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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have only been together for alittle over a month and just recently started having sex. My boyfriend has quite a big penis. We have had sex about five times now and each time he ejaculates quite quickly which doesn't give me enough time to cum also. We are only 20 years old and i like him alot but im not sure how i am suppose to approach this situation so that he can last longer in bed?
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reader, wwwchrissy  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 use the squeeze technique. When he is about to ejaculate he must withdraw and squeeze himself so the need subsides. he can then enter you again. You can repeat this as many times as you want or until you feel you are satisfied enough to want him to finish! hope this helps :o)
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reader, polarkite +, writes (25 February 2008):
 To start off, yeah I think oral is key here. He should be giving you lots of oral. This needs to be priority #1 for him.
There's some techniques you can both use outlined here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/we-have-had-a-so-and-so-sex.html
You guys can also practice. You can give each other oral and see how long it takes to cum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): anxiety.
he needs to breath and relax in the sac, he'll last longer.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (25 February 2008):
 If you(or he) tightly squeeze the head of his Penis when he feels like he is going to ejaculate(just the head, not the shaft) you can quickly bring the feeling back to a normal level to where you can continue. Instead of having these answers about what you can do....see what your man can do for YOU!
Hope this helps...it has worked for me for years!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Hi,
a lot of friction on the penis can cause most guys to cum quicker. This is one time being big is not a help, as he is most likely a tight fit for you. As the others said enjoy plenty of foreplay to get you loosened up ( and to bring you off ) beforehand, the looser you are the better - put plenty of lube inside you so there is not so much friction and get him to wear an extra thick condom ( preferably one with an anaesthesizing agent in it - which numbs the tip of the penis ).
At the end of the day the sooner he is aware that just having a big cock doesnt make a good lover the better. At his age he probably hasnt had much regular sex with anyone, so up till now its probably been all positive comments about his big dick from girls more than happy for a quicky with a big one they can tell their girlfriends about. You need to assure him that you are not critizing him but wouldnt he like to bonk you with his big tool for longer?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Your boyfriend needs to give you more foreplay to get you heated up which, if he wants to please you, may include lots of touchy-feelie stuff like rubbing, fingering, kissing, breast rubbing and ideally, if he really cares, oral stimulation with knowledge and skill to your vulva, including the clitoris. Enough of this may alone give you one to three pleasurable orgasms or more. Then, he can have his jollies.
This is essentially the major problem with sexual pleasure most everywhere today. The vast majority of men seem to know or care little about pleasing a lady either before themselves, or they are unable to control their release long enough to allow the women to experience release. Men are often ready to let go within five to ten minutes or less, while women hardly even get close in under 20 to 30 minutes. A really good male lover will gladly give his lady great foreplay or oral sex up to 30 minutes or more, sometime even an hour, before even thinking about intercourse and his ejaculation.
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reader, Passthrough +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Heres my strategy, without getting into too much detail:
1. Let the guy warm you up a bit
2. Work him over with a ___-job, IE oral, manual
3. During the man's "recovery time" have him perform some favor on you, perhaps oral.
4. Have sex!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 You could engage in more foreplays and orals (manual and oral stimulations of your clitoris)to make you orgasm first before he is into you. That way you will be satisfied and it will not be a problem.
He has a condition known as premature ejaculations.
You can read it all about here;-
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/prematureejaculation.htm
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