Seriously???
Q. I have been married to my wonderful wife for 10 years, been together 12. We have two kids, and are each other best friends. She is 6 years my senior (not that that matters, really- just sayin'...) Before we met, she worked with a guy 15 years older ...
A. 8 October 2010: Hun, sit your wife down and ask her what the relationship is with this man, if he is harassing her at work, she needs to file a sexual harassment charge against him. I suspect that she is enjoying the attention even if she denies it.
The other Ag... (read in full...)
He cheated on his ex but says he wouldn't cheat on me because "he loves me"
Q. My boyfriend cheated on his ex girlfriend twice and he has openly told me. He went on holiday and had sex with a girl while sober. He then lied to his ex girlfriend about it and made up a story about someone kissing him and him not knowing how to ...
A. 8 October 2010: Did he not 'love' his ex gf?? Yet he cheated on her - chances are that he is going to cheat on you too.
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We argue alot after sex! Is it because I'm not satisfied?
Q. I have a problem in my relationship which is really starting to get to me. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months. He is loving, kind and generous. The problem we have is in the bedroom (or so I think). When we meet up, we ar...
A. 8 October 2010: You dont say what you argue about - is it about sex?
You need to communicate your sexual needs to your bf - maybe he thinks he is doing a fab job and you are sexually filfulled... If you dont tell him then he has no idea as to what is going on... (read in full...)
Does it automatically make someone selfish if they don't want kids?
Q. My parents are devastated that I had a vasectomy years ago and that I don't want to have kids. But my question is...why do people accuse me of being selfish because of this? How is it selfish if someone doesn't want kids? My mum said this genera...
A. 1 October 2010: Your parents are wanting grandkids.... that is why they are unhappy with you.
I believe that you dont need to have kids just cos the neighbour has them!!
Remember, it is your life, your body, your choice and dont let anyone guilt you into d... (read in full...)
MY LDR met her new guy while she was still with me
Q. Me ex girlfriend and I have recently broken up we were in a LDR and I was happy throughout that whole time. However one day she decided to end things and about 2 weeks later I found out that she started to date this guy only a few days after she had ...
A. 1 October 2010: Sorry about what you are going through, but to be honest, I think you would be wasting your time and making a fool of yourself.
She has moved on with her life, I suggest that you do the same.... (read in full...)
Why can't I conceive yet?
Q. hi i and the coil in for 4 years and i got it took out last tuesday this month i had intercourse wit my husband and he came and i done the test on monday but it came back negative can you tell mewhat the problem could be that i can't conceive yet ...
A. 15 September 2010: Hon, you dont say when you last had a period - the best time for concieving is usually about 14 days after the first day of your period.
Also, I think that you need to give your body some time to adjust after the coil - so just relax and take thi... (read in full...)
We've both cheated and I think we're better off not together
Q. He dumped me (again). Now he wants me back (again). ): I love him and want him back but I'm starting to think it would be better if we weren't together! - we've both cheated. It was ages ago, but it's still there, hanging over the relationship. Ca...
A. 15 September 2010: Gosh, with all the negatives in your relationship, its time to call it quits and move on with your life.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
This guy wants to date me, but he slept with other girls before!
Q. So there's this guy. He's friends with my one friend, Vaughn. Vaughn and I haven't hung out in a while, but he asked if his friend, Eric, could tag along. I was ok with it. So when we met up Eric would NOT stop staring at me. Honestly, Eric isn't my ...
A. 2 September 2010: Hun,tell him straight out - you like him but only as a friend.
Honestly after hearing him boast about his conquests, do you really want to be one of them???
Dont go out with a guy just because he is there, if he just doesnt make your knees ... (read in full...)
Developing feelings for someone else so what should I do?
Q. Hi there, Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years and have always felt happy with him. He treats me well and we love each other. I always thought we would get married and have a family. But recently i started a new job and found that i have star...
A. 1 September 2010: I think you are perfectly normal - feels good to have some attention - makes you feel desirable again. 4 years with one guy and things are just not so exciting.... well unless you want to cause problems at work and at home, stay away from this guy. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is controlling me, even to the point where he gets annoyed if I spend my own money!
Q. My boyfriend tries to control everything i do. I have been working full time in my career as a conference coordinator for about 5 months now, and i have been told i will be promoted at 6 months. For the past 4 years i have had to use public ...
A. 23 August 2010: Congratulations on your first car and on your upcoming promotion.
Now, exactly why are you hanging with a guy who has no job and no interest in getting one?
Is he planning that you must work and support him? I think that you need to reassess... (read in full...)
13 and may have missed a period......I'm so scared of being pregnant!
Q. Ok so im 13 and me and my boyfriend had sex,we used the take out method and now theres only 1 week of august left and i still havent had my period.I dont want to tell my mom that me and my boyfriend did anything but i did tell her i think i missed a ...
A. 23 August 2010: Hun, can you get one of your friends older siblings to buy you a pregnancy test kit?
Obviously there is a chance you are pregnant, but also being so young your hormones might be playing up a bit as well as being stressed out about the possibil... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to stop contacting me?
Q. hi aunts and uncles. my ex boyfriend is sending me notes through mail all the time because he has no other way to contact me. we broke up 2 years and a half ago. obviously i am in a relationship now with a wonderful guy so there is so damn way i ...
A. 23 August 2010: Just ignore the letters when they arrive.... toss them in the bin or if it makes you feel better tear them up then burn them.
Dont be tempted to open the letters and read what he has to say - be strong and get rid of them.
Eventually he... (read in full...)
Will an abusive ex boyfriend contact again after being warned by the police?
Q. Will an abusive ex boyfriend call after restraint order? i broke up with him for hitting, calling me names, cheating on me when we used to off and on, pushing me and when i decided to break up he was begging, pleading and stalking till i told par...
A. 20 August 2010: Stop worrying about this - if he does try and contact you again report him to the police AGAIN! Have him arrested if you have to - this will be the only way he will get the message that you mean what you say.
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My boyfriend of 6 years breaks up with me almost every week!
Q. I have been with my bf almost 6years now and he breaks up with me every week. We always get back together cos i love him. When ever he doesnt like when i do something he leaves me. I dont know what to do this time? I love him as he is my first ...
A. 20 August 2010: Hun, this guy is using emotional abuse to keep you under control....because as long as you do what HE WANTS then things are great but as soon as you do something he dislikes he breaks up with you???? This is not healthy in a relationship.
I kno... (read in full...)
Should I fix my gap even it he doesn't want me to?
Q. I have a big gap in my front teeth and everyone always tells me it's cute and such, but I've always wanted it fixed. I finally got the courage and made an appointment, but my boyfriend said he likes my gap. He said he thinks I'm the most beautiful ...
A. 20 August 2010: Your teeth, your body, YOUR CHOICE!... (read in full...)
How do I make my relationship become more serious?
Q. Hey i have a question, i have been friends with benifts with this guy for about 10 months, and he is 19 and im 16. he is a very very attractive and sweet guy, i have very strong feelings for him and he claims he likes me too. but there are 2 ...
A. 20 August 2010: Hun, sounds like he has lost interest you you. Time to get serious... move on with your life and STOP being a friend with benefits. That is not the way to build a relationship with anyone.... (read in full...)
Is he afraid of a relationship?
Q. I been seeing this guy friend of mine for 3months and we have sex a lot but hes been a jerk lately towards me because i said i like him and he said hes not interested in a relationship right now I don't get it. Would you have sex with someone you ...
A. 20 August 2010: Sorry hun, but hes only into you because of the sex. He will never amount to anything else and probably views you as a friend with benefits. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said if I love him then I will stay with him for 3 weeks at one of his friend's houses!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been having sex since last year. He is going for a vacation with family. And told me that if i love him then i have to spend the whole 3 weeks sleeping at one of his friends place with him! Plz help!!...
A. 20 August 2010: Sorry, but when you hear the words.. "If you loved me you would...." Huge red flag. This guy using emotional blackmail to get what he wants. You obviously are uncomfortable with what he is suggesting, so DONT DO IT. If he dumps you well then yo... (read in full...)
Headache after Sex... Should I be worried?
Q. Recently, after having sex, when i'm having an orgasm,i get this shooting pain in my head followed by a headache that last for at least thirty minutes sometimes longer. Is this something i should be worried about?...
A. 20 August 2010: Hun, go get your blood pressure checked by your dr.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with other women!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and started living together a month after we met. We are very much in love, have great sex and plan to move to Sydney next year and have kids when I'm a little older. I'm 21 and he's 33. We are both...
A. 19 August 2010: Either he has sex with you or he has sex with other women. The two do not mix.
Basically he wants to have you at home all nice and cozy but be free to act like a tomcat.
Are you allowed to have no strings attached sex with other men... I d... (read in full...)
I've taken 7 pregnancy tests and all were positive, but did I take them too early?
Q. i had sex like 3 to 5 weeks ago with no protection and im realy scared because 4 days ago i took only one pregnancy test and it came out positive so the next day like at 9 or 10 in the morning i took 6 more and they all came out positive but someone ...
A. 19 August 2010: Sorry hun, but it does sound like you are pregnant. Go and see your dr for final confirmation.
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He thinks it is unhealthy that we are physically obsessed with each other??
Q. I'm newly back on the dating scene and am very confused. Met a guy I really like and though it has only been a month it has got intense very quickly. He pushed it more than me and we have seen a lot of each other, spending every weekend together...
A. 13 August 2010: Sorry but you are more into him than he is into you. I suspect he has had his fun and now wants to move onto greener pastures.
Let this one go, start dating others, and as one Agony Aunt says, dont sleep with them so soon...
Good luck
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We have a dysfunctional relationship but I don't want to leave him! Help!
Q. My boyfriend is 2 years younger then I am....and before our relationship was serious and we decided that we were going to be monogomous, he told me about his past here and there and made it clear he has a very long list of women he has been with. I ...
A. 13 August 2010: This relationship is not at all healthy. He has no respect for you, is emotionally abusing you because of your past. He is also very immature.
You dont trust him, and even when discussing your concerns with him I suspect you know that he will ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be a virgin at 28?
Q. I'm a virgin at 28, is this wrong? I've 'technically' never had a girlfriend, but I did have a fairly decent amount of girls flirting with me back in college. I've also dated a few but we never officially had a relationship, although the dis...
A. 13 August 2010: There is nothing with being a virgin at your age. Dont doubt yourself, you will meet someone who you will love enough to give your virginity to, and who I have no doubt, will be honoured to be your first.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
How do we get our relationship back on track?
Q. we've been 9 yrs already and we're planning to get married nxt year. however something is wrong. We argue and fight most of the time on small things. he actually asking for time and space and I was feeling bad, thinking what to do.. I texted him for ...
A. 13 August 2010: Put your marriage plans on hold for the moment. You need to have a chat with your fiance to discuss what is happening in your relationship.
Dont text him - phone him or go and see him and there and then set up a time and date for a chat. Y... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be in such a serious relationship?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together since I just turned thirteen. We have a very passionate relationship most of the time. He gets extremely jealous of male friends or other male attention even though he's cheated on me 7 times. Do you think I am ...
A. 4 August 2010: Hun, I think your bf is too young to be in a serious relationship... he's cheated on you seven times, why on earth are you still with him?
It is just showing him that you will accept his bad behaviour. I dont think this issue has to do with you... (read in full...)
This married woman wants to leave her husband... FOR MY BOYFRIEND!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and during this time he has cheated with many times, but when i do find out he calls off the relationship them but this always happen after lots of fights and tears. Recently i found out he h...
A. 22 July 2010: Stop feeling guilty - this man has not considered you or your feelings at any time while he was cheating on you - why should you worry about him being devastated if you leave.
He has no respect for you and I doubt he loves you...
Time to get o... (read in full...)
Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?
Q. A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...
A. 22 July 2010: Sorry Hun, but all this man wants is the excitement of illicit sex... I bet his wife has NO IDEA what he is doing.
He will not leave his wife, and dont be fooled, you are probably one of many women he has met over the internet and has sex with... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for fooling around with my ex because he is still involved with another girl?
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a situation wher me and my ex-bf have been back seeing each other for some time now, but when we broke up he meet a new girl so he is still with her! I mean we see each other daily, I go to his house and he comes to mine. We go ...
A. 21 July 2010: Yes Hun you are wrong, he is cheating on his gf with you.
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He waited for a whole month before asking me out on a second date!
Q. 45 yr. old man asked me (42) out on a date "some day next week" (we work at the same location). He never gave me a specific date up front and I was left hanging for days wondering which date he'd choose, if any. Finally he said Thursday. Took me ...
A. 21 July 2010: Hun, it sounds like he is dating other women as well and just expects you to be available whenever he wants you to be...
Go on with your life and dont pin too many hopes on this being a long term relationship!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont come to my sisters wedding or spend any time with my family at all, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I'll try and keep this as brief as possible. My sister is getting married next week and my girlfriend of 2 and a half years (maybe more) won't come to my sisters wedding because 'she wont know anyone'. This upsets me a lot, as I'm giving my si...
A. 21 July 2010: You dont say how you spend your time when with your gf, do you do things together with her family?
I think that you should go ahead and enjoy yourself at the wedding without worrying about your gf, if she doesnt want to go, well then, she does... (read in full...)
If I had sex with protection and it broke would I still be able to get pregnant?
Q. i havnt had my period for about... 4-5 months now. if i had sex with protection and it broke would i still be able to get pregnant?...
A. 21 July 2010: Yes. Suggest you get a home pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant.
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In a relationship for 8 months, suddenly he thinks I'm cheating!
Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 months now and now all of a sudden my guy thinks i am cheating how do i deal with this?...
A. 21 July 2010: Time to check up on him, chances are that he is cheating. If he is not cheating, then dont put up with verbal abuse from him for something that he has manufactured in his small mind!... (read in full...)
Restrictions on the car driving me crazy, what can I do?
Q. I'm 18, I have "supposedly" have a car and I say supposedly because to me its not mine unless I can come and go as I please. The thing is my parents(mostly my dad) wont let me visit my boyfriend often. My BF lives about 25 mins away the town right ...
A. 21 July 2010: I agree with Oldersister. Also, why isnt your bf coming to visit you, why are you doing all the running after him in the relationship??... (read in full...)
My period is late, could I possibly be pregnant?
Q. i had sex on the 10th of july and i dont use contreception with my fiance...we use withdrawel method, wen he pulled out he didnt do it quick enough and caught just of the inside of my vagina and the rest on my clitoris and groin...i was due on my ...
A. 21 July 2010: Very possible that you are pregnant. Go and buy yourself a home pregnancy test. If you are not pregant, then make some plans to sort out your contraceptives, dont leave things up to chance. ... (read in full...)
Is it an affair if it's an LDR with a married man?
Q. Is it called an illicit affair if you are involved in a long distance relationship with a married man? I never met him but our relationship of 3 yrs are through online chats only. ...
A. 21 July 2010: Yes its cheating. It is an emotional affair. I have no doubt his wife knows nothing about his LDR with you.... (read in full...)
19 and My life is destroyed
Q. Dear agony aunts i'm a 19 years old guy and i'm confused weather am i hiv+ or not,i've lost a lot of weight recently and my skin colour is getting dark.I did hiv testing 5 times since october 2009 and my last test was on the 23rd of june 2010 and ...
A. 13 July 2010: I strongly suggest you go back to your dr or find a new dr if you are not happy with your current one, and ask for blood tests to be done as it does appear that you have some underlying health problem.
Diabetes and TB are rife in South Africa, ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have a secret affair, as the sex situation is beyond repair?
Q. I am in a sexless Marriage (for over 3 years of no sex), and believe me I've tried to resolve it. But my wife remains uninterested in sex, and it just seems like we share a house as barely friends. I in the meantime have a very high sex drive, ...
A. 9 July 2010: If you say things are so bad in your marriage, then file for divorce.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
How do I ignore her tattoo?
Q. Ok, well i have a really strong dislike about tatoos. And my girlfriend agrees with me that they are disrespectful. Well she asked me if it's alright if she gets a tatoo, im am in no way a controlling person. I told her it's fine ill just ignore it. ...
A. 9 July 2010: A tattoo is not going to change her character - if you love her you will accept it as part of her and not get all hung up about it.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
Descison about sexual experimentation!
Q. I have a big choice to make. I really do love girls but I only like to masturbate to gay porn. Now the opportunity for me to try and experiment with another guy has arisen, and I need to know if you guys think I should explore my sexuality and ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hun, youre feeling guilty so rather not take the chance. You are still very young and there is more than enough time when you feel comfortable to try things out.
Honeygirl... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but HATE his lifestyle choices!!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about three years this time. We dated before from our senior year of high school into college for about three to four years then took about two to three years off due to cheating, lying, and needing to grow up. ...
A. 9 July 2010: Hun, this man is an addict, he will continue to borrow money for his pot, you will always be on the loosing end of this relationship.
For your own good, get out of the relationship now. You probably wont ever get your money back so you will hav... (read in full...)
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