My boyfriend says he doesn't want marriage
Q. i was married for 4 years to a jerk and we got divorced an year back. My friend was there for me the whole time and we got really close that time. he works with me in the same office and said he loves me. i fell for him totally and he is younger to ...
A. 6 May 2010: Sorry sweetie but you are going to have to give up on this one.
He has never promised you anything, so you were more of a friend with benefits.
He is also only being a friend on his terms and really that is not ideal. Maybe he feels that he sh... (read in full...)
He always makes me cry but I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 16 year old girl and i love my boyfriend very much. We have been going out for almost 11 months and i can say that he hurt me several times intensionally. But sometimes it's my fault. So i really do not know what to do because ...
A. 6 May 2010: Hun, there is only one answer here and I know it is not what you want to hear..... you have get this man out of your life.
He is controlling, unreasonable and nasty.
Emotional blackmailing wont work on him because he really doesnt care abou... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married!
Q. Hello, I have a female friend that ended up telling me she is attracted to me and she really likes me. She is an attractive woman and I do like her and her personality. We hang out every weekend with our neighbors. The only thing is I'm married a...
A. 5 May 2010: You are married, she is married but you ARE NOT MARRIED TO EACH OTHER!!
Go home and sort out your marriage and forget about having an affair, all you will gain out of it is destroying lives.
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Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 5 May 2010: What a Jerk!! I bet yours was the first vagina he had EVER seen and was shocked!!!
Pity you didnt get a look at his penis - you could have also made a similar comment!!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but we are very different and I doubt it will work out
Q. Dear Cupid, I genuinely love my boyfriend, we have been together for over a year and before that we were friends for 5 years. I can't imagine being without him, but we are complete opposites when it comes to fundamental political, social, ...
A. 5 May 2010: Hun, I would suggest first of all, dont have discussions on these topics!! We all have differing ideas on politics, religion and it is very easy to get all upset because the person you are talking to just wont see things from your perspective.
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Girlfriend doesn't want to meet my ex wife.
Q. My girlfriend of 10 months is the love of my life. Both of us are divorced with children, all of whom are the same age. I recently moved in with her and things are great: kids are happy, we're happy. The one thing that is eating me up is that she ...
A. 4 May 2010: Hun, be patient.... in time your gf will meet up with your ex and find that things are really okay.
Dont force the issue and dont make a big thing about it, maybe your gf feels a bit insecure about herself when she thinks about your ex......... (read in full...)
Wanting to watch the girl I love have sex with another man, since I can't.
Q. I met this girl online that I really liked and we fell for each other and it is all completely amazing, we are pretty both always searching for a way to talk to each other and I am soon gonna move to where she lives so we can be together. But ...
A. 4 May 2010: Definitely your "little head" thinking here...... if you go through with this fantasy you are condeming your relationship with your gf because nothing will ever be the same again.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my sister in her unhappy marriage?
Q. Hi, i sincerely need your help. Its concerning my eldest sister, she's been married for almost 2years now, but marriage for her has been hell. On several occasions due to quarrels, he throws her belongings outside and changes the locks of the house, ...
A. 4 May 2010: Hun, if your sister is asking for your advice, then in these circumstances she needs to see a lawyer. However if she has not asked for your advice then you are going to have to leave her to decide whether she is happy with being treated in that ... (read in full...)
I am very jealous of other women around my boyfriend but I am curious about having a threesome! Would it be a bad idea?
Q. So iv been with my bf for 4 years we have a beautiful son and a really strong connection. were completely in love. Now about ME I am a super jealous babymomma. i have suspicions of somethings i think he might have done while i was pregnant but ...
A. 4 May 2010: Both jealous of each other + 3rd party in 3-some = destroyed relationship.
Rather keep your fantasy as a fantasy.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant after a drunken fumble in a toilet?
Q. Could I be pregnant or am I being stupid I AM NOT ON THE PILL OF ANY FORM OF CONTRACEPTION I am normally a very sensible person but I was out on friday night and my best friend got me very very drunk, I was dancing with this really nice gu...
A. 4 May 2010: Hun, I think it is fairly safe to say that you wont fall pregnant... however..... please, please, think very carefully about your behaviour. You got off lightly and the guy listened to you when you asked him to stop... what if he hadnt listened?
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I went through my girlfriend's phone for a second time, and I have been hurt yet again....
Q. This may be a little long... but I have a lot to get off my chest. But here I go. The first time I caught her, we were doing a little rocky. We have been falling in and out for a bit over a year now. First started talking back in summer of '08. I...
A. 4 May 2010: Hun, this girl is not going to change, no matter what she says and how much she says she loves you......
Time to quit this relationship and move on with your life. By hanging around this girl you are condoning her behaviour.
Maybe take a ... (read in full...)
Do you think my doctor likes me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been seeing my doctor for 2 years now. Lately he's started calling me sweety or saying i'm a sweetheart when I see him. He's always asking me about my love life lately, he also touches my shoulder when i'm leaving, do you...
A. 3 May 2010: No, I think that you are reading far too much into his actions. If you feel uncomfortable with the way he treats you, rather change your doctor. It is unethical for a doctor to date his patients, and if this dr was interested in you he would hav... (read in full...)
Is he lying about his financial situation?
Q. please can anyone explain this-i feel like im going insane i work with this guy who ive developed feelings for. hes unaware but likes me a lot and we do get on really well. hes had a lot of stuff going on-his marriage ended last year and he hasnt ha...
A. 3 May 2010: Hun, maybe it is time to start challenging him on all this money he has..... next time you go out for lunch tell him he is paying as you dont have any money..... either that or stop taking him out to lunch!! Often you find that the people who a... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to get rid of all my pictures and letters from my former girlfriend who died in my arms, is she in the wrong here?
Q. I have been dating a young woman for a few months. She is very sweet and I care very much for her. She came over to my apartment when I wasn't home yesterday and my room mate let her in. She went into my room and found an old year book I had ...
A. 28 April 2010: Hun, I really dont think you should get rid of her photo and the letters...... what happened to you was really traumatic and regardless, her memory will live on forever with you, especially in those final moments.
By keeping the photo and letters ... (read in full...)
I ripped the shirt off his back and he broke up with me but I want him back!
Q. boyfriend of a year and a half doesn't want me anymore :( everything was perfect when we first got together but he was doing all of the running as i could take it or leave it but now it's the other way around. he's really down and depressed and take...
A. 26 April 2010: Why on earth do you want him back? He sounds immature and you sound like you are his 'trophy' gf.
Rather find someone your own age to date.... (read in full...)
Ex texted me acting as though we never split up. WHY?
Q. I have an update to a previous situation with my now ex girlfriend. I'm seeing a new girl, she's more my own age and really nice, we're getting on well and I'm optimistic. There's none of the games that my ex played but I put that down to the age ...
A. 26 April 2010: Hun, she was probably just wanting to see if you were still available.....
I think by admitting to her that you had deleted her number from your mobile should tell her that you have moved on with your life..
If she persists, then tell her th... (read in full...)
How can I catch my wife out?
Q. i am in uk. my wife living in her mothers home in india along with her brother. i am suspecting she is doing sex with her own brother while i am doing phonesex with her. how can i caught her please help me....
A. 26 April 2010: Odd..... I think that you are paranoid.... what has your wife ever done to make you think that she has sex with her brother?
Erm... yes there does seem to be loads of questions coming out of India........... (read in full...)
Start a new relationship to get over the ex?
Q. i posted a question on my relationship troubles about 2weeks ago on how i asked my gf to let go of me and later regretted it.i got an advice from one of the readers and it helped a lot.first i set a target of 1week in which i was neither going to ...
A. 22 April 2010: Hun, sounds like you are coping very well. Yes it is ok to refer to her as your ex... And yes her continued silence means that she has moved on with her life.
Dont rush into another relationship too quickly, rather take things slowly and just... (read in full...)
He comments on other girls and keeps looking at them!
Q. hi am married for 2 years nw and when i go out with my husband for a movie or to a restaurant and when he finds some good looking girls he tells me look at that girl she is so pretty for example she is so lean or she has beautifull complexion or ...
A. 22 April 2010: Hun, turn the tables on him.... start doing the same whilst looking at other men.... Wait for his reaction - he will probably not like it at all - then you can explain to him what he is feeling is what you feel when he keeps on talking about other ... (read in full...)
Is taking a break a good idea for a relationship?
Q. *Op's own title* My relationship has reached a point where I am very vulnerable to cheating on my girlfriend. The truth is that she didn't take care of me (and she acknowledges it) and avoided the subject for far too long. After our conv...
A. 22 April 2010: Hun, get yourself and your gf off to counselling.... ... (read in full...)
What's going on with my girlfriend?
Q. What is going on with my girlfriend? We've been dating for over a year and everything has been going really great. She has been very sweet and everything. However a few weeks ago she went away on a volunteer trip with a group of girls for her coll...
A. 21 April 2010: Either she has a bad case of PMS or she is no longer into you.
Tell her that you dont appreciate being shouted at, and you would like to be treated with some respect, or else you are on your way out the door!!
You dont have to put up with bein... (read in full...)
Do I go for "True happiness" or "This is alright"
Q. Right I'm going to skip the nonsense and get straight to the point. I've been with my partner for two years. He has problems due to an accident. He is on a hell of a lot of medications and shows no interest in sex. He is snappy and no matter what he ...
A. 21 April 2010: Hun, from the tone of your post you sound like you are now finding life very unhappy.
Your bf sounds like he has all he wants, a gf, a carer, someone to cook and clean for him and he can be difficult and abusive and you still hang around. ... (read in full...)
Should I give into my desire to cheat? Or try my best to push it away?
Q. I really need some help. We have been married one year. I love this woman with all my heart. While we were still dating though. My then girlfriend, now wife, took a trip home to visit her family. They live two states away. While she was over the...
A. 20 April 2010: You are being an eejit!! Your wife was given a second chance after seeing what she could have lost and has been loving you unconditionally since then. To show her love she has fallen pregnant with your child. Now you want to do the tit-for-tat ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to see these conversations he has with another woman? Or am I in the wrong here?
Q. For the past month ive been suspecting my bf has not been entirely truthful on where hes been going and the txts hes been recieving, so on his phone bill a number appeared over and over again just as much as mine, so i made up a story and txt it f...
A. 20 April 2010: Sorry hun, I agree with CaringGuy on this one. Sounds like he is up to no good. Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Does no sex = no relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 10 years. She is 47, I am 36. When we first met (as is usual) we had sex frequently. Within a year of my moving in, sex became less frequent and slightly painful for her. She went to her doctor and I was...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, at 47 your gf could be going through peri-menopause which affects women in different ways. You say she went to a dr - what did the dr say? Has she had any treatment for the pain during sex? I do believe that sex is a very important part o... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I wanted to talk about what's on his phone
Q. hey. well im 18yrs of age and i've been having a lot of obstacles in my past realtionships. well today my boyfriend and i broke up again all because i wanted to talk about something i seen yesterday in his phone. i wasnt going to fuss or fight about ...
A. 20 April 2010: He is still cheating that is why he is so defensive.
He does not deserve your friendship or your trust.
Move on with your life.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Have I lost a good friend forever?
Q. I have a single female friend at work who is quite a bit younger than me, but whom I get on really well with - in fact she is the nearest individual to me I have ever met. I have known her for over 10 years. I think she has always looked up...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, she probably thinks that you were doing the whole 'my wife doesnt love me, we are roommates, my wife doesnt understand me' story... you know the one... when a man wants to have an affair these wonderfully inventive stories are told to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want to marry until until I get a better job
Q. My boyfriend of four years hasn't proposed yet and doesn't know when he will. We had a discussion last night about it because I'm tired of waiting. Basically he's told me that he can't marry me unless I get a different job that pays more and is m...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, he is using this as an excuse not to marry you - dump him and find someone who will accept you as you are!
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
My husband has been cheating all this time
Q. Hi, I'm in a lot of trouble and need some advice soon. I'm married for just over one year and pregnant with my first child. I married long time boyfriend. I had a feeling he does things with other girls behind my back even before we got married. But ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, either you accept his behaviour and stop moaning, or you get out. You say you are a professional person with your own income and assets... well then.... leave him!!
You will be a far happier person and a far happier mom!
Remember you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend simply will not satisfy me in bed.
Q. Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We have been reasonably happy except for in one regard: sex. He always wants a blowjob, but he never wants to go down on me or even manually stimulate me. He has only gone down on me 3-4 times ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, this guy is really so into himself that he doesnt consider you at all!!
Time to have a serious chat to him, either he makes the effort or you are leaving.
Could you imagine a whole lifetime like this??
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
I text like there's no tomorrow, and my parents get really mad!
Q. So I've gone over my texting limit before, and my parents always get REALLY mad. I think last month I went over by 100 (not even) this time I went over by like 1,600. :( Is there a way to fix this issue?! I don't even wanna know how much it's gonna ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, to be honest, if I was your parent, I would confiscate the phone permanently!!!
You need to learn some responsiblity and restraint. Ask you parents to get you a pre-paid phone and when you run out of money... well then you cant text!! ... (read in full...)
Commitment phobe or moving too fast?
Q. My gf was initially driven by lust by mentioned that she wanted to settle down with me for certain in the early stages of the relationship. I was glad that she was so 'in love' but a few months later (and a lot more water under the bridge) and ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun it sounds like your gf is falling out of lust with you. When in lust everything is totally fantastic, but as everyday life creeps in, well things get familiar and not so exciting anymore.
Personally, I think that this girl is going to get w... (read in full...)
Is she cheating, or is there something else lacking in our relationship?
Q. I have a problem i drive truck over the road and i like what i do. I am gone for a month and half at a time. I meet this girl and we hit it off right away and been dating for 5 months at first we would talk on the phone for hours on end about ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, your gf is probably feeling neglected. Send her some sweet or sexy texting, or some flowers, when you do see her give her some small gift, say that you bought it when you were travelling through such-and-such a place.
Make her feel that you... (read in full...)
Help!! I'm physically, spiritually, and emotionally drained from my lazy husband.
Q. My husband and I have been married for nine years and we have three wonderful kids. He works at the local sherrif's department and I work at a local lawyer's office. I work from 8:00a.m.-5:00p.m. and he works from 4:00p.m.-midnight. During the ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, if he doesnt want to help you around the house, then get someone to help you... get a char and tell him he has to contribute to 50% of their wages... get a garden service to assist in the garden....
You cannot possibly hold down a full tim... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex for last 3 weeks..am I pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been having intercourse without proctection for the last 20days last week i started feeling sick randomly and everytime i get up i feel extremly dizzy makes me feel more sick and have a headache also i started smelling...
A. 20 April 2010: Oh gosh... unprotected sex.. morning sickness... erm... take a pregnancy test as it sounds like you are pregnant!... (read in full...)
Men don't really accept me for who I am!
Q. I have noticed a pattern in my relationships---the men don't seem to really accept me for who I am. I have a recent ex who did accept me, and does care for me, but due to our differences, decided that it would be best that we remain friends. ...
A. 20 April 2010: Hun, you sound like you have serious self-esteem and confidence issues.
You need to build confidence in yourself - you are beautiful regardless of what your outside appearance is... its whats inside that counts!! It does sound like your insecuri... (read in full...)
What if I'm not pregnant?
Q. Hi I missed my period for two weeks so i went and brought 2 pregnancy tests, i took one when i got home, it came up postive really quickly, then i tested the other one the next morning (my first morning urine) and that also came up postive quickly....
A. 13 April 2010: Hun, if you have already done 2tests chances are you are pregnant. Congratulations!!
I thinks its normal to wonder about it - because you probably dont feel any different - maybe just got sore breasts????
What your dr will do is give you fina... (read in full...)
Is he just using me?
Q. Hi i have been going out with this guy for around six months. i really like him. we got on really well and never did a day do by without him texting me or us chatting. He had been away for six seven week visiting his family he came back last w...
A. 31 March 2010: Sorry sweet, this guy is only into you because of the sex! What I am saying is that you are just a friend with benefits.
You dont sound happy with the situation at the moment, so I would suggest you move on with your life....but leave him behi... (read in full...)
Am I really everything he says I am?
Q. I ended a relationship a few weeks ago due 2 an abusive incident. My ex and I argued over the dumbest thing and he chose to choke, hit, and yell at me. I left him a week later with no warning or calls; just disappeared. I know leaving like that is ...
A. 23 March 2010: Well done for getting out of an abusive relationship!! The only reason he wanted to see you was to brow-beat you into coming back to him. To emotionally batter you so that you believe that you are worthless and deserve all the bad treatment.
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He insists that I send him nude photos and that I talk dirty, but I'm not that kind of girl!
Q. im in a relation ship with this guy. He is a sweet guy for the most part but 2 things he always wants me to send him a nude pic and i really don't mind that much but he is always asking and the second reson is he wants so talk dirty over text all ...
A. 19 March 2010: Hun, you are going to have to explain to him that you are not sending nude pics of yourself and you dont talk dirty. That is just who you are and you are not going to change.
Sendind nude pics is not a good idea - if someone else had to get hold... (read in full...)
She thinks she is pregnant but we always use condoms, I'm nervous, any help?
Q. hi i am 18 years old and just started having sex a couple of months ago with condoms but my girlfirend is saying that her period has been late three weeks and her boobs hurt and she is urinating a lot and she thinks she is pregnant but we always use ...
A. 19 March 2010: Hun, there is always a possibility of falling pregnant even with contaceptives. Go buy a home pregnancy test for your gf so that you and her can know for sure whether she is pregnant or not.
With the symptoms you describe, the sore breasts,... (read in full...)
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