Would a good friend stay? Or leave him alone?
Q. I'm having problems with my married guy friend. I have known him for a really long time, way before he got married or even met his wife. We dated initially but realized we were better off as friends. He recently found out that his wife cheated on ...
A. 27 July 2009: I agreee that a good friend should stay, however a good friend will also advise that he should consider counselling to repair the marriage.
Also, as a good friend you dont want to put any undue pressure on an already rocky marriage, I suggest ... (read in full...)
Stands close to me, does he like me
Q. Well theres this guy I'm friends with and I kinda like him. He was in one of my classes last year and we weren't really friends then but we talked some. He would always ask me for gum and stuff. A couple of weeks ago at bible school he would always ...
A. 24 July 2009: Sweetie, sounds like he likes you but has no idea how to tell you. Perhaps he is very shy? Why dont you suggest that he goes with you for a soda?
Give him a chance, he sounds sweet!
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My dad won't let me and my boyfriend sleep in the same bed, and he keeps checking on us! What can I do?
Q. I am 19, my boyfriend is 19, we have been together for 5 years. the problem is: My dad wont allow us to sleep together in the same bed! i have been respectful towards my dad for years always going to sleep on the couch a couple times a week ...
A. 20 July 2009: Oh Sweetie, your dad just cant face the fact that his little girl might be having sex. As a parent it is very hard to let go of your teenagers and realise that they are sexual human beings and as part of the circle of life, are going to have sex ... (read in full...)
He keeps doing these stupid things!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for eleven years off and on.i was 14 he was 16 and we have been threw so much i guess u can say we've both hurt eachother.he is my bestfriend and i love him with all my heart.we just got back together after being apart ...
A. 20 July 2009: Oh Sweetie, I think the writing is on the wall... you need to leave this man because he is going to cause you more pain in the future....
I know 11 years is a long time to just throw away, but rather move on now, and give your self a chance t... (read in full...)
Strange symptoms....could I be pregnant?
Q. ok my qustion is about pregnancy and i wanted to know something i have'nt had a period in two months i been throwing up cant keep no kind of food down and i just been sleeping and urinating alot please help me im too young to be a mother right know....
A. 16 July 2009: Oh Dear!! Yes those are the symptoms of pregnancy.
It is a bit late now to panic about being pregnant so you now need to explore your options.
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My boyfriend is going on a holiday...
Q. Hi ... Well ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 3months now and i love him to pieces and his everything i want, however he went on holiday with nine of his mates, he come back and then the next day on facebook was aload of picture...
A. 10 July 2009: Sweetie, if you have lost all trust in your boyfriend and you have only been with him for 3 months, then maybe you should consider finishing with him.
Seems that you feel more for him than he does for you!... (read in full...)
He wants me to settle down but he's my first so I'm afraid!
Q. Okay, little problem. I just turned 16 two weeks ago, and I’ve been with my FIRST BOYFRIEND (ever, I mean I’ve never had a boyfriend before) for 9 months, and he’s asking me to move in with him and marry him and start a family. Obviously he mea...
A. 10 July 2009: Oh dear, this man sounds very controlling. He is calling the shots in your relationship and it sounds like he wants everything his way. At 16 you have still to experience life so please dont give up your independence to him. You should be out th... (read in full...)
Should I believe a Married Man?
Q. About a month ago I was out havin drinks with a friend of mine. we met two guys at a bar and started havin great convo. at the end of the nite we kissed and i got his number 2 days later i sent him a text and 2 days later i got a response. later on ...
A. 10 July 2009: You are not his first girlfriend and you wont be his last. He is a liar and a cheat and all he sees is free sex on the side with you.
If he was so unhappy in his marriage why stick around for 10 years???? Yes, I expect he does have problems... (read in full...)
Worried all I'll be able to think about during sex is getting pregnant
Q. Okay so I have been talking to this guy for a year and we just started dating about 2 and a half months ago. I'm pretty sure I love him ha, actually I do love him. He means the world to me, well he's ready to have sex and I am too I'm pretty sure. ...
A. 10 July 2009: Of course he is going to be ready for sex, all teenage boys are a bundle of testosterone and sex is all they think of!
If you are worried about getting pregnant, sex should be the last thing you should be considering. ... (read in full...)
When is it a good time to try to conceive again?
Q. I just gave birth to a baby girl 2 and a half months ago and my husband and I are trying to concieve again. the problem is its hard to pinpoint my fertile days because i have had 2 periods in one month. What does this mean for me and when will it be ...
A. 9 July 2009: Your body has undergone a lot of changes after the birth of your baby, rather give yourself some time, say about a year, before trying for another baby.... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married, we're both unhappy and have an affair, should we keep it going?
Q. Hi I'm a 36 y.o man unhappily married with two beautiful girls ages 10 and 6. My lover, whom I met 9 months ago is also married she's 33 and has a teenage boy. My marriage has been on the rocks since about 3 years ago. thanks to my wife's me first ...
A. 8 July 2009: Sweetie, stop blaming your wife for the break-down of your marriage. If you really were committed to her you would have suggested marriage counselling and worked forward from there. As far as your girlfriend is concerned, if she is so unhappy wi... (read in full...)
I'm mis-reading my wife's signs, what am I missing here??
Q. I can't read my wife's signs. I get home the other day and she heads upstairs to put the kids to bed. Just before leaving the room, she tells me (and shows me) that she doesn't have any underwear on. After the kids are in bed, she takes a bath. ...
A. 8 July 2009: Sounds like your wife wants some spontaneous sex - when she told you she had no underwear on that was basically telling you to take her there and then!!
Get rid of the TV and start spending some quality time on each other! TV is a passion ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my weight?
Q. i have one question. i am 5"0 and i weigh about 79 my family and friends are worryed bout me but i don't make myself thow up i eat normaly i am a vegatarian so idk if this is bad. any help?...
A. 7 July 2009: Sweetie, I am also a vegetarian and found that unless you have a balanced diet you can loose weight far too easily as well as put it on far too easily.
Please visit your healthcare provider or a dietician who can advise you how is the best way... (read in full...)
He doesn't mind pleasuring me on my period!!!
Q. When I'm on my period, I feel digusting and fat and yucky even if I'm not and some of the time I totally do not feel like having sex. But my boyfriend insists he pleasures me orally and I'm suprised he doesn't find it disgusting that I'm on my ...
A. 25 June 2009: Sweetie, I am sure he wouldnt do oral on you if he didnt like it. So lay back and relax and enjoy!!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Break Down of communication with my husband of 25 years!, please help.
Q. Please can someone advise me, I have a problem with communication with my husband of 25 years. We had a dissagreement which was extremely minor and then he went off in a sulk to the pub to meet his friend. He did not return home that night and in ...
A. 25 June 2009: I think that you should see a counsellor to help you to cope with what you are going through also to help you come to a decision as to what you are going to do with your life. 25years is a long time to be with a person and 25 years is also a long ... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to feel frustrated at my GFs attack?
Q. Sometimes accidents happen, and I appreciate that. however, I am not sure if I am over-reacting or perhaps not the man I thought I was which is generally just your average bloke. About 9 months ago my girlfriend attacked me as I forgot to bring ho...
A. 25 June 2009: She hit you then threw a plate at you, just because you forgot to get a lemon????????? I am shocked - this behaviour is definitely not acceptable.
What will she do to you if you, say forget your anniversary????
I sincerely hope that you ar... (read in full...)
How are we ever going to get together?
Q. Ok, so there this guy at the place were I volunteer, we flirt all the time. He works there and one day he asked me how old I was and he keeps showing up in the kitchen when I am volunteering and teases me and all. He asked me if I had a boyfriend. ...
A. 24 June 2009: Sweetie, something is just not right.... he has a son... doesnt give you any other info.... or ask you for contact info..... are you sure he is not married???... (read in full...)
I'm scared about having sex
Q. okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 7 month's and all we have done sexually is he has fingered me. i really don't want him feeling like i won't do anything with him but i'm just scared since i never have before. we've planne...
A. 24 June 2009: Sweetie, you are still young and there is no need to rush in to having sex... you need to tell your bf that you need more time. Remember it is your body and dont let him pressurise you into having sex, anyways, if he loves and respects you he will ... (read in full...)
He keeps breaking his promises. Should I stop all contact?
Q. Hi my ex broke up with me. He had mentioned to me about being friends. At first I didn't want to , because I was so in love with me and my hurt would start all over again when ever I talked to,but not by the grace of God and advice from you all my ...
A. 24 June 2009: "I'm fed up and tired of friendship on his terms" - Sweetie you have said exactly how you feel and considering he only has his interests at heart, cut ties with him. he is not going to change.
Time to move on Sweetie!!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
What should I do with this guy at work flirting with me having a GF in the same company?
Q. This is a co worker of mine. His GF works in the same company but different area. I know both of them, although I knew him long time ago. I´ve seen lately that he likes to talk to me and likes to hang around me and when he sees me he tried to get ...
A. 24 June 2009: Sweetie, this man is playing you. He wants his cake and he wants to eat it. He has admitted that he is going to probably marry the girl he is dating so basically all he wants from you is some exciting, in-the-closet sex at work, [which he will ... (read in full...)
He is so selfish and has really hurt me...
Q. My heart is breaking, my partner and i have not been getting on for a while and we have had a temporary seperation. We have been living apart for almost 4 weeks now but he is here all the time, but yet he wont commit to the things he promised.. ...
A. 24 June 2009: Sweetie, he is a selfish man and is only thinking of himself. He probably likes the idea of you being there for him for sex and food etc but he is not willing to give anything of himself to you.
You are wasting your time with him so you need to ... (read in full...)
Break Down of communication with my husband of 25 years!, please help.
Q. Please can someone advise me, I have a problem with communication with my husband of 25 years. We had a dissagreement which was extremely minor and then he went off in a sulk to the pub to meet his friend. He did not return home that night and in ...
A. 24 June 2009: Sweetie, it certainly sounds like he has issues opening up to you, and remaining silent for up to a month!! Wow!! Have you suggested marriage counselling? There is definitely a problem if he wont discuss what is wrong. Until he learns to ... (read in full...)
Break Down of communication with my husband of 25 years!, please help.
Q. Please can someone advise me, I have a problem with communication with my husband of 25 years. We had a dissagreement which was extremely minor and then he went off in a sulk to the pub to meet his friend. He did not return home that night and in ...
A. 23 June 2009: You mention that " this sullen behaviour and lack of communication has been ingrained in our marriage throughout". 25 years later you are now asking for some guidance. I strongly suggest that since it appears that you cannot communicate with him ... (read in full...)
Ugly old man doesn't want to seriously commit to attractive younger woman
Q. I am a young woman who is currently dating an old man. He is 24 yrs older than me. He is not very attractive at all, most of my associates find him kind of old and creepy. I chose to be with him because I thought I would at least find real love. ...
A. 23 June 2009: Sweetie, things are not going to get any easier with a child to care for... he does not love you, he is only using you and I suspect still loves and wants his ex. Life is too short to spend it crying and maybe you should consider leaving him and ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop sex from becoming a power struggle?
Q. I have a very pressing problem in my relationship. Up to now I've been trying to ignore it since I feel concentrating on it too much will just make it worse, and I think my boyfriend is completely denying it, but I would really appreciate some ...
A. 19 June 2009: Okay, it sounds like the two of you have some communication problems.... it also sounds like your bf is immature.... If you are sick, stressed etc the last thing on your mind is sex.... and he needs to understand that you are not rejecting him ... (read in full...)
What does my lover mean by these words?
Q. I would like some help please, I am having an affair with a married man and have been for many years. So please no "you shouldn't be doing this" comments thanks. We have a strange relationship and neither of us can say goodbye to it but it has me w...
A. 19 June 2009: Sorry Sweetie, this man wants to control the situation, it is okay to cheat with him but not okay for you to cheat on him.
He wants you to be in-love with him because that is how he will hold onto you and the free sex.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Molested by my father's friend
Q. I'm calling out for help here. I am a 17 yr old girl. I live with my dad, my mom died a couple of years ago. My dad drinks alot and sometimes he hits me, I cant talk to him about anything, but I need to approach him about something that happened to ...
A. 15 June 2009: Sweetie, so sorry you are having to go through this all alone. Agony Aunt Wintry has given you the same advice I would have given you. Contact Childline urgently I think they have a toll-free number, also you must report this to the police. This ... (read in full...)
Infertility by too much stimulation?
Q. hello frndz....actually me n my bf are together 4 a year now...n we are madly in love...so we decided to get married as soon as we finish our higher studies...we both really like kids and planning to have kids after we get married..but few days back ...
A. 12 June 2009: No Sweetie, your friend is wrong. Most men cum daily basis through sex or masturbation. ... (read in full...)
How to I address this without sounding pushy?
Q. I've been waiting for some feedback on an email I sent to a guy. It was business related and requires some thinking on his part before writing an answer. A week after my email he replied saying he was on holidays and has a lot of catching up to but ...
A. 12 June 2009: If it is business related, then give him a friendly reminder call!... (read in full...)
Did I cheat on my girlfriend?
Q. Hey, me and my girlfriend have been going out for 2 months and a half now and i love being with her and always look forward to speaking to her everynight and we are constantly speaking and she makes me so happy. I love my life at the moment. Howe...
A. 12 June 2009: Sweetie, you didnt cheat on your girlfriend, although I am shocked that your father would be happy taking you to a brothel.......
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Why did this breakup happen?
Q. Was with a guy for nearly a year. Its a year in July. For the last 4 months he has been acting strange. Breaking up by txt message and we have been on and off 9 times now...last night he decided to break up with me just like that...he said he didn't ...
A. 12 June 2009: Why do you want him back - so that he can continue to verbally abuse you and treat you like his hired help? Move on, he is definitely not worth it! YOU are worthy of someone better.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
He says someone is trying to set him up
Q. Boy friend trouble. please help I am so lost and confused. I am 28 years old and I am dating a 49 year old man.? I have been dating this guy for the past 4 months. Last week I broke it off with him because he was always wanting to spend time wit...
A. 11 June 2009: Sorry, lots of red flags here.... why would your ex want to set him up??? Sounds like your man is not being honest... and the woman with the text messages... I suppose he will say that your ex sent them..... ... (read in full...)
He's Going through depression and taking it out on me in horrific ways
Q. Not sure what to do, with the man I thought I wanted to marry but he's been going through a stint of depression and has been taking it out on me in horrific ways. He acknowledges this, and is profusely apologetic - and on his good days, when it's ...
A. 11 June 2009: You dont say if he has been to a dr for help with his depression... The picture I see is that he is an emotional abuser with very low self esteem. You do not deserve to be treated this way - then have to excuse his behaviour because it is ... (read in full...)
I will be introducem to her parents. How to make a good impression?
Q. I am going to meet my friend with benefits parents tomorrow night and was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to leave a good impression on them. She will probs introduce me to them and we will talk for a short time, then we will go watch a ...
A. 5 June 2009: The first impression is what counts the most... take out all the facial piercings, make sure you have shaved and washed you hair, and are wearing clean clothes. When you meet the parents, dont forget the 'Sir' and 'Ma'am' and give a nice firm ... (read in full...)
I go to swingers' parties alone and it can mess up my marriage if it's found out!
Q. Although I love my husband dearly and he is the best father to our two children, he doesn't satisfy me sexually. My biggest fantasy was to have sex with many different men. Finally I brought up the idea of bringing in a partner. I even said he ...
A. 5 June 2009: Sorry Sweetie, You really are a piece of work! You need to tell your husband what is going on and let him decide if he is happy sharing you with lots of anonymous men or if he wants a divorce. If you continue with your irresponsible behaviour you ... (read in full...)
My husband has erectile problems, I have needs, what do I do now?
Q. My husband lost his sex drive and he is having erectal problems. And it is now our new reality. I can't handle this very well, mainly because the doctor didn't find anything wrong with him. He thinks ,I' m really mean with him, and he thinks it is...
A. 4 June 2009: Did the dr not prescribe Viagra for your husband? I think that you need to be a bit more understanding of your husbands problem. A lot of men when they reach their 40's have erectile problems and it is how their partner reacts to this that makes ... (read in full...)
I'm bi and in love with my best friends boyfriend
Q. hi im bi (i think) im in love with my best friend boyfriend he gives me this wierd mixed feeling and i feel uncomftable on monday he was allover me and on tueasday he was soo distance hes just soo weird around me but when i se himm make out with my ...
A. 3 June 2009: The problem is not with you being bi - its with him wanting both you and your friend.
Sounds like he would want to cheat on her with you! Since you dont want to see your best friend hurt, dont hang around with this guy.... (read in full...)
Her vagina smells! What do I do?
Q. Help! I have been dating this girl for 3 months now and we are starting to get sexual. The only problem is her vagina kinda stanks. How do i tell her or what do i do???...
A. 3 June 2009: Wow, you are going to have to say something to your girlfriend, but its how you say it that is going to make the difference.
The other agony aunts and uncles have given you some great suggestions, perhaps the easiest excuse is to ask her to join ... (read in full...)
I really liked him, thought he likes me - but he's married!!!
Q. hi hope someone can offer their advice. i work with a guy and have only known him since february. since he joined and especially over the last 2 monts i have found myself physically and mentally attracted to him. he chats to me all the time and we ...
A. 3 June 2009: Sweetie, sounds like this dr is trying his luck. He is just looking for a bit of excitement at work. If he does propose anything to you explain that you dont have affairs with married men because you respect yourself too much!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Teen boy wants sex, scared he'll be a virgin forever!
Q. Hi im a 14 year old guy and im scared that i wont lose my viginity! my best mate has already and iv come close and i kind of thought scince the last relationship another one would've revealed itself and nothing has! im wondering if it will for ages...
A. 3 June 2009: Sweetie, youre so young and you have the rest of your life ahead of you! Go out and enjoy yourself and eventually you will meet someone and things will happen on their own.
In the great circle of life it is not a race to see who loses their vi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to porn. How can I help him?
Q. Help my boyfriend is obsessed with porn? am with my boyfriend 2 half years, and i had alot problems. woman has been big threat in our relationship cas of cheating and him having them as friends. my boyfriend also loves porn never stop looki...
A. 3 June 2009: Sweetie, sounds like porn is not the only problem in your relationship, you mention he has cheated with other women.
Well, when someone is caught out doing something they know they shouldnt be doing, they will blame all sorts of things. He is sh... (read in full...)
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