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My girfriend cheated on me and I have feelings of hatred, but still love her!

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Question - (17 December 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 20 December 2009)
A male Austria age 30-35, anonymous writes:

my gf had oral sex with her friend in a cinema theatre and gave him a *******....she said it happened because she was too desperate and was out of her mind at that time...she feels terribly guilty now and regrets it and has cut all communication with that guy ....she loves me a lot but i my heart is broken and i feel chocked when i remember how she described the sex....i feel like teaching her a lesson because i am badly hurt! i gave her rude replies to her texts and has told her not to disturd in my work...i am having mixed worst feelings of hate and anger since when she has told me all this and i badly want to go back to her ....but my heart says no because i have been betrayed...the girl is not wrong though ...what to do so that she doesnt take sex so casually

she loves me madly and has always been extremely supportive and caring.... i am not able to stand this shock as it was totally unexpected that she would go at this level ...how to react??

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A male reader, paulofessex United Kingdom +, writes (20 December 2009):

paulofessex agony auntI consider oral sex to be on of the most intimate sexual pleasures between partners, therefore if my partner cheated in that particular fashion there is no way l would continue the relationship.

Best wishes

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A male reader, bharat mehta India +, writes (18 December 2009):

bharat mehta agony auntYour question is confusing. You know about her sex affair with another, by listening her confession. So, I got the impression that she is honest with you in saying everything she did behind you. Even she describe her affair with great details, which hurt you also...

In my opinion, you should be some what liberal. You have said your disliking also. One thing is certain, she love you by heart, and is the reason she said everything to you. She do not wish you to cheat you. She is not that much selfish to live double life. She could, if she wish to live, but she will not at the cost of your hurting.

In free society sexual matter are not that much punishable. After all we do not think sex as evil, but it is the question of honesty and of love. You also confess that you love her. So, it will be bad to think about punishment. New agreement is better and creative.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009):

Dump her royal ass to the curb. If you don't you'll have girlfriend trouble up the ass until you dump her.

Did you really have to ask?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009):

Here's another vote to get rid of her. I just wouldn't be able to trust her.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (17 December 2009):

I think she's a liar, and I think you can do better than this so called 'desperate girl' who treats you this way. You would do far better to forget about her and move on.

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A female reader, G.I South Africa +, writes (17 December 2009):

WTF? she felt desperate so she went down on her knees and sucked? how is that even therapeutic? i think there is more to this than meets the eye. but you seem like you love this girl and have chosen to stay with her. so dont beat yourself up for being angry. thats normal and expected but you seem like you need an outlet for your anger. i truly dont know what that outlet could be but dont keep it inside as it will grow and your anger might turn you into someone you dont know and even affect future relationships. it will take a while for her to regain your trust so just be patient. cry, punch things, scream,talk about how you feel, take a break from the relationship, whatever it takes. just dont hold it in as that is a one way ticket to disaster. goodluck

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (17 December 2009):

Honeygirl agony auntShe gave him a blow job because she was feeling desperate and out of her mind???? And if you take her back and the next time [yes there will be a next time] she is feeling out of sorts, she will do it again..

Sorry if she loved you so much she would have given you the blow job!!

You are better off without her!

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A male reader, Heartbroken in love United States +, writes (17 December 2009):

What was she doing with this guy alone at the movies anyway if she is with you? What was she feeling desperate for that she wasn't getting from you?

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (17 December 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntShe gave him a blow job at a movie theatre? Zowie. anyhoo I'd say anybody who gives blow jobs because they were feeling desperate and out of their mind is a whack job and I'd show them the nearest door.

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