I am 16 and my voice has not broken nor has my penis grown.
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) Well I am 16 turning 17 on May 21st cant wait for it really but.. I am planning on going out more once I get a stable job and a car or bike most probably will be thinking more and more of having sex around that age. ...
A. 12 February 2010: Hun, Unless you had blood tests which were specifically for testing hormone levels, so no, I dont think that they would have picked anything up... you probably had things like uric acid levels done.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
I am 16 and my voice has not broken nor has my penis grown.
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) Well I am 16 turning 17 on May 21st cant wait for it really but.. I am planning on going out more once I get a stable job and a car or bike most probably will be thinking more and more of having sex around that age. ...
A. 10 February 2010: Hun, the best thing to do is go and chat to your dr... promise.. your dr wont laugh at you and wont tell your parents either.
You need to rule out any hormonal problems [simple blood test will do that]... if there is nothing wrong, well, then you... (read in full...)
My dream guy gets angry when other men call me.
Q. I just met this guy barely a month,he's my dream man. The only problem he has is that he gets angry wheneva a guy calls me,i dnt know what or how to pls...
A. 10 February 2010: Hun, this is NOT a dream guy! He is showing signs of being very controlling and manipulative. And if he is behaving like this barely a month after meeting him, imagine how he is going to be treating you in, say... six months from now.
Think... (read in full...)
I am feeling guilty about my relationship choices.
Q. I'm 23 and in love with a guy 30 years older than me.we lived together for 8months and had the best memories and I never felt that way with any young guys before.It was like a dream for both of us(he would always say It's too good to be true).he was ...
A. 10 February 2010: Hun, I think that the guy you met when you went home just filled a void in your life but your true love was the older man.
To make amends write a letter to the younger guy and explain that you really did enjoy your time with him but you are in l... (read in full...)
Am I the only one scratching his nut-sack to a bloody pulp ?
Q. OK, here goes a big gulp of pride swallowing. I mean I just want to say that I am worn out, and tired of frigging scratching my freaking balls (scrotum) to bleed unto a bloody pulp. Sometimes they too soft and moist, so I scratch; but other times ...
A. 10 February 2010: You need to see a doctor - there is obviously something wrong!... (read in full...)
I found condoms in his jacket but they're NOT ours!!!
Q. So me and my boyfriend been together for 3 year we have a real rocky past but for the last 4 months I feel like we have really connected. Until I found condoms in is jackets. They're not ours so I confronted him about it and he gave me stupid ...
A. 8 February 2010: Hun, if they are not yours and he is giving you stupid answers... well sorry to say he is either cheating on you or thinking of cheating on you.
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I am supposed to get married in 2 1/2 months but I just got my sister in law pregnant!
Q. hi im master splinter . in about 2 and a half months im getting married BUT THERE IS ONE THING i need to get of my chest its my sister inlaw to be well about 2 weeks ago my girlfriend went into hospital to give birth to our 2 child . i was there at ...
A. 1 February 2010: Sorry you have ruined your life, and the life of your fiance and that of her sister all because you couldnt keep your penis in your pants.
There is no advice that I can offer you that will get you out of this situation.
You are going to have to... (read in full...)
My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex.
Q. Help My wife has gone nuts. She claims she loves me etc but there is no affection much beyond a peck on the cheek and no sex. She tells me that if I do not pester her for sex then it might happen more often but I realise now after 6 months that th...
A. 1 February 2010: Hun, has she been for a check up to rule out anything medically that might be wrong with her?
You dont give your age group or tell us how long you have been married... if she is going through menopause, it does dampen the libido, or have you... (read in full...)
I am a afirst class catch, yet he has cheated on me for possibly a decade. Can affairs include an emotional connection?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if I could please have some advice. Recently, after nearly 10 years together, I discovered my boyfriend's nasty little secret he's been hiding for me for years. He's been seeing someone else on the side, most probably (from w...
A. 1 February 2010: Hun, all the time he was having an affair with this girl he was on a 'high' and obviously believed the grass is greener on the otherside.
Eventhough he has moved to be with her, I have no doubt that once the hum-drum of life sets in, he will che... (read in full...)
My huby thinks I should forgive and forget his 2 year affair!
Q. I found out my husband has been having an affair and texting this woman for 2 years i accidently found itemised bills and now he expects me just to forgive and forget and move on. how can i do this we have been married for 41years ...
A. 1 February 2010: No, you cannot just forgive and forget! What he has done has hurt you more than he could ever imagine.
41 years is a very long time to be married and I urge you to get yourself and your husband off to marriage counselling urgently.
Sometim... (read in full...)
Another cheating husband! Now I have trust issues!
Q. Dear cupid Please take your time and give me your views. I am married and have been with my husband for 30yrs,I found out that he was having an affair with a girl 20yrs younger (also married)I was devastated as i never dreamed that he would cheat a...
A. 1 February 2010: Sorry Hun, but for the life of me I cannot understand why you are stil with your husband.
He has physically abused you, cheated on you and you went back for more??
As I see it you have one choice here, to get the hell out of the marriage! Y... (read in full...)
Why is he saying these things when we split up 2 months ago?
Q. my ex woke me up with an early morning text, and i was totally taken back since i thought he decided to disappear and forget me. his message was asking me whats this all about? the silence . i replied back that i was confused, one minute we talk ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, perhaps hes hoping for a second chance? Checking on you to see if you are still smitten with him??
Remember he is your ex for a reason!!
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I have a boyfriend but like another who I texted, but I get no reply
Q. okay, i went to a club the other night for my friends birthday. my friend also invited some other friends of his who i didn't know. i started talking to one of them and he was so funny and sweet. he was good looking and had a really nice smile. i ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, did you consider the fact that perhaps this guy wont cheat with someone else's gf???
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I'm walking on eggshells ................
Q. Hi, me and my girlfriend are going through some problems. We've been together for just over 4 months now and in that time we have encountered a few turbulent periods in our relationship. One ongoing problem is sleeping at her flat. I find her bed ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, sounds like she wants out of the relationship but doesnt know how to tell you.. hence being so nasty and argumentative all the time.
Sit down with her, tell her how you feel and since she is 'not happy with you' can she please explain ... (read in full...)
After three years I am getting fed up with my boyfriends behaviour
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for 3 years in July, but feel like im the only one whoputs any effort into the relationship, i always go to his house, he always expects me to get up realli early and go to his in the morning for sex, he hardly ever comes ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, two pieces of advice...
Firstly, find yourself another job and secondly, find yourself another boyfriend.
Your current bf certainly has you running after him, so start thinking about what you want and do something about it.
Sorry to ... (read in full...)
Is it possible I went too far and need to leave him be?
Q. I dated a guy for two years. I thought we were really close, and someday (in my eyes) i thought we would marry. I'm not sure what his thoughts were but i know for sure he is a commitment-phobe, but not once in the two years did i bring up ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, nobody can say for sure if he will ever come back, but from what you have told us, sounds like he is moving on with his life.
Nobody wants a relationship where all you do is argue and fight...
So give this man his space and move on with... (read in full...)
Preganant and single. What should I do?
Q. Im about 2 months pregnant. My boyfriend n i were going through some hard times. He would disappear at random hours of the day, he didnt wanna hold my hand when we were out n public, So i started getting a lil suspicious. I questioned him to see w...
A. 29 January 2010: You dont say if you are still at school or working. You need to speak to your parents as you are going to need support if you are going to keep the baby.
Forget the bf as he sounds like a real jerk. If you decide to keep the baby, he must be ... (read in full...)
What could help with all day morning sickness?
Q. Im pregnant and i cant get any sleep. Im only about 2 months and im feeling so nauseous 24/7. Ive been pregnant before n it was never this bad to where i am crying hysterically about it. Its to the point where i cant even move my body or else im ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, I found that eating grated apples helped a lot.. got something to do with the pectin in the fruit.
Otherwise some anti-nausea medication which you will have to get from your dr.. something that is safe for pregnant women..
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I am thinking of coming fwd now the guy who molested me has been convicted of doing it to another.
Q. Anyone with legal knowledge. Advice would help. Here's my situation: This is difficult to share. I am currently 23 years old. I live in Texas. When I was in my early teens, 14 actually, I was participating in a summer track league. We would...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, I dont know anything about the laws in your country so I think that perhaps you need to chat to an attorney for advice.
I commend you for wanting to lay a charge against him, but are you ready for all the upheaval it will bring into your lif... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is selfish.... or am I selfish by thinking this?
Q. I am really confused. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and he seems so selfish. Don't get me wrong, there are many good things about him which make it hard to decide whether I should end the relationship. He works hard, he...
A. 29 January 2010: Oh wow!! You are defintely second in his life... sorry Hun, you need to sit this man down and tell him that you want more attention or else you are leaving.
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I accept his views but don't like him pushing his religion on me.
Q. I am currently dating a guy who I have gotten to know through work. At first glance, he seemed shy (or antisocial). I don't work with him often but when I did I realised he was a friendly person, and after a few weeks, we started hanging out. We get ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, either you become a believer or you leave.
He has already said that a non-believer and a beliver shouldnt be in a relationship... well I think that he is trying to convince you to become a believer...
So, he is putting a proviso on his r... (read in full...)
Can a guy change their mind on a girl that quickly?
Q. I really dont understand. Before I went to Thailand I was seeing a guy that I really liked, and he even called me while I was away. I came back and saw him, and now havent heard from him in over a week - he didnt seem the same when he saw ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, sounds like hes no longer into you... forget him!... (read in full...)
I felt left out of the dinner convo. Should I not see my guy friend tonight so he does not think he is getting off lightly.
Q. I attended a friend's meal the other night. It was at my guy friend friend's house. I cooked dinner and it went well in general, until both of them chirped on about their faith and music interests. As the night progressed, I felt left out and ...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, I think that you are over-reacting to the situation. The guys were just catching up with all the stuff they normally chat about. So if you had nothing to add, well then there is nothing wrong with sitting quietly and listening to them or ... (read in full...)
Was it reasonable to push her when she came at me with a hot iron?
Q. I've been married 10 years. On Thursday evenings my wife drops off our 7-year old son at football training and I drive from work to collect him. A few times there has been a last minute change and my wife has texted me but I don't think I've...
A. 29 January 2010: Hun, your wife has serious anger issues.. these need to be addressed as her behaviour is not conducive to a healthy relationship.
Marriage counselling is strongly recommended.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
He didnt get me a birthday present, am I just being used?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months. A few weeks ago he moved away for work for 3 months. It was my birthday last week and he sent me nothing. Yes he rang a few times on the day and sent a few texts...its not like he forgot. I asked him ...
A. 28 January 2010: Sorry hun, you are more into this guy than he is into you.
Being away from home for work is no excuse for forgetting your birthday.....and to be still looking online???
Hun, personally I think you are worth more, time to reconsider the r... (read in full...)
I have been having sex for a couple months now and now she's been having stomach problems.
Q. Hi my girlfriend and I have been having sex for a couple months now and now she's been having stomach problems that she's never experienced before, but she doesn't have any of the other pregnantcy symptoms and I was just hoping someone could he...
A. 27 January 2010: Please define 'stomach problems' and secondly, were either of you using contraception?
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My boyfriend wont believe he is my first
Q. Hi everyone!i hope somebody could help me with this problem.I ve never had any man in my life,but my first boyfriend said to me that i was not a virgin.and that hurt me so much because i thought he was my only one.and every time i tell him that he ...
A. 27 January 2010: This guy obviously doesnt trust your word, so red flags here.....
If he cannot believe your word or trust what you say, should you really persue a relationship with him?? I suspect things will only get worse in the future where he will dispute ... (read in full...)
I want to have my cake and eat it too
Q. I am married and have had a crush om a co worker for the last 7 months. I have been quite good at hiding my feelings from him til recently when we have spent a lot of time together at work. Working one on one. I let it slip about my crush on him ...
A. 27 January 2010: First of all, you need to examine your relationship with your husband, it sounds like you and your husband are drifting apart and you need to reconnect again.
You are having an emotional affair with this guy at work, have you thought of the cons... (read in full...)
My husband wont say "I love you"
Q. My husband has never said I love u in the 10 yrs. We have been together. I asked him why when we first were together. He said when he has said it in the past that all went to hell after that. Well 10 yrs later and I still can't get him to say it. Is ...
A. 27 January 2010: When last did you tell him you loved him?? Maybe he feels embarassed saying it? So, take the initiative and everynight when you say goodnight to him - say to him "I love you" and every morning when he leaves for work do the same.
I dont und... (read in full...)
She reads old sexual emails from past boyfriends and says I have no reason to be upset. What do you think?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two years now, and for most of that time I've known she finds sexual literature a huge turn-on. I don't have any problem with her buying sexy fiction to read, but some time ago she started looking up erotic ...
A. 26 January 2010: Hun, I dont think you are being overly jealous, I am sure that if you were drooling over pics of your ex's your current gf would get very upset indeed.
Sit her down and explain the erotic stories are okay but NOT the IMs and emails... the stories ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with my wife's past...
Q. I have been married to my wife for 14 years,we have three children and on the whole we are happy. I was 19 when i met my wife and she was 23 and we got married two years later. Before i met her i'd only slept with one other woman and my wife tells ...
A. 26 January 2010: Hun, to be honest it sounds like you just dont trust your wife! Your wife is obviously growing weary of you constantly nagging her for details, and this is going to get to a point where you are going to have major problems in your relationship.
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Can anyone shed any light on this infection? Is it bacterial or a yeast infection?
Q. Hi and thanks to all reply to me =) Today I went to get a pap smear and when I got home I had a message on my answering machine from the doctors office telling me to call them back and so I did and they told me I have a vaginal infection and I co...
A. 20 January 2010: Hun, dont panic, all will be okay! You have your meds so the problem will be sorted out in no time at all! I dont think that there is a woman on this earth that has not suffered from a yeast infection... especially when pregnant.. there... (read in full...)
Is my marriage over for good? How should I deal with the sitution when he wont even speak to his kids?
Q. I got married four years ago through a beautiful church ceremony. a year later we got our first baby who is a boy and last year january had our second baby, a girl. My husband started fooling around with other women a year into the marriage and...
A. 20 January 2010: Hun, I am so sorry for all the pain and humilation your cheating spouse has put you through. Sorry to say, but the only avenue available to you is divorce. Have papers served on him and wait for the response. To be totally honest, do you r... (read in full...)
I cannot carry on for another 20 years like this, what would you do if you were in this situation?
Q. My husband and I moved to our present home 11 years ago because his job changed. Three months later it changed again and he had to go back and work in the town we had moved from. Since then he has been travelling about 100 miles a day for his job. ...
A. 20 January 2010: Hun, your hubby probably sees a move back to your old town as too much to contemplate. I know sometimes men can be stubborn when you try and get them to see the logic of a situation so your best bet is to sit down with him when he is not too st... (read in full...)
How do I know my boyfriend wont break up with me again for the same reason?
Q. My bf's friends dont like me and they treat me like crap. I am not 100% sure why they dont like me, Ive never been mean to them or anything. I think its just they see me as a stereotypical "nerd" who is boring etc and a "goody goody" because I am a ...
A. 20 January 2010: Hun, if your bf is with you and wants to be with you he will, regardless of what his friends say. Unfortunately if he bows to pressure from his friends then I am sure he is not going to carry on with his relationship with you. Sounds like he... (read in full...)
How do you break up with someone who says they will die without you?
Q. I'm bisexaul but I lean more towards females, I'm in a relationship that isn't working very well, my girlfriend has cheated on me multiple times and has once gotten pregnant, she told me it was rape. I really want to break up with her but I can't, b...
A. 20 January 2010: Hun, she is trying the whole guilt trip on you, emotional blackmail!! She will not die without you, she will continue with her life and her lifestyle.
Furthermore, there sounds like a lack of trust within the relationship, which is not a good sig... (read in full...)
She cheated, made promises to me and then sent nude pics to another guy...what is her mentality?
Q. My girl friend cheated on me we broke up, she made a lot and a lot of promises. She told me and messaged the guy in front of me that they should not meet or contact. Recently I found out that she took photos of herself nude and sent it to the g...
A. 20 January 2010: Sorry hun, but she will never change - you forgave her once and she has continued to cheat. There is no future for you with this woman, she will only bring you pain and humiliation.
Furthermore, there should be no secrets within a relation... (read in full...)
Any hope for our marriage?
Q. I love this man more then I can tell you. We have been together for almost 20 years. We have had are ups and downs but lately its just bad. He blames me for all the bad going on in our marriage. He recently told me that I was fat and dicussing and ...
A. 20 January 2010: Hun, this man doesnt love you and his verbal abuse shows his true feelings.
I honestly dont think there is any hope for your marriage and would urge you to start making plans to move out on your own.
His treatment of you would be enough to dri... (read in full...)
Father refuses to give me away at the wedding!
Q. if your father is against you marrying white guys and refuse to give you away at a wedding, who should i choose to give me away?...
A. 15 January 2010: Walk down the aisle by yourself!!
If you choose, say your brother or cousin etc to give you away then your father might get rather upset with them!
Are you sure your father is against the guy you are marrying, not against you marrying so youn... (read in full...)
Everytime we fight, my boyfriend blames me for my past. Please HELP?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about half a year now, and he says that he has serious plans to marry me. I am an ex-escort, and he used to be my client. I stopped working when we started dating, but before that, we became close fri...
A. 15 January 2010: Hun, your bf has serious issues with your past which sounds like he is NEVER going to forget and he will never trust you, eventhough you are faithful to him.
Unless he can come to terms with your past [we all have things in our past] and move for... (read in full...)
I want to be with ex a second time
Q. she says she's happier and more in love with her current bf than she's ever been and as much as it pains me, i do feel happy for her. but i can't erase part of me that will always want to be with her a 2nd time. i'm 18, she's 17, we're both still ...
A. 15 January 2010: Hun, you are going to have to let go and move on... you need to find yourself a gf. Your ex has clearly moved on with her life and by telling you that she is happier with her current bf tells you that she wouldnt come back to you as she was not as ... (read in full...)
Tough Relationship Problems
Q. My Boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and hes always wanted to be with another girl from his past while dating me.. i dont want to lose him so i let him be with us both but now im sick but i wont admit to being upset or he will get mad ...
A. 15 January 2010: Hun, sorry to say but you have tolerated his behaviour and he is not going to change... so there are two choices here, either let him go as he is cheating on you with another girl [as well as cheating on the other girl to be with you], and he is ... (read in full...)
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