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Middle child syndrome

Q.   im a middle child, and i think i get infected by middle child syndrome... i have 1 big sis and 1 lil sis, since kids im always feel alone and dont have any sense of belonging, and always feel lonely and no one love me.. even till now.. im almost 23 ...

A.   19 August 2010: Hi there.. I'm a middle child too.. I guess well it sounds like we all have that kind of problem.. The best is find the true you.. Love yourself more then anything.. Its not easy at first believe me, but when it gets better its wonderful..:-).. I ... (read in full...)

How often do you see your boyfriend or girlfriend?

Q.   I really hate spending a whole day without my boyfriend. I hate the thought of going for a day without him and when he's gone I miss him so bad. Whatsmore is that with my exes I often used to go days on end without them and relied on msn but my ...

A.   25 June 2010: Hi.. I actually like the sound of this.. My bf stays exactly 6 blocks from me I see him maybe every 2nd week.. The last time I saw him was 3 weeks ago.. We both work full time. He has his own business so his ALWAYS busy.. Sometimes my phone calls ... (read in full...)

Making decisions about the future..

Q.   Have you ever felt deeply regretful of a decision you made in the past? For example, you get rid of A, thinking that B is better and you can gain it. However, after you leave A, you fail to get B too. And now you miss your good times in A and wish ...

A.   25 June 2010: Hi... You got to dig a little deeper.. What does your heart say? Someone can't tell you what to do.. Life has no manual but you can make your life work... Xxx... (read in full...)

I cant handle my dad's drinking anymore! What can I do?

Q.   Hey guys. I honestly dont know where to start, so i'll just go for it. My father drinks about 6-7 cans of lager every night. I'm kind of over that now though, it's just what he does. But 3 days ago his 20something friends came over (my dads 41) and ...

A.   25 June 2010: Hi.. I really don't have a answer for you, and maybe its not something you want to read. I feel for you and I think maybe you should phone child help line or something like that they are sure to help. You are a strong person and you will make it out ... (read in full...)

Around the world in 80 naughty stories....

Q.   Hi! Ok this is the thing, I was thinking my bf is going overseas on a business trip but his going for 90 days :( any ways, last year I just wrote him a letter and told him he can only open it when he gets there, which was sweet he like that. Now I ...

A.   24 June 2010: Thank you that means so much to me!! :) sometimes it just feels as if I'm doing to much.. I'm very sure he will like it.. Thank you very much you made my year! I try my best to make others happy no matter how hard it may seem even if I'm unhappy ... (read in full...)

I want to change my life!

Q.   im 22 and I really want and need to change my life. I can look back now and see that it really started to go down hill from when i was 15. I mean it was pretty standard stuff, i drank with friends, smoked and i used to shop life alot as well. w...

A.   1 March 2010: Hello.. You are already on the right track, you have decided enough is enough and you want to change the way you are. You are not alone, there are many people who feel the same, as you look back into your life you will find that you really did not ... (read in full...)

Which do girls prefer - virbrator or penis?

Q.   hey, well im 16 and ive been scared recently because my girlfriend got a vibrator, and im afraid it will replace foreplay, and my actual penis. im about average size (maybe smaller) and im still a virgin and leading towards sex. But im worried that ...

A.   19 December 2009: Just another things. Satindesire is completly right. My boyfriend actually bought me a vibrator because he was not doing the right thing, so he says, help her use it, it will be great fun working together with it.. Besides I actually love his penis ... (read in full...)

I'm really frustrated that I'm a virgin at 20 when I had the chance to lose it to a really hot girl when I was a teenager!

Q.   Dear Cupid, hi. long story short. back in the 7th grade, a girl asked me out. this girl was hot. big boobs, nice glowing skin, nice butt. she was one of those girls that was very sexual and flirtatious with the boys. anyway, she wanted to go out w...

A.   6 October 2009: If i was you, i would wait for the right girl! Might sound weird, i slept with my ex, i never wanted to but i did, it was the wrong choice, rather wait for the right one, i should have waited the guy i'm seeing now is really amazing and i would have ... (read in full...)

Could I be pregnant?

Q.   Hey all. my period was suppose to come over the weekend (i could really tell it was close) so on saturday night my bf and i had sex he did come inside me. suddenly all of the premenstrual pains stopped cud this mean that im pregnant coz i still ha...

A.   6 October 2009: Hello.... Wait 7-10 days and take test. The same thing, more or less happened to me, in the end my period was just late, in the mean time tell your boyfriend that you think you might be and you want to take a test, that is 100 times better then ... (read in full...)

I gave him bj but he couldn't stay hard and didn't cum

Q.   hey i have this boyfriend.. we have been together for 2 years and we havent had sex till now... i am not quite ready for it and well my guy hasnt pressured me either... which is nice. we are both virgins and we are both 23. yesterday was ...

A.   21 September 2009: Hi sam, there is nothing to be upset about, it happens every now and then, ranges from person to person. What i done at first, after our first time turned out about the same as yours, i done some 'research' i watched a bit of porn, watched how other ... (read in full...)

How do I inititiate a hand job?

Q.   Ok so i'm 19, and my boyfriend is also. He has fingered me a couple of times, and now i want to give him a hand job. Trouble is i don't know how to initiate it, im quite shy and get embarassed easily. How should i start it off?...

A.   9 April 2009: I agree.... I normally do the same, i'm a really shy girl myself and dont really feel very comfy just around anyone, ask him what he wants and let him tell you, if not in more then 3 words, its a way of easily getting to know each other and each ... (read in full...)

Chances of her being pregnant?

Q.   My fiance and I had sex last night, we normally pull out but she was on top and we couldn't coordinate fast enough when I came so the first couple shots ended up getting inside her. It wasn't much and she went to the bathroom and washed out. Could ...

A.   9 April 2009: Dude i learnt a lot today when it comes to periods and pregnancy.... Whether you pull out use protection whatever the case maybe one can still become pregnent... We are all playing with fire and i gathered i'm going to burn really bad.... I don't ... (read in full...)

She has a really pretty face but she's fat!

Q.   I kind of like this girl in school. The thing is she's the nicest girl I've met and she's got a stunningly pretty face but she is a bit on the big side. She is pretty but fat. I feel I shouldn't go out with her beausde I'm one of the best foot...

A.   9 April 2009: I personally think if you like this girl as much as you say you do, you should not we worried about her being 'fat' if she has a good heart go out with her, who really cares what ever one else thinks? They are not not going to be around your whole ... (read in full...)

Can't stop crying! Will the pain of our break up ever end?

Q.   So its been a few days since my break of boyfriend of 4 years.. I feel sh*t and awful and can't stop crying..I am gutted it has actually come to this. I loved him so much and I truely thought he felt the same. But he is being so cold to me. It looks ...

A.   8 April 2009: I'm going to have to say i truly know how you feel.... Its not the best feeling in the world.. I cried for a whole month! I could not eat, sleep or even talk... I know it's not nice and you just wish you can go on with your life yet it seems so ... (read in full...)

Am I supposed to shave down there?

Q.   I'm a virgin and I've never been fingered or anything. This is really embarrassing but am I supposed to shave down there and if so how much? all?...

A.   3 April 2009: I'll be honest, if you really want to do it do it.... It will burn at first just use some for sensitive skin cream, use it every time you shave just a ply cream.... You can shave as much as you like off, what ever you feel comfortable... (read in full...)

Am I doing something wrong dating him I'm 17, he's 27

Q.   Well I am a 17 year old girl soon turning into 18 and the guy whom I am in a relation is 27 year old. And only thing that strikes in my mind is that am I doing anything wrong? As the matter of fact love is blind. But still I think there is too long ...

A.   3 January 2009: Hello there, a 10 year age difference is not much, my sister married a guy 14 years older, he has 3 kids by his exwife. They seem really happy together, and he takes care of her too. Im dating a guy 12 years older then myself, he happens to be ... (read in full...)

Do all the signs point to him liking me?

Q.   hey, i like this boy for about a month and a half, and i really like him and he likes me back too, i think. He always comes to speak to me at lunch, told me to take the 'shortcut' home when really it took longer, and he tells his friends he likes me ...

A.   2 January 2009: The best thing you could do is ask him, communication plays a big roll in a relationship, you will never really work the truth out by asking your friends or his, ten to one, one of them will being lying some where along the line, so best is to ask ... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting? He slapped me.

Q.   My Best friend is a guy and we have been best friends for almost 4 and a half years. A year ago we were at work,and I said out loud how much money he had,even though nobody had heard me, he got mad and lightly slapped me across my face.I got so ...

A.   2 January 2009: Wow that is a tough one. I dont think he means hurting you at all, it could be something he is afraid of since his dad is/was abusive, in most cases, children try and workout how they can either be like their parents or not like them, sometimes they ... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting? He slapped me.

Q.   My Best friend is a guy and we have been best friends for almost 4 and a half years. A year ago we were at work,and I said out loud how much money he had,even though nobody had heard me, he got mad and lightly slapped me across my face.I got so ...

A.   2 January 2009: Wow that is a tough one. I dont think he means hurting you at all, it could be something he is afraid of since his dad is/was abusive, in most cases, children try and workout how they can either be like their parents or not like them, sometimes they ... (read in full...)

How can men be so cruel?

Q.   How can men be so cruel sometimes? How can they act like the love someone and then dump them a week later like they dont even matter and as if they are just something they played with and threw away? I mean aren't we all people and should be treated ...

A.   1 January 2009: in our day and age its a really tough one. I have find myself in many many relationships where guys just use me and a few months later whe they are done with me just put me a side and slowly fade. It does hurt and the best way to stay away from guys ... (read in full...)

What are some tips on getting over him?

Q.   So my ex broke up with me a month and a half ago and I am still pining for him, but I know he's no good for me. Not until he broke up with me did I accept that he wasn't good enough but when we were together I was just too in love to care. I hung ...

A.   1 January 2009: Ill be honest its not a nice thing and its not a nice feeling, it hurt. Although if i was you i would not talk to him when he gets back, he is just going to ignore you. 1. Start a hobby. 2.find a really nice social network site where you can meet ... (read in full...)

Can I get some detailed thoughts on what I should do and why?

Q.   I am 16 and I am a virgin, I just recently got a really nice girl who happens to be 14. Whenever I look at this I think I am a wierdo, but in all actuality I really just want a good relationship and I think she can provide it. So we were talking ...

A.   1 January 2009: If i was you i would rather wait, a relationship like that wont last to long, i dated my ex boyfriend for 3 months i was 16 at the time and he was 20, he only really wanted sex, he promised the moon and stars, told me one day we will get married far ... (read in full...)

How can I make it better re sex?

Q.   Hi, I enjoy giving my guy hand jobs and pleasuring him, and he likes to put his penis betweeen my boobs, what is the best position to do this (especially if we don't have anything to sit on), and how do I make it better for him, e.g do I squeeze ...

A.   1 January 2009: Well i dont have a clear answer on this but if you really want to know the best idea would to be watch a bit of porn, that helped me a lot with giving my boyfriend a blowjob, up till this very day he wont let go of me. Its rather amazing what sex ... (read in full...)

Is this relationship too risky?

Q.   My boyfriend is 30 years older than me. His daughter is 5 years younger,and his son 10 years older. I'm only 23 and he is 53. Is it going to work on the long run? Can we have plan to have babies ? He has grand children.. Right now ,he can still ha...

A.   31 December 2008: I agree on that, maybe its not love maybe it could be lust, i know thats something you dont want to hear. I have been seeing a guy thats 12 years older then me, and he is devoiced thank the good lord they have no kids. If you love him with love i ... (read in full...)

His parents don't like us dating...

Q.   I am in love with this boy that I been knowing since high school. it took me some time to finally notice him because I was in a relationship with someone else. now that I'm available I really feeling him and I know he loves me too. we've been in a ...

A.   30 December 2008: I know you dont want to hear this, but i would say you should listen to your parents, even if you think you love him, it can sometimes be your thinking and not your heart talking. I also seemed to like this guy two years older then myself, he seemed ... (read in full...)

How do I make him forget the ex wife?

Q.   Well, im 'dating' a guy 12 years older then myself, he has been divorced for 2 years now although his ex wife is still not out of his system. Maybe times he would talk about her and tell me things of her when we are places they were together. Every ...

A.   29 December 2008: Thats not exactly the kind of answer i was hoping for, although not everything can always be my way. Thank you so much, i will talk to him today and ask him a few questions then get back to you, maybe there lays a small bit of hope somewhere. :)... (read in full...)

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