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anonymous
writes:Okay here goes, I am unhappily married and have been attracted to my friend/neighbours husband for about 6 months now. It was never anthing but harmless flirting. My husband and I would get together with him and his wife and have drinks and let our kids play together. This past weekend, (let's call him Brad) and I were drinking together as well as our spouses and we were alone in the kitchen together, and he pulled me in for a hug, and then he kissed me. It then went a lot further and touching and other things were done, while our spouses were outside. During the kissing he told me that how he has wanted me from the moment he meet me, and he wants to be with me and not his wife. I should be the one he is with, and I should meet him the next day, so we can purse this alittle farther. Then his wife walked in and caught us kissing. She then called my husband in, and things just got bad. I know that I did an awful awful thing, but I can't stop thinking about him, and I need to know if he feels the same way. I know that he will probably never leave his wife, but I just need to talk to him. Should I just let it go, or should we are sit down and talk about this. They live right next door, so I can't really avoid them.Please any response would be helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Thanks for the advice. I tried to ask my husband to go to councelling, but he refuses. So I don't know if this is going to work out. As for "BRAD" well, he has been avoiding me anyway and now I can seem to forget him a little more. He is beening mean now, and it was sort of like use her and abuse her. It wrecked my life and he doesn't even have the balls to look at me.
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (14 December 2009):
I totally agree with everyone else on here - don't go looking for the guy, ask your husband for forgiveness and work on your marriage. The neighbour only wants to sleep with you. DO you only want no strings attached sex for the rest of your life? Ask yourself.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (11 December 2009):
 Hun, you need to address the problems within your marriage, but having an affair with another person is not going to sort anything out.You need to sit down with hubby and beg his forgiveness and then both of you go to marriage counselling to sort out your issued.Your neighbour just wants to have sex - he is told you all the things you wanted to hear.... he will NEVER leave his wife for you so forget that as an option. Why do you need to talk to him??? I will guarantee that you are not the first affair he has had!I suggest that you cut all ties with your neighbours and try and repair what damage you have done to your marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): This is a really bad idea I don't think you need to talk to him, what you really want is to take things further. Stay away from him.
You should put your energy into working on your own marriage.
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