Promising relationship off to a rocky start
Q. I'm facing a difficult problem. The guy I am currently with slept with someone else. He did NOT "cheat" because we weren't committed to each other at the time. But we were involved, and he knew I had been cheated on in my past relationship, so I ...
A. 2 June 2009: No there is not, because you chose to tell him to not feel guilty about "hitting it off" you gave him a green light to go ahead and do this anyway. Her may never have done it, but most guys when given those words, look upon that as an ok to go out ... (read in full...)
Went swimming with cousin, had sex, then went home to my wife
Q. Hi, I was visiting family in another part of the country this weekend, and my cousin and I had to go to another town to run an errand. Whilst driving back, through open countryside, we stopped for a drink and a cigarette, and noticed a gorgeous ...
A. 2 June 2009: Wow I have heard it all now...."to my shame, I soon had an erection":.
What a bunch of bullshit. You don't just "stop by the pond" and decide to skinny dip with your cousin!
And on top of it all...she says no one will ever find out, you bone you... (read in full...)
Is it ok to start dating before a divorce has been finalized?
Q. If one spouse is unfaithful to the other in marriage, when is it right for the honest one to date? Is okay when they have decided in thier heart they do not want to continue with the marriage, but are still married or when they finalize the divorce?...
A. 2 June 2009: Well if you have already agreed to the divorce from both sides, and there is neither side contests the divorce, or tries to patch it up get to gettin on and gettin some strange.But of course don't be upset then if your soon to be ex hubby is ... (read in full...)
On a break from his girlfriend, my ex slept with me, should I tell her he's a cheat?
Q. Hi, my ex and i hav been seperated for about a year and a half. He has been with other women and whenever he broke up with them he always ran back to me. At first i used to fall for it because i still loved him. Now i am wiser. The last time that ...
A. 2 June 2009: Well being that you knew that they were on a break, it really dosen't seem like you feel too guilty about it anyway. You were going for more of the "spite", right. Of course the best thing you could do is leave it alone, but what the hell, right?... (read in full...)
He falls asleep before I'm done!
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance' has fallen asleep several times while stimulating my clitorous, leaving me frustrated and angry. No matter how tired I am, if I start a hand job or blow job, even if he has to help me finish, I don't stop till he gets off...
A. 2 June 2009: What kind of a man falls asleep between your legs, either with his tongue or his penis? Is he narcoleptic, or just an idiot?
It's nothing you did, I assure you. Take care if you, and if he is so callous to engage in foreplay or intercourse only to f... (read in full...)
Promising relationship off to a rocky start
Q. I'm facing a difficult problem. The guy I am currently with slept with someone else. He did NOT "cheat" because we weren't committed to each other at the time. But we were involved, and he knew I had been cheated on in my past relationship, so I ...
A. 2 June 2009: Couple questions....
did he offer this information, or did you get wind of it and ask him about the other woman?
If he has no history with this woman, and just hooked up then what makes you think he wont try to convince himself the next time it... (read in full...)
I walked out after 3 years, he talks with, dates other women. proclaims it's nothing, is he just a cheat?
Q. I walked out on my boyfriend a few days ago after learning that he had been talking on the phone with a woman that I asked him not to talk to. I had an altercation with her and thought that they stopped talking but they have been talking lately ...
A. 2 June 2009: The Curb..... Find the nearest one and drop him off at it. If he's "talking" to these women, and taking them to dinner, he's screwing them. Simple as that. do you want to be disrespected ONE MINUTE LONGER? I certainly hope not. Guys tha... (read in full...)
Labeling my sexual orientation
Q. so, im confused. Basically, at first i thought i was bi, i am a female. I liked girls, and guys. Then i started to find guys less attractive, to the point where when a guy hit on me it didnt matter. I tried to not care much...i mean bi, gay, ...
A. 2 June 2009: Oh dear, Not to worry, thats what we are here for. Please be aware that although I will not condemn Christianity as a whole, I can only say that many adherents have their own interpretations of what morality is. I am sure you are scared, a... (read in full...)
How can I forget what happened when we were broke up?
Q. My boyfriend and I once broke up - no one cheated or became cold..we just got too involved and kept arguing or getting hurt by trivial things. We were broken up for about two months and then somehow started dating again realizing that we do care ...
A. 2 June 2009: Well I would have to say that since you learned that you want to be together, that you should concentrate on that. That is about as positive a thing as you can hope for when you get back together...that is the best result isnt it?
I understa... (read in full...)
Please help me decide what to do
Q. I have recently found myself in a messy situation. I have been drawn to a guy and did not realize he felt the same way so I was truly amazed when a couple of weeks ago he made a move. One thing led to another and well we both have acted on our ...
A. 2 June 2009: Just tell your husband. You are way too immature to be married. It is his decision now whether to stay married that you selfishly spread your legs for another man. Leave your husband so he can have a life with someone he can trust! That person is ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to help my depressed son
Q. My son is very depressed,and I don't know how can I help him. He was doing drugs before, and We let him move home,as he was in a very bad shape,and he wanted to get better. Now he is much healthier, but he gets really angry, as deep down he is ...
A. 1 June 2009: As a recovering addict, I have to tell you that you may think you can cure him. He is and always will be an addict. He can live a life in recovery, but he cannot be cured.
Have you sought treatment, in the form of rehab?. I can attest to the toll... (read in full...)
How do I let him know that it's ok to be open with me?
Q. My boyfriend always seems afraid to tell me things about his past. He was married before and has two kids. He also has had felony charges for drugs. Last time we hung out I caught him smoking, but he has quit now. At the time he was down to one c...
A. 31 May 2009: Young Lady,
You cannot change anyone that does not want to be changed.
You "caught him smoking". Are you his mother?
He can only stop these behaviors for himself, not for you or anybody else. I'm sorry, but thats is just the way it is with ... (read in full...)
Dreaming of my past love.
Q. Ok, I'm feeling alittle guilty about this as I've been married for 20 years and have two teenage childreen. I've been daydreaming ALOT about my ex lover! I haven't seen him for 25 years and I find myself so curious on what he looks like now and ...
A. 31 May 2009: Well hopefully you will have the will power to stay away. Being that you have already driven by this guys house, you are setting yourself up for failure, but only time, and your common sense will tell.
Best of luck... (read in full...)
Pantyhose kink! Is this unusual?
Q. Hello, I am a young guy in my my twenties. tanned nice body etc. I have a kink for pantyhose and stockings. I like wearing them myself and masturbating in them. I like the thick shiny oness. Or the school opague type. I would also like a girl ...
A. 30 May 2009: My friend, don't even sweat it. I own adult social sites that have a few sections dedicated to my more "niche" members.I cater to all types! Your groove is not unusual at all. One guy on my site(wonderful gentleman who is an executive) has a s... (read in full...)
Does he love me or should I end it?
Q. I'm a little lost as to just what this man wants,well for starters he is married and we have been having an affair for many years, but he is in a very high profile job and he sometimes has to work 70hours a week so we don't get to see a lot of each ...
A. 30 May 2009: Oh please! No criticism? Then why the hell are you posting? That's the risk you take coming here and me happening upon this post. Lets take a look at this honestly(because you need a dose of reality). Not only are you an accomplice to cheati... (read in full...)
Can't stand the friend's friends
Q. Okay, this might not be the best site to ask this, but here goes: My gf and I are friends with this other couple. It's not like we're best friends, but we are pretty good friends. They are friends with this other couple, who, unfortunately...
A. 30 May 2009: Uh the reason that the couple is colder to you is because your GF let the cat out of the bag. That type of stuff (when friends dont get along with a friend of a friend)is always better left unsaid. The risk of saying something that is potentia... (read in full...)
Dreaming of my past love.
Q. Ok, I'm feeling alittle guilty about this as I've been married for 20 years and have two teenage childreen. I've been daydreaming ALOT about my ex lover! I haven't seen him for 25 years and I find myself so curious on what he looks like now and ...
A. 30 May 2009: Well all I can say is that you need to be honest with yourself? It is nostalgic to look back on your first love, but if you are asking the question that only You can answer "If I am in Love With My Husband, why am I dreaming about a past love"?, ... (read in full...)
I'm slowly developing a hatred towards women...
Q. A girl that I've been crushing over for about a year just rejected me. In my lifetime I've developed crushes over many girls and not one of them ever said yes, I can't fucking take rejection any more, I can't even feel the pain, I'm slowly ...
A. 30 May 2009: Young man, The advice given to you is for the most part very good. I just want to say is that yes you may be going through a rough patch, but please do not think that your current situation reflects on the female gender as a whole. There are... (read in full...)
Husband is 'too tired' but watches porn
Q. My husband is 59 and I am turning 40. Suddenly he has become too tired and has become undemonstrative with his affections this last month yet I found out he was watching porn while I was at work. I love him, we have been married for 17 years with ...
A. 30 May 2009: Well, I would simply ask him if since this bothers you he would be willing to seek with you some sort of Marriage Counseling. Look into if it is afordable to you. Porn in and of itself is not inherently bad, it is how it is consumed and for what ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with the guy in rehab or try the new, clean guy?
Q. I have started dating "lee" since dec i actually drove 2000miles to met him he drove w me back to my state to live w me everything was fine til he started his new job which was a nite job which ended up him finding drugs and booze... i kicked him ...
A. 30 May 2009: It's obvious. 3500 miles away(sweety, LDR's dont work) Addiction (realize that most persons that go through rehab are in a "Honeymoon" period when they get out where they think that becuase they go to rehab and they are cured.) It doesent wo... (read in full...)
HELP! Getting married in 4 months... But I still think about my first love!
Q. I definitely need some guidance and advice! My first love from when i was 13 we were on and off until 3 years ago when I met my fiance (I am now 23). We always talked secretly throughout the years when we were with other people, or when he had a...
A. 29 May 2009: Well if you recognize it for what it is, I cannot condemn you for that. And as long as you are Committed in the end to your fiance then as long as you haven't done anything to jeopardize your relationship then it will justify the means of how you ... (read in full...)
Husband says he doesn't love me because he doesn't feel loved by me
Q. I am 33 years old have been with my husband for 17 years and married for nearly 11. We have had the usual marriage probs but have always pulled through until a few days ago he dropped the bomb shell that he no longer loves me. I'm devastated, we ...
A. 29 May 2009: Well that is good news. Now the hard part starts, but you are making a giant leap by recognizing what is going on. Best of Luck to you from all of us and please give us an update when you feel it appropriate!... (read in full...)
Together since we were teenagers, our relationship has deteriorated with time!
Q. Ok so I will be as breif as possible. I am 24 and my Special other is 28. We have been together since I was 16 and lived together since I was 17. We were a great couple up until about 3 years ago. Something just changed. Neither of us are interested ...
A. 29 May 2009: WAIT A SECOND!!
The question should not be "How can I end things". It should be "How you can I try to fix this".
I noticed that you have not mentioned marriage counseling. Have you brought this up? I understand that you have been together a... (read in full...)
HELP! Getting married in 4 months... But I still think about my first love!
Q. I definitely need some guidance and advice! My first love from when i was 13 we were on and off until 3 years ago when I met my fiance (I am now 23). We always talked secretly throughout the years when we were with other people, or when he had a...
A. 29 May 2009: Simple!
DONT GET MARRIED!
Young Lady,
The fact that this old flame has given you cold feet is unfair to your fiance. And you and I know that if you contact this guy again while you are engaged, that you are going to make things worse.
I ... (read in full...)
How to break-up without breaking a good man's heart
Q. who to choose? how to break up without breakign a good man's heart? 5 months ago in Munich I met a silly, skinny Swiss boy. ok, he's 24 and I'm 22, but still... we laughed, got drunk, kissed, snowball fought, poked, and danced our way into l...
A. 29 May 2009: Try Honesty!
So you sleep with one guy before you leave him to go to Vienna, then this guy visits you and you cheat on your other man by Kissing guy number 1?
You are way too immature to be in any kind of relationship.
Be honest with ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship doomed?
Q. We have been dating for a month, we got drunk and went to a hotel, had sex, he then had a blackout and cant remember a thing and is so upset as now he thinks i feel used, is this relationship doomed? I dont want to seem like a tart.....but i really ...
A. 29 May 2009: Well lets see,
There is nothing inherently wrong in this. However,
You need to think about your alcohol intake, along with this guy. You and he are way too young to be having blackouts from alcohol, unless you have a serious problem.
What... (read in full...)
How can I stop this?
Q. I have an ex from over 16 months ago, who I found was seeing someone else from where we work. I walked away no trouble very hurt, wishing her well since that time I have tried to achieve a friendship or normality and she has simply been very...
A. 29 May 2009: Jesus what a conundrum!
You have to work with this piece of trash?
Yeah of course she is trying to get your attention. Once she cheated on you, you walked away, not allowing yourself to put up with it (or so you thought).
Your mere proxi... (read in full...)
Hopeful and in love, or is he just a cheater?
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 4 yrs broken up for some short times but we always manage to work it out.i love him and he wants to get married how do i know hes for real and he has cheated before but i got thru it, one of my good freinds says ...
A. 29 May 2009: I will disagree wholeheartedly with both posters below. You have been with him for 4 years...
And Cheating is not a mistake. Mistakes are wrong lane changes. Cheating is a conscious decision. Did he trip over a rug and fall into another woman's ... (read in full...)
I love her, but she's completely inconsistent
Q. Hey everyone well how to start im 17.. my ex is 18.. we went out for about 1 year .. i love her to death, i would do anything for her.. she broke up with me about 1 month ago, the day she broke up with me she went to some party,got drunk,high, ended ...
A. 29 May 2009: Young man, take a deep breath, relax for a second...
Both Gina and DrBritto are giving you good advice here.
I just want to add that it is true she is immature and selfish. I want to let you also know that although this may seem like the wo... (read in full...)
I seriously have the hots for my sister in law!!
Q. I have an issue that has been driving me crazy for a couple years now. I am married, and her brother is married. I am seriously having the hots for his wife. She used to be VERY 'freaky' if you will, and still has a slight taste of that in her. ...
A. 28 May 2009: "She is not my wife's sister, no chance in hell he could beat me down, and she is not the type to tell......now what???"
Uh, well in that case you already have your answer. Since You wont't get beaten up over it, AND she won't tell, why do you e... (read in full...)
Is it worth it?
Q. hi everyone Three years ago my life fell to pieces. My grandparents, who played a very big part in my upbringing both died within 6 months of each other. My alcoholic abusive partner of 9 years went a step too far, finally admitting cheati...
A. 28 May 2009: YOU ARE ANSWERING YOUR OWN QUESTIONS!!!
What the hell is your BF doing on Dating sites when he is in a committed relationship?
why does he have Viagra is he's not using it on you? They aren't goddamn Mentos to pop in your mouth
Viagra is dir... (read in full...)
I am in love with my friends wife
Q. I have a big question/issue. Myself and one of my friends met this girl at the same time and where I am a shy and reserved guy he is not and he hit it off with her right away. Well since then we have all been friends and I was developing a crush ...
A. 28 May 2009: You need to man up here., whether or not they are in a contract marriage it is not your place to insert yourself into the marriage.
Furthermore, why is the sister sticking her ass into it as well? You need to get a grip. What makes you think it... (read in full...)
Dating for five months but no sex yet!
Q. I have been dating this guy for 5 months now and we haven’t had sex yet which isn’t exactly a bad thing but he always makes up some excuse like if my child wakes up or he drank too much or its too soon. We have had some foreplay but when I try to ...
A. 28 May 2009: I have to agree....
It's not performance anxiety after 5 months...He's playing for the other team and thought maybe he could turn himself.
Is he a republican?... (read in full...)
Do I walk away from this jerk??
Q. I am a 29 year old woman that has been dating a 37 year old cop for the last 3 1/2 months. He does work alot and his schedule is limited to Sun and Mon when he is off for us to see eachother. We have been seeing eachother on most of the days he is ...
A. 28 May 2009: The best thing you can do is to make him insignificant in all aspects of your life.
Change your cell numbers and delete and block him from emails, texting, etc.
I think your reply is you thinking against hope that he is a good man. And....(als... (read in full...)
Do I walk away from this jerk??
Q. I am a 29 year old woman that has been dating a 37 year old cop for the last 3 1/2 months. He does work alot and his schedule is limited to Sun and Mon when he is off for us to see eachother. We have been seeing eachother on most of the days he is ...
A. 27 May 2009: "he drives drunk frequently, parks infront of fire hydrans ALL the time! why? b/c he is arrogant and knows he can get away with it. He is just not a warm person who cares about people's feelings."
Thats why he picked up the phone twice! Thats... (read in full...)
I seriously have the hots for my sister in law!!
Q. I have an issue that has been driving me crazy for a couple years now. I am married, and her brother is married. I am seriously having the hots for his wife. She used to be VERY 'freaky' if you will, and still has a slight taste of that in her. ...
A. 27 May 2009: You seriously are playing with fire, buddy. If you have any self respect and any respect for your wife, you will cease and desist this behavior toot sweet.
Think about it.
You are looking for a green light to cheat on your wife. What the h... (read in full...)
Major trust issues from the past
Q. Ok I have a boyfriend of 7 months, I love him and one day want to marry him. However, he has some seriously deep trust issues from his dad leaving him and being cheated on by all his ex girlfriends. So from this he believes that im going to do the ...
A. 27 May 2009: Uh sweety,
His talking to other girls online is NOT a way of making himself feel better....Thats a cop out. He is using it as an excuse so you will idly sit by and accept it while he looks for some thing to keep on the back burner in case you... (read in full...)
My life is in ruins, how could another human being do this to me?
Q. i had been happily married for 12 years to a beautiful woman who i loved dearly, something i always thought was mutual. we had about 5 years together before we both decided to start a family, and were overjoyed when our first child was born in ...
A. 27 May 2009: OMG!
Sir, my heart goes out to you and what you have been through. I know hindsight is 20/20, but why on God's Earth did you move out? It should have been her leaving, for she betrayed the relationship and your family!
and you keep asking your... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married man, and he asks if I love him
Q. I am having an affair with a married man. But its sort of odd. He never calls me, except to book the appointment for our meet. It's been going on for a while, and lately he wants to know if I love him. We share nothing but sex for about two ...
A. 27 May 2009:
He will never leave his wife, he just has you for sex. He can keep that veneer of respectability and keep you hidden as his dirty little secret, which by having sex with him you agreed to.
But hey, you knew that was the risk when you had sex ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my own judgement anymore.....should I leave him?
Q. Don't know what to do, I have been married for 17 yrs. 4 yrs ago my son nearly passed away with head injury he had lots of surgery has recovered thankfully.That same year my husband started a new job and started acting wierd not being a very goo...
A. 27 May 2009: You are answering your own question here. This guy is lying out his ass. Cheaters try to make it seem like it is your fault that they cheat.
They care not about anything or anyone but themselves.
Cheaters do not stop unless they have something to... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to be texting other guys when my ex is still in the picture?
Q. My ex want me back but until he proves to me he changed im not sure. Deep down he prob wont and i kind of no this. Anyway do u think it wrong 4 me to be texting and possible other men that could possibly give me what i want. I dont know why i feel ...
A. 27 May 2009: Again, without providing detail this is an unanswerable question. You are too vague. Please provide some examples of these "loads" that he has to prove.
You came here to get the best advice possible. Please be specific.... (read in full...)
Can LDR work if you barely see each other?
Q. Well im a 20 year old female and im currently dating ah 21 year old female. we have only seen each other once since we've been together. we have been dating for 3 months now, and i can honestly say i love her. she's there for me when others are not. ...
A. 27 May 2009: In one word....NO
LDR'S are very difficult. I can safely say that the overwhelming majority of them fail.
and you have to be very confident in your partner and she in you for this to work. It takes constant communication to make it work.
... (read in full...)
Do I walk away from this jerk??
Q. I am a 29 year old woman that has been dating a 37 year old cop for the last 3 1/2 months. He does work alot and his schedule is limited to Sun and Mon when he is off for us to see eachother. We have been seeing eachother on most of the days he is ...
A. 27 May 2009: Lets look at this honestly.
1) wont hold hands with you in public, and says it's gay?
Red Flag....I'd kill to hold my lady's hand walking down the street. It's the most common PDA on the planet outside of kissing.
2) being a police off... (read in full...)
Husband says he doesn't love me because he doesn't feel loved by me
Q. I am 33 years old have been with my husband for 17 years and married for nearly 11. We have had the usual marriage probs but have always pulled through until a few days ago he dropped the bomb shell that he no longer loves me. I'm devastated, we ...
A. 24 May 2009: YES! GET YOUR BUTTS INTO MARRIAGE COUNSELING ASAP! And you both have to be completely honest in your efforts or its gonna be DOA. You have been together for so long, and you are relatively young still. MC for sure. Because no one wakes up one mor... (read in full...)
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