Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 21 May 2009: I hope you got at least some of the answers you were looking for.... (read in full...)
Fiancee says we are never going to have sex!
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for about 7 months, and we love either other very much, but she told me that we are never going to have sex. I love her and i would never cheat on her. but it is getting to me. We used to fool around but lately ...
A. 18 May 2009: What are you talking about your Fiancee after 7 months?
7 months? Thats hardly enough time to know a bus schedule let alone getting engaged. And with this sex thing, are you sure she is even aware you are even engaged? I don't mean to sound fli... (read in full...)
2 weeks into my relationship and I've kissed another guy. Now I don't know what to do. Help!
Q. Two weeks into the relationship and i've already kissed another guy whilst drunk... I feel awful I know how bad this sounds I really do. I went over my alcohol limit and stupidly kissed some random guy...It's tearin' me up I know it's only two we...
A. 18 May 2009: Please tell him. Two weeks into a relationship is early enough that neither of you have a lot of time invested in it. BUT:
Young lady, you have demonstrated that in two weeks time you are not mature enough to handle a relationship. This one will... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I cheated? What he doesn't know won't hurt him, right?
Q. I have made a huge mistake, And when I was drunk last week at a party I cheated on my boyfriend and had sex with another guy. My boyfriend doesn't know as i'm too frightened to tell him, because I know it would be over as soon as I do tell him. ...
A. 18 May 2009: I give HONEST advice. Just advice you don't want to hear.
Justifying yourself because you don't want to hurt your man...well you just don't want to hurt yourself.
You obviously don't feel too guilty because of all people you are not being ho... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I cheated? What he doesn't know won't hurt him, right?
Q. I have made a huge mistake, And when I was drunk last week at a party I cheated on my boyfriend and had sex with another guy. My boyfriend doesn't know as i'm too frightened to tell him, because I know it would be over as soon as I do tell him. ...
A. 18 May 2009: You loved him so much you spread your legs for another man...
You don't know the meaning of love. Best tell him so he can be happy with someone who won't cheat on him...you are living a fantasy if you don't think He'll find out, because he will.... (read in full...)
GF problems help?
Q. Hi well i've been with my gf for 1 year in 2 month. Lately are relationship been having problems. We are actually in long distance relationship we live like 6hr away from each other so we rarely see each other lately. She always talks about how ...
A. 17 May 2009: Prepare for the worst....hope for the best.
Hate to say it, but I am living proof that LDRs do rarely if ever work. Sorry to be blunt, but I have to say it sounds like her year at college has allowed her to expand her horizons. Perhaps at t... (read in full...)
Sociopath ex-boyfriend trying to guilt trip me back, what to do?
Q. Hey everyone, ok I broke up w/ my verbally abusive bf last week after 2 and 1/2 years together. A friend sent me a link to a site on Sociopaths. He fit the profile perfect! Pathological liar, no signs of remorse for anyone, difficulty in life ...
A. 16 May 2009: Ok...you want blunt..here goes.
Sweety this guy is/was cheating on you. It has no bearing on being a sociopath, he is simply a liar.
Keeping things like not letting you meet his friends is a clear sign he has a whole other life outside of ... (read in full...)
I deserve a better friend than this!
Q. My best friend has really let me down. It's been years of making and breaking promises, disappearing for months at a time without an explanation or a way to contact her, and the last time I visited her; she ignored me, became passive aggressive, and ...
A. 16 May 2009: Stop wasting your time with this person. She obviously has no real care for you. It will be much better if you defriend her and move on... (read in full...)
Anyone know how to figure when baby would have been conceived?
Q. okay my ex is pregnant and i had always thought she had been faithful to me but i just barely found out that she wasnt which is why shes my ex, well the doctor told her that her due date is oct.14 of 2009 ,can any one tell me roughly around what ...
A. 16 May 2009: Get a paternity test AND get tested for STD's as well!... (read in full...)
Do I just need to move on from this girl?
Q. Hello Everyone I need some help here. OK. I was dating my girlfriend, i met her and she was a stripper and a model. I was into it for the looks at first then it got more serious and i told her to quit stripping and she would give me the excuse of ...
A. 16 May 2009: DUDE I HAVE BEEN THERE! I have dated more than one stripper. You have to understand one thing.... You can't make a stripper stop stripping. They crave the money and attention.. I have been through all that shit too...The "Modeling Shoots" ..... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband as I know I don't love him, but I don't want to break his heart. Help!
Q. I'm not sure how to start with this question.... I don't know where to really go, or what to do. When I was 18 I dated a man who was horrible to me. I ended up getting pregnant, and had a miscarriage three months later. When I found out I was preg...
A. 15 May 2009: I wish you had as much guts to be honest with your husband as you had to post your response. Young lady, you still just don't get it. That is blatantly obvious. Please do me a favor and re-read what you just wrote as a response. Do you bel... (read in full...)
What should I do? I can't keep feelling like this.
Q. ok, this is strange one. what have i done!! this is even weird and awkward for me to type but... for years ive been really anxious and worried about what happened to me and my sister when we were young. i was about 12 and she about 6. we played ...
A. 15 May 2009: Oh dear,
In actuality, I think you are right in the respect that your initial action was simply out of curiosity. I think that it is more common than most people think.
And it may be safe to say that your sister may have felt the same things.... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband as I know I don't love him, but I don't want to break his heart. Help!
Q. I'm not sure how to start with this question.... I don't know where to really go, or what to do. When I was 18 I dated a man who was horrible to me. I ended up getting pregnant, and had a miscarriage three months later. When I found out I was preg...
A. 13 May 2009: Folks, this poster's response, and my subsequent one made me have to return here to make a couple more points.
So if I can, I want to disect this, as I cant fathom such cruelty in the face of justification.
You stated that you cheated on your ... (read in full...)
How to climax with just intercourse
Q. I have a problem everytime I have sex I never climax. I can only climax though oral or playing me playing with my clit. The sex be really great I can feel him inside with so much plesure but still can't climax if him or I dont with clit, is there's ...
A. 13 May 2009: Can I make a suggestion?
Take it or leave it...but It has worked for me as I had a girlfriend who experienced this also and I made an adjustment...
The lift...
rather than deep penetration, if participating in missionary, If the man l... (read in full...)
Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 13 May 2009: A Half truth is still a whole lie.
Yeah, since he was concerned how you felt about it, he decided to keep it from you.
Callie, this guy is so full of shit his teeth are floating. Of course he manipulated you, and made you feel guilty.
THAT... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband as I know I don't love him, but I don't want to break his heart. Help!
Q. I'm not sure how to start with this question.... I don't know where to really go, or what to do. When I was 18 I dated a man who was horrible to me. I ended up getting pregnant, and had a miscarriage three months later. When I found out I was preg...
A. 13 May 2009: UNBELIEVEABLE!
After everything we said about honesty, you selfishly went over the line. And now you are not going to tell him.
OWN WHAT YOU DID AND TELL HIM! HAVE SOME GUTS!
You should be ashamed of yourself.
Counseling....W... (read in full...)
Should I just give up on this guy?
Q. I broke up with my ex for almost a month now. but i can't get my mind off of him. He's everywhere. Whenever I do anything or when I look at anything, it reminds me of him. I miss him so much. We were together for 2.5 years. He cares for me and loves ...
A. 12 May 2009: Oh dear,
Well I think you have answered your own question.
You are so young. You really do have your whole life ahead of you. Do yourself a favor and dont waste another second on him. I know it seems like your world is caving in, but sweet... (read in full...)
Completely devestated that g/f left me
Q. Going to be a semi-long story but here it goes. Basically, almost 2 months later I am completely devastated that my girlfriend left me. We were together for 2 1/2 years, almost 3 years it would've been this June. Now, the reason for the break ...
A. 12 May 2009: I read it all. Yeah that kind of stuff can happen. It happens to the best of us.
Basically I think that maybe the relationship that you two had basically has run its course. Its safe to say that she has in fact moved on. I think as hard as it is... (read in full...)
G/f needed time off and changed her mind
Q. about 3 weeks ago my girfriend decides that she needed some time and want to focus on herself and figure out what she wanted to do after graduating from college. we dated through a long distance relationship and everything was great and were mak...
A. 12 May 2009: Well for what reason did she say she made a "mistake"?
LDR's are very hard if not impossible to maintain. I would think that you need to think very hard about this.
Sounds fishy to me. On her part. I'd steer clear.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is sabotaging relationship!
Q. My gf and I have been happily dating for nearly a year. Recently though, she's been out of sorts, crabby, non-loving, and generally miserable. She has self admittedly never been in a good healthy long-term relationship, and in fact, her life has ...
A. 11 May 2009: Well have you suggested any type of therapy so she may be able to at least recognize her own symptoms?
I am gonna be blunt here.
You have to realize that you arent getting any younger. If your girfriend has these unresolved issues and heas ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with her?
Q. Should I dump my girlfriend? We have been together for about a year now. My problem is I always feel I am the one driving our relationship and organising things for us and doing things for her. My bday was on this sat just gone and she didnt...
A. 11 May 2009: Well this seems like a bit of two things. Before I go on, Have you discussed this with her calmly instead of ending up in an arguement? I am not saying its your fault, but think about broaching the subject with a cool head. Are you sure you don... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how long I can continue being punished by him!
Q. I need some advice please. My bf wanted to know everything from my past, every last detail of who I was with, what I did with them, when, where etc etc. When he asked who I had slept with I lied. Reduced the number mainly as I was ashamed and regr...
A. 11 May 2009: OK a guys perspective here.... I am in agreement with these ladies that have posted before me. He has absolutely no damn right to quiz you about things that happened before you got together. ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT! It has nothing to do with him, a... (read in full...)
Staying together for the kids....
Q. I haven't been in love with my girlfriend for a long time. We have just had our 6th anniversary, we have 2 kids, 5 and 4 years old. We were friends for many years before we got together. We are not married but have lived together and shared ...
A. 11 May 2009: Uh have you tried relationship counseling? That would be a start if you are "staying for the kids".
Other than that, its kind of a cop out don't you think. Just because you "don't have that feeling anymore".
If you are in it for the kids, do... (read in full...)
Is it me....or him? What do you think?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 and a half years now...we have had our fair share of ups and downs and have split before for 3 months, but started to see each other again because he said that he really loved me and that he has really ...
A. 11 May 2009: Well I would have to guess that yes he is cheating on you. The behavior of everyone at the bar when you went in was a dead giveaway.
As stupid as this may sound, It usually is the truth. People that may be regulars at bars or pubs tend to develop ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and now I can't come up with a good bday present for her
Q. hey every1 i posted a question last month abt a cheating girlfriend whom i was meant to propose to on d 20th of this month on her 21st birthday! she cheated she says she made a mistake i believe her but g part of me is stl very angry at her! ...
A. 11 May 2009: why don't you give yourself a present and leave her....
Dude,
wrong lane changes are mistakes.
Cheating is a conscious decision. She doesn't love you if she cheated, NO EXCUSE EVER!
So with that, you should be getting a new girlfriend. Yo... (read in full...)
He hit me several times but I cheated on him....what's worse?
Q. He hit me several times but I cheated on him once. Whats worse ?? I cheated on him first month we got together and i continued to like the same guy for 3 months while i was with him. He forgave me and we stayed together. We've been together fo...
A. 11 May 2009: Im sorry, but neither of you are mature enough to be in any type of relationship. You are a cheater, and he is an woman beater. Both behaviors scream that this relationship is Dead on Arrival.
You don't love him if you cheated on him. He cant pos... (read in full...)
My wife is telling everyone but me that we're getting a divorce
Q. Hi there, I found out my wife is telling all her friends that she is getting a divorce from me. She hasnt told me yet! It all started when she started to work for a fashion store and she started to go to clubs with the younger employees. I had no p...
A. 11 May 2009: See an attorney right away and get tested for STD's She is cheating on you. No ifs ands,or buts about it. Cancel any joint bank accounts you have, because if you cant trusty her with her vagina, you sure as hell can't trust her with YOUR MONEY!... (read in full...)
He had an affair before we married... should I just come out and ask him if it's true?
Q. My husband Mark, and I have only been married for 5 months, we have a great sex life and we spend a lot of time together. A few weeks ago a female friend of mine that I have known for 6 years told me that she saw Mark with another woman at a ...
A. 11 May 2009: I am sorry that this happened to you, but you have to trust your gut.
No one ever deserves to get cheated on, and it would be a clear sign that he doesen't really love you. Your friends have a vested interest if they care about you.
Remembe... (read in full...)
Help me get the love of my life back after I broke his heart
Q. Dear Cupid, I was with my fiance since the age of 18,We hadn't gotten married yet on my account because i wasn't ready.But as far as everyone including us were concerned, we were. He was my first and the love of my life. We were together for 15 y...
A. 10 May 2009: Making a wrong lane change is a mistake.
Cheating is not! It is a conscious decision that you undertook without any regard for anyone but yourself.
You lost your rights the moment you cheated on him.
He was smart to leave you. I love i... (read in full...)
Do "true" friends really exist!?
Q. i'm feeling really angry with my so called 'friends'. ive been betrayed and burned by so many friends and i feel it almost pointless to even try and make any more new friendships. one has gone out with my longtime ex and i had only found out when i ...
A. 9 May 2009: I know the feeling.....
As much as you may feel like no one understands how you feel, I can say with confidence that most of us have been in your shoes at one time.
so let me ask you this?
Do your friends dictate how you spend each a... (read in full...)
I caught him red-handed but I still love him. What should I do?
Q. here goes: My boyfreind of 5 years has been dealing with some depression and anxiety. he has been going to doctors for this and we have been on and off the whole time. He has lied about his where abouts and who he has been with. And he even joined a...
A. 9 May 2009: Well being that you know your BF cant be trusted.
Regardless of whether he suffers from depression or anxiety, do you think that you are making excuses for him?
Having issues does not mean he cant control who he has sex with.
You need to... (read in full...)
He cheated before on his wife and on me, now what is up?
Q. has my partner really changed? we have known each other since he was married 6 years ago. i was also friends with his wife at the time. they split up on several occasions and this resulted in me and him sleeping together. i concieved a baby but was ...
A. 9 May 2009: So the wife cheated on him while you were out with her... You went into this tryst knowing that? Was this some sort of a revenge against something you reviled in her? Did your witnessing these events make it easier and did it in your mind just... (read in full...)
Is there any help for people like me out there?
Q. I don't know what to do anymore, I'm at the end of my tether. I lost my job in September last year. I worked there for four months after leaving my previous job after five years. The company I moved to was meant to be training me to be one of their ...
A. 8 May 2009: If you are having these thoughts, the last thing you should be worrying about is this wedding...
YOU NEED TO HEAL YOURSELF RIGHT NOW.
Things are very hard for many people worldwide. Since I haven't been to The UK since last year, I dont rea... (read in full...)
He cheated before on his wife and on me, now what is up?
Q. has my partner really changed? we have known each other since he was married 6 years ago. i was also friends with his wife at the time. they split up on several occasions and this resulted in me and him sleeping together. i concieved a baby but was ...
A. 8 May 2009: What do you expect?
You knew he was married and also a friend of the wife, and you still spread your legs for him...HORRIBLE!
and now you wonder why he may or may not be cheating on you.
are you really that surprised?
Hey just ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of my marriage, I'm not happy at all.
Q. I have been married 4 months and I have never been happy since, My wife and I have been fighting for ages, even before we got married, she terminated the pregnacy a week before our marriage and made things worse, as I crying to have a baby and be a ...
A. 8 May 2009: You got another woman pregnant?
I don't care how unhappy you are or were there is absolutely, positively NO EXCUSE FOR CHEATING!
EVER!
Man up, go to your wife, be honest with her. Let her have a life that may be happy without being destr... (read in full...)
Is there a nice way of telling him that I want to end things
Q. For the last 7 years, i have been in a casual relationship with my ex boyfriend. It has been fun and all, but I dont want to contiue on with this relationship as it has become quite empty and meaningless. I do like him very much, but our ...
A. 8 May 2009: Tell him you love him enough to let him go. If you are scared about being cold, put it to him that way.
The only draw back is that you and I both know that remaining "friends" will be next to impossible, so after 7 years of a relationship, don'... (read in full...)
I am dissatisfied with the choices I have made in my life, and wish I was younger, what to do, please advise?
Q. I had my 30th birthday last week, and I can't stop feeling sad. I know I need to get on with my life, but I can't help it. I wish and wish I were young again. More than feeling old, I'm wishing I'd pursued my dream of being a musician. I don...
A. 8 May 2009: Are you kidding me?
You think you are washed up at 30?
Stand up, brush yourself off of whatever it is that ails you and go out and pursue your dream.
It took me 10 years until after I was in High School to finally decide to go to college.
T... (read in full...)
How can I rectify this?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We are in love and have been since the day we met. There has always been a light at the end of the tunnel in our situation but recently (the last month or so) I have been a little pessimistic about ...
A. 8 May 2009: No...
You are trying to justify yourself, and you basically cant.
By signing up on Match .com in the first place you said to your BF that you are selfish and don't care about your BF.
and don't say "FOR SOME REASON" I made plans to see this... (read in full...)
He's 12 years older than me, what do I do?
Q. My mom is dating this guy who's about 10 years older than her... Well he has a son (I'll call him matthew) and hes really cute and sweet and just totally perfect... he thinks the same of me... i know your probably thinking whats the problem then... ...
A. 8 May 2009: Young lady,
The age of consent in most U.S. states is 18, so you understand that if he so much as breathes on you and someone takes it the wrong way, that he could get in trouble.
Unless you live in an Appalachian state, this is generally fro... (read in full...)
No Make-Up?
Q. I've been dating this man for about 2 months now. He saw me makeup-less yesterday and raved about it. I HATE NOT WEARING MAKE UP. He caught me in very good light and my hair looked amazing, but this is rarely the case. It's not what I'm most ...
A. 7 May 2009: Ah have you ever seen the Seinfeld episode where they are celebrating Festivus and Jerry has been dating Gwen the "Two Face" who looks great in dim lights but when the lights shine on her everyone at some point in the show goes: YAMA HAMA! ... (read in full...)
The teasing is really getting to me -- any lines I can use back?
Q. I get on the school bus everyday and I usually have a high ponytail. The boys on the bus have started to call me Jet Li, and make weird martial arts noises whenever I walk on and off the bus. They are very popular and I myself am just an average ...
A. 7 May 2009: well since ignoring them is not working out....try this.
"Tis always better to be quiet and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt".
Of course, their mouths will be agape with shock, and they will either shut the... (read in full...)
I can forgive him for cheating, but my family can't.
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years had a great relationship with my family, they loved him. In January he went to Mexico with a group of guys and ended up cheating on me. He told me a few weeks later and we broke up. I was really upset and cried to my mom ...
A. 7 May 2009: Uh excuse me?
I understand that you are very young, but listen to me and listen good....
Your family is right on point.
why would you even think of forgiveness...it is very overrated. If you were the one in his shoes, do you think he w... (read in full...)
Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 3 May 2009: Ok Callie, so you found out he's been texting. One thing I have to say here is that as much as you may not want to hear this...in the end LDRs never work. It didnt in my case, and it was disasterous. I was much in the same boat you were. Whether ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband as I know I don't love him, but I don't want to break his heart. Help!
Q. I'm not sure how to start with this question.... I don't know where to really go, or what to do. When I was 18 I dated a man who was horrible to me. I ended up getting pregnant, and had a miscarriage three months later. When I found out I was preg...
A. 3 May 2009: Well you have decided that you want to leave him, but you dont want to break his heart. Time to be honest here. Since you never mentioned marriage counseling, I take it that it is irreparable. Please be honest with him. Everyone deserves HONE... (read in full...)
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