I'm cheating with my girlfriends best friend.
Q. I've been cheating on girlfriend and feel so bad. Its about a million times worse because I'm doing it with her best friend. The fact that she cheated on me a few months ago isn't making me feel better. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for ...
A. 12 April 2010: Said as a matter of fact: any regrets: any idea whether you will cheat again : what does the ex bes friend say: how does she face her friend : in the end you got what you deserved, you did not love her, you were havoing sex with her and her best ... (read in full...)
Why are we arguing more than ever? I don't understand why this is happening
Q. I am 57 years old divorced after 30 years. I now have a new partner who is 33 years old. We have been together for 3 years She is German I am English. We moved from the UK to jobs together in France. We have a 5 month old baby that we love a g...
A. 12 April 2010: Hi there 1. The 24 year age gap could be an issue where she is in one zone and you in another. 2. The newborn (whom you both love) maybe tiring her and you as well. With this extended family member things will change. Now the focus is not just th... (read in full...)
My husband stopped wearing his wedding ring after 10 years, should I worry?
Q. My husband always wore his wedding ring for 10+ years. about a month ago he stopped wearing it for a week when i first noticed and looked at his finder he put his hand in his pocket..when I asked about it he said "it bothered his finger" he would...
A. 12 April 2010: If he stopped wearing his ring for no apparent reason you need to be concerned. Perhaps you need to be blunt and ask him what's up and where is the ring, after all this ring symbolises a union bet you and him. I have seen your update so he has a ... (read in full...)
Should I do something or stay out of it?
Q. Dear Cupid, I went to a birthday party of someone, #30, I know from a theater group my son belongs to. The birthday girl's party started at her house, then went to a local bar. There was a small group of people there including one father, whose so...
A. 12 April 2010: Forgot to add- I was one of the last ones to discover my brother was having an affair. When I spoke to him I told him upfront that it was none of my business but cared enough about him to talk to him about this. He is married for 18years this year. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my wife and her sister, please help me!
Q. Hi, I have a big problem. I've been married for 12 years and known my wife for 14. We have 2 great kids and our relationship is great. I love my wife, I really do. I wouldn't do anything in the world to hurt her. Problem is I love her sister as we...
A. 12 April 2010: "A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010):
seems like the LOVE you have for your wife is merely a figment of your imagination......" by the way this was my response on the 24th.
To Ilove mysisinlaw, had to rate you a 5. Loved this r... (read in full...)
Is it really wrong of me to talk to his mate?
Q. Hi all, I just need to get your views on this stupid situation I am in. I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He introduced me to his friends a few months ago. I clicked with one of his friends straight away. Anyway this week, I saw m...
A. 12 April 2010: this was posted on the 20th March and by the 12 April you and your bf's friend hooked up. Did you both dump the people you were seeing first. what happened to his girlfriend? how did she take the breakup.
Anyways when i read this now, without seei... (read in full...)
Passing gas
Q. is it awkward to fart in front of your boyfriend? Does it turn them off?...
A. 12 April 2010: depends whether it is a new beau, then maybe embarressment. i think normally women have better ettiquette than men when it comes to passing gas.
sorry guys this needs to be said: a MAN is a man when he leave the loudest, flithiest fart, especial... (read in full...)
My father loves my mother more than he loves me
Q. My parents aren't divorced,I have always lived with them but I was raised by my grandmother therefore I don't have a good relationship with my parents,I'm not close to them.I know my mother loves me but I think my father doesn't love me because he ...
A. 12 April 2010: Hi there, I am married with 2 kids. Although I love my kids wholeheartedly my kids know that Dad is special to mum. In our house we know that mum lovvvvvveees Dad, it is a diffrent love from that of our kids. We do not neglect our kids but the kids ... (read in full...)
Are there love spells you can cast that actually work?
Q. hi there are many webistes online claming to cast spells that would really work.there is this spell casting women named ashra she is the us top most american cast speller of 2009 do u think he can really cast a love spell that will work? Please...
A. 12 April 2010: Hey everyone, my aunt had a so called love potion used to make her fall in love with her hb. He was years and years older than her, nothing to write home about regarding looks. Well long story short she married this older man, had a kid BUT after a ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband for my secret boyfriend, but am afraid my family will be angry
Q. I am in such a difficult situation that I am feeling really desperate with nobody to talk to about it. I have been married for 11 years and have been unhappy for the majority of it - although I have tried to dig in and keep going trying and hoping ...
A. 12 April 2010: Tisha, I know I know I know ( I thonk I replied to 3 very old -2007 ones - same answers apply. In this instance my response remains the same going forward, if the marriage is 'dead' no love for a spouse, declaring undyimg love, affection and ... (read in full...)
My family thinks I'm a bad parent!
Q. I have 3 sisters, all of us moms. I have 1 son who is 19 and still lives at home. Ever since the time he was born my family has criticized my parenting skills. My family all live in a small canadian town, my husband and I move to california before ...
A. 11 April 2010: Dear New Age Mom - go take your hubby in your arms and give him a tight hug and kiss and tell him: thank God we love our son enough to trust him, believe in him and thank God we have enough sense to talk openly and honestly with him. I wish there ... (read in full...)
Cinderella complex
Q. (OP's suggested title) Hi there and thanks for reading. I need a little bit of adivise about the way my parents/family see me. I am a single woman, 20 years old. I've never been on a relationship with someone and i still live with my family (sin...
A. 11 April 2010: thank you Mod it is better than "Cindarella wants to be Acknowledged" ... (read in full...)
I want to be accepted my muslim girlfriends family.
Q. My girlfriends mum has recently found out that her daughter is dating me and she will not accept it as she is worried that the rest of her family will frown upon it. They are a Muslim family and they will not accept me, a White British male, even ...
A. 11 April 2010: to be more acceptable please try the following: be courteous respectful NO PROK eat only halaal foods (your gf should advise you) start reading the Koran - english versions are available (you don't say whether you will convert to Islam) ci... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband for my secret boyfriend, but am afraid my family will be angry
Q. I am in such a difficult situation that I am feeling really desperate with nobody to talk to about it. I have been married for 11 years and have been unhappy for the majority of it - although I have tried to dig in and keep going trying and hoping ...
A. 11 April 2010: "....Since he left, my husband has supported me financially because I am studying and wants to make a go of it but I feel powerless in this situation...." I Will only say this: if you are so much in love with another man and want to end your marr... (read in full...)
Our threesome with the well-endowed black man has my wife craving more action-but without me!
Q. My wife offered to spice our sex life up by asking me to find a girl to join us, we posted on the internet and we had a great threesome with a younger girl, then my wife wanted to do the same with another man, I was a bit uneasy with it but went ...
A. 11 April 2010: smacks of a "loving wives" moment. the saying once you go black you never go back?? bummer, right? sorry i am not being helpful but this really is a can of worms being opened. try buying her a big dildo?? ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him to take the next step?
Q. i in iove with a married man and he feels the same but he is afraid to leave his wife. we get on together and share a lot. how can i convince him to take the next step? We are same age, we trust each other too....
A. 11 April 2010: you cannot convince him to leave her, he needs to do this himself. but please do not hold your breath, seems like you are doing the chasing and dictating him to leave his wife. becareful this doesn't blow up in your face, if it hasn't done so ... (read in full...)
Having to choose between our families and each other!
Q. I am married and love with a married woman. we both are in love for last couples of months. The problem is that both of us loves our family much and never want to do any such things which embarrass our family life and we con't leave without each ...
A. 11 April 2010: Without going into the right and wrongs about having affairs and the devastation it causes to the other spouses you need to take note of the following; you need to make a decision: EITHER THE MISTRESS OR THE WIFE, you cannot have both and it is ... (read in full...)
Since I cheated on her, she won't say that she loves me! What can I do?
Q. ok so i feel horrible for this but i cheated on my gf but she said she loved me enough that she would give me another chance but she wants me to still say 'i love you' to her but she wont say it back for a while until she fully trusts me again. I ...
A. 11 April 2010: you cheated she is hurt she cannot tell you she loves you because her heart is breaking you need to back off and give her time examine why you cheated and if you would do it agin have you cut off all contact with the girl you cheated w... (read in full...)
Are men just 'wired' to want to sleep around?
Q. Sandra Bullock. Elin Woods. Shania Twain. Jennifer Aniston. Sienna Miller (both the cheater and the cheatee). Today's news brings information on Gabrielle Beauvouis (can't spell her name) also being cheated upon for 5 years. Kate fucking Gosselin. ...
A. 11 April 2010: nah, cheating men just use the excuse that some magic was used, their pants are unzipped and their penis found themselves in another womans virgina. just as you get cheating men, the same applies to women. women are more conniving, somet... (read in full...)
A woman says she was with my husband, but he denies it
Q. I think im going to leave my husband because I can't take it anymore. About this women that keeps sending me messages about him. I think he was with her last year when he went on a trip to florida. And we had just moved into our house. She keeps ...
A. 11 April 2010: where there is smoke there is fire... (read in full...)
Husband sending out mixed signals...
Q. We are coming up on our 6th anniversary. Hubby has become more distant - we don't communicate, he is not into kissing/hugging/romance- basicly we are roommates with the benefit of sex. When it comes to sex- I am the one to initiate it- he lays there ...
A. 11 April 2010: perhaps you need to investigate what has transpired all of a sudden. normally the lack of intimacy means "something". what this something is , you need to find out. it is very very rare that a man doesn't want a bj. one of two things in my mind - he ... (read in full...)
Oral Sex - she takes it but wont give it!
Q. I am married man and i love to have blow from my wife, but my wife dont want to have my pinis in her mouth nor she likes my cum fall on her body. But she loves me licking her pussy. i am not satisfied. how to convince her to give a blow job. please ...
A. 11 April 2010: i think she is selfish since she is getting all the pleasure. if she doesn't want to give head, she does get you in her privates. end of the story. marriage is a give and take and she is only taking.... (read in full...)
He doesn't understand how much it hurt us
Q. How can I make my husband really see how much pain he has caused me and our children since I discovered his affair? He is very eager to put it in the past and try and move forward. I am too. But I feel like I want him to realize how devastating it ...
A. 11 April 2010: i am unsure that you hb is ashamed of his behaviour. i think he is kicking himself for getting caught . Having said this You owe it to yourself, your kids and your marriage to get some answers. this was not a small "mistake" . therefore it is vital ... (read in full...)
Update from post "Can my husband sue?"
Q. I wrote a post earlier regarding my adulterous affair and questioned if my husband could sue my lover...now ex-lover. Instead of suing, he did a background check on my ex-lover and found out that he was married. He found his wife on a social ...
A. 11 April 2010: THE tone of your update makes me worried. somewhat blase. what is your true intention towards his wife. after all she has invested 20 years with this man and you seem indifferent/having hidden agendas to have her leave him. you obviously want to ... (read in full...)
I heard my boyfriend having sex in the background during a phone call!
Q. i rang my boyfreind early this morning becouse he was stopping at his mum becouse he had had a drink with his friend and i couldent get him a taxi back. when i rang his phone it answerd and i heard him say turn that off but obviously he answerd ...
A. 11 April 2010: i agree with BimBim. how can you just ignore it. whether he denys this til kingdom come, you know what you heard. when you speak to some people their cheating partners make them think they are slowly going mad even though they know the truth. it is ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy being unfaithful to my boyfriend but I cant stop seeing my cousin!
Q. Hi All, I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for eight years and we have a daughter who is three years old. I am comfortable with my life with my boyfriend and I do care for him, however I am not in love with him. Recently...
A. 11 April 2010: I agree...... Right now the best interests of the child has to Be taken into account. I suggest the OP should give her bf full custody . That poor child will be soooo distraught and who better to take care of her but her dad. The sooner the OP ... (read in full...)
He wants to try anal.
Q. My bf wants to try anal sex.I kinda want to but I am scard it will hurt . any advice...
A. 11 April 2010: Hi, seems like you0are not ready for anal sex. You are 16/17 yrs - how long do you know your bf, how committed are you both to each other. Without getting into too much detail. Anal sex can be highly traumatising to a lot of people esp if they are ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me with a prostitute, how can I trust him again?
Q. how do i save my marriage after my husband of 10 yrs went away "golfing" wiv guys from work and slept wiv a prostitute.i knew by the way he was when he got back and when asked he admitted it.he was drunk(though no escuse) and i belive him that ...
A. 11 April 2010: Before you do anything, go to the doctor to have a check up. Him too. As for the trust issues you know him best. If he cheats once what is stopping him from doing it again. You need to think about your future and know that you have a cheater in your ... (read in full...)
I am having an affair with a married woman from work. Is anyone else in a situation similar and if so, how do you deal with the guilt?
Q. I have been having an affair for 4 years with a married woman at work, We meet up about once every 4 weeks. We are very careful but each time I feel guilty but can't stop as the physical side is good. I'd really like to know if anyone else is i...
A. 11 April 2010: Dear male anon who is married for 50 years. It is very easy for people who conduct extra marital affairs to claim to be sex addicts. In far this is far from it. You have latched on to a concept so that you can justify your adultery. Have you ... (read in full...)
Cheating wife problem. The trust is gone so what should I do - short and long term?
Q. I have written before, when my wife and I were going through a difficult time, and some of the answers and advice were really useful. This is my situation now: we have been married for nearly 16 years, we have 2 daughters, aged 10 and 14. Our ...
A. 11 April 2010: Sadly this time you have to show her you are not a fool as below.
I think your wife has not leanrt from her adultery. I think she knows that you love her, so much so that you will be blinded by her affair again. Time to put
Thoughts into actions.... (read in full...)
Bunny Boiler trapped my husband in a 5 year affair!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 16 years, we have two children ages 9 and 10, I caught him at this girls house 5 years ago, and he said he was helping her thru issues and they were friends- dumb me right- I believed him. I ask him to not talk ...
A. 11 April 2010: Hello 123trinity, I am curious . What is the lastest? How0 are you coping? Have you had time to digest your hb's excuses and the responses here? Plse send us an update. ... (read in full...)
Which do women prefer?
Q. I have a question for sexually exspearinced woman...Do woman prefer an uncircumsized male or circumsized? To those woman who have encountered a foreskin, why do most woman pull it all the way down and pretend its not there, is it because you think ...
A. 11 April 2010: Generally women do care less whether circumcised or not- but I think for jewish and islamic men this is a given meaning circumcised.
My hubby and I chose to have our boy circumcised bec of hygiene reasons - whether this was the correct thing only... (read in full...)
Does porn improve bj technique
Q. Ok this one is mostly for the guys.. I was wondering if watching people in porn (i don't just mean pornstars but "amateurs" too) give oral is a good place to pick up tips. What do you think? Would you encourage your gf to copy some of the more por...
A. 11 April 2010: Research only ( ha ha ha) Everything in moderation, stellaforstar, everything in moderation!... (read in full...)
Why did he forward an email to his son to me?
Q. My married online BF of 4 yrs and I had a big fight and I ended my relationship with him. Worst of all, his son and wife knew about my illicit affair with him, an emotional affair, and for the past 6 months we don't have communication. Yesterday...
A. 10 April 2010: Perhaps a mistake, perhaps deliberate BUT don't fall into the MM's syndrome again. Once was enough and as tisha said why are you putting your real life on hold. This man has a wife, a child so enough said. Internet liasions have caused untold hurt, ... (read in full...)
Does porn improve bj technique
Q. Ok this one is mostly for the guys.. I was wondering if watching people in porn (i don't just mean pornstars but "amateurs" too) give oral is a good place to pick up tips. What do you think? Would you encourage your gf to copy some of the more por...
A. 10 April 2010: Let me also add, no teeth ( you read my earlier comments). Grooming - if your man can groom a bit then even better. And do not feel pressurised to swallow. If you watch closely you will see some of those women detest that gunk. They either are ... (read in full...)
Should I see this married man or wait and see what happend with his wife first?
Q. this is a question that i really need answered. i went out with this guy about 16 years ago. for reasons we lost each other. about 10 years ago we found each other. and we were very to have. then about 6 months after that we lost touch again. we ...
A. 10 April 2010: I am very sceptical, so the right approach would be to only 'start' something when he moves out and divorces his wife. You say that you both have lost each other repeatedly. There may be a good reason as to why you have not been in a proper ... (read in full...)
Single, involved with a married man and know its going nowhere
Q. I am single and seeing a married man who is my colleague (from different department) of 2 years for more than a year now. We are professionals from the same country and working in a foreign country. At the beginning we were just friends. We hung out ...
A. 10 April 2010: Mettah, you need to believe that you will overcome this, you need to start believing in yourself. You say you were a positive person previously so dig in deep and find that person once again. In life it is all about our choices. You are lucky that ... (read in full...)
Am I mid-life crazy or is it truly time to make a break?
Q. I'm a 39 year old guy, married 18 years with 2 kids 15 and 10 boy and girl. My wife has had a lot of health problems over the years. About 6 or 7 years ago our sex life became virtually non-existant. Finally 3 years ago I had an affair for about 4 ...
A. 10 April 2010: Don't you think these CHORES you have done for your wife is normal stuff done bet hb and wife. Dammit you are not a martyr, anything but! I humbly suggest that you quit wasting either the wifes time or the kids after all they have burdened you for ... (read in full...)
Does porn improve bj technique
Q. Ok this one is mostly for the guys.. I was wondering if watching people in porn (i don't just mean pornstars but "amateurs" too) give oral is a good place to pick up tips. What do you think? Would you encourage your gf to copy some of the more por...
A. 9 April 2010: Yep learning from pornsites will also teach you not to use your teeth. I have never seen a porn babe with braces(lol). No nip there. I know the guys are now saying ouch! I repeat NO TEETH!!!... (read in full...)
Single, involved with a married man and know its going nowhere
Q. I am single and seeing a married man who is my colleague (from different department) of 2 years for more than a year now. We are professionals from the same country and working in a foreign country. At the beginning we were just friends. We hung out ...
A. 9 April 2010: I did not see your updated response - the depression and the counselling to help counter this will work only if you get rid of the MM. And I think you have decided to end it with him. It's a start, it won't be easy But you will get through it. ... (read in full...)
Am I mid-life crazy or is it truly time to make a break?
Q. I'm a 39 year old guy, married 18 years with 2 kids 15 and 10 boy and girl. My wife has had a lot of health problems over the years. About 6 or 7 years ago our sex life became virtually non-existant. Finally 3 years ago I had an affair for about 4 ...
A. 9 April 2010: What I read is of a man who seeks sexual pleasures outside his marriage and who has total disrespect for his wife and kids. Whether the 20 year old babe will tire of an old fuddy duddy like you soon is not the issue. I think you are wasting your ... (read in full...)
Single, involved with a married man and know its going nowhere
Q. I am single and seeing a married man who is my colleague (from different department) of 2 years for more than a year now. We are professionals from the same country and working in a foreign country. At the beginning we were just friends. We hung out ...
A. 9 April 2010: You are having an affair with a married man where did you expect this to lead to? You don't talk about guit. You knew he was married. You met his wife. You knew exactly what you were doing*nd now you are feeling sorry for yourself. So give yourself ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy being unfaithful to my boyfriend but I cant stop seeing my cousin!
Q. Hi All, I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for eight years and we have a daughter who is three years old. I am comfortable with my life with my boyfriend and I do care for him, however I am not in love with him. Recently...
A. 9 April 2010: Oops I only saw now that you kissing cousins are both females. Ignore the offsprings story but the incest thing remains. Still sordid, still wrong and still messed up.... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy being unfaithful to my boyfriend but I cant stop seeing my cousin!
Q. Hi All, I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for eight years and we have a daughter who is three years old. I am comfortable with my life with my boyfriend and I do care for him, however I am not in love with him. Recently...
A. 9 April 2010: You have an audacity to be judgemental yourself. Of course this is incest and of course you and your cousin lover will deny it. Time for both you lustful COUSINS to have a morality check. The best is for her bf to kick her out of his life and for ... (read in full...)
Bunny Boiler trapped my husband in a 5 year affair!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 16 years, we have two children ages 9 and 10, I caught him at this girls house 5 years ago, and he said he was helping her thru issues and they were friends- dumb me right- I believed him. I ask him to not talk ...
A. 8 April 2010: Lies, lies and more lies. If you believe him then sadly you are a bigger fool and he would get away with his cheating. Your HB is an adulterer and to add insukt to you he thinks that by concocting this shitty story you will be foolish enough to ... (read in full...)
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