Tough Relationship Problems
Q. My Boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and hes always wanted to be with another girl from his past while dating me.. i dont want to lose him so i let him be with us both but now im sick but i wont admit to being upset or he will get mad ...
A. 15 January 2010: Hun, sorry to say but you have tolerated his behaviour and he is not going to change... so there are two choices here, either let him go as he is cheating on you with another girl [as well as cheating on the other girl to be with you], and he is ... (read in full...)
What has happened to me?
Q. Dear sir, i m 37 years old man. i have two kids. i have already 10 years completed for my marriage life. it was nice. my probelm is i do my sex with my wife i s good and enjoy but now a days my penis is not erect properly and i do not do sex with ...
A. 13 January 2010: Hun, you need to go to your dr for a check up - see that there are no medical problems, also if you are diabetic or hypertensive medications for these conditions could affect your erections.
Your dr possibly would suggest you take Viagra to help ... (read in full...)
Wait for her text?
Q. Hey, Quick question, I got a date with a girl on Sunday, for the past couple of days we have texted quite alot, generally with me starting conversation one day, her the next. She said she'd text me this morning before work, however, she has...
A. 13 January 2010: Hun, wait for her text, maybe she overslept this morning and was in a huge rush, hence not texting you....
If you havent heard from her by tonight, then make contact.. but dont try and be clingy or possessive.
Good Luck
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
In love with 2 guys at once...what do I do?
Q. Six months ago I decided to go into a relationship with guy A. I can honestly say I love him and am inlove with him,he makes me happy. A month ago, I started working as a kitchen manager at a friends pub.. Guy B is a friend as well as my boss, he is ...
A. 13 January 2010: Hun, guy B just wants a fling - free sex at work!! Suggest you either change jobs or tell your boss/guy B to back off!!
You are not in love with guy B - what you are is IN LUST!!
Your choice, either ruin a perfectly good relationship wit... (read in full...)
His g/f hates me and I don't know why
Q. So... This guy I like has a girlfriend. And well you could just say that she basically hates me. I don't even know why. She doesn't know that I like him, but everytime I see her in school she glares at me and everything like that. Im a year older ...
A. 13 January 2010: She sees you as a threat to her relationship with her bf... ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him he could have aspergers?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and we live together. He's always seemed adorably quirky and awkward to me, but recently a friend who works with aspergers a lot pointed out to me that he is a textbook example of someone with ...
A. 13 January 2010: What do you wish to gain by telling him?? If he is ok then leave things as they are - by telling him you run the risk of making his shortfalls obvious.....
Love him for who he is as he is!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
I lost my sex drive after giving birth to chidlren
Q. My husband and I have been together for 4 1/2 years, and married almost 3 1/2 years. When we first got together our sex life was omg amazing. I mean it still is....but annyway after our first daughter was born, my sexual drive was not like it use ...
A. 13 January 2010: Hun, I suggest you go back to your ob/gynae and get a check up - full blood test etc., just to rule out any possible medical problem.. You dont say whether you have any help with the little ones...
Having small children to cope with all day,... (read in full...)
I want to me more than a support for my married friend
Q. im texting and emailing a friend and she isnt happy in her marriage, and oh i would love to be more than the wonderful support to her that i am! im a single, no children yet, 30year old male and she is a 28year old female of a 8year old boy. any ...
A. 13 January 2010: Hun, if you really want to help your female friend, recommend that she and her hubby go for marriage counselling!!
You are in effect, the 3rd person the marriage, and whether you are having an affair with her or not, it will put undue pressure... (read in full...)
He loves me but hes not going to leave the other girl
Q. I found out that my man is seeing someone. When i asked he said he love me although he is not going to live his gal friend. What should i do....
A. 12 January 2010: Hun, there are two choices here... either accept his behaviour and stop bemoaning the fact that he is cheating on you... or second option... get out of the relationship.
Sorry to say but if he loved you he would not be cheating on you.. you dese... (read in full...)
Pregnant after menstrual cycle?
Q. Hi Everyone!I really need your opinion guys,please help me...Is it possible you get pregnant after you had menstrual period?hving unprotected sex?well,honestly...im doubtful if we had sex that time coz it happens that i don't feel pain or anything ...
A. 12 January 2010: Yes, either you had sex or you didnt have sex.. but if he penetrated you, yes there is a possibility of falling pregnant. Go see your heathcare worker to discuss contaception and send your bf off to purchase some condoms as well!!
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What do you guys think? IS he cheating on me...?
Q. Hi all, I'm currently suspecting that the man I have been seeing for several years is cheating on me. If you could read through the below list of signs and give me your opinion about whether it could be something I'm overthinking.. or a list of ...
A. 8 January 2010: Oh hun, I think that it is time to cut your losses and move on... whether he is cheating on you or not, dont waste anymore time on him.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated a year ago and it is still a big issue in our relationship!
Q. Hey guy sorry this is a little long but please take a moment to read it, i will really appreciate it. well a year ago exactly i found out my boyfriend cheated (as in full blown sex) with his ex girlfriend. it was in the first month of em and ...
A. 8 January 2010: Hun, sorry to say but this guy is definitely not over his ex gf.... If he really loved you he would not have contact with her.. and what I find strange is all of a sudden he is wanting to do things that he hasnt done in ages... which would mean ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but won't be with me because he's not supposed to be happy
Q. Please can someone help me. I lost a baby 4 weeks ago and would be due to have my dating scan today. Since then my boyfriend has walked out on me and his parents have said it was a good thing that our baby died, as they would of made sure i had the ...
A. 22 December 2009: Hun, sorry you are going thru such a rough time at the moment, but to be honest, you are better off without your bf.
Just because this folks think that you come from a 'rough family' doesnt mean that you wouldnt have been a great mom to your chi... (read in full...)
He has a g/f already but is talking to me
Q. I like this guy and I know that he likes me too, but he has a girlfriend already! He tells me that Im sweet,cute, and smart;but talking like this makes me feel bad for his girlfriend. What should I do?...
A. 22 December 2009: Hun, stop talking to him - and if he asks why - tell him that you do not appreciate being hit on when he has a girlfriend... in your eyes that makes him a cheater. And if he wasnt spinning those lovely lines on you he would be chatting up some... (read in full...)
Why is my hair greasy at the moment?
Q. Hey all i have a wierd problem at the moment i have washed my hair three times in the past 2 days and i have a patch of really greasy hair :S i have used a new product (heat protector) and i think it may be that so i have stopped using it so ho...
A. 22 December 2009: Hun, quite possibly the heat protector is to be used on the length of your hair so that you dont damage it when using heat, dont think that you need to put it on your scalp or the crown of your head as this will make your hair oily.
Make sure tha... (read in full...)
Our friend is trying to ruin our relationship!
Q. Need answer quick. My boyfriend and I have a former friend in common, a female, who I believe wanted to date him. She is jealous of our relationship and before I got involved with him, she was highly upset to learn that I wanted to date him. So ...
A. 17 December 2009: Okay, first of all dont have any contact with this woman and ask your bf not to have contact with her either because she is causing problems by spreading lies about him. Tell you love him and trust him and dont like hearing her telling everyone that ... (read in full...)
My girfriend cheated on me and I have feelings of hatred, but still love her!
Q. my gf had oral sex with her friend in a cinema theatre and gave him a *******....she said it happened because she was too desperate and was out of her mind at that time...she feels terribly guilty now and regrets it and has cut all communication ...
A. 17 December 2009: She gave him a blow job because she was feeling desperate and out of her mind???? And if you take her back and the next time [yes there will be a next time] she is feeling out of sorts, she will do it again..
Sorry if she loved you so much she... (read in full...)
She has been swapping nude pics with her ex, should I forgive or move on?
Q. I've been going out with my current girlfriend for a little over six months. She is my age and has a son that is almost two. I knew she had a son and there for would be around her ex more then any of my other girlfriends but, was willing to try and ...
A. 17 December 2009: By sending naked pics of herself.. she is cheating!! By telling you what she has done she has absolved herself from being guilty.
Sorry but I think the pics are the start of the affair... it wont be long before she is sleeping with him...
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If I'm pregant, I want an abortion without being judged!
Q. hi i am really worried that i am pregnant. I have a feeling that i am and i think im starting to look as though i am. i am scared to go to the doctors because I am afraid of being judged and i know it sounds stupid but if i am i want to abo...
A. 17 December 2009: Hun, before you get yourself all worked up, do a home pregnancy test!
If you are pregnant then you need to look at the options available, however if you are not pregant, please visit your healthcare worker or a doctor for advice on contacep... (read in full...)
I've really messed up, is there any chance of fixing this?
Q. I've messed up with a girl I care deeply for, is there any chance of fixing this? A girl I've been friends with for six years has recently become more interested in me. We've had the beginnings of a long distance (2 hours by car) relationship, an...
A. 15 December 2009: Hun, by telling your friends that you had slept with her infers that she is 'easy' or 'loose'...
Your sex life or lack of it with this girl has absolutely NOTHING to do with your friends... it is not a competition, and I am sure that eventhou... (read in full...)
We were due to be getting married before Christmas but his close frienship with another woman is ruining everything!
Q. A coule of months ago I posted a question regarding my fiance's very close friendship with another woman and how I felt uncomfortable with it. Well we are due to be married before Christmas and ths lady has started calling him more and more. ...
A. 15 December 2009: Hun, something just doesnt feel right.. the fact that he wouldnt give you her number says that he is more involved with her than you realise.
If she is having problems with her relationship she should be going to a counsellor.
I do believe ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get out of this marriage????
Q. I've been with my husband 15 years and married for 11.. I have no feelings for him at all anymore and as i think honestly i dont think i ever really Loved him as a wife should love her husband... i married him when i was 31... out of 11 years i ...
A. 15 December 2009: Hun, your first step is to tell your husband how you feel and that you want to separate..
Your husband is probably blissfully unaware that you are so unhappy so its fair to tell him whats going on.
then give yourself time to come to terms wi... (read in full...)
Help! My fling was talking to my boyfriend!!!
Q. I mistakenly diverted incoming calls with my fling boyfriend's cell number because I didnt want him to call me while I was with my boyfriend. This fling is also a colleague and I have to explain to him tomorrow at work why he was talking with a man ...
A. 15 December 2009: Sorry hun, you have been caught cheating!! Admit what you have done and accept the consequences.... (read in full...)
Is it worth it for me to stay with him, or let him go with all the drama that follows?
Q. I've been dating my current boyfriend for about 8 months now. DUring our relationship I broke up with him because i thought he was cheating because of text messages and phone calls he received. Not long after we broke up he called me pleading his ...
A. 11 December 2009: Okay, so he has cheated on you, he has lied to you, he has emotionally blackmailed you, he has made another girl pregnant.... With all that stacked against him, do you really want to spend your relationship wondering whether he is going to lie and... (read in full...)
Married sex issues! He says I take too long to orgasm.
Q. I've been married for two years been with him total 10.5 yrs. I enjoy giving oral...he does not..he says I take too long...and has "sighed" in the middle of it once. I seem to only get oral when he's been away with work...like it's a welcome home ...
A. 11 December 2009: Hun, sorry to say but your husband is extremely inconsiderate!! Stop giving him oral if he wont recipricate! Does your husband know that he is not satisfying you - I take it you have told him?? If you havent told him then sit him down and t... (read in full...)
My married neighbour kissed me, do I let it go or should we talk about us?
Q. Okay here goes, I am unhappily married and have been attracted to my friend/neighbours husband for about 6 months now. It was never anthing but harmless flirting. My husband and I would get together with him and his wife and have drinks and let our ...
A. 11 December 2009: Hun, you need to address the problems within your marriage, but having an affair with another person is not going to sort anything out. You need to sit down with hubby and beg his forgiveness and then both of you go to marriage counselling to s... (read in full...)
I could have sex twice a day, is this weird?
Q. Is is bad to want sex more than twice a week? I could easily go it at least twice a day however my boyfriend thinks that is ridiculous. I am a reasonable guy and understand we're different and by no means expect us to ever have sex two or more ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, it sounds like your partner has a much lower sex drive than you do... and I am surprised at the counsellor thinking 2x a week was quite a lot!!!
Does your partner suffer from any medical condition, or is on any medication as this plays a ... (read in full...)
I think my husband is gay
Q. i m married for seven years my husband never paid attention to me always fight with because of his best friend we have a lot of problems bec of that guy and now i think he might be a gay what should i do , but i m not sure about it ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, because you and your man dont get on well and there is his friend who is always there....doesnt mean he is gay.
Have you seen any signs that point towards him being gay?
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How can me and my girlfriend can get closer?
Q. well last night my gf and i were texting and i asked her if she thinks that me and her are close and if we have a good relationship and she said "yeah i think were close, but we could be closer" and yeah i think we have a good relationship too". ...
A. 8 December 2009: Try a really good old fashioned idea.... talk to each other - not text or IM each other, actually talk to each other!!
Then while you are talking to each other find out more about what each other likes and dislikes...
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Why does my condom slip off when I practice?
Q. well before i put a condom on to practice im flaccid, not even semi hard and i put heat lube on but im still flaccid. and then i get kinda hard but not fully hard and i put the condom off but when i start masterbating it slips off. i didnt buy large ...
A. 8 December 2009: Try without lube... also you need to be fully erect before putting on the condom..the whole idea is the the condom should fit nice and snug around the penis....... (read in full...)
What can I do about his gaming addiction?
Q. My boyfriend is seriously addicted to online gaming. I have no problem with gaming. But he will miss work, leave early, go to work late, not eat or sleep for days. And, of course gets angry when someone tries to confront him with his problem. His ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, there is nothing you can do to help him unless he wants to help himself.
You need to move on with your life, I know it will be dreadfully hard, but at this stage you need to look after yourself first.
Look in your local community if the... (read in full...)
Why can't I keep an erection at this age?
Q. Hello everyone Im 31yrs old and for da last 3 weeks I've been under a lot of stress and been having trouble getting and keeping an erection and my girlfriend of 1 month is freakin pissed cuz it's happened 3 times already and wants to stay away till ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, find a new girlfriend!! I think most men will have erectile dysfunction at some time in their lives, yours has been brought about by stress..
But by having a gf getting upset because you cant have sex... well... cant say much about the feel... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I don't fogive him after his apology?
Q. so, an ex-boyfriend from about 5 years ago sent me an apology note recently, saying he had treated me wrong and I really hadn't deserved the way he treated me, etc. and I was taken a little aback. I had responded with a sort of nice email back, oh I ...
A. 8 December 2009: Let it go, unless you want to spend the rest of your life being bitter about what happened years ago....
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Is the reason why I cheat on my boyfriend because I don't love him?
Q. So heres the deal. im not writing this to have people criticise my situation or anything, I already know its wrong what I'm doing. I'm just looking for someone who may have gone through the same sort of deal. Ive been with my boyfriend 4 year...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, cheating/affair is a symptom of a problem within a relationship...
You bf sounds like he really loves you and wants to keep things together, have you considered relationship counselling??
Only you know in your heart whether you love... (read in full...)
I'm with the guy I cheated with, only to have sex with my husband. Is that cheating?
Q. I cheated on ny husband two years ago and now we're separeted.Im now with the guy I cheated on my husband with but this guy doesn't pay attention to me the way my husband did.Six months ago I had sex with my husband and I confessed this to the guy ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, its a very hard way to find out that the grass is not greener on the otherside!!
Yes what you did is considered cheating however, since your husband does seem to still have feelings for you and you for him, why dont you both got to marriage... (read in full...)
The sweet and caring guy? Or the attractive smooth guy?
Q. So, there was a guy that i was seeing and things were great but because he is attractive and we never discussed about commitments and loyalty. i had some doubts and before we could talk about it, i broke it off! i started to see another guy for ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, which one gives you butterflies? Obviously neither because you dont know what you want, I suggest that you stay away from both of them until you can decide what you want!!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems to be mocking me with the thought of a threesome. What do I do about it?
Q. I have been seeing my partner for close to a year now, she is more sexually experienced that me and knew was bisexual before we got together, which has never bothered me and I've always accepted. She's actually had relationships with other women, ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, I think the writing is on the wall, you need to get out of this relationship.
So being in a 3-some is a fantasty, and you obviously know the line between reality and fantasy, she on the otherhand seems to enjoy humiliating you because ... (read in full...)
He says he hit me out of self defense. Should I still even be with him?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 21. 2 days ago we went to a christmas party. i got very very drunk and apparantly made a fool out of him by the way i was dancing ect..we stayed at my parents and when we got in we were arguing. I went into my room and ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, sorry, but you need to get out of this relationship.
Okay, so you were drunk, so you pushed him out of bed - he PUNCHED YOU TWICE IN THE FACE.... then he said it that it was ALL YOUR FAULT....
There is no excuse for his beating you up..... (read in full...)
Help! Where did it all go wrong?
Q. I am in love with the sweetest kindest man. He knows I am smitten with him. We sms each other ever other day. I see him at my work as he does consulting for us for the last year. He is 2 years younger then I (42) am. He is obese (150kg) and I am ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, so pleased to hear that things are progressing. It does sound like he is really keen on you but prior committments seem to be in the way... for the moment!!
Your reply was perfect!!
Keep us updated... (read in full...)
Spermicides in the old days, back in the 70s
Q. My partner recently told me that in 1971 when her guy of the day saw that sexual intimacy was on the cards,he suggested the use of a spermicidal vaginal tablet for temporary use. She wasn't using anything at the time. STD's were not the issue th...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, I think it was called "Rendel" or "Rendels"......... (read in full...)
We got back together, but now my wife is acting the same way she did when we broke up
Q. Hello to everyone. I am thinking I will get the best answer from a woman, but will take advice from anyone. My situation is... About ten months ago my wife told me that she was completely unhappy and didn't want to be married anymore. I am ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hun, drag her off to marriage counselling - she obviously doesnt know what she wants and is easily influenced by her friend. If after marriage counselling she still cannot make up her mind, then go ahead and file for divorce... I suspect this ... (read in full...)
Help! Where did it all go wrong?
Q. I am in love with the sweetest kindest man. He knows I am smitten with him. We sms each other ever other day. I see him at my work as he does consulting for us for the last year. He is 2 years younger then I (42) am. He is obese (150kg) and I am ...
A. 4 December 2009: Hun, why dont you ask him to join you for a cup of coffee, then have a heart-to-heart chat with him... ask him what you have done to him that he is so distant...
let me know what happens!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Help! Where did it all go wrong?
Q. I am in love with the sweetest kindest man. He knows I am smitten with him. We sms each other ever other day. I see him at my work as he does consulting for us for the last year. He is 2 years younger then I (42) am. He is obese (150kg) and I am ...
A. 2 December 2009: Oh hun, give him a little bit of space, maybe he does have some security things to sort out... he sounds sweet!!
If he continues to be distant with you, then speak to him and ask him whats wrong. Maybe he feels insecure about his weight and cann... (read in full...)
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