Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 21 May 2009: I hope you got at least some of the answers you were looking for.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband as I know I don't love him, but I don't want to break his heart. Help!
Q. I'm not sure how to start with this question.... I don't know where to really go, or what to do. When I was 18 I dated a man who was horrible to me. I ended up getting pregnant, and had a miscarriage three months later. When I found out I was preg...
A. 15 May 2009: I wish you had as much guts to be honest with your husband as you had to post your response. Young lady, you still just don't get it. That is blatantly obvious. Please do me a favor and re-read what you just wrote as a response. Do you bel... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband as I know I don't love him, but I don't want to break his heart. Help!
Q. I'm not sure how to start with this question.... I don't know where to really go, or what to do. When I was 18 I dated a man who was horrible to me. I ended up getting pregnant, and had a miscarriage three months later. When I found out I was preg...
A. 13 May 2009: Folks, this poster's response, and my subsequent one made me have to return here to make a couple more points.
So if I can, I want to disect this, as I cant fathom such cruelty in the face of justification.
You stated that you cheated on your ... (read in full...)
Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 13 May 2009: A Half truth is still a whole lie.
Yeah, since he was concerned how you felt about it, he decided to keep it from you.
Callie, this guy is so full of shit his teeth are floating. Of course he manipulated you, and made you feel guilty.
THAT... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband as I know I don't love him, but I don't want to break his heart. Help!
Q. I'm not sure how to start with this question.... I don't know where to really go, or what to do. When I was 18 I dated a man who was horrible to me. I ended up getting pregnant, and had a miscarriage three months later. When I found out I was preg...
A. 13 May 2009: UNBELIEVEABLE!
After everything we said about honesty, you selfishly went over the line. And now you are not going to tell him.
OWN WHAT YOU DID AND TELL HIM! HAVE SOME GUTS!
You should be ashamed of yourself.
Counseling....W... (read in full...)
I can forgive him for cheating, but my family can't.
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years had a great relationship with my family, they loved him. In January he went to Mexico with a group of guys and ended up cheating on me. He told me a few weeks later and we broke up. I was really upset and cried to my mom ...
A. 7 May 2009: Uh excuse me?
I understand that you are very young, but listen to me and listen good....
Your family is right on point.
why would you even think of forgiveness...it is very overrated. If you were the one in his shoes, do you think he w... (read in full...)
Seriously guilty over having cheated
Q. I love my fiancée very much. Last month I went out with some buddies and cheated on my girlfriend with not 1 but 2 girls I met at the bar. I was really drunk and started flirting with a girl thinking it would never amount to anything, next thing I ...
A. 7 May 2009: Come clean with her and take the consequences, First you need to own up to what you did because it will get out sooner or later. Why don't you start by owning what you did to her before this blows up in your face, because she will eventually find ... (read in full...)
Is this my child?
Q. Hi their i need your help,my wife jst gave birth to our second child 22 days before the EDD.The thing is that before the pregnancy we were on separation for 2months and when we got back togather we made love for 2days and the third day she started ...
A. 7 May 2009: I don't know.....I think more info is needed, but you are obviously in doubt. Only one way to remove all doubt, and thats to do a paternity test.
Look at it this way. If it comes back with the result that you hope(i.e. your child, you can put your... (read in full...)
Can someone text too much?
Q. I've recently started dating a girl. We've been on 3 dates in two weeks. Currently in the 4th week. Shes been busy this week. (Thats not a fob of story). In the first two weeks we would text a few times aday, a few days a week. Since we've ...
A. 7 May 2009: 5 texts? Man you are getting off light! The lady I am currently seeing sends me 20 to 30 a Day. Just whatever comes into her head. I'm glad she's not a surgeon or there would be patients dying on operating tables all over her town because I swear ... (read in full...)
Do I think he'll be back, absolutely... but why does he do this?
Q. I met a man on line years ago. We spoke for a long time months before we finally met. Our first meeting we kissed and that's when I knew he had me. We spoke later on that day and agreed that we definitely should get together again. Every time we ...
A. 7 May 2009: Why waste another second of your time on this guy. Meet someone new. Life is too short to be treated like crap. I don;t think he is commitment phobic at all. He just really sees you as an someone who fills his emotional needs, and then when you have ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am wasting my time!
Q. when I met my boyfriend 11 months ago he said he was seperated and he and his wife had agreed to a divorce but as neither was in another relationship he did not start any divorce process. He claimed his wife left him, took the kids and lives in ...
A. 7 May 2009: This guy has no intention of getting divorced...You are a booty call. Nothing more, nothing less.
Sorry, but ditch this fool...I am not so sure that this wife lives in another country either. Ever speak to her by phone, ask her yourself... (read in full...)
She is ignoring my calls and messages - should I be worried or am I just being immature?
Q. My gf is mid 30 and I am mid 20. She is married and divorced with a daughter. She been through a bad relationship before. Added with the age gap, sometimes, I don't know if the things I expect her to do is correct. I need some advices bec...
A. 7 May 2009: You need to think about whether you want to continue relationship. It doesn't seem like much of a relationship if you say you haven't talked for months. I dont think she really cares too much about you.
Get out into the real world and date som... (read in full...)
I'm a serial cheater and can't help it
Q. I cheat but I don't feel like one. I am in a steady relationship with my boyfriend of 8 months, and we are great together, the connection is intense. The level of sex is, however, nowhere near enough to satisfy me. We have sex maybe once a wee...
A. 7 May 2009: Why don't you think about someone else other than yourself?
It's clear you have no respect or love for your BF...so why don't you have the respect for him to break up with him. Really it appears you are way too immature to be in any relation... (read in full...)
She went back to her ex!
Q. She Went Back to Her Ex When I met Dee, she had been out of an abusive relationship for six months. Her ex is an unemployed alcoholic who used to physically and mentally abuse her. She had to take out a court injunction and seek Police help to prote...
A. 7 May 2009: The answer is simple....
do you want to be cheated on, and keep your head in the sand and have these two losers in your life?
Dude, no one deserves to be cheated on. She is a liar, and a manipulator. she is playing you like a fiddle.
Get ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and find myself unable to quit smoking
Q. I am fifteen years old now, and in Grade Nine. I've been smoking since Grade Seven, and I was twelve years old. Over the course of the past couple years, I've tried my best to quit smoking but I always fall back into the same routines, and lately, ...
A. 7 May 2009: Like you I started around the same age as you, and then smoked until the age of 18. Then I quit for 6 years. I was at a party one night and having a beer when I grabbed a smoke and washed those 6 years away. I have tried myself since at least 10 ... (read in full...)
His story doesn't add up... is he lying to me?
Q. I have been married for close to 30 years and after a strange happening my husband told me he needs space and doesn't love me any more. Last week he told me he was going to a men's bible study group then came home and said he saw a stabbing and put ...
A. 6 May 2009: Oh my lord....
I am so sorry this has happened to you.
I am afraid that his excuse was indeed the lamest one I have ever heard.
Please don't feel foolish for believing him, either. Cheaters are master manipulators, and he is at fault, not you... (read in full...)
Getting back deleted history on the computer?
Q. Dont know if any of you out there can help but i have been wondering how can you get back things that have been deleted on the history on my computer?...
A. 6 May 2009: There are Data recovery services advertised on the web that may be able to get it off the hard drive. Even though it is browser history, there should still be a fingerprint on the drive. we all know that things never really "leave: our computers ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair with my sister's fiance..
Q. I thought this through over and over and just don't know what to do. Hopefully some of you may be able to help me. I'm sorry if this turns out to be a bit long but I just want people to see the whole picture. I've been with my boyfriend since ...
A. 6 May 2009: WOW....LMAO!!!!
Not only do you tumble to the same level as your cheating husband by revenge cheating (which never works, because you only hurt yourself), but you risk tearing your whole family apart because you find your sister to be on her "h... (read in full...)
Facebook about to ruin another relationship?
Q. I would really appreciate people's opinions / advice on this particular dilemma...Nothing new, but I'm sure lots of people have had similar experiences. Damn facebook... Me and my girlfriend (both early 30s) have had some problems lately but we ar...
A. 6 May 2009: O boy, I am sorry you are going through this
Here goes...
1) you are in relationship counseling and she is doing this on FB?
Seems like she is not that hopeful(or as hopeful as she appears to be).
2) This seems like she is already looking f... (read in full...)
Love my husband but feel the temptation to cheat on him with a co worker, what should I do?
Q. Help, I am married and I think my co-worker and I are falling for each other. I started a new job in a new country about 5 months ago. It was the first job I had in a long time where I've really enjoyed my colleagues and the work I've been doing,...
A. 6 May 2009: You are justifying this. Do you realize how you will destroy your marriage and another innocent person's life by what you are considering? and for your co-worker to know you are married and continue this charade is reprehensible. YOU CANT FI... (read in full...)
She's like a roller coaster
Q. Alright, so I was with my ex girlfriend for around a year(my longest relationship) and all was perfect for the whole beginning. She always told me how much she loved me, how I was perfect, how she always wanted to be with me, etc. For a while I ...
A. 6 May 2009: Hmmmmm, Id say the reason that she changed back in the first place was because she really wasn't sure about her new boyfriend, or was "confused". So now she changed back to "Lets just be friends". I think she has probably met someone or i... (read in full...)
Is this concern or am I paranoid?
Q. I am 29, and my fiance will turn 30 in a few weeks. We've been together for almost 4 years, but knew each other 10 years ago,we have been engaged for a year. When we met she was seperated (not yet divorced from husband number 2) We have planned ...
A. 5 May 2009: I agree with Gina in principle, however I am going to be seemingly harsh and brutally honest
Sorry this happening to you, but Im about to go on a rant here because I see 90 miles of bad road coming up ahead for you.
You engaged someone w... (read in full...)
I want to seperate, but how do I say it?
Q. I want to leave my husband of 6 years but am not sure how to say it. He says its obvious I don't love him (which isn't entirely true) but I am not "in love" with him anymore my question is, how do I tell him. I hate hurting him and seeing him c...
A. 5 May 2009: Well since you haven't tried marriage counseling, and it appears you won't(I'd do it at least for the sake of the kids if not yourselves, but once again just my opinion), I'll respond again
That being the case, just come clean, don't listen t... (read in full...)
I think I lost him and my whole world is crushed. Please help me!
Q. it all started about 3 and a half months ago when me and my boyfriend of almost a year started getting mad with each other and fighting a lot. we were on and off for a while, constantly "taking a break" and then getting back together. until about a ...
A. 5 May 2009: Oh dear......
Young Lady,
you have your whole life ahead of you. I am sure this is painful, but be honest:
This guy cheated on you. Then he gives the standard lame ass excuse for breaking up with you. Then he is going to Prom with someon... (read in full...)
Am I turning into a nympo?
Q. I am 27 years old and recently started dating a new guy. I always enjoyed sex and orgasm regularly. My new guy is amazing is amazing in bed, orgasming with him is something I never felt before. He has even made me squirt which no until that point I ...
A. 5 May 2009: Id say you were getting in touch with your sexuality to some extent(no pun intended). If it interferes with your job then it may.
I dont know if incessant masturbation is covered in your state..lol...just kidding
I wouldnt call that being ... (read in full...)
I want to seperate, but how do I say it?
Q. I want to leave my husband of 6 years but am not sure how to say it. He says its obvious I don't love him (which isn't entirely true) but I am not "in love" with him anymore my question is, how do I tell him. I hate hurting him and seeing him c...
A. 5 May 2009: Sweety, have you tried Marriage Counseling?
have you two been able to be together in a therapy session?
I only say that because you were a bit vague, but thats ok. Just my opinion, but please at least look into that option if you havent. Mayb... (read in full...)
Do I think he'll be back, absolutely... but why does he do this?
Q. I met a man on line years ago. We spoke for a long time months before we finally met. Our first meeting we kissed and that's when I knew he had me. We spoke later on that day and agreed that we definitely should get together again. Every time we ...
A. 4 May 2009: I sure hope so. I am so sorry that you are in this position. I know that we always seem to feel like we need something good to grasp, so that the bad stuff(or what we perceive as the bad stuff) either doesent affect us as much or that we don't think ... (read in full...)
Do I think he'll be back, absolutely... but why does he do this?
Q. I met a man on line years ago. We spoke for a long time months before we finally met. Our first meeting we kissed and that's when I knew he had me. We spoke later on that day and agreed that we definitely should get together again. Every time we ...
A. 4 May 2009: Wow, this is quite the conundrum. The way I see it, The poster far below me who had the LDR work out for them is a rare exception(congrats btw), for I would venture to guess that 99 percent of them dont. They certainly didn't in my case. At a... (read in full...)
Is she really busy or just not ready to see me?
Q. I have been dealing with a lot of insecurities and issues recently but kept many of them to myself as I didn't want to seem "weak" or unattractive to a female friend I'm very very close with. Recently we were at a party and after seeing her...
A. 4 May 2009: Well first thing I would do is examine your drinking, since alcohol in reality always brings our true nature out. Perhaps maybe cutting down on the booze...it cant hurt. Second, I commend you for taking stock of what you feel are your issues. So ... (read in full...)
I'm registered to a dating website, but I never get a reply. What makes a good opening message?
Q. Hey, I'm registered to a dating website. What is a good opening message to send to a girl your interested in? Any time I send a message, girls seem to read it and either deleted or not reply. It'd be nice to get a reply. What can I do?...
A. 4 May 2009: Young man, I know your plight. As someone who is on social(but not dating) sites, I have seen some of the worst treatment of females by guys opening lines. They run the gamut from "Whut Up" to "BABY IM GONNA F(@% YOU". Females on dating ... (read in full...)
Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 3 May 2009: Ok Callie, so you found out he's been texting. One thing I have to say here is that as much as you may not want to hear this...in the end LDRs never work. It didnt in my case, and it was disasterous. I was much in the same boat you were. Whether ... (read in full...)
Current relationship is depressing me
Q. Hi there, I have been in this relationship with my girlfriend for about 10 months now. But lately I am depressed, when i asked myself ; 'why?' I came to the conclusion that this current relationship is depressing me. She is very indifferent a...
A. 3 May 2009: Young man, You should never feel bad about showing your emotions. after all you are very young. Try this...just a thought. Sit down with her and in order to diffuse what could be a potential powder keg, begin with telling her honestly wh... (read in full...)
Current relationship is depressing me
Q. Hi there, I have been in this relationship with my girlfriend for about 10 months now. But lately I am depressed, when i asked myself ; 'why?' I came to the conclusion that this current relationship is depressing me. She is very indifferent a...
A. 3 May 2009: Young man, You should never feel bad about showing your emotions. after all you are very young. Try this...just a thought. Sit down with her and in order to diffuse what could be a potential powder keg, begin with telling her honestly wh... (read in full...)
I cant handle another break up
Q. I have been with my fiance for about 3 years now and we have a 7 month old son and i have 2 little girls from a previous relationship. Everything was great when we first met and were friends and also after we took it to the level and started to ...
A. 3 May 2009: I agree with Lynda....this guy has some serious control issues and sees you as a piece of property. You said you were working on it for a time...was this through marriage counseling? at any rate, I am sorry for your pain. Is there any type of couns... (read in full...)
Do condoms come in different sizes?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now and we decided that we were ready for sex. My boyfriend went to put on the condomn but it wouldnt fit... Do condomn's come in different sizes? If so where can we find them?...
A. 3 May 2009: Yes they do, and you can find them at any local drug store.
And I want to say I commend you for waiting until it was right for both of you. Very Mature decision!!! I wish there more like you two youngsters... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband as I know I don't love him, but I don't want to break his heart. Help!
Q. I'm not sure how to start with this question.... I don't know where to really go, or what to do. When I was 18 I dated a man who was horrible to me. I ended up getting pregnant, and had a miscarriage three months later. When I found out I was preg...
A. 3 May 2009: Well you have decided that you want to leave him, but you dont want to break his heart. Time to be honest here. Since you never mentioned marriage counseling, I take it that it is irreparable. Please be honest with him. Everyone deserves HONE... (read in full...)
Why and what is the reason for his actions?
Q. 33 years old, married, and work as a nurse. I met a physician 58 years old that has tooken an interest in me. He is a flirt and a social butterfly. I am shy, quite, and reserved. I started noticing him when he started flirting with me which ...
A. 3 May 2009: OK...in a nutshell... YOU ARE MARRIED! Thats whats wrong with it in the first place. Normally at this time I would begin to torch you for what I bet is going to be a monumental mistake, but I wont since I am having a good day..lol...so I wi... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? please let me know what you think?
Q. Is he cheating? pls tell me what you think..thanks..? Hey guys..I need an objective opinion asap. I have been going out for a guy for 10 months. For the last 2-3 months we were on and off and every time we had a fight he would dump on me. I gu...
A. 30 April 2009: Young lady,
God only knows right now....but from what you have written:
The fights you have in which you are dumped for short periods of time only to re-unite(are these fights by any chance begun on Fridays, and the make up is Sunday night or ... (read in full...)
What am I doing??
Q. Okay so long story short i cheated on my Boyfriend of 6 years for a year and a half with the same person no he was not the other guy just a "buddy" if you get me ... the truth about me and him only came out because i got pregnant with his baby now ...
A. 30 April 2009: YOU DIDNT LOVE HIM WHEN YOU CHEATED ON HIM!!
oh how can this be???
IT BE!!!
How selfish. you cheated on your boyfriend, got pregnant, and you dont know whether to continue with your man???
Cheaters never cease to amaze me. They ne... (read in full...)
Cheating on fiance, feeling I don't want to get married anymore
Q. I've been dating my now fiance for three and a half years, we have been engaged for almost 9 months, and have a wedding date set for August 1, 2009. We currently live about 1 hour apart. I am a full time student and he works. I will be graduating ...
A. 27 April 2009: Its simple....DONT GET MARRIED! If you already cheated on your fiance before you are married, imagine what its going to be like after you are married. You think of spending your life with someone you cheated on? Thats one of the most selfish act... (read in full...)
Is this just a crush? I have a boyfriend but I can't get this guy out of my head!
Q. I'm in a tricky situation. Been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought I was perfectly happy, I'm very much attracted to him and love him, and we've gone through a lot together. Recently I've noticed there is a guy on my undergrad program and we ...
A. 27 April 2009: Do what you wish. You will do it anyway. Don't be surprised when your BF is not understanding of this. But I wonder why it took you all this time to say that you were on the break. It was a valuable piece of the puzzle that may have changed my ... (read in full...)
Developing a roving eye, help!
Q. Hi. I've been married to my wife for almost 3 years, together for about 6. We are both in our late twenties. When I met her she was the most lovely, charming, sexy woman I'd ever met and we're were deeply in love within days of our first date. ...
A. 27 April 2009: Your wife's health is at risk... you should be considering what it would be like were she to find out that you had cheated. In no way shape or form is cheating EVER an option. Be a real man and seek marriage counseling as soon as the oppor... (read in full...)
Is this just a crush? I have a boyfriend but I can't get this guy out of my head!
Q. I'm in a tricky situation. Been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought I was perfectly happy, I'm very much attracted to him and love him, and we've gone through a lot together. Recently I've noticed there is a guy on my undergrad program and we ...
A. 27 April 2009: So basically you didn't care about your BF when you had cybersex? Jesus, two days before you said you were gonna not rush into anything, two days later you have emotionally cheated with this guy... So now you have done what just I warned you about... (read in full...)
Caught in an emotional affair - now what?
Q. I need advice. I am in my mid 30's and have been married for 12 years. I have three children. My marriage has been rocky for years(high financial stress, low level of affection). I have never even looked at another man until a few months ago when I ...
A. 24 April 2009: I did read the question Klara!
What people dont seem to realize is that cheaters will never change. They are incapable of it. I give REALISTIC answers as opposed to those of you who want to stroke someones ego and tell people what they WANT TO ... (read in full...)
Married lover is blaming me for the destruction of his marriage!
Q. I know that there is a lot of dialogue on-line from women involved with Married men. I also know of the heartache most experience when it ends... My question is simple: has anyone been involved with a married man who swears he loves you and then ...
A. 24 April 2009: You are a facilitator who knew this man and his wife for 20 years?
Then you say he initated it!
Did he pry your legs open with a crowbar and forcibly rape you?
NO
You spread your legs for a married man ALL ON YOUR OWN!!!
And you wonder ... (read in full...)
Is he an idiot? Or messing about?
Q. Hey guys, So my friend made me talk to this guy who lives about 6 hours away. Hes becoming a teacher jsut like me. We have been talking online this whole week. Hes def cool, i think he's a typical guy: zombies, aliens, video games, fighting,...
A. 24 April 2009: I think it is going to have to be a face-to-face meeting for you decipher whether he is an asshole or not. I mean yes you can kind of tell through words on a screen about some people, but you've been talking to him for only a week?
Thats not enou... (read in full...)
Is this just a crush? I have a boyfriend but I can't get this guy out of my head!
Q. I'm in a tricky situation. Been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought I was perfectly happy, I'm very much attracted to him and love him, and we've gone through a lot together. Recently I've noticed there is a guy on my undergrad program and we ...
A. 23 April 2009: First thing you have to do is consider a couple of things....
Is this new guy someone you can see yourself with, or is it because you have become complacent with your BF? Is there something wrong in your current relationship. Because as opposed ... (read in full...)
Caught in an emotional affair - now what?
Q. I need advice. I am in my mid 30's and have been married for 12 years. I have three children. My marriage has been rocky for years(high financial stress, low level of affection). I have never even looked at another man until a few months ago when I ...
A. 23 April 2009: I have as novel idea for you...try being HONEST!
regardless of emotional or physical...its still an affair. And once again I think you are simply seeking justification take this a step further and cheat.
You still have the option of ending... (read in full...)
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