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writes:hello lovely people, I was just wondering how long does it take to get over a crush? When you see them very often. Seriously I'm pretty obsessed about this guy I know for a little over a year, but funny fact is I used to dislike him because he was a bit of a jerk sometimes, still is on occasion. He can be quite arrogant but not even that is bothering me as much now... Anywayswhen we're together we just talk and laugh a lot ( we work in the same office) and sometimes I catch myself wondering, are we being flirty? I just make excuses to spend more time with him than strictly necessary and He may have realized that I am into him and he has already said that he thinks of me like a sister but he also does give off some vibes that he's attracted to me nonetheless... ( like he NEVER used to touch me, now he touches my hand sometimes if I say that i'm cold, we hug, he touches me when we talk and we just maintain a lot of eye contact....) What is really annoying me is that I just cannot focus on my work, I just go home everyday on the tube thinking about said person and remembering every bit of conversation we had and obsessing about him like I'm 16! Such a cheesy stereotype, the problem is I need to study and I need to work and I need to stop comparing other men to him, and live my life, it's not as if we were ever gonna be together ( we are very different, whilst I think I may be in love with him I would never want a relationship with said person). I just need to get over him and quick, please please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2016): Hello
I hope this helps,
I think you will do fine just maybe a small distraction around you and talking does be great with others during those moments when you can't figure things out, you might like him around you and what if you invited him out for a while with you to see how you get on? Wb
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reader, 02DuszJ  +, writes (24 February 2016):
 This guy is giving mixed signals, signalling he's not looking for a relationship, thats what the "You're like a sister" means, from him, not available- but the sly touches signal maybe he's available for something else...So you listen to that song " express yourself by Madonna- (cheesy but true ha) remind yourself that pining for someone who isn't putting himself on the line is settling for second best, not giving yourself what youdeserve- And what Denizen said- get in touch with who you are again before you became obsessive over this guy. You dont need this guy- Remember your self worth and that you're an individual! Take care :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 February 2016):
 I'm still trying to "get over" some crushes that I had about 45 to 55 years ago. Be patient (like me)!!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, Denizen +, writes (24 February 2016):
 Immerse yourself in work, exercise, and a hobby, or maybe two. Join a group, learn a new skill... In fact anything that stops you centring your attention on the person you want to avoid. Give more time to your friends.
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