Friend disappeared to do a job in the middle of my 50th bithday party
Q. Last sunday I had my big 50th lunch for a lot of friends. My best friend is unemployed, and does some taxi driving for people he knows to earn some extra cash. During the lunch he just disappeared .I asked where he'd gone and all anyone knew was ...
A. 19 August 2009: Birthdays are over-rated. Things are tough all over. And Miss Anne makes a great point. If this guy is in financial straits as desperate as that for money, I think you really should consider the circumstance here.
People tend to get very emotiona... (read in full...)
Do I have to meet a thoughtless colleague of my husband's on his retirement party?
Q. My husband has been a wonderful provider for myself and our two children. He has always worked hard, and I have stayed home with the children, moving countries when necessary to follow his career. He was successful in becoming the head of one of ...
A. 19 August 2009: You really have no obligation to even give this guy the time of day. I sure wouldn't
But remember that even though this may have been horrible timing that in reality all that is cared about in business is the bottom line. So this guy would no... (read in full...)
Is there a way to have soundless Fanny Farts?
Q. So I have been trying to find a solution to avoid Queefs (fanny farts, varts, vaginal air...) I came accross this reply to this topic that suggested "As soon as you're done lie on your back open your legs and press your stomach to the air will nat...
A. 19 August 2009: Anonymous has a point. It simply is a by product of the sex act. I wouldnt worry too much about it. ... (read in full...)
Didn't like what I saw on my husband's facebook. Am I overreacting?
Q. Dear Aunts, I recently stalked my husbands facebook account (no I don't think its wrong!) and I found that the adage 'look hard enough and you will find what you're looking for' is annoyingly true. I found out that he was ading random (and ve...
A. 19 August 2009: Problem is that Models and Adult Entertainers put up those pages in hopes of trying to get guys to go to their adult sites and spend money. I own adult sites myself and do my own online solicitations for people to join. It's simply easier fo... (read in full...)
Do I just move on? He doesn't want to lose me he says
Q. I am dating a guy who is 10 years younger than me. He's never been married he has no kids. I am divorced with three kids. I look amazing for my age, not that I'm old, but whenever I go out I get carded and everyone thinks I'm in my early 20's when ...
A. 18 August 2009: This is the type of post where I feel that you probably need a bit of brutal honesty. You came for realistic and honest advice, right? Don't feel like I am singling you out, for I am not. Im trying to give you a dose of GrimmReality. Klara, to... (read in full...)
I'm in a new relationship and worried I may have gotten an STD! I don't want this to ruin things!
Q. I recently became involved in a relationship with the most incredible woman and things have been going very well. However, lat week I began not feeling so well downstairs and became concerned that I might have contracted and STD. I have held off ...
A. 18 August 2009: You have to be honest with her regardless. If you are positive for am STD, then its your duty to tell her. You can repair a relationship, but not if you put her health in danger. This one is on you and if you hold this back and you have something, ... (read in full...)
What's really going on with men over 40?
Q. This is a question to man over 40...Do you beleive in andropause? That your sex life dies, and you don't feel like having sex, and your erections are gone? If its true, how common is that? Is this just in long term marriages? I'm just really c...
A. 18 August 2009: Im 44 and I can say with certainty that my erection could still pierce the side armor of an Abrahms tank.
A good man may be hard to find....but a HARD MAN IS GOOD TO FIND!
Your hubby may have Erectile Disfunction, or any host of reasons that ... (read in full...)
Am I out of order for not wanting him to be around these strippers all the time?
Q. So, My boyfriend owns a strip club. It may sound sleazy but he actually took it over after his brother that owned it died and it does make a lot of money so I would not want to ask him not to give that up. and I actually met him working as a ...
A. 18 August 2009: Oh my! Sorry this is happening to you. I myself have dated more than a few strippers(on a short term basis) in my life. I am sure that it bugs you moreso because you know exactly what the life entails. being he is the owner now, I am sure as m... (read in full...)
What was the reason behind his rude behaviour??
Q. I met a man on a site I was networking on. We began talking on the phone and we seemed to hit it off. I am a single mom of two and I have a life. I noticed this man started being demanding and rude. He got angry with me because he assumed that we ...
A. 17 August 2009: always remember that we cant really tell who it is we are dealing with on the other end of a computer screen. People will tell you how wonderful you are, or lie to you and tell you they are single, when in fact they have 4 kids and 8 girlfriends! ... (read in full...)
How long is sex supposed to last?
Q. probably a silly question, but how long do women prefer men to last in bed??? i suppose l am asking because in myself l dont believe l last very long at all. what got me thinking more about this is when my wife and i had separated for a period, ...
A. 17 August 2009: I think she is pulling your leg, or your johnson. GIVE ME A DAMN BREAK DUDE!! LMAO!
believe me if she was with a guy that could go for three hours nonstop, she would never have come back to you. I don't think any woman would! Thats about as much ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid appearing to 'try it on'?
Q. Hi, I've just been to a wedding. Over the course of the weekend, I got speaking to a girl, and think I like her. The problem is, at said wedding, in the evening, another guest got rather drunk and caused a rather big scene, after which I ...
A. 17 August 2009: Young man, you will not look like an idiot at all!
Simply when you approach her about the subject let her know that in light of your recent contact with her, that she is someone whom you think is worth getting to know better. You've spoken t... (read in full...)
What's wrong with my ex's new gf?
Q. My ex fiancee is the father of my child. His latest gf he met online and after meeting her a couple of times in person he introduced her to our son without even consulting me first. He took photos of her with our son and she put them up as her ...
A. 17 August 2009: OUCH!
That Facebook, I tell ya people do some really stupid things over there,
So how long have you and your Ex been apart? sopunds to me like this new girl in his life is trying to "stick it to ya". Kind of rubbing this in your face.
Fro... (read in full...)
Is having an interest in female feet normal?
Q. Hello, I've recently noticed myself having an interest for female feet, my friends say that I'm sick or it's gross or all that, I keep my opinions and everything, but it hit me "Is it normal?" That's my question, and many thanks in advance....
A. 17 August 2009: Perfectly....
Nothing wrong with it at all. If you are having an especially horny day though Id stay away from Payless Shoe Source... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go..I think she's cheating
Q. me and my grl have been together for15 years. ive been laid off for 6 months. money is tight. her 28 yr old daughter and 3 yr old son are living here for free for over a year.i had a drug problem for a while. weve been arguing bout everything and ...
A. 17 August 2009: What does your gut tell you?
As Q says we have no crystal ball, but look at it this way.
You are not working (many of us aren't)
You have a drug problem (so did I)
You are not bringing any money into the household. You have stated s... (read in full...)
My fiance has been seeing someone behind my back. What do I do?
Q. My fiancee has been seeing someone else behind my back. She has not had sex with him (according to her). She did tell me that she was attracted to him, and I let her know I was uncomfortable with her spending alone time with him. She bookmarked...
A. 17 August 2009: You have every right to be sick about this. I suggest you end the engagement right away. Sorry but I was in your position once. I didn't have the luxury of getting a heads up beforehand, I walked in on my fiance having sex with one of my friend... (read in full...)
Is a bed and breakfast a good place for having sex?
Q. I have been going with a good man. he asked me to get away at bed and breakfast for a few nights. We have not make love/had sex. Is a bed and breakfast a good place for making love/having sex? Other romantic places and ideas for us? A conce...
A. 17 August 2009: Sure! Just remember that Ma and Pa Kettle may ask you to leave if you wreck the antique headboard!... (read in full...)
Is masturbation ruining my sex life?
Q. Hi all, Lately I have been in a relationship with a 41-year old woman. I have known her for a few months already and we get along wonderfully, there's a lot of chemistry and fun being together. We have great compatibility too and want more or les...
A. 17 August 2009: YOU ARE YOUNG! Stop worrying! Tug that boat like you are going down the Mississippi!... (read in full...)
The deadline for telling his wife has come and gone. How do I tell her anonymously?
Q. I have been carrying on an affair with a married man. He is going to leave his wife, I do believe that. The thing is, the original timeline for him leaving her has already come and gone. Circumstances have just naturally happened that have caused ...
A. 17 August 2009: I have advice...tell her yourself...please be honest...HE WONT! I guarantee it. He has no reason to. He has you both. Please understand that it is very unlikely he will ever tell her. For he is not going to leave his marriage for you. If t... (read in full...)
Any experience with the effectiveness of prayer?
Q. I wonder if someone would share some of their experience with me, the effectiveness of praying... I'm not a religious man, yet, but I really would like to see, what God would tell me if I would ask him. Some people has beautiful stories, how pra...
A. 17 August 2009: Seek spirituality with whatever you choose to call your higher power. Do not seek religion, for they are vastly different.
Remember that organized religion is a MAN MADE CONCEPT, and the Bible was written by people who thought the world was flat... (read in full...)
Can I make myself tighter
Q. I feel like my vagina is looser than most womens even though I do kegel exercises everyday and exercise plenty. How can I tell if I am loose? I think I am because I can not feel when my boyfriend cums inside of my vagina, but I can feel him cum ...
A. 17 August 2009: If you are this worried about it(which I really dint think you have anything to worry about) then invest in a Kegelcisor!... (read in full...)
He's become a 4plus beers a night kind of guy
Q. My boyfriend has always enjoyed a few bottles of beer after work and in evenings. But a few beer is turning into up to 4 a night. Me and his family are very worried that he is now alcohol dependant. What should we do - he wont admit that there is ...
A. 17 August 2009: Is the booze affecting his job? Is it affecting your relationship? does he want to drink more than spend time with you? do your parents drink? Do you drink?
Is booze making your BF's life unmanageable?
Or is it just that your parents dont lik... (read in full...)
We both think going down on each other is gross. What can we do?
Q. im dating a guy who was a virgin before i met him. we have basically done everything except oral on me. he tried oral on me once but didnt like it. he thinks its gross because of my natural scent. i told him there is nothing wrong but he insists its ...
A. 17 August 2009: Then don't do it if you both don't like it!... (read in full...)
She's 16, I'm 25, and I fear that the changes she'll go through in the next few years will cause us to break up. What can I do?
Q. Im 25 and my girl friend is 16.I love her more then anything in life and she admits i am her first love and I believe it for the fact that i known some of her exs that sh dated for awhile and never had sex with them.we dated one month before she ...
A. 17 August 2009: Of course you will break up...basically you have nothing in common...PLUS she happens to be a MINOR!
I suggest you begin to act your own age by dating someone in your age group. As it stands right now her changes are going to lead down the road... (read in full...)
Why is my gay ex still trying to date women?
Q. I just found out last monday that my boyfriend has been going on craigslist having sex with men/transexuals and answering heterosexual personal adds from women. When I confronted him, at first he responded by saying he didn't know why he did it, ...
A. 17 August 2009: Get rid of him.....he is trying to convince you and himself that he is not gay. But in fact he is.... (read in full...)
One night stand eaves me filled guilty and shamed
Q. To begin with It was my birthday and I got totally drunk and me and my friend decided to hook up with these 2 guys we know and they were being really friendly and sweet, they took us to some random house where we waited for ages for his bro who ...
A. 17 August 2009: "You just cant spot a sexual sadist from a mile away."
Exactly Candace!
The point is that if you actually take time to get to know someone in a manner that does not involve drinking/drugs, etc. , it is much easier to spot the freaks. They usu... (read in full...)
I'm bored with this LDR, what should I do?
Q. Im 19 years old girl and i know that my boy friend loves me too much but we are so far and i am too borring about this long distance relation ship.so plz suggest me that what should i do?...
A. 17 August 2009: Unfortunately, LDRs rarely, if ever work. Distance,lack of communication, and misinterpretations of emails and texts usually doom these type of relationships.
I suggest you date someone that you like in your town. Having a person to be with phy... (read in full...)
Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife?
Q. Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife? Is it just because they can't resist a beautiful person? Is it because they aren't fully committed? Well then, why did they get married in the first place? Is it because their spouse changes? I love my...
A. 15 August 2009: Oh I agree we all function differently. Thats why I posted about each of us having their own threshold. And yours appears to be very high. Just hope for the best, and prepare for the worst. I don't think you insecure at all. Your high threshold p... (read in full...)
One night stand eaves me filled guilty and shamed
Q. To begin with It was my birthday and I got totally drunk and me and my friend decided to hook up with these 2 guys we know and they were being really friendly and sweet, they took us to some random house where we waited for ages for his bro who ...
A. 15 August 2009: 1) STOP DRINKING! 2) Do not let yourself be put into these positions. Booze is never an excuse. You had sex with him because you wanted to. When it got not fun any more you should have said STOP! No means no in any language. And if this guy fo... (read in full...)
My g/f's ex put raunchy photos of her on facebook
Q. I'm 29, my girlfriend's 26. She came to me in tears last night saying she'd found pictures of herself on Facebook on one of her friends photo albums. She said they were raunchy private ones she'd had taken by an ex-boyfriend of hers about 4 yea...
A. 15 August 2009: Report them to Facebook security at once! One thing about Facebook is that they are more family oriented(at least they purport to be) and generally anything anyone complains about is dealt with very fast over there. Remember that terms of service ... (read in full...)
Found out boyfriend was cheating and now all I want to do is drink
Q. I hate my life. I have never felt so low, I found out my bf of 3 years has been cheating on me for a year and I feel so foolish! It was also with a girl i knew they are not together now but I feel so lonely. I find it hard to trust men after my dad. ...
A. 15 August 2009: Sweety....drinking and thinking all is lost IS NOT THE ANSWER! You are better than that! This guy does not deserve you and what you have to offer. You need to get some type of therapy for yourself as soon as possible. even if it is some onlin... (read in full...)
How can I make our relationship develop in a very short time?
Q. Hi, guys, I have been liking the guy from my college, we are both draduates. After months, he asked me about my feeling and uncovered his interest, yet he is very shy and reserve by nature. He asked me not to take him wrong as he might need some ...
A. 15 August 2009: You cant It takes time. Things like this cant be rushed. And being at a distance will make the chances even more likely that this relationship will go into the toilet. Find someone in your town and date them. You will be glad you did. ... (read in full...)
B/F having dinner with girl even though he knows how I feel about her!
Q. i have a long history with my boyfriend say like a three year relationship, but we had an issue,, because we once brokeup because of another girl i found in his appartment she tried so many times breaking us apart she talks bad behind my back and ...
A. 15 August 2009: Your BF is immature, and selfish. He obviously still has something for this girl. Id give him the ultimatum...if he goes for dinner over there, he might as well stay there. That is about the most disresopectful thing Ive heard today here. what... (read in full...)
Is money the most important thing in life?
Q. Is money important? my mum says i should marry someone only for money, and basically im confused because my dad thinks the total opposite(that you should marry for love and money dosn't matter, and you should do anything you want to do and be who ...
A. 15 August 2009: Id ask your mom why she married your dad! Your mom gave you the most ignorant, shallow and immature advice anyone could ever give a daughter. Money is nice, but if not at the expense of happiness, money alone does not bring it. Your mom sounds ... (read in full...)
My long-distance girlfriend is sending love messages to other guys.
Q. am in a long dist relationship for a year n half.i love this girl and recently we had sex after waitin for a year. after she slept i went through her cellphone and i saw some luv text she has sent to some guys.she didnt deny but she didnt ...
A. 15 August 2009: Oh my gosh, Murray. People usually delete messages and texts from "admirers" they are trying to ward off. She is gaslighting you bigtime. lol I am sorry, but those tears she cried were crocodile. Please dont fall for it...that is the only advice ... (read in full...)
I'm so in love with my ex and she has blocked me on her phone for the 2nd time
Q. i need help. any advise? i am so crazy in love with my ex girlfriend it is sickening. we have been apart for about a month and a half now. i took the step and called her yesterday from a pay phone due to her blocking my cell phone number previously. ...
A. 15 August 2009: "she then told me she is very sorry she said what she said last night" Thats your answer. I am afraid she is done with you for whatever reason. I hate to tell you, but she is trying to tell you to move on. Unfortunately her saying what I quoted... (read in full...)
Want to be with my stepsister how do I get her?
Q. Okay i know it may sound a little sick, but i want to be with may sister... Granted she's my STEP sister, but still, i know she would be against it if i told her that i secretly love her and want to be with her because she considers us siblings even ...
A. 15 August 2009: I think RifRaf said all there needed to be said here. If she's 10???
Stepsister is nowhere near the creepy factor of a teenager being in love with a 10 year old. So think about that
... (read in full...)
Stange lump something to worry about?
Q. Warning you now this is going to sound gross but I just wanted to ask on here incase its nothing because I'd rather not have to show this to a doctor or anyone. A random sort of pea sized lump has grown in my anus, most of the time I can't fee...
A. 15 August 2009: Sounds like Napoleon's greatest Nemesis...the dreaded Rhoid.
Until you see a doctor, I would suggest you take some hot baths, as that will cause the swelling to go down. Any type of bowel movement will usually inflame the situation, so also wat... (read in full...)
Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife?
Q. Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife? Is it just because they can't resist a beautiful person? Is it because they aren't fully committed? Well then, why did they get married in the first place? Is it because their spouse changes? I love my...
A. 15 August 2009: Once again, as I have stated before, everyone has their threshold of how much BS they will take from their partner. some will take a huge amount and stay with their partner because the devil they know is better than the devil they dont.
Many ... (read in full...)
He has pics of his ex everywhere!
Q. HOKAY.. so im nineteen years of age and im dating this guy who is twenty five. So he just broke up with his ex five months ago and they were together like seven years, and have a kid together. He has pictures of her everywhere!! like his facebook ...
A. 15 August 2009: They have a child together. She is the mother of his child. She will always be in his life. That is an inescapable fact. That also being the case, it seems like he really has not moved on by what you've stated in your post. Your suspicion that he is ... (read in full...)
My long-distance girlfriend is sending love messages to other guys.
Q. am in a long dist relationship for a year n half.i love this girl and recently we had sex after waitin for a year. after she slept i went through her cellphone and i saw some luv text she has sent to some guys.she didnt deny but she didnt ...
A. 15 August 2009: Well young man, Long distance relationships rarely if ever work. BUT:
If you went to the lengths of having sex with her and waiting till she was asleep to look in her phone, you had some trust issues with her to begin with. Regardless of the text... (read in full...)
My husband seems to have taken a vacation from work just to sit around all day eating and watching porn!
Q. My husband has taken 6 weeks off work. Nothing odd about that you may think, after all we all have to have a holiday, don't we? Well, it's his behaviour that's worrying me. He just sits in front of the television eating nachos, corn c...
A. 15 August 2009: There could in fact be a medical reson, but I am inclined to agree with those who are saying that he may have lost his job and you are going to be the last one to find out.
What control do you have over your finances? do you see a regular paycheck... (read in full...)
Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife?
Q. Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife? Is it just because they can't resist a beautiful person? Is it because they aren't fully committed? Well then, why did they get married in the first place? Is it because their spouse changes? I love my...
A. 15 August 2009:
We cheat because we care for no one but ourselves.
Simple as that... (read in full...)
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