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writes: Hi I've been with my man for over a year now. He used to be all over me and give me kisses. Now, I can't even remember the last time we ever made out. I see him everyday but he never kisses me that way. Whenever I try to makeout with him he pulls away or just ends the kiss. I really miss those sweet kisses and I dont know what I can do to get them. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): I disagree with Michelle Rogers below. First, we don't know if Ms. Anon deserves better or not. We should take on a more objective point of view. Second, not being hot and horny like he used to be could be from various reasons. Has Ms. Anon tried talking to him about it? Has she found out anything? Was she perceptive on what he had been going through if any?
There were times when my relationship cooled down between my partner and myself. This was mainly because of the overwhelming stress of managing a massive corporate project, heat from above and the mess I had to deal with from two employees in my department. I went home, and all my girl wanted was a massage. Sure I gave it to her, but over time I was wondering why it was always her and was I always the one who only saw her stresses and not the other way around. So sometimes, I would go home late, and some arguments would ensue, but I felt that she wasn't really serious about me. Otherwise, she would have seen the change in mood.
Another thing that's possible is that there is the whole honeymoon phase at the start of an intimate relationship. That might eventually die down, and a calmer relationship ensues. However, definitely talk with him about it.
If you value the growth and progression of a relationship rather that the pure fun of one, then I say and stress more - open communication. Otherwise if you're like Michelle Rogers who at the first sign of unhappiness and stress ditches the boyfriend for greener pastures, then fine, do whatever.
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reader, michelle rogers +, writes (3 December 2006):
hi ya my name is michelle get rid of him he is no good for you you deserve better he is well got someone else if he is acting like that i got rid of my ex he went the same and i was with him for 5 years and i feel brilliant do it get rid or he will think he can keep doing it he dosent love you or care he is giving it to someone else.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (3 December 2006):
 You must discuss this with him. Explain how you miss your intimacy and try to find out what changed.
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