He cheated on me so I burned all of his things!
Q. Lets cut to the chase, shall we? my boyfriend and I were dating for a good year and three months. I am sixteen and he is eighteen. I thought we were in love, he bought me a promise ring for our one year. i honestly thought i would spend th...
A. 18 June 2009: Threatening to charge you? I commend you for not setting HIM on fire...he should be thanking you he still has that empty husk that he calls a scrotum! The hell with him! He cheated....HE SHOULD BE THE ONE THAT LEAVES NOT YOU! Young lady, 21 ... (read in full...)
I have sex with girls but think I like guys more
Q. I am a young man. I like girls i yave sex with them and its good but i think i'm interested in boys more. i look up boys (their hips,penis) much more than girls. I live in a very conservative country so don't know what to do? There is a question in ...
A. 18 June 2009: No you are just discovering your own sexuality. It is yours and if you are discovering it, so be it. Nothing to be ashamed of.... (read in full...)
I found a ladys deodarant in his draw!
Q. so.... this weekend i went to sleepover at ma bfs place. anyway i foynd a ladies deodarant in his drawer and i really dont know wat to make of it.he said he didnt know who it belonged. anyway i thru it out but now am reall wondering is he having ...
A. 18 June 2009: I suggest you start walking up and down the street smelling every female's armpits until you find the scent in a witchunt sponsored by Proctor & Gamble.
If you think that last paragraph was nuts, please understand that you may in fact be getting ... (read in full...)
I am so afraid of karma, but it just happened. How do I deal with this?
Q. I have put myself in a veryyy uncomfortable situation. Basically i have this ex with whom i went out with when i was 16 years old, we were in a relationship for a year, i am currently 19, and well ,between us ended for a very stupid reason, these ...
A. 18 June 2009: No....it happened because you wanted it to...Yes you stopped, but you still cheated..you still had your ex's penis in your vagina
You should have thought about it before you spread your legs for this guy.
He is married, you have a boyfriend... (read in full...)
Broke up to much ago and still can't get over her. I loved her.
Q. I dated this girl for about 10 months until our breakup two months ago. 10 months may not seem like a long time to fall in love, but this girl really got to me. She broke up because she felt "confused" because she ran into her bastard exbf right ...
A. 17 June 2009: Ah young man...
The depression diet is not good. If you fell that hard for this gal, then two months is not enough time yet. We all have our grief periods.
And what you are doing is correct. Block her, make her insignificant is the only way you... (read in full...)
Help!!! Torn between two...
Q. So...here's the thing. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. The first 2 years were amazing, but after that, things started to dwindle. I feel as if I am falling out of love with him. I mean, I love him, and that will never change, but ther...
A. 17 June 2009: You are cheating emotionally, simple as that.
You are too young and immature to be in any kind of relationship. Best to let your guy go before you cheat on him, becuase its simply a matter of time before you do. Your script is written here eve... (read in full...)
She doesn't want me near her house? Why?
Q. Hi all, Ive got a small dilema which I hope some of you people can help me with. I still live with my parents (I know im too old but no jokes please lol) and my girlfriend lives with her Dad. My girlfriend only stayes at her dads 3 nights a we...
A. 17 June 2009: "To be honest I dont think its because shes up to no good, or doing anything untoward. She is always at my house on Friday and Saturday evenings anyway, because thats when I work. She just waits in bed for me. It just seems wierd that we can never ... (read in full...)
I want to be taken seriously, not just for sex
Q. ok this is a weird situation and queston. well I was at work today and one of my co workers asked me if anyone has ever told me that I had seductive eyes?! well I said no not in that way. well anyway she kept on and on with it and told me I had ...
A. 17 June 2009: Well chalk it up to the fact that at your young age, there arent a lot of very mature people in the same age group. Does anyone at your job speak to you or do they talk to your chest?
The best advice I can give you is to carry yourself as much ... (read in full...)
Flirting with the manager but now I'm developing feelings for him.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two years now, and like all relationships we've had our ups and downs, and he cheated on me in the first year. It's been a couple of months, which i have started talking to my manager at work, basic flirting, of which ...
A. 17 June 2009: So lets see....
Your boyfriend cheated on you, you stay with him, and now you are about to sink to his level?
Good Job!
Listen up, revenge cheating(whether you have feelings for him or not) does not ever lessen the pain that you were cause... (read in full...)
What do you call a cheater?
Q. A few years ago I caught my wife having an affair with a co worker of hers. When I caught her I called her a slut. She became very angry I said that and has not to this day let go of me using that word. Why? Isn't a cheater a slut?...
A. 17 June 2009: I have only to add that the poster who asked the question would be best deserved listening to his own gut.
Sorry to the poster that we took this in another direction, and please know that my advice is brutally honest for a reason. And Kudos to... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my ex says I must have an abortion!
Q. I am pregnant and my ex boyfriend wants me to get an abortion. He is very stern about the idea and says that i am ruining his life and i am ruining his family goals. i am 19, he is 25. We split up about 5 months ago and then tried working things ...
A. 17 June 2009: WOW,
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. As crazy as an idea as this sounds, I can only say that we men should be accorded no rights to make demands upon women when it comes to pregnancy.
For we men usually never take into account tha... (read in full...)
He believes the distance is enough a reason to break up, but...
Q. My boyfriend and I practically lived together for a year and a half. He didn't express any unhappiness with me.He moved from Ohio to California for a job and two weeks later broke up with me. He says he still loves me, and he is still attracted to ...
A. 17 June 2009: Young lady,
Long distance relationships rarely if ever work. He is doing you a favor in reality. If he is going from Ohio to California, you have to understand that he is most likely suffering from extreme culture shock. which translates into....... (read in full...)
She doesn't want me near her house? Why?
Q. Hi all, Ive got a small dilema which I hope some of you people can help me with. I still live with my parents (I know im too old but no jokes please lol) and my girlfriend lives with her Dad. My girlfriend only stayes at her dads 3 nights a we...
A. 17 June 2009: You could chalk it up if you were optimistic that she just wants her own place. And that could very well be the case. But your gut is telling you something else's inst it? Hmmm.... try this. Show up unannounced. On a night later in the eve... (read in full...)
What do you call a cheater?
Q. A few years ago I caught my wife having an affair with a co worker of hers. When I caught her I called her a slut. She became very angry I said that and has not to this day let go of me using that word. Why? Isn't a cheater a slut?...
A. 16 June 2009: Ginseng,
There is no excuse ever for cheating...no ifs ands or buts.
emotional cheating is just the same. CHEATING. If someone does not have the intestinal fortitude or self respect to leave and cheats instead, then they deserve everythi... (read in full...)
What do you call a cheater?
Q. A few years ago I caught my wife having an affair with a co worker of hers. When I caught her I called her a slut. She became very angry I said that and has not to this day let go of me using that word. Why? Isn't a cheater a slut?...
A. 16 June 2009: Uh dude, the question should be...
WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH THIS SLUT???
For the Kids? The Economy?
Thats no excuse...be a man and kick your wife's ass out.She screwed arouind, she has to lose something for it. And thats any right to live... (read in full...)
He says he wants us both, I can't trust him
Q. Ok so here's the deal. I am in a long distance relationship with the guy who is my best friend. I have been with him for over 2 years. I have known him for more than 3 years. About six months ago, he cheated on me. He kissed another girl. I ...
A. 16 June 2009: Oh dear,
I actually know exactly how you feel. But in reality we know that LDR's rarely if ever work. And social sites are relationship killers. If there is any issues in a relationship, they are bound to come out on FB or Myspace.
You are... (read in full...)
I've realised I married my best friend, not someone I'm attracted to
Q. I'm 26 and just had my one year anniversary. My husband and I have been together for seven years. I've realized I married my bestfriend and not someone I'm attracted to. We have never had a great sex life and now I feel like I'm really losing out on ...
A. 16 June 2009: YEAH! ITS A NOVEL CONCEPT CALLED MARRIAGE COUNSELING! Don't stoop to the disgusting level of cheater. No one for any reason ever deserves to be cheated on. It is the ultimate disrespect and betrayal. You get that brand for life and you will... (read in full...)
Is this woman worth it?
Q. Hello, I'm a single man and recently i've been hooking up with my ex (who has a boyfriend) when we are both drunk. She isnt happy with her boyfriend, this is underpinned by the fact they haven't been intimate in any way for over a year now. I really ...
A. 16 June 2009: Oh man....
well you helped foment a malignant relationship by cheating WITH her, so I don't have a lot of sympathy for you. Thats pretty bad, man. You need to grow up and be responsible.
Second thing, now that you know she is capable of cheat... (read in full...)
I think she cheated, she won't admit to it..just leave her?
Q. I have been with the same girl for 3 years. This is the longest relationship I ve ever been in. The main reason why I got with her because at the time I knew for A fact she could be faitahfull and so could I. All my other relationships ended either ...
A. 15 June 2009: Why would you be crazy enough to stick around for this long is beyond me...dude she is cheating with this guy, and throwing it in your face!
You deserve to be respected, but looking back, you say you have cheated on people in the past. It does not... (read in full...)
How can I get my BFF to place a restraining order against her lying, cheating, woman beating boyfriend?
Q. okay so my best friend from college called me at 3am crying because of her boyfriend was beating her up.. i had noticed a swollen lip and couple bruces in march.. she game me excuses okay what ev she dont wann tell me what ev... but now she told...
A. 15 June 2009: Your friedn will not listen to you regardless of what you advise(and it was good of you to be as much of a friend as you have been to her, and you should be commended).
As hard as it is to understand, victims of abuse, much like addicts, will not... (read in full...)
How long after a break up is it acceptable to start dating again?
Q. Hi there. Where to start. It all started about 4 months when I met this really great girl at a job programme scheme. At first I just saw her as a possible new friend. But after a week we were talking everyday. Either online or by texting. But ...
A. 15 June 2009: SHE IS STILL LIVING WITH HIM?
O dude, just give it up...she will never be away from him...She will pull you into unwanted drama. I wish you would have mentioned that earlier because my advice will change drastically....
you have now assumed... (read in full...)
I think I love her but she doesn't turn me on sexually
Q. i need some really good advise to save this relationship. i've been with this woman for 8 months and im really happy i found her ...here's the problem. i have way more experience than she does. and she's beginning to realize im not turned on...
A. 14 June 2009: Dude, it's simple.
Get over yourself....I lost my virginity at the same age as you, and seen a couple of rodeos and a circus or two...be a man.
If you love this woman as much as you say you will initiate communication with her. It's obvious you ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my lazy boyfriend motivated?
Q. i dont know what to do with my boyfriend. he has no direction in his life, and he just wants to do things "his way". i tried telling him to go to collage with me to make our future easier, but he says hes not ment for collage.i even asked him if he ...
A. 14 June 2009: The only thing you cab do is encourage him at this point
(but since he will remain a slug why you would spend the energy is beyond me)
All the other posters are essentially right. The only thing you didn't throw in there was if he smokes a l... (read in full...)
How long after a break up is it acceptable to start dating again?
Q. Hi there. Where to start. It all started about 4 months when I met this really great girl at a job programme scheme. At first I just saw her as a possible new friend. But after a week we were talking everyday. Either online or by texting. But ...
A. 14 June 2009: Kiwi brings up a very good point.....tread carefully. Look at it this way, young man: She was with him for 5 years. For anyone that is a HUGE chunk of a life. It appears that your obvious feelings for her may have had a hand in it(the breaku... (read in full...)
We are living together but now I feel nothing for him
Q. My boyfriend of only 4 months and I live together (I realize its a mistake to move in together so early) I'm 26 and he's 30. I have lived on my own for about 8 years and he is right from mom's house. The first few weeks were filled with argueing ...
A. 14 June 2009: I agree with Old Guy...listen to your gut. And simply tell him this is not going to work out. Yes he will be pissed(I mean after all, he just came from Mommy's house, do you think maybe he was looking for you to be motherly?) but look at it this ... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend is very jealous and intimidates my male friends, what can I do to get him to overcome this trait?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I dated from November until Febuary. We broke up, but I guess you can say we never really 'broke up' We still loved eachother, and we have been on and off since then. In April, I had finally had enough of all of the drama, th...
A. 14 June 2009: Dont ever let someone make you feel like only they could ever be capable of loving you. Because after hearing it non stop, many people begin to believe it, and never progress in either their relationships or their lives. You are way too young to... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend is very jealous and intimidates my male friends, what can I do to get him to overcome this trait?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I dated from November until Febuary. We broke up, but I guess you can say we never really 'broke up' We still loved eachother, and we have been on and off since then. In April, I had finally had enough of all of the drama, th...
A. 13 June 2009: Young lady,
What a relationship in a committed sense means is that its an audition for a possible life together. so this is a snapshot of your life married to him...I know you are young, but stay with me here for a second and look into that cry... (read in full...)
Is our relationship a recipe for disaster?
Q. I have been in a relationship for over two years with a girl who recently said she needs some space to think about things and to think about if she can be romantically attatched to me again. She admittedly believes that we had an incredible sex ...
A. 13 June 2009: She is an addict, she is selfish, she knows nothing else. You are trying to ask us if you can fix her.
You cant.
You were abusive..you have your own substance abuse problems...this relationship is toxic
and as far as that "Space" and "distan... (read in full...)
I keep cheating on him when I'm drunk, what should I do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with the best boyfriend ever. He would do anything for me and we love each other dearly. He's three years older than me, and works full time, whereas i am a student at university. Truthfully he's my first love, i have nev...
A. 12 June 2009: My work is done here...GOODNIGHT CLEVELAND!....
Oh this is rich. I certainly understand your dilemma. Being the hit of the party and getting groped on the dance floor is great if you are a movie double, but bad if you are in a committed relation... (read in full...)
What do I do if I meet the woman my husband had an affair with?
Q. I have to attend this social event and the woman my husband had a short affair with is going to be there. I never met her before, just know how she looks like from her Facebook. They are not together now, my husband dumped her to come back to his ...
A. 6 June 2009: I was a victim of cheating myself. We all have different reactions. Being you have never seen her before, I would suggest you be as cold as possible. Do not approach her...
BUT
If she tries to speak to you, put the bitch in her place..PUBLICLY!... (read in full...)
I am 15, really like a 23 year old man, is he too old for me to date?
Q. hi there, i have a question for you all, well i really like this guy and he is 23 and im 15 some of my friends say he is too old and some say that aslong as he is respectful in my decisions and he doesnt push me into things then its okayy, but i...
A. 6 June 2009: One word...YES!
He is WAY too old at this point in your life. a 15 year old has not the life skills necessary to be in a relationship with a 23 year old. If you were 18 and he has 26 (both adults in the eyes of the law) it would be different. B... (read in full...)
My fiancee brings up my past and is mentally abusive, what should I do?
Q. hi andrew, i live with my fiancee and its been two months that we have been living together but we have known each other for a year now. but there is this problem that we got when i do something wrong or a mistake he agravates it and start br...
A. 6 June 2009: I wonder why you think you can force religion on someone? Are you a missionary? Please understand that when someone feels forced to accept something as unprovable as man's conception of religion that people tend to want to have CHOICES. And they ... (read in full...)
I was going to marry her but caught her in our bed with another man
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for five and a half years; since Christmas 2004. I was planning on proposing to her and then joining her in a civil union, but I caught her having sex with a man. In our bed. I honestly don't even know what to ...
A. 6 June 2009: Don't listen to a word out of her lying mouth. What is she gonna do, tell you it was a mistake? Blame You! Did she trip over a rug and fall into his cock as her clothes fell off? And believe me, if you ask her, you will get trickle down truth.. ... (read in full...)
Am I normal to want to masturbate?
Q. well i am 18 and here recently i have been like really horny is this normal? everybody in my family says it's wrong to masturbate and do stuff before your married, so i don't really masturbate alot cause i feel bad when i do is that stupid? i know ...
A. 6 June 2009: There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with self pleasuring. Especially when you are discovering your own sexuality. Now please understand that it is a normal need, and if your family members are telling you that it is wrong...then they aren't doing it ... (read in full...)
He called me a selfish bitch because I don't want to have sex
Q. So I told my boyfriend that I don't want to do anything sexual with him mainly because it makes me feel uncomfortable. Well he gets mad at me cause I told him earlier I was going to gave him my virginity but I realize I wasn't ready. He called me a ...
A. 6 June 2009: GOOD!
he was not deserving of your love in the first place!
Please know that not all men are like that, just little boys. And you do what you need to do to heal from this incident that your moron EX-boyfriend started.
(believe me, say it a... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship and I sort of/kind of cheated...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and half way into the relationship he moved away and we have been long distance since. It has been really hard but we love eachother so much and I am moving there in a month. Whilst we have been ap...
A. 6 June 2009: Young lady,
first off, you need to cut out the drinking. Alcohol is no excuse for your actions, whether you are drinking while driving or making out with boys. That crap does not fly in the real world.
When you are using excuses like "Technically... (read in full...)
Are platonic relationships possible?
Q. I met a gril at my best friends house on game night, I like her as a friend, we get along well and she knows of my current relationship. Is it a bad idea to try to contact her to hang out only as friends or should I just forget about it? Can a guy ...
A. 6 June 2009: Sure they can just be friends....its no problem at all unless you begin to feel an attraction, then if you are in another relationship it is tricky.
I have many purely platonic relationships with beautiful women. I certainly don't lust after wo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to porn. How can I help him?
Q. Help my boyfriend is obsessed with porn? am with my boyfriend 2 half years, and i had alot problems. woman has been big threat in our relationship cas of cheating and him having them as friends. my boyfriend also loves porn never stop looki...
A. 6 June 2009: To anonymous...I stated I wanted numbers to prove these statistics, and instead I got attacked.
These were your words.
"I guess your case and many others back this statistic up".
so where are they? Where is the empirical evidence?
S... (read in full...)
Guys, would this scare you?
Q. My boyfriend has a very large penis and intercourse has always been somewhat painful. A few time's i've even bled or had a vaginal tear. I don't think he's ever noticed how painful it is for me and i've never expressed it to him. today was the firs...
A. 5 June 2009: YOU BET! I would be horrified to the point of tears if I was hurting my woman during sex,and I would expect her to tell me to stop and I would comply in short order. You did the right thing, and so did he by stopping. He didn't want to hurt y... (read in full...)
Our affair has been like a roller coaster...what's his deal?
Q. I'm a married woman and I had sex with a married man. I was looking for no strings attached sex (the "why" is understandable, but not relevant here) on a regular basis. After our first encounter, I didn't hear from him till 2 weeks later when he ...
A. 5 June 2009: Neither of you are worthy of being loved by your spouses. You are cheaters plain and simple! So please. please please get a grip and not visit your selfish selves upon anybody else! You cheaters amaze me by your cavalier attitudes not caring o... (read in full...)
Wondering how people's 'first times' were?
Q. Okay so I've been awfully curious about how different first times having sex has gone. This isn't like an advice needed thing. I would just like to hear how male and female first times went. Did you regret it after? What made you feel like you were ...
A. 5 June 2009: Oh for me it was "rumblin, bumblin, and stumblin!" It was well over 30 years ago for me, and I can only say I was a "one pump chump". Yep I blew my load before I got my downstroke. Mine was with an 18 year old girl when I was 13. I remember being... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to porn. How can I help him?
Q. Help my boyfriend is obsessed with porn? am with my boyfriend 2 half years, and i had alot problems. woman has been big threat in our relationship cas of cheating and him having them as friends. my boyfriend also loves porn never stop looki...
A. 4 June 2009: Excuse me, Poster who is giving props to Naomi Wolf, although you bring up a valid point or two, how can you put so much credence in a woman who not only is not a professional therapist but claims she has recently assumed the form of a 13 year old ... (read in full...)
He called me a selfish bitch because I don't want to have sex
Q. So I told my boyfriend that I don't want to do anything sexual with him mainly because it makes me feel uncomfortable. Well he gets mad at me cause I told him earlier I was going to gave him my virginity but I realize I wasn't ready. He called me a ...
A. 3 June 2009: I agree with Army Medic...(what's this...GrimmReality actually agreeing with somebody?)
You? Selfish? Then calls you a bitch?
If those were the words out of your BF's mouth he deserves to be throttled. Kudos to you young lady for going aga... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to porn. How can I help him?
Q. Help my boyfriend is obsessed with porn? am with my boyfriend 2 half years, and i had alot problems. woman has been big threat in our relationship cas of cheating and him having them as friends. my boyfriend also loves porn never stop looki...
A. 3 June 2009: First off...Porn is not evil, it is how it is consumed that is either bad or good.
Second, if he has a problem,. he can only stop for himself not for you or anyone else. It does not mean you have to put up with it if you find it objectio... (read in full...)
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