hi, i am worried about my weight, im not really fat or anything but im alight over what i normally should be, i am currently on a diet but its taking its time and i havent had a proper girlfriend, i always worry what girls think and i just want to ...
A. 20 December 2006: Try to build you self esteem, by reading self confidence books.
A relationship is more likely to last if the girlfriend likes you for the person you are not the physical looks.
But if loosing weight is what you want, then exercise as it is more eff... (read in full...)
In a love triangle with her and her ex bf! Is this worth it?
Q. I have to fight for her love, I'm in a Love triangle with her and her ex. but she wants me not to give up on her. Sometime times i feel like its not worth it But i do really love her. I feel like im always losing as it being her ex and the...
A. 20 December 2006: Perhaps she is still on rebound. Not sure how long this has been going on but this girl needs to decide who she wants as it is not fair on any of you.
Talk to her and ask for for time apart to give her time. Agree with Dagwood about 1 month. No m... (read in full...)
Not even a teen yet and I'm sooo ashamed I stripped for him, when all he wanted was a laugh!
Q. hi i'm not even a teen yet and i stripped in front of this lad who i thought liked me when really he just wanted to have a laugh. that was like a year ago and i still have nightmares and visions of what happened. i see him every day pratical...
A. 20 December 2006: You made a mistake: trusting the wrong guy. you are not alone.
This guy is the one who needs to feel ashamed, for being a prick!
Learn from this and be more cautious from now on.... (read in full...)
Do you think she'd flirt with me in this way if she didn't fancy me?
Q. Can anyone offer any advice on what to do when you fancy someone so much the butterflies in your tummy make you feel a bit sick? I have fallen for this girl in a big way, i have known her since the summer and we flirt alot, by way of eye contact,...
A. 15 December 2006: She could be asking the exact same questions herself.
The signs are there that she does fancy you. If she is available, there is good chance that she will say yes.
Go for it!... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a girl fancies you?
Q. What are the signs that a girl fancies you?...
A. 15 December 2006: A girl will look at you a lot, may look away when you look back if you are shy.
She will play with her hair, ask silly questions just to make conversation with you.
Make excuses to see you or be near you.
The quickest way for you to know if for ... (read in full...)
My bf sent his ex a christmas card...why did he do this as it upset me a great deal?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. He was previously married for 8 years and his wife left him, 15 months ago. He tells me that he is in love with me. Although during a conversation earlier he mentioned that he had sent his wife a ...
A. 15 December 2006: Being together for eight years is a long time to develop a bond and history together.
Saying that, try not to panic as sending his ex a Christmas card does not mean that he has romantic feelings towards her.
Sometimes couples stay friends or in ci... (read in full...)
She keeps saying somethingisn't right with our relationship-I am tired of her nagging! Should we split up?
Q. i work long hours, and often have to work away. my partner of 4 years, will ring me on my mobile or text me late at night, when i am away - but i need my own space and never answer her call. she will then keep ringing me and texting until the morn...
A. 15 December 2006: Without realising it, you have contributed to her nagging.
Take the first phone call so that she give the space you need til the morning.
You both need to seriously talk about the future of your relationship, but not on the phone.
Talk face... (read in full...)
Could someone explain to me whythe only thing i dont get is why he doesnt love me even though I havnt done anything bad?
Q. dear cupid i need help.. i used to go out with this guy who i loved so much .. everything was going ok with us and than suddenly he stoped talking to me as he used to i got worried and asked him he said he needs time i thought he wants to break up ...
A. 15 December 2006: You dont have to do anything wrong for people to fall out of love. Unfortunately, if happens but you need to concentrate on what you can do not what you can physically change in life.
Try to keep busy and give yourself a break. Build your conf... (read in full...)
I lose my temper way too easily with my bf! How can I stop doing this?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 yrs now, and recently I've been starting to lose my temper on him. I'm usually not like this, I'm always calm, relaxed, and I never lose my temper on anyone. He is the first person I've acted this way...
A. 15 December 2006: You may need some councelling if you have anger management issues. Is it this person or something he does that triggers something within you? Extra help might help find the answer.
There is a possibility that you may resent him for a reason w... (read in full...)
I lose my temper way too easily with my bf! How can I stop doing this?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 yrs now, and recently I've been starting to lose my temper on him. I'm usually not like this, I'm always calm, relaxed, and I never lose my temper on anyone. He is the first person I've acted this way...
A. 15 December 2006: You may need some councelling if you have anger management issues. Is it this person or something he does that triggers something within you? Extra help might help find the answer.
There is a possibility that you may resent him for a reason w... (read in full...)
I lose my temper way too easily with my bf! How can I stop doing this?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 yrs now, and recently I've been starting to lose my temper on him. I'm usually not like this, I'm always calm, relaxed, and I never lose my temper on anyone. He is the first person I've acted this way...
A. 15 December 2006: You may need some councelling if you have anger management issues. Is it this person or something he does that triggers something within you? Extra help might help find the answer.
There is a possibility that you may resent him for a reason w... (read in full...)
Why won't my bf go down on me anymore?
Q. me and my bf have been going out for four years now and in the begining the sex was great but now he wont go down on me he hasnt in two years i have talked to him about it but he just gets mad so i wanted to know why he dont do it anymore?...
A. 15 December 2006: You both need to discuss this. You may find that he thinks he may not get as oral sex as he did before. Either way, you both need to work at keeping each other happy.
Some men do stop even if you keep it clean and tidy, perhaps take it for gran... (read in full...)
Why do all my relationships end like this?
Q. Dear all Please help me I am going through a lot. I seem to be very unfortunate with relationships. Almost all my relationships has ended me in tears and they will end immaturely. I have never had a relationship that lasted for more than 3 mont...
A. 15 December 2006: Just because your relationships have not worked out or lasted in the past, it does not mean that you are necessarily doing anything wrong.
Give yourself a chance, all it means that you have not met the right One.
You current relationship was comp... (read in full...)
She broke up with me, now all she does is ask me for money.
Q. Guys..... I'm feeling very lonely and VERY VERY lost right now... Well ever since my ex-gf broke up with me about 3 months ago ive been suffering from depression and loneliness. Ever since we broke up she has been asking me for money because ...
A. 15 December 2006: You do not need nobody to tell you that your ex is using you big time.
She is taking advantage of your feelings for her to get money.
You have no responsibility to support her. You are responsible for allowing this situation to carry on, so stop ... (read in full...)
Something happened earlier in our relationship that still bothers me and I can't ever forget it. How can I let it go?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 11 months now. he loves me, i can tell. but something happened earlier in our relationship that still bothers me and i can't ever forget it, how can i let it go? see, about 3 to 4 months into our ...
A. 11 December 2006: Invading his privacy, yes you did.
Proof of his cheating, no you do not have as even though they live in same Ciy, they were online not on bed.
That he lied to you, yes he did. Myspace is not the name of a new Gym.
You both need to talk about t... (read in full...)
We're both 13 and we've had protected sex. I'm scared of pregnancy and STD's though. Any advice?
Q. im 13 should i have protected sex with my bf and we both luv each other i mean its been 3 months he is 13 and we r both ready for anything im just scared ill get pregnant or will get stds...
A. 11 December 2006: Find out about your local family planning unit.
You are a bit to young to have sex but if are to have sex please always use condoms.
Apart from getting pregnant, you have diseases but only takes one to cath you like Aids. Be safe! PLEASE! ... (read in full...)
I'm just a friend to him...does that mean I will never have a chance to date him?
Q. I was talking to one of my guy friends(r) about his (s) who i like. Well (r) asked (s) if he liked me. He said that he likes me as a friend and that he just wants to be friends. Does that mean i will never have a chance to date him or tell him...
A. 11 December 2006: Just because he is not into you right now, it does not mean that he will not be in the future.
Saying that, for now he has given you the answer and to save embarressement I would give it some time before revisiting the subject again.
Get to know ... (read in full...)
Does he want me back and is he realizing that he let something good slip away? Any advice?
Q. My ex and i broke up about a month and a half ago. Him and i were talking to nite and there was alot of flirting going on between us. Like when were talking we were holding hands and weaving our fingers though each and others we hugged alot l...
A. 11 December 2006: He is probably misses the good times and feels confused himself.
As feelings are still fresh, you need to talk again about this to be sure what his intentions are and take it from there.
Be careful that his not after friends with benefits but to r... (read in full...)
Im in love with him, but no one else seems to like him, and it makes me feel so bad im with him!!
Q. So what do I do when I love a guy I just got with. But Ive known him for 4 years and he has liked me for 2 and I've liked him on and off during the 2yrs that he has liked me. Yet I'm not sure on how mine and his relationship is gonna last cause we ...
A. 11 December 2006: If you like this guy, it should not matter what other people think. It is about you two not a community that are going out together.
if other guys want to go out with you instead, of course they are going to mock this guy.
You mention an a... (read in full...)
He changes his mind a lot..so .what about his promise that he will marry me, should I trust him?
Q. my bf is good in promising a little promise he do it, but a big promise like having a plan what we gonna do in the future in life that' never happen yet. im not the one who always start with hope or promise or wish he is the one he is the one who ...
A. 11 December 2006: You need to talk about these issues to determine if you both want the same in life.
If he does not want to get married then you cannot have the hope that he will change his mind.
Life should not be about promises, people do or don't want to do th... (read in full...)
Why are my orgasms so different after my baby ???
Q. i am 26 years old and have one child who was born in 2005. before i gave birth i used to experience mind blowing, whole body shuddering orgasms which used to take my breath away when making love. but ever since i had the baby, (i had a cesarian by ...
A. 11 December 2006: Giving birth is the biggest change to your body that you may experience. Hormones, physical and emotional abnormalities will occur. Even though most are experiences in the first 3 months, some take longer time to normalize, few are permanent.
P... (read in full...)
Does thinking too much leave you paranoid ? How do I stop this over thinking all the time?
Q. dear cupid I am in my teens and am 16 years old and i seem to be worrying and thinking about things every single day and i dnt know how to stop, i sometimes cry with because of thinking to much, my main concern now is "does thinking too muc...
A. 9 December 2006: This is a fase in your life that we all need to go through.
Try to keep busy with other things to distract your mind and do not give yourself a hard time about it.
Lots of hugs xxx... (read in full...)
I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have sex with my good gal mate...is this normal?
Q. can a guy and a lass really just be mates?? im really good mates with this girl but i sometmes wonder what it woud be like to sleep with her. is this normal??...
A. 9 December 2006: It is normal to have feel atracted to your friend, but if it is only lust, best to leave it as platonic.
Unless you fall in love with her and she feels the same, not worth jeopardising your friendship.
xxx... (read in full...)
He's been taking viagra! And I didn't know it..I'm devastated! Help
Q. when i first met my boyfriend(18months)i found out that he was taking viagra of course he denied this,as time moved on for us i didnt think he'd need to take it as we have a great sex life(so i thought)i found viagra in his pocket accidently,this ...
A. 9 December 2006: For men, it is very important to perform and it might have been to please you.
It is embarrassing for them to sometimes admit that they need "help", that is not any desrespect to you and how atractive you may be, it is to do with libido.
He ne... (read in full...)
Married, but in love with a work colleague
Q. I'm a married man desperately in love with a female working colleague for 2.5 years now. I never tried to seduce her, but I've been as nice as I can to her. I'm treated nicely, but not really corresponded. I hate living with my wife but I love my ...
A. 9 December 2006: You have been in love for a long time to be a crush, does the other woman feel the same?
It is possible to fall out of love in marriage, not so easy to make a decision when children are involved.
Have you tried to talk to your wife and try to work ... (read in full...)
How can I ask her on a date?
Q. i really fancy my friend. she is not close but good friends. she's invited me to go out on a evenin with her mates, i'm the only boy goin so she told me to bring one of my mates so i'm comfortable. she likes me as a friend because i dont have goo...
A. 9 December 2006: If you do not think she likes you the same way, wait a bit longer and get to know each other bettter as friends.
All the things you are doing is great apart from paying all the time. Be careful not be used.
Good luck xxx... (read in full...)
Could my medication interfere with my pregnancy?
Q. i think i might be pregnant and i am worried that the medicine im takin for my condition could harm my baby what should i do ...
A. 9 December 2006: I agreed with David, only GP can answer this one.
If embarressed you can ring NHS direct helpline in your area and give them the name of medication you are taking. Visiting your GP will be better though.
Lots of hugs xxx... (read in full...)
I have just found out that my bf is a drug addict. Just the thought of what he does makes me feel sick
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. I thought that I loved him. He is such a nice guy and he is really good to me, he helps with everything and I rarely have to complain about anything really. I have recently found out that he has ...
A. 9 December 2006: Heroin addicts do not show signs for years. My friend had been hooked for 10 years before I found out.
Heroin is not easy to give up by giving ultimatum, it is not like smoking.
First of all, it depends how often, how much he takes, assuming... (read in full...)
Is it possible to find out a withheld number?
Q. Ok - does anyone know of a way of finding out the telephone number of someone who has called my mobile - As I didn't answer it, it was listed as a missed call (no number). It wouldn't normally bother me, but I was getting ready for bed @ 1.30am ...
A. 9 December 2006: You cannot find out a witheld number.
Put it down to one off event as it could have been wrong number, if genuine cannot be that important otherwise they would have called back.
BT would only investigate harassessent calls if you were receivin... (read in full...)
I was asked to the movies, then was stood up. Do I call him?
Q. Ok i was asked to the movies this friday nite. Well the guy never called me. I dont know if i should call him to see what happend. Thing is i cant remember if he told me to call him for the answer if i wanted to go or if he was to call me. ...
A. 9 December 2006: Do not call him. Wait, if you see him again and he asks you, you could say he were not sure which day it was.
Could be a misunderstanding but also a private joke between him and his buddy. Be careful and do not get your hopes up.... (read in full...)
How can I get over her cheating on me? I can't stop crying.
Q. How can I stop the tears from falling? How can I get her out of my head? How could she cheat on me when all I did was love her? She was my world and now she has gone....
A. 8 December 2006: Try to stay strong, you are a special person who deserves to be loved. Give yourself time to move on and remember that it is not your fault. Please forget this person that hurt you so.
Hope you find someone soon. Lots of hugs xxx... (read in full...)
Do I give off bad vibes?
Q. This is not a serious problem as some of the other ones I have read here. I am an outgoing and friendly person but I wonder if I give off not so good vibes to other people. I was out for dinner with people I had just met last week and one guy at the ...
A. 8 December 2006: Hi, please do not panic. It not always be you, perhaps the other guy as having an off day or with bad vibes himself.
Try to remember what you say when you provocate a reaction, perhaps your sense of humour is to strong, you say that you are outg... (read in full...)
He lied to me, He was married with 3 kids all along!!... Im hurting and empty and feel I will never find the right guy!!!
Q. hello. i just broke it off with my bf. we were dating for quite sometime now and few days ago i found out he is married with three children and all the things he told me about himself were all lies at least his name was real, when i asked him he d...
A. 8 December 2006: This guy is not worth your time sister.
By not even apolozing, not being sorry for being hurtful to you, shows what a coward he really is.
We cannot help falling for the wrong guy, it is not your fault and you have done nothing wrong.
Sometimes... (read in full...)
I know I shouldn't feel rejected when he goes out with his friends - what can I do about this?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 10months, living together for 6months, and when we are together everything is fine. However I am very possessive and every time he tries to go and see his friends I feel rejected, like he is abandoning me. So I sulk ...
A. 7 December 2006: Unless he goes out more than 3 times per week, you need to give him space, otherwise you will lose him.
Being possessive will not ensure that he will stay in with you or be any more faithfull than to be a cool, support girlfriend.
Causing argument... (read in full...)
He never gave me a proper reason for breaking up, but still says he loves me and cuddles with me!
Q. I split up with my Boyfriend about 2 weeks ago, we had been together for 2 years and lived together. He recently got a new job and everything changed! He went out all the time with his friends, and stayed at theirs about twice a week. When he told ...
A. 7 December 2006: If he has not given a reason but hopes to get together, ask him to discuss things with you.
Something is stopping him from moving forward. Perhaps he depressed or worried about something.
Try to be supportive and get him to open up.
Good luck... (read in full...)
My BF is two-timing me and no, don't tell me to dump him!
Q. i have this bf that i love with all my heart and he says he feels the same but he has another girlfriend. he claims he wants to leave her but shown little signs of doing it. i have the girls home number and email address and i very tempted to ...
A. 7 December 2006: Ok, do not dump him. What makes you think that by the other girl dumping him will stop him finding another girl to play with?
All I can ad is that if he loved you with all his heart, there be no space in his heart for nobody else.
You decide. ... (read in full...)
I get so shy around people i have feelings for - help!
Q. why do i get so shy around people i like!! and just make a fool or myself lol when i dont have feelings for someone im so much more open! its really annoys me! anything you can do to feel more comfortable around people you actualy have feelings for?...
A. 7 December 2006: You need to work on self confidence, there are books you can get with more in dept advice.
Practice on the mirror how to behave in certain situations and what to say.
Positive thinking is good too. Tell yourself (looking in the mirror) one good... (read in full...)
We developed into something more than friends but he has another girl on the side!
Q. I met this guy 6 months ago through some mutual friends at a party, I am 22 he is 24 we both spent the night there as we couldnt drive home because we had to much to drink. We ended up sharing a bed and fooled around a bit but nothing else he ended ...
A. 7 December 2006: Staying in the same situation will lower your self esteem.
He fancies you but he not serious. If you are still wondering where it leads. Nowhere is the answer.
He is playing, and has a another girl. Please do not hurt yourself anymore, find som... (read in full...)
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