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Will I look like a floozy for approaching someone I met, while I was previously dating someone else?
Q. I was dating a man for a year and we broke up, then 6 months later got back together. While we were back together, we visited his family in another state. While there, I met a friend of his brother's and we really hit it off. But I ignored that, ...
A. 18 January 2007: Let him know you are available and see what happens.
You are single and it is your decision who you date now.
Never mind what others think, you did nothing wrong.
Do not waste your life, go for it and enjoy!
Good luck... (read in full...)
Nothing in my life is good and I need help fast!
Q. Im not happy with my life! i rarely see my dad because he was never interested in me and my sisters when i was a child and i dont like the person he is. All of my sisters have left home and i feel that my mum would be happier if i wasnt around, she ...
A. 18 January 2007: Dont be so hard on yourself. sounds like you are going through a tough time at the moment.
I am sure that your mum loves you very much. She is probably just to busy with her own stress and busy life to notice that you need some tlc at the mome... (read in full...)
We've been seeing each other for a few months but he doesn't want to be physically intimate!
Q. I have been seeing a great guy for a few months and everything seems to be going well apart from one thing - he doesn't seem to want to be physically intimate with me. Are there men like this, or is there something wrong? Should i break up with ...
A. 17 January 2007: Perhaps he does want to take it slow. Initiate making out and give him the "go ahead" that he needs. See what happens, if no joy then you need to bring the subject up and find out why does he not want to be intimate.
It is now or never.
good ... (read in full...)
I want to jump on him and rip all his clothes off. Is this normal?
Q. Ok I have a boyfriend and I love him very much. We have been together for over a year and we could not be happier. Where I work there is this guy. He just makes me feel up with butterflys when I see him, almost like I want to jump on him and rip ...
A. 17 January 2007: If you are happy with your boyfriend, do not risk relationship for a quickie with a cutie!
Not worth it.
Keep it platonic to yourself only and it will pass.... (read in full...)
Why would he say that if he's not hiding something?
Q. IM not sure what to think,ive been with my fella for 4 years and its not been plain sailing,but we always seem to sort out our diffrences and make up,these last few months have been diffrent hes been distant and arrogant towards me,without ...
A. 17 January 2007: You are reading to much into this. No evidence that he is cheating.
You need to seek advice and councelling about your low self esteem otherwise your paranoia will drive you nuts.
If you guy has given you no reason to doubt him, you need to ... (read in full...)
Worried that my boyfriend will be getting up to no good - strip clubs, kissing other girls or breaking up with me!
Q. I always feel like my bf is doing something bad when i can't find him, i dont' like the thought of him going to strip clubs or clubbing, he said he wouldn't go so i don't know, he's in canada right now. I got mad at him for not calling me like he ...
A. 17 January 2007: He is punishing you for accusing him. You have pushed him away.
you need to trust him to keep this relationship alive. If he has not given reason to doubt him, dont be paranoid. Stop calling him.
When he eventually calls you, be nice and inte... (read in full...)
Will she run away if I tell her my feelings?
Q. I met this girl about 4 months ago and we went out about 3-4 times before I recently moved into my own place. Everytime we went out, we both had a great time and I know for sure, and I'm fairly sure that its mutual, their is a definite connection ...
A. 17 January 2007: You did nothing wrong and not initiate sex was the right thing to do.
I get the feeling that something is wrong with her and maybe she does not want to tell you yet. Maybe she does not want to call back to soon and sound to keen. She must have... (read in full...)
Why does my ex gets mad because I'm trying to have sex with other girls! Any thoughts?
Q. My Ex Girlfriend is getting mad the fact is i'm trying to screw other girls besides her but i know for a fact she screwing other guys My Ex Girlfriend and myself have been apart a 5 week's this week. in that 5 week's she slept with 4-5 guys ma...
A. 17 January 2007: I do not even need to leave past first paragraph to see that you are both jealous of each other.
Want an easier life? Talk to her, discuss your true feelings and make up both your minds if you want to be "together" or not.
you enjoy sex together... (read in full...)
Me and my ex are friends with benefits... And now my forthright text made him uncomfortable!
Q. Me and my ex are friends wit benefits. Niether of us dont want a relationship or are messin with no one else. Well earlier 2day i txt him sayin i wanted his body and that i was horny and wanted to gave him head and i asked him if i could. Well he ...
A. 17 January 2007: sounds like he wants benefits when it suits him not you!
He is to embarressed to see it in black and white that is what it means. Because he knows it is wrong.
If you are happy with this type of relationship, then pursue it with someone less sel... (read in full...)
Found texts and naked pics... is my boyfriend a gay?
Q. Hi all I have been going out with my boyfriend for over two years. Over a year ago I read some texts he had sent to another male, he said he missed him and had got him a present.He also asked him if he wanted to meet. When I questioned him about th...
A. 17 January 2007: You were naughty by looking at this phone but he was dishonest and still being a coward about it.
Now that you know that truth, get it over and done with.
I am sorry but this guy wants something you can give him. You cannot compete with that. I... (read in full...)
How do I get trid of thos paranoia, that I will lose my gf? Any advice?
Q. I love my girlfriend very much and we've been together 3years now so I think I know she loves me but I'm paranoid all the time.We live apart at the moment and I keep upsettin myself thinkin she wants something else and is out looking for it. I dont ...
A. 17 January 2007: |Paranoia might push her away and that is your biggest nightmare.
Try to fight it, not easy but you must work at this.
Being paranoid and miserable about what might or might not happen does not make matters better in any way. It does not ensure t... (read in full...)
I have this urge to send my ex bf a nasty e-mail! Why do I want to hurt him?
Q. Hi All, Recently, I just got out of a relationship, but I seem to think of my ex 24/7. The problem is that I do not have any loving thoughts of my ex. The breakup was disasterous, as the both of us threw insults at each other and he asked me not ...
A. 17 January 2007: Serene, rise above this challenge.
If if makes you feel better, write a long letter to him expressing all the feelings you have inside you good and bad, it helps some people. But never send it!
Print it off and burn it, watch it burn to ashes. ... (read in full...)
My ex emailed me to ask if I'm "better about things with us now." What should I say?
Q. Okay, please please help. Boyfrend has recently dumped me, I begged him to change his mind but he wouldnt. Cried loads and everything but he said it wasnt right, he was almost convinced that we dont have a long term future together. He then said we ...
A. 17 January 2007: Begging for someone to take you back out of pity is not the answer.
Either he wants you or not. Simple as that.
Email is not the ideal tool to have a mature and deep conversation about a relationship.
Face to face is the answer. Establish is... (read in full...)
My guy says "nobody knows what the future holds." I'm tired of him saying this - it's been 4 years!
Q. Why do men or more specifically why is my man incapable of thinking about the future? After 4 years i'm getting tired. We love eachother a lot and are good friends, but when I ask him about the future, he says "nobody knows what the future holds." ...
A. 17 January 2007: Does he use this answer about taking your relationship to the next level.
You need to push and more concrete answer out of him but be specific with the question. Letting know about your feelings and needs and that more feedback from him is need... (read in full...)
If your partner was cheating...would you want to know?
Q. if your partner was cheating would you want to know?...
A. 17 January 2007: yes, I would like to know.
Deceit of not being told would hurt me more than the affair.... (read in full...)
I think I love my friend, but I'm down since I don't think she feels the same way. What can I do?
Q. i started talking to a friend of mine about 7 months ago now. since then we become really good friends the thing is i think i love her. i just cant stop thinking about her and its really starting to get me down as i dont think she feels the same ...
A. 17 January 2007: You need to talk face to face and share your feeling about each other.... (read in full...)
She's my ideal woman, except she's newly married!
Q. In short: met her year ago at work, (she was new employee).She was about my age,smart,charming,elegant,beautiful,everything which I ever dreamed of.And married.And childless (not hopeless,though,she was married freshly and told me that "somethi...
A. 17 January 2007: Dear Jean
My heart goes out to you.
Try not to seeing her for a while, constant reminder by seeing her everyday will make it worse.
If you cannot get this woman out of your mind still, you must be patient and not put any pressure.
If she decide... (read in full...)
He tells me to grow out my hair and compares me to others. Now he's picky about what I eat! Is this headed into an abusive relationship?
Q. My now fiance always tells me that I should grow my hair long (like how I used to have it). He'll even point out different girls and say things like "You should grow it that long." It made me mad so finally I said something, and he ignored me for ...
A. 17 January 2007: He fancied you with long hair. Fair enough he wants the same girl. But surely you cannot stay the same forever.
Whatever next, "dont get rinkles"?
he needs to accept you for who you are, to be allowed to express your personality. If he wants a ... (read in full...)
I don't want our baby to get attached when the father has to go back to his home country!
Q. hi i'm 21 and have just had a baby. the father is 31 and from a different country. after having the baby i got very ill and my partner wasn't there for me and said some nasty things so i finished things with him. now i'm in a dilema as to if i ...
A. 17 January 2007: He is the father, he has the right to see him.
Whatever problems you both had, do not punish your child.
If father does not come back by choice,nothing you can do about that but giving him the opportunity to see the baby will make you the better p... (read in full...)
My best friend said he's in love with me and it's a dream come true! He hasn't made much contact recently - what should I do?
Q. my best friend (male) admitted to haven falling in love with me and it's a dream come true! The thing is before when we were just friends i would always be the one keeping us in touch but now things have changed and i want to play hard to get. It ...
A. 17 January 2007: if you were the one contacting all the time, he may be worried also why you have not initiated contact for 2 weeks. More than plenty of time to play hard to get, which because of your previous friendship, you should be past that by now.
Call him ... (read in full...)
I am stuck here in our apartment with someone who I don't think wants to be with me...
Q. I have been dating this guy for over a year and a half.. everything was going fine and he asked me to move in with him because he was going to law school and I was going to college. We have been living together for about 6 months now and he is ...
A. 17 January 2007: Getting a job and save some money is going to give you a way out.
Whilst you are stuck there, you might as well be housemates but the sooner you are out the best.
Your course is stressful enough, do not need to feel trapped because of money on... (read in full...)
This guy runs hot and cold on me. Am I wasting my time?
Q. I am so confused... I was text messaging a guy for six months then we met. We hung out on and off but he would disappear for weeks on end with barely a text, then say he had been busy or asked ME why I hadn't been in touch. He mentioned not being ...
A. 17 January 2007: He does not want a relationship? What does he want? Games
He did not sleep with you because he wants a challenge? Insulting is an under statement.
Are you wasting your time? Yes, Yes, Yes!!!
Tell him to get lost!... (read in full...)
He hates that I put my kids first and he wants me to move away with him! What are your thoughts on this?
Q. I am a mother of 2 children and have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. He doesn't like to come to my house and feels I put my kids first although I do all I can to make him happy including staying at his house. He wants me to sell my house and ...
A. 17 January 2007: If you do not want to move, don't.
Your boyfriend probably wants more commitment and live together as you have dated for two years.
You could always rent out your house and try it if that is what you want. If it does not work out, you still ha... (read in full...)
She has a bf but send me dirty text messages! What should I do?
Q. She has a boyfriend but wants me aswell wat do i do I posted a question a while back explaining that i like this girl but she has a boyfriend and the advice you all gave me was brilliant but recently she has been sending me dirty messages ( some fro...
A. 17 January 2007: She needs to choose whether she likes it or not, cannot have you both. Not fair on any of you.
You need to take the risk of loosing her because you really do not have her anyway. In reality you cannot loose someone who you do not have.
Talk ... (read in full...)
I worry I'm fat when I know, rationally I'm not fat! what's wrong?
Q. I know this is usually a site to discus relationship problems but I donno who else to talk to about this. I’m an 18 year old girl from Scotland and am a U.K size 8-10 and I weigh 8 stone 6 pounds. (I’ve always been pretty skinny.) I go a...
A. 17 January 2007: Your size and weight is still skinny take it from me.
You need to keep busy and do not let stress get you down.
try to enjoy life, and make the most of it. Do not make out problems that are not really there.
stay strong and be happy.
x... (read in full...)
Have no confidence in girls or myself at the moment...
Q. I have a big problem with the ladies, am 21 good looking not giving my self a big head or nothing please don’t get me wrong, most women find me attractive not all. Anyways I have trouble with the ladies that I meet, just came out of a relationship ...
A. 17 January 2007: Not all girls are bad or difficult to be with.
Step 1You need to go through the rebound stage and heal properly first.
Step 2 is to build self esteem. Sometimes relationships do not work out, this is not necessarily yours or anybodys fault but a fa... (read in full...)
How could I make the first move with my guy friend without being too obvious?
Q. I'm pretty sure (but not completely positive just yet) that one of my guy friends likes me as more than just a friend and I think I have feelings for him too, but the question is: what do I do from here? I mean, I could always wait for him to make ...
A. 17 January 2007: Rather than wait, talk to him about it. He may be feeling exactly the same way.
Specially if you think he likes you too, go for it!
What signs did he give you to indicate he likes you.
First move if you want to be subtle is asking him " if a f... (read in full...)
What should I do to make things right after I made a fool of myself in front of his parents?
Q. ive been going out with my BF three months now. Last nite we went to meet his parents for the first time!!! long story short...i was demonstrating this kick boxing technique to my BF's dad and i ended up accidently kicking him in the nuts!! I really ...
A. 17 January 2007: Brave of you to demonstrate such skill on first visit.
Time heals, do not worry.
Next visit,no more kicking and offer him his favorite wine.... (read in full...)
I'm about to drop a sprog but he's not answering my calls or texts?
Q. my boyfriend is completely ignoring me not answering my calls and when he does he has nothing to say or has a bad attitude and wants to start arguments that bad part is i'm 8 1/2 months pregnant with his child what should i do?...
A. 17 January 2007:
he is being selfish and imature. This is a time where you need him most.
But he is not supportive, you can force it out of him. You may have to do this on your own and be strong.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I want time apart from my boyfriend but I'm not quite sure how I could bring this up. Please help
Q. i need some time to think about the relationship i am in. we have been dating for six months. we do care about eachother but both realize it's not the end of the world if we do breakup, it has only been six months. we are not arguing, have never ...
A. 17 January 2007: How long will depend on you both, my personal opinion would be 2 weeks. Any more than that, he may get lonely and look elsewhere. As I do not know your boyfriend, cannot tell for sure.
The fact that you feel like taking a break, means that you need... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and due in March but I'm not exactly sure what month I got pregnant. Any ideas?
Q. my question is: I am pregnant and due on March 10th 2007. So what month did I get pregnant in? I'm pretty sure it was June but my husband and I are having problems and he is thinking that this baby isn't his because I slept with someone in May. But ...
A. 17 January 2007: A scan may help to determine dates... (read in full...)
I'm 18 so should I bring my 24 year old boyfriend to the prom with me or would it make everyone there uncomfortable?
Q. Hi, I saw someone else recently post a question about their prom and an older boyfriend so I figured I would post too. I'm 18 and have been dating my 24 year old boyfriend for quite a while. I always just assumed I'd be taking him as my date to pr...
A. 17 January 2007: He likes you, you like him, you have dated for a while so you are going steady and there is no age limit.
Go for it!... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my co-worker, we are both married but I care for her and I'm not sure if she feels the same. Any thoughts?
Q. I have a co-worker that her and I are attracted to each other. We are both married, she's actually my co-owners sister-in-law. She likes older men, I'm 33, and I like younger women, she's 25. We have messed around a few times, but nothing major, ...
A. 17 January 2007: You are both married, that is the end of it.
No matter how exciting it feels to you, be strong and remember your wife at home.
Sounds like this girl is trying harder than you at rembering her marriage vowels.
You may feel head over heels for th... (read in full...)
Is my ex-bf still in love with me? And if so is it a good idea for us to be business partners?
Q. I broke up with my bf just recently. I expected him not to phone me again because I know that we have nothing to talk about. My expectations were wrong, because until now he's still calling me every night for an hour talking about anything and I ...
A. 17 January 2007: Why did you break up?
If you are not comfortable getting calls every day, you need to tell him to stop it. Sounds like he has not ended for him.
Never a good idea to mix business with pleasure.
Personally, I would not get ex as a business par... (read in full...)
I still like my ex and I can't get over him. What do I do?
Q. I have a crush on my ex-boyfriend but it's been a year and i still can't get over him. By the way he is a year younger than me, so i am way too embrassed to admit i like him. what do i do? please help me...
A. 17 January 2007: A chrush can last longer than that. Age difference is not an issue in this case.
If he does not like you anymore, be strong and eventually you will move on.
Keep busy and meet other people so that you not to much spare time to think about ex.
Goo... (read in full...)
This guy keeps flirting with my girlfriend because he likes her. And I want him to leave her alone but she doesn't have the heart to tell him. What should I do?
Q. This guy likes my girlfriend and always tells her that he likes her, and that i don't deserve her, that he wants to be with her and all that stuff. My girlfriend is 100% loyal and im with her 90% of the day and the other 10% we're on the phone with ...
A. 17 January 2007: It is up to your girlfriend to tell him to back off.
He cannot respect her that much if he keeps hitting on her. She need to put a stop to it, even though it may hurt his feelings. He is aware of you and he may have his hopes up as nobody told... (read in full...)
My man is always on my mind... miss him when he's not around
Q. Hi everyone Does anyone have any advice as im in a great relationship my man and i really like each other but sometimes he goes away with work and i miss him so bad. Even when he is around when we both go off to work I really miss him. I see hi...
A. 17 January 2007: Those symptoms are part of what is called being in love.
It is normal to miss your beloved but you need to give him personal space so that you do not push him away.
Try to keep busy and when you think about him, just look forward to next time you... (read in full...)
Can't stand to be without my ex... what can I do?
Q. My girlfriend finished with me 2 days ago, the reason she said was we grow apart witch I think is rubish. We been together for 4 cracking year! I know she still love and she keep texting me ervery hour. I cant stand it without her and i want to be ...
A. 17 January 2007: Early days for any outcome I would say.
I am confused as well though, if girlfriend says you have grown apart, why does she text you every hour.
Are you texting her every hour and she feels obliged to reply?
... (read in full...)
He was sending love letters to his ex and now I've found a Xmas card saying the should hook up... what should I do?
Q. Hi there, this is a long going problem which I have tried to overcome and rise above but it's eating me up inside. I love my boyfriend, but what I can't understand is that he is still in contact with his ex girlfriend who lives in Germany. He has...
A. 17 January 2007: You should not snoop around, he said they would not get back together and the card if from her not from him. No sign that he was dishonest recently.
With his track record, I can understand why you did it though.
the fact that he still wants to... (read in full...)
I met a guy who is perfect for me but he has two kids from a previous marrige. I feel that everyone is prejudiced against us. What should we do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem. I met this man 1 yr and some months ago , he was nice and really a wonderful guy....in other words perfect for me...but he came with bagage.He was married and had 2 kids from his previous marriage.When we met , he had ...
A. 17 January 2007: You both need to remain strong.
Bad times will make your relationship. You cannot control how this woman behaves.
In good time, kids, relatives and friends will find out the truth and understand.
Try never to drop to her lever as this woman f... (read in full...)
Been with my bf for 5 years but he has no photos of me up in his house. Should I be worried by this?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years,in his home he doesn't have anything to suggest he's in a relationship, not even a photo of me or me and him together. I believe it's to say he is single and available,am i right in thinking this?...
A. 17 January 2007: Maybe he is not the photos holding type of guy.
Does he have any other photos of any other person or relatives.
Sorry but it feels that you want to brand your man like cowboys do to cattle.
On a more serious note, even if he did have your photos ... (read in full...)
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