I love my boyfriend but HATE his lifestyle choices!!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about three years this time. We dated before from our senior year of high school into college for about three to four years then took about two to three years off due to cheating, lying, and needing to grow up. ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hun, this man is an addict, he will continue to borrow money for his pot, you will always be on the loosing end of this relationship.
For your own good, get out of the relationship now. You probably wont ever get your money back so you will hav... (read in full...)
Why am I feeling so bored with everything after the break-up of my marriage?
Q. Hi I have a very depressing problem! I recently got divorced which was my own doing. I didn't want to be with my x husband due to various reasons. Now its over. The problem starts from here. Now i lost interest in everything. I have started my pHd w...
A. 9 July 2010: Hun, sounds like you might be suffering from depression. Please go and speak to your doctor.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Is my sex life normal at my age?
Q. I am over 60 and still have sexual intimacy on average once a week. Question; I prefer to 'finish off' outside her body is this normal and is once a week at my age normal? How much longer can i expect to be able to 'step up to the plate'?...
A. 9 July 2010: At 60, you are still young - dont put pressure on yourself to perform - just go with the feeling. I dont believe that just because you are more mature that you shouldnt have as much sex as you can manage!! My hubby is 60 this year and we have sex ... (read in full...)
Married but fantasising about sex with a woman.....
Q. im happily married but there one thing on my mind when im alone i watch lesbian porn it really turns me on and i masterbate when i watch it i dont watch it that often but does this mean im a lesbian? i have always wonder what it be like to have sex ...
A. 8 July 2010: No you are not a lesbian, a lot of women fantasise about being with another woman... but thats all it is... a fantasy.
Maybe use this as a fantasy when your hb is giving you oral? Could really spice up your sex life!!... (read in full...)
Please help, tell me if I am wrong?
Q. HI ladies please hear me out advise me?!!! i have 2 sons. before my first son was born i had to leave to my country to fix some papers my (boyfriend back then stood here) i was alone over there and didnt know i was pregnat then i found out in my ...
A. 8 July 2010: Hun, you need to get out of the relationship - he has treated you badly and you have accepted that treatment, so therefore he feels its his right to treat you like that.
You and your children dont deserve this kind of treatment. You are in a des... (read in full...)
If you love someone as much as she says she does me, should she be knowingly hurting me?
Q. I had been dating a girl for about 2 years. A few weeks ago, she told me that she didn't want to be with me anymore because she wanted to go out and learn about her self, not date anyone exclusively right now, and "enjoy the single life". However, ...
A. 8 July 2010: Hun, sorry that you are going thru this right now, but from what I read here, your gf is out 'shopping' to see if there is someone better out there for her.
She seems to want you there as a back-up if things dont go as well as she wants them to,... (read in full...)
Should I leave him and continue with my life?
Q. Hi everyone!! We have been dating with this guy for 6 months and he is a foreigner. We have just been enjoying our relationship. One of his relative came to my country, she was employed here so she had no where to stay, so she asked for accomm...
A. 7 July 2010: Hun, I suspect that the 'relation' who contacted him was a lot more than a relation, possibly his gf...
Also, he has got what he wanted from you, money... so now he ignoring you.
Demand your money back from him - dont put up with his nonsens... (read in full...)
He swore blind he hadn't masturbated behind my back!
Q. please i hope someone can help me and give me advice, i recently found something under mine and my boyfriends bed and also something else in the cubord in there which was stained in ,what looked like semen i asked my boyfriend what it could be and ...
A. 7 July 2010: So what if he masturbated - big deal!! What your reaction SHOULD have been was to say "honey, if the item has been used, please pop it into the laundry rather than leaving it lying around.." Making an issue about him masturbating is making him ... (read in full...)
Relationship with a married man who doesn't leave his wife
Q. I met a man online. He is still married, but she has moved out of the home. They run a business together and to date they still draw from the same money pot. I have told him from the beginning that my values want a legal separation and/or divorce, ...
A. 7 July 2010: This man will not leave his wife - you are wasting your time!... (read in full...)
Is his behavior about control?
Q. My ex-boyfriend is still a bother - why does he insist on finding out what I am doing and with whom? He is jealous of me going out with a guy we both know. But the ex-boyfriend has been living with another woman for over a year! And he doesnt care ...
A. 7 July 2010: Cut this man out of your life completely and if he continues to harass you - get a restraining order against him.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves his 11yr old daughter more than me!
Q. [Mod note: Two questions by the same poster have been combined into one.] My Boyfriend is 35, i am 23 we have known each other for 7 years and have only got together 7 months ago. We have been in our own apartment for 2 months. He has a 11 yr old d...
A. 7 July 2010: You need to re-think your situation, your bf loves his daughter and if you are going to stop him from loving his daughter he WILL LEAVE YOU.
You also sound quite immature and very jealous. Sorry if I am being harsh but that is how you come acr... (read in full...)
I cant handle my dad's drinking anymore! What can I do?
Q. Hey guys. I honestly dont know where to start, so i'll just go for it. My father drinks about 6-7 cans of lager every night. I'm kind of over that now though, it's just what he does. But 3 days ago his 20something friends came over (my dads 41) and ...
A. 25 June 2010: Hun, you need to contact Al Anon and ask them if they have groups for families affected by alcohol. You wont be able to stop your dad drinking, only he can do that, but perhaps you can learn to cope better until you can leave and live on your... (read in full...)
Could he have fallen for me even though he is engaged?
Q. I am in a bit of a situation and somehow not sure how to go about dealing with it. Someone was recently employed where I work and had to assist him in a lot of things when it came to ensuring that he settled in. To my ignorance, he then started ...
A. 25 June 2010: Hun, if this man is engaged to another woman then he is off limits!! I would suggest that you keep your distance. If he is confused then he has to sort out his own mind, it really should not involve you. If he has concerns about now getting marr... (read in full...)
Involved with a married man and not sure what he wants, what should I do?
Q. i have been working with a married guy since late last year but hes always made it clear and obvious that hes attracted to me. we are very close in work as most of us are but,in feb he opened up to me that his marriage has major problems. just...
A. 17 June 2010: Sorry but you need to face facts, you are being duped by a lying cheating married man.
He will never leave his wife for you... you will always be on the outside.
Stop wasting your time with a married man and find a single man for yourself....... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to trust me?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now but i am having trouble with my him. i love him a lot but he does not trust me the way i would like to or the way a boyfriend should trust his girlfriend. Recently we had an argument because he ...
A. 11 June 2010: Sorry hun, but I dont think this guy will ever trust you, or for that matter, probably any gf he will have.
Sounds like he has trust issues and self esteem issues.
It also seems that he will continue to get you to cut yourself off from all you... (read in full...)
How long is it guna take he's 28 yrs old???
Q. Hi I need sum serious help I'm only 23 wit 1 son who's 4 yrs old. I've been wit his father for 4 years ...I wana let go bcuz I found numerous txt msg frm other females about sex,dating,being in his house and other shit...I even caught him in his car ...
A. 10 June 2010: Sorry hun, you are going to have to be strong here... this man will never settle down with so long as he can cheat and know that you will be there waiting.
Tell him its over and that you are moving on with your life, he is still welcome to be pa... (read in full...)
Helpful ideas on how to get wife to give me oral?
Q. My wife refuses to give me a blowjob and will not even really open up healthy dialog about it. Now before anyone replies to this post here is some background. -I DO go down on her (cunnilingus) to completion and she has multiple organisms. It ...
A. 10 June 2010: Gosh, after reading this very long post, my suggestion is... stop giving her oral....
If she so enjoys oral then maybe she will realise what she is missing and hopefully understand the oral is awesome.
It does sound like she is selfish - not... (read in full...)
Girlfriend not making contact - do I chase it or leave it?
Q. Here's the situation. My g/f of just over a year is finishing her college course at the moment, and pretty stressed by it. She hasn't been in touch for several days (and no response to messages). This itself wouldn’t bother me (I know what that ...
A. 9 June 2010: Hun, I think this one is dead and buried. Move on with your life.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
How do I make the right decision? I have to choose between my boyfriend and caring for my mother
Q. I hope you guys can help... At the end of last year I had started living with my boyfriend of 5 years in New Zealand (he moved out there a year prior to me to get established) but then my Mum got cancer. I told my boyfriend that I wanted to come ...
A. 9 June 2010: You mother needs your father - they married in sickness and in health and I think that it is unfair of your mother to expect you to give up your life when your father is still around to help her.
You need to sit down with her and your father a... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I am trying to decide whether to stay with my husband of 20 years. We have four children together, ages 4 to 13. I just am not in love with him anymore. I can honestly look at him and feel empty. When I told him this, he was devestated. He ...
A. 9 June 2010: Stop comparing the man you are married to [with all his good and bad traits] with the man you are cheating with who will only show you all the good things you want to see.
You and your hubby need to go to counselling and get your marriage back on ... (read in full...)
How do you find out if a guy is a virgin or not?
Q. hii!lemme ask a question.it might be silly...but there is some expectation about it..is there atleast a small clue to find whether a guy is a virgin or not.? ...
A. 9 June 2010: No, you will have to ask him and trust that he is telling you the truth!... (read in full...)
He is wanting marriage, but with his cheating past I am so confused if I can ever feel safe!
Q. Dear aunts/uncles, I'm having tremendous relationship stress regarding cheating in my relationship. I am 27 and my BF is 36. He has treated me like a princess, we have lots in common and spend all our time together. Recently he moved in and we'...
A. 9 June 2010: All excuses for him cheating, he blames the woman in the relationship. No he will not change, just like he has cheated on the others in the past, when something happens in your relationship that he doesnt like, he will cheat again. Sorry!!
He ca... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if we have a baby he will settle down with me and stop hanging out on the streets, what should I do?
Q. hi i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and wants to have a baby but he is alway out in the streets he say's if we have a baby he will settle down with me. What should i do?...
A. 8 June 2010: Well, what do you want?? A baby when you are not ready for one? The financial pressure to feed, clothe and educate a child??
He is always out on the streets because HE LIKES BEING OUT ON THE STREETS!! having a baby will not make him change h... (read in full...)
I feel alone but I don't want to leave! What should I do?
Q. Hello, could someone please give me some advice here. I have been with my partner now for 2 years. I moved area and job and all my friends to be with him. he has 2 children from a previous marriage. He sees them a lot but they are not easy kids. ...
A. 8 June 2010: Hun, Your bf is trying to do the best he can with juggling his relationship with you and his kids... I can understand his hesitancy in committing to marriage, and if you do want to have more of a comitted relationship without him worrying about ... (read in full...)
Why is it that when men don't get their way they always go off in a mood?
Q. Is it just me or when men don't get something to do with sex they go in a mood and blame their partner. My boyfriends likes bum fun, we tried it but it really hurt me. but he doesn't seem too realise that cause of the pain i dont want it. and he ...
A. 8 June 2010: Sorry Hun, but your bf is just thinking with his 'little' head! All that matters to him is having anal sex and is not considering your feelings at all.
Remember it is YOUR body, if you dont want to do something, well then, dont do it - and if h... (read in full...)
She gets mad because I don't agree with her
Q. I don't know what to do. My gf gets mad whenever I don't agree with her. She looks at it in a disloyal way although I'm just trying to say my opinion. I told her, if she wants to be with someone who always agrees on her opinion, she should just get ...
A. 8 June 2010: Ouch!! Sorry but your gf is controlling and nasty! Seems that she thinks you dont need to have an opinion! And if she thinks you are not the most intelligent person then WHY is she with you.
You dont deserve to be treated like this rather f... (read in full...)
Still under my mom's apron strings at 27...
Q. I am 27 years old and live at home with my parents. I recently split up with my girlfriend of three years. The relationship had been secret for two out of the three years. The first year my parents were aware of my GF but they did not know that she ...
A. 4 June 2010: Hun, as long as you live at home, your mom is going to see you as her 'little boy' who she will protect from the evil world...
At 27 you should really consider living on your own, the independence will be well worth it.
As far as your gf g... (read in full...)
I love him but he left me because of a compatibility test!
Q. Hi I need help. I am so confused. I have been dating this man for 10 mths. We met on match.com. We have had a great time together. Now he is questioning out compatability long term. He says I'm a wonderful person, good looking, kind, caring, I ...
A. 3 June 2010: My word is this guy for real???
Seems he didnt have the balls to admit to you outright that he was moving on without you.
What a jerk!!... (read in full...)
Does it sound as if there is a chance for us to be together?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for nearly 2 years, he tells me that he wants to be with me and cares very deeply for me. He calls me 3 times a day and texts me too. His marriage is over, there is no sex or intimacy in the relationship, his wife told my ...
A. 3 June 2010: Sweetie, this man is still with his wife.... and the marriage will only be over once he has left her and filed for divorce.
I dont think there is much chance of you being together.... (read in full...)
Ex may have non-consentual indecent photos of me.
Q. Hi. My problem is this. I was with my ex for 7 years. Last April he left to be with someone else. Now he wants me to sell the house to give him money. Things have gotten a bit nasty but the other day he e-mailed me to say he had 'found' his old ...
A. 1 June 2010: Hun, keep all info you can and take it to the police. He is trying to blackmail you.
Dont fall for his nasty tricks.... (read in full...)
Should I leave her if my partner's ex continues to harrass me?
Q. Hello Everybody! I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 15months, 3 months into our relationship she started talking to her ex again and regularly meeting up with him on dinner dates. i nipped that in the bud and out of courtesy for me ...
A. 26 May 2010: My advice - tell her its either you or the ex!!
If she chooses you - then there will be NO contact with the ex and if you find her even sms'ing him the relationship will be over.
She is playing both sides of the fence and probably loves tellin... (read in full...)
Does this nice guy want me as a girlfriend or as 'friends with benefits'?
Q. Well about a year ago my best friend introduced me to this guy. We have gone out quite a few times nothing serious nor did anything ever happen. He is shy and an all around good guy, good job, doesn't drink or smoke. It is obvious that we are ...
A. 25 May 2010: Hun, stick around with this guy, he sounds like he respects you and enjoys your company.
If he was only with you for sex, he probably would have dumped you after you refused sex with him.
So take things slow and see where they progress. Maybe... (read in full...)
What does he want by contacting me again?! He cheated on me and used me!
Q. When we first met my instinct told me loud and clear that he was trouble but he was also very attractive and after hanging out a couple of times the sexual tension grew so strong that I couldn't help but giving in to the temptation. We started ...
A. 25 May 2010: Hun, you will never get an apology from this guy, he is so overwhelmed by his cleverness at fooling you!!
If you dont want to change your email address, then delete his messages as soon as you see them in your inbox, avoid taking any calls fr... (read in full...)
How do I tell this man that I love him and would leave my life in a second for him?
Q. Im a widow at 38 met a amazing man a year later,moved in together we never had that oh my god im in love feeling,and I feel like we both just settled,my friend died last year and Im very close to her husband and now as of 8 months ago we have been ...
A. 25 May 2010: Sorry Hun, but as I see it, you are cheating on the man you are living with and the guy you are seeing is only seeing you for sex - he is probably craving human affection because of the loneliness he feels after the passing of his partner.
This ... (read in full...)
Our affair was discovered and now he won't talk to me
Q. I have had an affair for nearly four years and his wife found out when i called him at his place she answered the phone. He told me never to call him again and it was over i ruined his marriage. I am also married. This man and i were caught ...
A. 25 May 2010: So, when you called his home he had to make up some really good excuse and try and convince his wife that he was not cheating on her... you cramped his style somewhat. He blames you for putting him in this awkward situation and I guarantee you he ... (read in full...)
I just want him to trust me!
Q. OK so when i meet the love of my life i was going thought a lot and had hit rock bottom and i mean hit it rock bottom i hit it hard. I didnt care about myself or anyone around me. I was living in an apartment where it was nonstop drinking and doing ...
A. 21 May 2010: Sorry but you really shouldnt be thinking of getting married to this guy, he doesnt trust you, he is manipulative and controlling.
No matter what you say or do, this man will NEVER trust you, he will continue to throw things in your face - it is ... (read in full...)
Meeting the grandparents and making a good impression
Q. i have met my boyfriends parents and apparently they like me. i have been going out with him for six months and now he wants me to meet his grandparents, i need to make a good impression on them too. how can i do this? ...
A. 6 May 2010: Hun, MANNERS!!!! Remember your MANNERS!! Yes Please, No Thank yous... Smile and pay attention when they talk to you.
Hide any tattoos, remove piercings, dont wear revealing clothes.... these things can appear once they get to know you.
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I need to make a fantastic impression on this ex
Q. Long story, short: Tomorrow night I'm going to Buffalo Wild Wings to hang out with a bunch of friends. These friends include a guy I've had my eye on for a while. And pretty much everyone hanging out tomorrow night knows about my "crush" on this ...
A. 6 May 2010: Hun, just be yourself and dont drink any alcohol for confidence.
There is no quick fix for you, either he will like you or he wont!
Good Luck and let us know how it goes!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Is this a case of birds of a feather flocking together?
Q. i have a problem, ive been close to this man for a year or two now, we met online but recently started meeting up. i have feelings for him, kinda starting to fall for him. he lives local so we spend quite abit of time together and im sure he likes ...
A. 6 May 2010: Red Flags here - you are a secret, he hasnt told anyone about you.....
He's only after free sex.
Stop giving him sex and he will fade into the distance!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
When my mother comes to visit she likes to clean
Q. I'm not sure if this a site for help with mums, but I'm hoping someone will feel my pain on this one. My mum came to visit me today, and whenever she does, she will find something to 'show me how to do it' or something to that effect. Vagu...
A. 6 May 2010: Oh Hun, I had to smile when I read your post. Mothers can really be exasperating!! I think that mothers cant see their children as adults and thus they think that their children are not able to do things properly or as well as they themselves do ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want marriage
Q. i was married for 4 years to a jerk and we got divorced an year back. My friend was there for me the whole time and we got really close that time. he works with me in the same office and said he loves me. i fell for him totally and he is younger to ...
A. 6 May 2010: Sorry sweetie but you are going to have to give up on this one.
He has never promised you anything, so you were more of a friend with benefits.
He is also only being a friend on his terms and really that is not ideal. Maybe he feels that he sh... (read in full...)
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