My son's father and I are not together anymore. We haven't been for over a year. He's had another gf for about a year. I've been single since we ended things. About 6 months ago, he and I were talking and things started to go in a sexual direction. Nothing happened but since that time, our conversations have gone that direction on several occasions. Nothing has ever actually happened but we text explicitly and share pictures. I have to admit, I am jealous of his relationship with his gf. I want a family, but there's really no hope for that anymore and she gets to be with him. The more I think about it, I see he's not exactly the greatest person either. Nor am I for going along with these conversations. I just don't really know what to do anymore. I can't just stop talking to him because of our son, but when I don't "flirt" he doesn't really engage in conversation with me. Our conversations are tense and he tends to shut down. I don't really have a question, but I'll take any advice.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (31 May 2015):Focus on this part of your submittal: "....I can't just stop talking to him because of our son,..."
Then, realize that YES, YOU CAN (stop talking to him)......
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (31 May 2015):"You can tell him STRAIGHT out, you know BOB these conversations just don't sit right with me, when YOU are dating someone else. I know it's all fun and games for you - but I can not continue, so FROM now on, we can talk about THE CHILD, arrangements pertaining to THE CHILD and that is about it.
HE is NOT your friend. You want someone to talk to? Call a friend, call a family member and talk.
All you really NEED to talk to him about, is the child.
If he gets butt-hurt because you don't want to flirt? LET HIM BE butt-hurt! Who cares?
If you WANT a family, HE is not it. He has already proven that by leaving you.
YOU need to let him go. He will always be a part of your CHILD (and hopefully your child's life) but he shouldn't BE a vital part of YOUR life.
Let him go, move on and find a guy who WANTS to BE with you, not just USE your for his ego rubs.
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