Should I get a part time lover to avoid demanding sex and attention from boyfriend all the time?
Q. I have been dating a guy for about six months now. He is everything i have ever dreamt of, loving, caring romantic, sensitive, except: 1. He rarely has time for me. We live 5 minutes drive apart, we are always free after 4pm but only meet about on...
A. 6 November 2009: Why a part time lover?? You need a new boyfriend!! I am in total agreement with the other Agony Aunts!!... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me or am I over thinking this? What should I do?
Q. I feel this guy likes me, and I am scared to go talk to him again. He stares at me a lot and tries to have eye contact. He'll go out of his way to walk by me or tries to get my attention when I don't see him. I'm not sure if i'm reading the wrong ...
A. 6 November 2009: You must be flattered, so much attention!! Sounds like this guy has a major crush on you but is too shy to do anything about it.
Why dont you casually ask him for coffee and see his reaction. Maybe he is afraid of making the first move because ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my addiction and stop these fantasies running through my mind?
Q. Hi everybody. I'm 16 year old and I have a pretty big problem. I never thought that I'd go through this but it has gone to this extent that I have to get external help. I am and have been addicted to pornography for about 5 months now. Ever since I ...
A. 6 November 2009: Hun, you sound like a healthy very highly sexed young lady!! There is nothing wrong with fantasising about people you meet who turn you on....
Rather than watching porn, use your imagination its a lot more fun!! And maturbating is normal, ... (read in full...)
How can he not like sex and prefer masturbating?
Q. I am in a relationship with someone, but the thing is, he doesn't like sex. We've had it before, but he says he gets bored and it doesn't interest him/ doesn't feel as good as masturbating. "Why should i do in a vagina, what i can do with my hand?" ...
A. 6 November 2009: Hun, your are friends with a guy who finds himself sexually more exciting than you..... he must have some issues about about sex, does he understand sex is not just the act of putting his penis into your vagina...?
Sounds like your relation... (read in full...)
Cheating GF wants to work on our relationship but won't give up her friendship with her affair partner.... What do I do?
Q. Hey all. My girlfriend of 3.5 yrs cheated on me. We have a beautiful son together. I have forgiven her and done everything I can to try and work out our relationship. The one thing I have asked of her is for her to not have any form of ...
A. 6 November 2009: She says that she wants to work at the relationship but does not want to give up the ex??? Sorry, but the way I see it, if you really meant so much to her and she really loved you she would give up the ex to make things good in your relationship.
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The love of my life cheated on me...is he at it again?
Q. I have been cheated on 3 years after I was married, by the person whom I knew for more than 10 years and who showed me nothing but pure love, respect and trust. We had a beautiful love story that a lot of people envied and wished they would have the...
A. 6 November 2009: Dont confront your husband until you have enough evidence.. he seems to think that you will believe anything he tells you, keep him thinking that way. He will then leave a trail for you to follow. I dont for one minute believe that he went for... (read in full...)
She had sex with her ex, so I went out and had sex with another girl. Is this relationship doomed?
Q. hi my girlfriend and i are together for like a year. we jumped straight into relationship literally the day after she finished with her ex of 3 years. a few days ago i found out she had sex with him again a couple of weeks ago. in anger i we...
A. 5 November 2009: The way I see it, if your gf was really committed to the relationship with you, she would not have contact with her ex. Furthermore, since both of you have cheated on each other, there is no trust left in the relationship, and a relationship nee... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he make me feel sexy?
Q. MY boyfriend doesn't make me feel sexy, but gets mad if i don't talk to dirty or try to turn him on. He laughs at me when i try on cute outfits and try to be hot or if I do say somehing sexy he makes fun of me. I want to feel sexy so I can act sexy ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sweetie, this guy is seriously denting your self-esteem. Surely this cannot be a healthy relationship.
Sounds like far too much give from your side and far too much take from his.
Talk to him and if he doesnt change the way he treats you, move... (read in full...)
14 year old girl scared about sex with her 15 year old boyfriend
Q. my boyfriend is 15 and he wants to have sex with me but i don't know if i want to remain abstinent or have sex with he says he's ready when i'm ready but i don't think thats true and he might dump me i'm scared though that it will hurt and i will be ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sweetie, If he says he will be ready for sex when you are ready, then make him wait UNTIL you are ready!!
Chances are if he is not into you he will move along pretty quickly, and then you can congratulate yourself not giving up your virginit... (read in full...)
What do you think of a man, who...?
Q. What do you think about a man whom, you leave a phone message in the morning asking if he wants to have dinner and at 8:30pm he calls, leaves a message that does not mention the call, you try to call back and know he is there because he is on ...
A. 4 November 2009: Sorry.. this guy is selfish and it sounds like you are just one of many other women he has an interest it...
He is not worth wasting the effort of texting to!!... (read in full...)
She is 30 and he is 74. Is he actually interested in her mind?
Q. He is 74. She's 30. First of all, let's say he is a thin, very attractive, elderly man. It may seem gross to some people, but she says she is actually attracted to him. It may be weird to some, but she said something about him is fascinating to h...
A. 4 November 2009: This old guy is a professional at what he does!! I have no doubt that your friend is only one of a string of women he has had relationships with...
Oh.. and the sex thing, yeah right.... first opportunity he will be right there with his viagra!!... (read in full...)
If you lose weight can it make your penis bigger?
Q. So, my penis isn't really that big. I'd say maybe 4 inches when erect. I know that 4 inches is long enough to satisfy a girl, but I would rather be average of maybe 5.5 inches. That would make me feel more confident with myself. I'm also a bit on ...
A. 4 November 2009: Mmmmm... I dont know about making your penis bigger but I am sure that by losing weight around your stomach area it will make your penis appear to be larger.... (read in full...)
Friend & I become very involved and now his g/f is upset. Should I try to intervene?
Q. Hi I'm in a strange problem.I'm a happily married woman immensely in love with her husband but was somewhere lonely.my husband switched his job to a foreign country and i had to stay here for one year. soon after reaching there, he got busy and had ...
A. 4 November 2009: No I dont think you should intevene.. whatever happens in their relationship is up to them to sort out.
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My brother asked me to look at his because to judge its size
Q. My older brother asked me if I could look at his erect penis and tell him what I thought about its size. I know he is really self conscious about it and I just wanted to help him out. I've seen his dick before when we were really young. But never ...
A. 4 November 2009: Your brother should find himself a girlfriend and ask her if she thinks his penis is an ok size... asking you is inappropriate behaviour!!... (read in full...)
Alcohol takes over me and I attack my husband... do I have a drink problem?
Q. Please help guys...? I'm not sure what to do anymore. When I have far too much alcohol (which isn't often) I have attacked my husband (scratch and bite)(I'm sounding like a wild dog which I'm so ashamed of)...it's as if I have a blind rage and t...
A. 3 November 2009: Sweetie, get in contact with AA and they will help you if you want to help yourself.
Sounds like the alcohol is altering your personality and certainly not for the better. Do not leave something like this as it could lead to the breakdow... (read in full...)
Was that a form of verbal abuse that I went through?
Q. i was in a relationship with a guy for 7 months, and when the relationship started it was all good he would talk nicely well a week after talking he wanted to meet up for coffee i said we can. We spoke for long and after dropping me off he asked if ...
A. 3 November 2009: This man is an abuser and yes he was abusing you. You dont need this kind of kak in your life.
You need to get this man out of your life before it escalates into physical violence.... (read in full...)
What do these mixed signals mean that she has been giving me?
Q. There is this one shy girl I like, who happens to be my best friend's sister. Lately, I have been getting the impression that she likes me (i.e. she'd look at me when I'm not looking at her, act surprised when I say something to her, talks to her ...
A. 2 November 2009: mmmmm.... sounds like she is very shy but does want to make friends with you...
Why dont you make the first move by talking to her, ask her out, then I am sure you will find out whether she likes you or not...... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has rejected me sexually for over 18 months...
Q. For well over a year my gf has been cold towards me. Some of this I explained in my earlier question - not allowing me to say I love you or express my feelings to her etc. Also she as rejected me sexually for nearly 18 months. At the start she used ...
A. 2 November 2009: Your girlfriend is using you - she has all the security she needs without having to have sex with you... that is not love.
She makes you feel guilty if she gets a hint that the relationship might be falling apart... emotional blackmail comes to... (read in full...)
I can orgasm with my vibrator but not with a man... why?
Q. I have this problem that I'm not really sure how to overcome. I know what I should do but maybe need some advice. I hope this isnt too descriptive or anything.. So I'm in my early 20's and I've never been able to orgasm with a male there. I've...
A. 2 November 2009: mmmmm.... either 'assist' him by rubbing your clit while he is giving you oral or use the vibrator during sex so that you can orgasm too...
And... you need to relax!! Sounds like you are so obsessed with having an orgasm that you are stopping... (read in full...)
Should I be able to discuss difficult issues with my gf without the fear of massive arguments?
Q. I would be greatful of your advice. My gf and I have been together for nearly 4 years and have known each other well as close friends for 8 years. I am a communicator and value talking about problems and then negotiating a resolution or agreeing ...
A. 30 October 2009: I think Country Woman has given you some excellent advice... ... (read in full...)
If we spend a lot of time together but have never kissed, does this mean he has feelings for me or not?
Q. If my friend and I go on trips together often, eat together also, just hang out a lot, but have never kissed, is he into me or not? He's never said he loves me, but, he always ask me to accompany him to places, to travel, etc...He's a pastor and I'm ...
A. 14 October 2009: Sounds like he sees you as a companion only.
Considering hes a pastor and you are a member of his church maybe he feels that it wouldnt be ethical to make moves on you.
So either enjoy his company or take the proverbial bull by the horns and... (read in full...)
Had an abortion, now I'm craving chocolate. Am I pregnant again?
Q. I'm due my period on the 12 oct 09. I'm craving for chocolates,and I've done a p test but it's negative. Am I pregnant? Because I had a abortion on the 10 aug 09.and im trying for a baby....
A. 9 October 2009: I dont understand.... you had an abortion in August and now you are trying to fall pregnant......
Was there something wrong with the foetus that you had an abortion??
Anyways, the only way to tell if you are pregnant is for you to do a pregnanc... (read in full...)
We have been dating but I found him back online asking to meet up with other women!
Q. Ok here goes Typical story, one of which I have not been in before and kinda need advice I met a guy around 3 months ago from a site. Chatted for a good while and then met up. Got on great and he asked to see me again. Had another date. Dat...
A. 1 October 2009: Sweetie, this guy sounds like he is just after sex! I dont think that being an independant and forceful personwould make a difference, I think he just wants to play the field and not commit to any one woman.
Cut all ties with him and if he reall... (read in full...)
I'm a 20 year old mexican girl wanting to date a 30 year old white man, is this wrong?
Q. Hi I'm new to this so I hope some one helps me is it bad if I date a 30 year old man I'm 20 s don't know if its a problem....I'm mexican and he is white!! Idk what other people would think. It shouldn't matter what others think but I'm kinda ...
A. 30 September 2009: Sweetie, if you like this man and he likes you... well date him!!! It really has nothing to do with anyone else whether you are Mexican and he is white.
If they cannot see past the colour of one's skin to the person beneath, then they are real... (read in full...)
Is his age that bad and am I a bitch for having an affair?
Q. Well people are gonna think I'm a right bitch i just have to tell someone, im 17 years old, and having an afair with a man who has a gf and little boy! i feel really sick about it but i didnt know until about a week ago, i really liked this man but ...
A. 23 September 2009: I agree, be the better woman and walk away from this man... if he could cheat on his gf, and he left her for you, would you trust him? I have no doubt that he would cheat on you too.
Also, I honestly dont think he is going to leave his gf for y... (read in full...)
I'm worried about dating again...
Q. Recently divorced, I have started dating again. I have only ever been with my ex husband. After having children, my body has changed a lot and I am worried about dating this new man who has never dated a woman with children. Any advice?...
A. 23 September 2009: Awww... Sweetie, all I say is go out there and be yourself. Show confidence in the way you look, too bad if after having kids some bits have gone 'south' - love yourself and people will love you.
As Rythmandblues2 says, let him worry about wh... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to move on so quickly?
Q. I have been married for 10 years and recently separated from my husband. I asked him for some space and he asked me for a divorce. I found out that after only a week he has had sex with another woman whom he hardly knows. He said that it was his way ...
A. 23 September 2009: Yes, men are capable of moving on quickly... they dont think with their hearts!!
He made it quite clear that he wanted a divorce so you need to now move on with your life and forget about him and whichever women he is sleeping with.
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Do I tell his fiancee about his flirting with me?
Q. I have a bit of a problem at work. It started out with my boss flirting and making suggestive comments. He does this with several people at work. He does it in a playful way, and we have a good relationship, so I didn't mind. As inappropriate ...
A. 23 September 2009: Its really up to you if you want to tell her... she will probably accuse him and he will then be upset with you... Stop flirting with him, cut him short when he starts flirting and tell him that you dont appreciate his sleazy text messages an... (read in full...)
How can I ever get rid of these thoughts as they are driving me crazy and are stopping me fully enjoy loving my wife once again.
Q. I found out my wife was having an affair from her emails, trouble is the numerous emails (i read them all) were so graphic about what they would be doing and what they did do together and how great it was that I was left totally devastated, hurt, ...
A. 23 September 2009: If you decide that you are going to stay with your wife and you are both actively working on saving your marriage, you are going to have to be patient... these thoughts will keep popping into your head years after the fact....
It is now 3 years ... (read in full...)
How do I build a wall between me and this colleague...?
Q. I had sex with my colleague, whom I have fancied for a long time, (I never hinted that I liked him though), he has been having fantasies about me as well. So, we did it but spoke first that there won't be feelings involved, as he has a girlfriend ...
A. 22 September 2009: Sorry but you cheated on your bf and he cheated on his gf...
Wake up and smell the roses, he has used you for free exciting sex... you are nothing more to him.
The best you can do is cut all contact with him and move on with your life... if ... (read in full...)
He only wants to meet with me privately
Q. I have been dating this guy for about three months. Hes wonderful and I really love him.The problem am having is he almost never wants to meet me during the day time. We only meet in the evening, mostly in private places or chat in the car. I have ...
A. 15 September 2009: Yes, that is the way to do it - arrange a dinner somewhere public and when he refuses to go ask him straight out what is going on - dont beat around the bush - get answers out of him!!
Let us know what happens!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told everyone what we did -- how do I deal with the abuse?
Q. I just tryed oral sex with my boyfriend and he told all his friends. now people are calling me a slut, and i have guys from school asking me to "suck them" or "get on your knees for me" any idea's how to stop this or to deal with it. ...
A. 15 September 2009: Please tell me that he is no longer your bf!! He sounds really immature. My first instinct would be to tell you to announce to everyone what a tiny penis hes got and that he couldnt even get it up....
He obviously saw you as a conquest... (read in full...)
Is my ex just trying to be my friend or is he crazy?
Q. I am married and have two children. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. Our marriage is great but can be a little better. Before I met my husband, I was with a man that was a cheat and very dominating. Beside all the flaws, he was great ...
A. 8 September 2009: This guy sounds like a stalker! He is putting undue pressure on your marriage so I would suggest having a restraining order against him. You said that he got aggressive when denied something, this is a worrying factor... He is playing on your ... (read in full...)
He punched and body slammed me several times... but he was drunk!
Q. My husband of two years seem so perfect for me until we moved together in 2005 he choked, body slammed and punched me several times but only when he was drunk. I saw the signs but still married him in 2007 because he said he would stop drinking. ...
A. 1 September 2009: Get out of this marriage before your husband kills you.
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Does he want me back, or was he just horny?
Q. I broke up with my ex month ago We still living together in our place , I tried to get back to him twice, but he rejected me, and I felt my self so cheap, and I forgot about him totally and started focusing on my life and try to enjoy it ...
A. 27 August 2009: Sorry Sweetie, he was horny and you were available...
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I've just had an abortion, and I'm having trouble coming to terms with it
Q. I've decided to have an Abortion.. how will I ever get through it? I feel so hopeless. My boyfriend broke up with me. I feel so alone. I didn't want this, but I know it's the best choice for me. I am young.. and my boyfriend (well ex) is a big ...
A. 26 August 2009: Sweetie, you have been through a really traumatic time and you now need to take care of yourself... surround yourself with your family who love you, and try to get to see a counsellor or find someone to chat to, you need support now more than ever ... (read in full...)
I think I'm just his date for the moment
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month. I feel worried that I am just someone he is dating for the moment (and I am getting very deep feelings for him). He never tells me how he feels about me--like if he loves me, or even if he just cares about me. ...
A. 26 August 2009: Sweetie, sounds like this guy wants to take things slow... sounds like he does like you and wants to be with you but perhaps because of what he went thru with his ex, he is a bit hesitant to move too quickly. Dont be too needy or clingy as he mig... (read in full...)
I feel like he's playing me, should I let him go?
Q. Should I stop dating this guy? Here's my story, I am single parent of three. I own my own house, have a career, and make a good amount of money. The guy I'm dating has no kids, and makes way less than I do. He currently is staying with me due to g...
A. 13 August 2009: This guy is using you - and using your house as a motel!
Suggest you send him on his way as he probably sees you as his meal ticket!!... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust me after I repeatedly cheated on him
Q. I've been with this guy for almost 3 years and he's the love of my life. When we were together for about 6 months I cheated on him with two different people. We worked it out between us, but I didn't have much of a life for a while. When I did start ...
A. 13 August 2009: Sorry but how can you expect your bf to trust you and act like nothing has happened??
You say that he is the love of your life yet you still actively go out and cheat on him.... I admire your bf for sticking around and putting up with you.
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She's still friends with the man she had an affair with during her first marriage
Q. So I never saw myself on one of these things, ever, but I find myself really confused, so here we go... I'm in love!, she was once married. She had an affair. She has been very honest with me with everything, including the details of how t...
A. 12 August 2009: I must admit that I would find it very hard to trust a person if I was in the same situation you find yourself in....
Please remember that when she was married and having an affair with this guy things were racey and hot, and perhaps that... (read in full...)
Would a good friend stay? Or leave him alone?
Q. I'm having problems with my married guy friend. I have known him for a really long time, way before he got married or even met his wife. We dated initially but realized we were better off as friends. He recently found out that his wife cheated on ...
A. 27 July 2009: I agreee that a good friend should stay, however a good friend will also advise that he should consider counselling to repair the marriage.
Also, as a good friend you dont want to put any undue pressure on an already rocky marriage, I suggest ... (read in full...)
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