Is this just a crush? I have a boyfriend but I can't get this guy out of my head!
Q. I'm in a tricky situation. Been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought I was perfectly happy, I'm very much attracted to him and love him, and we've gone through a lot together. Recently I've noticed there is a guy on my undergrad program and we ...
A. 27 April 2009: Do what you wish. You will do it anyway. Don't be surprised when your BF is not understanding of this. But I wonder why it took you all this time to say that you were on the break. It was a valuable piece of the puzzle that may have changed my ... (read in full...)
Is this just a crush? I have a boyfriend but I can't get this guy out of my head!
Q. I'm in a tricky situation. Been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought I was perfectly happy, I'm very much attracted to him and love him, and we've gone through a lot together. Recently I've noticed there is a guy on my undergrad program and we ...
A. 27 April 2009: So basically you didn't care about your BF when you had cybersex? Jesus, two days before you said you were gonna not rush into anything, two days later you have emotionally cheated with this guy... So now you have done what just I warned you about... (read in full...)
Caught in an emotional affair - now what?
Q. I need advice. I am in my mid 30's and have been married for 12 years. I have three children. My marriage has been rocky for years(high financial stress, low level of affection). I have never even looked at another man until a few months ago when I ...
A. 24 April 2009: I did read the question Klara!
What people dont seem to realize is that cheaters will never change. They are incapable of it. I give REALISTIC answers as opposed to those of you who want to stroke someones ego and tell people what they WANT TO ... (read in full...)
Is he an idiot? Or messing about?
Q. Hey guys, So my friend made me talk to this guy who lives about 6 hours away. Hes becoming a teacher jsut like me. We have been talking online this whole week. Hes def cool, i think he's a typical guy: zombies, aliens, video games, fighting,...
A. 24 April 2009: I think it is going to have to be a face-to-face meeting for you decipher whether he is an asshole or not. I mean yes you can kind of tell through words on a screen about some people, but you've been talking to him for only a week?
Thats not enou... (read in full...)
Please help me and tell me: am I in love, stupid or confused?
Q. I'm in love, stupid or confused? 2 years ago i joined my firm, and we have a very beatifull secretary who i got attracted to the first day i saw her. Then i thought it was a typical reaction so i figured i will get over it. It has been two yea...
A. 24 April 2009: YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A GREEN LIGHT TO CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE!
plain and simple!
Dont even deny it. Look at your words very carefully. I think that you have every intention of cheating on your wife(if you haven't already...emotionall... (read in full...)
Friendship of many years is starting to cross the line - but he's married! Is this worth it?
Q. I have recently seperated from my husband of 20 years. I have confided in lots of friends through this seperation for support and comfort. One of those friends happens to be male. He is married and I am also friendly with his wife, although I've ...
A. 24 April 2009: You have said all the right things....
Unfortunately it seems as though this man saw your separation as an opportunity to look for a trade in on his own marriage.
This is no friend. He is using you rather than dealing with his own issues. If h... (read in full...)
How can I make my wife swallow?
Q. Ladies, I'm a married man of 2 years, and my wife is still not sure that she wants to swallow while performing oral sex. It creates a kind of vicious circle for me in a sense that I have a hard time "finishing" because the thought of her n...
A. 23 April 2009: I had a girlfriend once who swore up and down that she could "guess my lunch" by swallowing me whole!!(she had an affinity for the 3 Martini Lunch)
so maybe I would suggest a five course meal or a five dollar subway footlong(that you eat) before s... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife is having an affair?
Q. I have caught my wife having text sex in the past, she is now secretly in contact with her ex, texting a lot whilst masturbating. I also discovered she has bought condoms, do you think she is having an affair? And what should I do?...
A. 23 April 2009: My friend.
I am sorry this is happening to you. Yes she is cheating
first thing you have to do is get yourself tested for STD's Simply put its obvious she is sleeping with somebody other than you. and while she may have condoms, who's to sa... (read in full...)
Is this just a crush? I have a boyfriend but I can't get this guy out of my head!
Q. I'm in a tricky situation. Been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought I was perfectly happy, I'm very much attracted to him and love him, and we've gone through a lot together. Recently I've noticed there is a guy on my undergrad program and we ...
A. 23 April 2009: First thing you have to do is consider a couple of things....
Is this new guy someone you can see yourself with, or is it because you have become complacent with your BF? Is there something wrong in your current relationship. Because as opposed ... (read in full...)
Prom is in 2 days but I'm terrified of dancing in public!
Q. Sort of vaguely related to relationships, so I figure I'd ask here anyway. I'm 19 and a Freshmen in college, my boyfriend is 18 and a Senior in high school. His senior prom is this Saturday the 25. I am, as his girlfriend, obviously going ...
A. 23 April 2009: Oh sweety, dont even sweat that stuff!!!!
Listen I suffer from "White Man's Disease" myself. when I dance, you should see the horror on people's faces...
Ive actually had someone yell at me "FIRE BAD! FIRE BAD FRANKENSTIEN!!"
N... (read in full...)
My wife thinks she is in love with another man yet our marriage is still good!
Q. My marriage is in trouble again. My wife had a fling last year with a guy she used to bump into while out clubbing, all very casual, but destructive and hurtful nonetheless. I gradually uncoevered the whole thing, and...I forgave her. She said she ...
A. 23 April 2009: A)
First thing you need to do is get a test for STDs that your wife may have contracted Im sure she has only told you part of the story. Love may not be forever, but Herpes is.
B)
So you wanted to forgive her last year. Everything she sai... (read in full...)
Caught in an emotional affair - now what?
Q. I need advice. I am in my mid 30's and have been married for 12 years. I have three children. My marriage has been rocky for years(high financial stress, low level of affection). I have never even looked at another man until a few months ago when I ...
A. 23 April 2009: I have as novel idea for you...try being HONEST!
regardless of emotional or physical...its still an affair. And once again I think you are simply seeking justification take this a step further and cheat.
You still have the option of ending... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated... should I forgive?
Q. Okay so here is my dilemma... I have been dating my boyfriend now for about 3 1/2 years. He cheated on me once when we first started dating with a girl he has always had a crush on but never got the chance to see if it would work with her. All h...
A. 23 April 2009: THE ANSWER IS CLEAR!!
Dear Lord,
Just think of it....5 or 6 years down the road when you have a little child with one on the way and this were to happen to you...THINK OF THAT!
Cheaters will always be cheaters. yes you want to forgive him.... (read in full...)
Do you think he is having an affair?
Q. I feel so confused right now as I think my 35yr old bf is giving me mixed messages. We have been with each for 2 yrs in a LDR. We got a bit upset with each other the other week when we went out for the day. I took a phone call from a male friend ...
A. 23 April 2009: TRUST YOUR GUT!
It never lies....
Yes he is cheating. His demands on you are classic examples of justifying his actions. If he was doing the telephone call at the bar prior to or right after he put these demands on you, you can sure as hell... (read in full...)
How can I fight off all this male attention?
Q. I am getting so fed up with the male attention i just can't seem to shunt. After breaking up with my longterm boyfriend i accidently jumped straight back into another relationship. As soon as i began feeling overwhelmed i told him i didn't want ...
A. 23 April 2009: TRY BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF
Look at it this way....
Your boyfriend cheated on you right? So you know that cheaters do not change, as much as they protest(and people tell me Im crazy around here, but I have yet to be disabused of this by... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept with another guy... Twice.
Q. My Girlfriend slept with another guy, Twice. the thing is we started dating about seven and then we started arguing over petty things and they grew bigger. she suggested we went on a break then a month later suggested we get back together...
A. 23 April 2009: Young man,
You have answered your own question......BUT
I have a couple of questions
You were not clear as to when you slept with your ex...were you together at that time or not? If you were together when that happened, then you chea... (read in full...)
I'm enjoying the best of both worlds...
Q. I'm cheating on my husband with his best friend and I don't want to stop. I love him very much and our sex life is great... but I enjoy sex with his friend too. What should I do?...
A. 22 April 2009: I would suggest standing in front of the mirror and practicing your speech that you will ultimately give to your husband when he discovers your treachery....
"Darling, I just felt so emotionally detatched from you, and you were'nt meeting my needs... (read in full...)
Cheated on the love of my life
Q. I Cheated on my boyfriend. I am wracked with guilt. I have been with my boyfriend for five months and already know hes the guy I'm going to marry. There is no doubt in my mind hes the one for me. Yet I cheated. Not any excuse for this. He li...
A. 22 April 2009: NEVER MIND HOW YOU FEEL!!
You ever stop to think how your boyfriend will feel when you tell him of your actions? Think about that when you were having sex with someone else? Bet you didn't huh? Nope cheaters are all selfish bottom feeders.... (read in full...)
Confused! She gives hints that she wants to date..but then I don't know!
Q. okay so this girl started talking to me and i started talking to her.she has been through alot and has a baby and her ex boyfriend beat her up..i was just trying to be a freind and help her out.then we would talk more and more evryday like almost 8 ...
A. 15 April 2009: Well, All I can say is that it seems that this other girl simply wants nothing more than to dabble. whether she is truly bi-sexual or simply confused as to her sexuality is open to debate. However not by me. If you feel that you are going to ge... (read in full...)
To guys that wil be honest with me.
Q. I have been dating this guy now for about 3 weeks, and we had sex for the first time last night. We started off with 4 play and well I have had 2 kids, so my " area" is not the most perfect. He was fingering me and asked me if it hurt, I in return ...
A. 14 April 2009: Oh young lady IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! I have to agree with Gina here...what kind of a guy asks that? Im 44 and been sexually active well over 30 years and I think he asked you one of the most insane things anyone could ask especially if it... (read in full...)
Controlling boyfriend
Q. I am 18 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years. We just had a baby in August. She is 6 months now. My boyfriend is super controlling. We were engaged last month but he took his ring back, he usually breaks up with every 2 weeks ...
A. 7 February 2009: I have two words for you.... RUN SCREAMING!!!! You need to be treated with respect, and its obvious this young man sees you as property. They are the worst types, because just as you think things are getting better..... Go find someone... (read in full...)
Damaged goods?
Q. I was hanging with a friend, who likes me. The feeling isn't mutual. He got mad when I told him we would never be together. And he starting putting me down, stating I was damaged goods. Am I damaged goods because I was in a relationship and ended up ...
A. 7 February 2009: Ah the dreaded rejection...Young Lady he was talking out his ass because he had his ego bruised. He obviously had feelings for you and you just arent interested, simple as that. The guy, if he is a real friend, will come around and you can talk ... (read in full...)
I feel regret to cheat my lover, I don't know if marriage is ok?
Q. I have cheated several times, and when caught, I appologise and am forgiven. Although trust hasn't been back in the relationship, because he has my email password and checks it. Recently I have called my ex-boyfriend and I have fear he understands ...
A. 28 January 2009: WELL THEN YOU ARE AND WILL ALWAYS BE A CHEATER! Give this poor man the respect he deserves and tell him everything and LEAVE! You didnt have the respect to be honest with him in the past, have some dignity and let him find someone who will tr... (read in full...)
Why is he still messing about online?
Q. I met my boyfriend on an online dating site two months ago. Things have been going really well and until now I had absolutely no doubts about our relationship. However last week through sheer curiosuty I discovered he is still using his online ...
A. 28 January 2009: Oh dear, Well since I give it straight as I see it.... The guy is going to continue this against your protests whether you like it or not. I myself...if you read one of the articles I posted here last year, had been in a similar suituation. ... (read in full...)
I couldn't get it up for her! Was I too drunk?
Q. Last night I was about to have sex with this girl that I have been interested in having sex with for months..Im so horny around her and I think about it all the time. Yesterday we hung out and we got drunk real bad.We were on Gin and juice for ...
A. 11 January 2009: Dont be upset...ITS CALLED "Whiskey Dick" It happens to the best of us. It happens alot to men who use copious amounts of Cocaine as well. Im surprised you are in your 30's and this seems to be the first time it has happened? Dude....st... (read in full...)
I feel she wants to handcuff me during sex to get questions out of me! Should I do it?
Q. hello aunties, Two weeks ago when I was sleeping with my neighbor, her husband found out about us and beat me.. 2 days back I met him in the gym again, he pushed and began teasing me about how he tied me and hit me, everyone was looking at us. ...
A. 8 January 2009: BEING I DESPISE CHEATERS IN ANY FORM...YOU GOT WHAT YOU DESERVED WITH THE BEATDOWN! Cheaters get no symapthy from GrimmReality
You are lucky you didnt get killed.
Yes of course the female is pulling a fast one on you. She is gonna wait and g... (read in full...)
We are 236 miles apart... can this work?
Q. Can long distance Relationships work? (236 miles apart)...
A. 8 January 2009: In a nutshell.......NO!
I have tried it from over 1000 miles. Mine ended in Disaster
There are many Agony aunts here on site that are going to say the same thing. 236 miles in reality is a fairly short distance comapred with persons for exam... (read in full...)
Am I just insecure?
Q. Hi, this is a story with a question after. I've been in a relationship for 1 year for 4 months the relationship was going well, but we had an argument on 1 evening and although I tried talking to her she seemed to blank me, and I didn't know whether ...
A. 8 January 2009: You are in a state in your relationship called: THIS BITCH IS PLAYING YOU! She gets a thrill out of messing with your head, and apparently it's working. I hate to be brutal, but when I had these types of problems in the past I blamed myself. ... (read in full...)
I need to get my ex out of my system.
Q. I need to get my ex out of my system. He still knows he has a hold over me and no matter which one he is seeing he still greases it up to me. It pathetic, we finished ages ago, but as we were together for year and years I find it hard to detach ...
A. 7 January 2009: Let me ask you something....
What is better for you, to have a temporary feeling of pettiness, or to get this person out of your system?
It happened to me before and I'll tell you the only thing you can do at this point is cut the abcess. ... (read in full...)
Embarrassing noises after sex!
Q. ok.. this is a little embarrassing, but it's to do with when i have sex. Sex in every position is really good and fine.. what i am asking about is when i have sex doggy style.. i enjoy this style the most and so its my favorite to do. the thing...
A. 7 January 2009: Young lady, it's a perfectly natural thing. Was the sex good? If yes, then don't even worry about it!!!... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding me?
Q. I gave this guy a holiday present before break, and he seemed delighted that i'd thought of him. The first time i saw him after was this morning, when he was perfectly friendly. however, in class later, i was sitting across from him and he usually ...
A. 7 January 2009: I would venture a guess that this young man seems a little confused himself. Many men(especially young ones) have no mechanism for dealing with things like a present, cards, flowers, etc.
We simply are wired differently. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! As a... (read in full...)
They're wrong about me but the damage is done!
Q. I'm a 25 year old guy. I met this girl when I was 21 and it was love at first sight. We worked together and eventually she left her boyfriend so she could start seeing me. She was everything I wanted; cute, smart, funny, loved me to pieces. I had ...
A. 6 January 2009: Move On Down The Road.....It seems like it's the closure issue thats what is eating at you. You ask yourself whether or not you will have a chance to quizz her to her face as to why she shot these accusations and then dropped off the face of the ... (read in full...)
Does he still care or is this a tactic to reel me in again??
Q. I had an 'emotional affair' with a guy at work, who is is really brought the best out of me, a part i let go of until I met him. He reeled me in, I never found him attractive, but now I do, we felt for eachother no doubt, but I could not take the ...
A. 6 January 2009: You can only do things for YOU! I agree with the response below. This guy has a wife to fall back on. He seems to be feeling guilty about something however.
I would ask you to please try and not get too upset over it(if it's possible). I know it s... (read in full...)
Does he still care or is this a tactic to reel me in again??
Q. I had an 'emotional affair' with a guy at work, who is is really brought the best out of me, a part i let go of until I met him. He reeled me in, I never found him attractive, but now I do, we felt for eachother no doubt, but I could not take the ...
A. 6 January 2009: You can only do things for YOU! I agree with the response below. This guy has a wife to fall back on. He seems to be feeling guilty about something however.
I would ask you to please try and not get too upset over it(if it's possible). I know it s... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what a "spit roast" is???
Q. What's a "spit roast" all these lasses at school where taking the piss out of a girl at school because she didn't know what it meant and I just laughed along so they didn't know any different. What does it actually mean? ...
A. 2 March 2008: This is the FIRST TIME I've ever rated a question a 5! lolololol. After reading all these answers, I just have to ask all of the respondents one thing: Can I have the last 5 minutes of my life back, PLEASE? lololol.... (read in full...)
I don't know what she's doing on her nights out...
Q. I need to bounce this senario of you. What do you think is happening or what I should say or do about it? My girlfriend of 5 months goes out with work friends once or twice a month, problem is I don't know who they are, or where she goes. To make ...
A. 2 March 2008: You should go out with your friends ONCE or TWICE a month. But ask her maybe once if you can meet her friends. If she says yes, then I wouldnt worry too much it about unless she's giving other reasons to worry. If she says no, Then don't worry at ... (read in full...)
Once in a while I come home late after drinking which leads my wife to believe I had been cheating. How to prove her wrong?
Q. I want to know how to prove to my wife that I do not cheat on her. I go out once in a while on Fridays and get way too drunk. I want to stop, but that is another issue. I love my wife and do not cheat on here, but when I come home late after dri...
A. 2 March 2008: Well, Let's see here. You go drinking on Fridays. Your wife thinks you are cheating because you are hammered. You suggested "couples counseling? Hmmmmm..... Here's a novel idea.... How about having enough common sense to actually take your... (read in full...)
We became very familiar, having constant communication - how to avoid (falling in love with) him as I am already married?
Q. I have met this guy in a Christian group and he was married with 3 children and from the conversation that we have his relationship with his wife was not good for a long time when he discover that her wife has another affair with someone. We are ...
A. 2 March 2008: What a crock....Cheating is a conscious decision, and if you feel that you are falling for him and that you are going to cheat with him, then you better re-examine your faith. lol! QUIT YOUR GROUP! DUH! Work on YOUR marriage! DUH! Cut of c... (read in full...)
Why do men return to a destructive relationship with an ex?
Q. I recently dated a guy for about a two months, and it was very intense from the beginning for both of us. He spoke of future possibilities, and I began to open up to them as well. He then got scared, which is understandable--as I was scared, too. ...
A. 2 March 2008: Sometimes the adage "the Devil you know is better than the Devil you dont know" applies. I think it does in this case. Some people are gluttons for punishment. It's painfully obvious that this schlub is one of those people. If you had had been dat... (read in full...)
I found out my girlfriend of 7 years was having relations with another man...
Q. This is probalbly the dumbest question there is.... I found out my girlfriend of 7 years was having relations with another man. This was last April that I found out. It's almost been a year of recovery and trying my best. Well everything was f...
A. 27 February 2008: My friend...the fact that she's looking this guy spell disaster for your relationship. I'm sorry, but end it. let her see what she lost by her disrespect. I may be harsh, but if shecheated with this guy before and is looking him,she's gonna do it ... (read in full...)
Hmmmm.... do I believe her story? Do you???
Q. I left town for two weeks and when I came back one of our condoms was missing. She told me that her daughter's dad tried to have sex with her and she said no and he slept on the floor in the living room where I pay rent. She said she was out by ...
A. 27 February 2008: Allergic...... The Curb....make sure you drop her off there as soon as possible. The girl is lying. No ifs and or buts. That line about sleeping on the floor after the guy tried to have sex with her is about as fresh as a FOGHAT CONCERT! ... (read in full...)
She was dating a co-worker that I didn't know about until I had reason to check her texts messages...
Q. She was dating a co-worker that I didn't know about until I had reason to check her texts messages. If I had not done so I believe she would have kept it going. She told me that she has only been out with him twice once with other co-workers and ...
A. 27 February 2008: I'm gonna be blunt, and people don't like blunt, but here it goes. The answer is only three words, my friend.
RUN FROM THIS!!!!!!... (read in full...)
He's big, but he cums too quickly, how can we deal with this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been together for alittle over a month and just recently started having sex. My boyfriend has quite a big penis. We have had sex about five times now and each time he ejaculates quite quickly which doesn't give me enough ...
A. 25 February 2008: If you(or he) tightly squeeze the head of his Penis when he feels like he is going to ejaculate(just the head, not the shaft) you can quickly bring the feeling back to a normal level to where you can continue. Instead of having these answers about ... (read in full...)
Why is he doing this? I would love to think he's in love with me...
Q. Dear All, I am a 25 yr old girl and I have a unique problem. There is a celebrity i was crazy about [like most of u are about celebs] and was quite active on his fan sites [esp de ones he frequented passively]. Now, before i joined the for...
A. 24 February 2008: Be carefull young lady....It may be one of the guys's entourage. But if you want to pursue a rock star, hey...the only one who will end up being hurt is you. Don't go into it thinking it's Bon Jovi and then you end up with GWAR!!!!Although... (read in full...)
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