Drama Queen! I'm sick of it!
Q. i am with a girl. we planned a trip to hawaii but she cancelled because she will have her period then. we were supposed to go to a music festival yesterday but she canceled because i would not apologize to her for not opening a door for her all...
A. 23 November 2009: WOW....six months is a pretty long time!!! lol...I understand though. Sometimes flushing toxic people out of our systems is like trying to get off heroin cold turkey. Hopefully you established NO contact!! ... (read in full...)
Husband says he doesn't love me because he doesn't feel loved by me
Q. I am 33 years old have been with my husband for 17 years and married for nearly 11. We have had the usual marriage probs but have always pulled through until a few days ago he dropped the bomb shell that he no longer loves me. I'm devastated, we ...
A. 29 May 2009: Well that is good news. Now the hard part starts, but you are making a giant leap by recognizing what is going on. Best of Luck to you from all of us and please give us an update when you feel it appropriate!... (read in full...)
Do I walk away from this jerk??
Q. I am a 29 year old woman that has been dating a 37 year old cop for the last 3 1/2 months. He does work alot and his schedule is limited to Sun and Mon when he is off for us to see eachother. We have been seeing eachother on most of the days he is ...
A. 28 May 2009: The best thing you can do is to make him insignificant in all aspects of your life.
Change your cell numbers and delete and block him from emails, texting, etc.
I think your reply is you thinking against hope that he is a good man. And....(als... (read in full...)
Do I walk away from this jerk??
Q. I am a 29 year old woman that has been dating a 37 year old cop for the last 3 1/2 months. He does work alot and his schedule is limited to Sun and Mon when he is off for us to see eachother. We have been seeing eachother on most of the days he is ...
A. 27 May 2009: "he drives drunk frequently, parks infront of fire hydrans ALL the time! why? b/c he is arrogant and knows he can get away with it. He is just not a warm person who cares about people's feelings."
Thats why he picked up the phone twice! Thats... (read in full...)
Can LDR work if you barely see each other?
Q. Well im a 20 year old female and im currently dating ah 21 year old female. we have only seen each other once since we've been together. we have been dating for 3 months now, and i can honestly say i love her. she's there for me when others are not. ...
A. 27 May 2009: In one word....NO
LDR'S are very difficult. I can safely say that the overwhelming majority of them fail.
and you have to be very confident in your partner and she in you for this to work. It takes constant communication to make it work.
... (read in full...)
Fell out of love with my wife, want to move on with a new love
Q. Ive been married for 6 years with a 3 year old. I feel that Im not in love with my wife anymore, although she is a great mother and wife. Shes a stay at home mom. We just went in different directions. Life goals, humor, hobbies, etc. Im a ...
A. 27 May 2009:
No you aren't a workaholic...you are a selfish cheater.
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GROW A PAIR AND BE HONEST AND JUST LEAVE!
why subject your poor wife or your innocent children to one more moment. Let them recover from this. When you "fell out o... (read in full...)
How do I prove I won't break her heart again?
Q. how do u prove to a grl that u wont break her heart again? i have explain to her how i feel and how much i care but idk.......
A. 27 May 2009: Actions speak louder than words...don't they teach you kids that in school anymore?... (read in full...)
Do I walk away from this jerk??
Q. I am a 29 year old woman that has been dating a 37 year old cop for the last 3 1/2 months. He does work alot and his schedule is limited to Sun and Mon when he is off for us to see eachother. We have been seeing eachother on most of the days he is ...
A. 27 May 2009: Lets look at this honestly.
1) wont hold hands with you in public, and says it's gay?
Red Flag....I'd kill to hold my lady's hand walking down the street. It's the most common PDA on the planet outside of kissing.
2) being a police off... (read in full...)
The worst haircut of my life! How do I tell her?
Q. my friend who is in beauty school (almost done) , cut my hair the other day. she did such a bad job, what makes it worse she loves it. my husband said it kind of looks like an 80s mullet, :/ my mom just said omg. i called my cousin who has been a ...
A. 27 May 2009: Well since she is so adamant, I am afraid you have now simply got to be honest with her. As I said before she is not going to please every customer she serves in real life, and being that she can't take a hint....it bodes badly for her future in ... (read in full...)
Does one mistake mean the end of everything?
Q. I have just found out my husband of six years cheated on me with his cousin a year into our marriage.How I found this out we were at a wedding and his cousin [3rd]down the line was there .She told me in her drunken state that my husband had a fling ...
A. 26 May 2009: So let me get this straight?
Your husband cheated(yuck) and with his cousin(double yuck)
See, you have to consider that had the cousin not told you, you may have never found out. And of course he is remorseful.
Cheaters will continu... (read in full...)
Do all MEN go through the Menopause?
Q. This is for guys over 40....Is it true that all man goes to male menopause after 40? And they lose their sex drive and erection? And if it is not true, why doctors are saying that it is normal?What is the truth?...
A. 25 May 2009: I am no medical expert but I can still pierce the side armor of an Abrams tank with my pork sword.
Don't believe a word of that rubbish. My sex drive is more hyper now than it was at 24 and Im 44 now.
... (read in full...)
I think I'm turning into some kind of an idiot!
Q. Please help, I think I am turning into some sort of idiot. I have been dating a guy for over four weeks now, and we have been on three wonderful dates. But its been a week since our last one. we talk/text email every day. We are both shy, and...
A. 25 May 2009: Oh no you are not an idiot at all.
You may have answered your own question though in both of you are shy.
Actually in all honesty I find it sweet that you have been on 3 dates and this guy has only bunted instead of swinging for the fen... (read in full...)
Drama Queen! I'm sick of it!
Q. i am with a girl. we planned a trip to hawaii but she cancelled because she will have her period then. we were supposed to go to a music festival yesterday but she canceled because i would not apologize to her for not opening a door for her all...
A. 25 May 2009: THE CURB!...FIND THE NEAREST ONE AND KICK HER TO IT!!!... (read in full...)
What are these white bumps on his penis?
Q. Hey, im wondering if you can help me. Im not worried as much, as i totally trust my boyfriend but i just want to make sure that this cant be an sti. Right, me and my boyfriend were each others first times, i havent slept with anyone else an...
A. 25 May 2009: Uh, sweety....
whether you love him or not...your first priority in your situation has got to be your health.
skin tags run in my family, but the few that I or my father have are the same color as our skin. I could understand them chan... (read in full...)
Mindgames? Is he keeping me hanging on?
Q. My boyfriend said he wanted to just be friends a few days ago, i was really upset and he knew i was, but he still wanted to be friends, but now im done with all the crying, and i still love him but i know i need to move on. Hes text me to see h...
A. 25 May 2009: Listen to your friend...that friend is WISE!!!
Your guy is a wuss. He is trying to keep his options open in case whatever he is pursuing does not work out.
Plain and simple, if you are dealing with him on social sites like FB or Myspace, dele... (read in full...)
I want to believe that I believe her, but I'm sure I don't
Q. Girlfriend cheated over 2 months ago,she says shes sorry n she did sleep wt her cheat! i believe her! or atleast dats wat i wnt 2 believe!2 months down the line she has decided 2 b a religious freak and she doesnt want to have sex anymore! she says ...
A. 25 May 2009: You are getting PLAYED!!!
I would'nt believe a thing that comes out of her mouth.
Is she on the fast track to new found virginity? She cheated on you and you forgave her? That "religious" route is another way of playing you off.
Id sugge... (read in full...)
Drama Queen! I'm sick of it!
Q. i am with a girl. we planned a trip to hawaii but she cancelled because she will have her period then. we were supposed to go to a music festival yesterday but she canceled because i would not apologize to her for not opening a door for her all...
A. 25 May 2009: I agree with Lucy. There are some people who are incapable of fixing, and this piece of work seems like one.
And buddy, if you don't have her on the lease, kick her ass out of that apartment NOW.
Let this nutjob be someone else's problem ... (read in full...)
Husband says he doesn't love me because he doesn't feel loved by me
Q. I am 33 years old have been with my husband for 17 years and married for nearly 11. We have had the usual marriage probs but have always pulled through until a few days ago he dropped the bomb shell that he no longer loves me. I'm devastated, we ...
A. 24 May 2009: YES! GET YOUR BUTTS INTO MARRIAGE COUNSELING ASAP! And you both have to be completely honest in your efforts or its gonna be DOA. You have been together for so long, and you are relatively young still. MC for sure. Because no one wakes up one mor... (read in full...)
I have proof that he is cheating!
Q. Kay I have poof that's my husband is cheating on me with a co worker. I found out by reading his emails. He stopped being wanting sex for a while and that just got me thinking there's something wrong. When I read one of his emails. It said that he ...
A. 24 May 2009: You need to see an attorney right away. None of this talking to him first about it crap! It is understandable advice, but unrealistic) Doing that simply gives a cheater an opportunity to continue and cover it up better. If you confront him, you will ... (read in full...)
I left my ex to be with my new man and now he thinks I will do the same to him
Q. The man im with now, i met him while i was in a 4 year relationship, i broke up with my ex to be with this new man....but now hes worried im going to do the same to him....im so confused as i cant change the past what can i do? Do you think it ruin ...
A. 24 May 2009: Actions speak louder than words. Telling him that everything will be is ok is a hell of a long way from showing it.
See, there are no absolutes in the world other than the sun rising, and setting, and that humans and animals eat,sleep, and reli... (read in full...)
How can I break things off without damaging our friendship for good?
Q. I am in a bit of a conundrum. A very close male friend and I have been sleeping with each other on and off for that last year. I have deeper feelings for him, and he does not reciprocate them saying that because his job is moving him in July, it ...
A. 24 May 2009: Silver is right on point. It is impossible not to have some fallout, but you two need to have an honest discusion about it. Regardless of the outcome, honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. ... (read in full...)
I've never had a guy be faithful to me
Q. Since I been dating I have never had a guy that that has been faithful to me. They all cheated. The guy that treated me the best was married and he said he never had any dealing with his wife, because they were done. If he was still living with her ...
A. 24 May 2009: Oh dear,
Seems like you have had a pretty bad go of it. And I agree with some posters below that since you knowingly took part in this, that you are just as much to blame. Even though it is likely that this guy would have cheated on his wife wit... (read in full...)
The worst haircut of my life! How do I tell her?
Q. my friend who is in beauty school (almost done) , cut my hair the other day. she did such a bad job, what makes it worse she loves it. my husband said it kind of looks like an 80s mullet, :/ my mom just said omg. i called my cousin who has been a ...
A. 23 May 2009: Oh dear....
I know something of what has happened. I had an experience like that one time as one of my friends was enrolling at Cosmetology College. I simply wanted to support her. I go in, next thing I know Im getting chased down the street b... (read in full...)
10 year sexual affair with my cousin...
Q. My second cousin and I have been having a secret sexual relationship for about ten years now. The first time we had sex is when I was 14 and she was 13. Now I am 24 and she is 23 years old. We usually used birth control (Condoms) but ab...
A. 22 May 2009: What a lame excuse...YOU WERE DRUNK?
Do you live in West Virginia?
Give me a break. The fact that you were having sex with your cousin in the first place and for such an extended period of time only proves you would have kept this travesty u... (read in full...)
The great porn debate
Q. p /> Please check out this post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-could-he-hurt-me-by-watching-pornography.html I was trawling through the site the other day and found the question above. Everyone congratulated this girl jessica on ...
A. 22 May 2009: As someone who owns and operates Adult websites and social sites (3 of them and make very good money at doing it, as it was the best business decision Ive ever made) you would be surprised at how many women do not only watch, but download and buy ... (read in full...)
Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 21 May 2009: I hope you got at least some of the answers you were looking for.... (read in full...)
He cheated on me, dumped me and wants to think about where we go from here, I am heartbroken, what do I do now?
Q. My boyfriend of one year and three months just broke up with me because I tried to discuss my feelings. He has a past of cheating with me and after the incidents it left us with the problem of me not being able to trust him, that was back in Sept...
A. 21 May 2009: Oh young lady,
It always takes the heart time to catch up with our heads. they always tell us it's a mistake, or just one time...but you've already heard that.....
Please go out and find someone that cares enough to be faithful. There ... (read in full...)
He spends the night at his ex's home, and tells me to deal with it. Not sure that I want to?
Q. I started seeing my bf about 2yrs ago, after getting comfortable in the relationship he confides in me that he and his ex-wife were swingers. Not only were they swingers but he had sex with almost every cousin she had (she was involved in the acts ...
A. 21 May 2009: Well give him all the time in the world...like never respond.
Do you have kids with him?
Does his reaction sound normal?
Oh dear that's just a terrible way that this guy is treating you. Run screaming from this idiot and never look back!... (read in full...)
After 11 years and children together, my boyfriend has an affair and possibly fathered a child, we're still together, but how do I get over this emotionally?
Q. Aunts and Uncles: I need your advice anyone. How do I get over this affair? I have never felt so emotionaly drained in my life. I have been with my boyfriend for 11 years he is my soul mate, my world, my everything and I am in so much pain I have ...
A. 21 May 2009: First off, I am so sorry for your plight. I can speak from some experience that YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!
However, and I know this is hardest, the fact that you have remained with him is taking a toll. And in some way you seem to be justifyi... (read in full...)
He has major trust issues with everyone, any hints as to how I can help him to overcome this problem?
Q. how can i show my man that i am trustworthy, he has been betrayed in every possible way by family and friends, ex girlfriends as well. he dont trust anyone how do i show him i am trustworthy?...
A. 21 May 2009: Well the only thing you can do is assure him by your actions. Continuing to be a loving partner and communicating. Trust issues(especially when cheating is involved) can stem from a previous lack of communication. so be very aware of any triggers ... (read in full...)
He wants the fantasy be become real. I feel devalued.
Q. Ok, I am upset and confused. My husband and I were recently discussing a fantasy that we have discussed before. It is HIS fantasy of watching me with another man either secretly or openly. This was always ok with me because it was just a fantasy ...
A. 21 May 2009: Your husband is a cuckholded moron. any man that wants to see his wife bang another guy is not a guiy you should be spending your life with.
And Holly is right. Guys have the stupid ability (and women do as well, but hide it well)to say it's jus... (read in full...)
Heartbroken, confused and need advice
Q. Okay, I need some help here and I don't know what to do. For the first time in my life, at 41 I have truly fallen in love. I wasn't looking and a mutual friend thought we would like each other. So 6 months ago I met this wonderful women. We ...
A. 21 May 2009: Well lets look at a few things....honestly.
1) This guy connected with her on FB. Strike One
That means regardless of how you feel, they WILL be keeping in contact. This guy has thrown down the Gauntlet by stressing to your GF that he will not... (read in full...)
Do good looks mean a better life?
Q. do good looking guys have more options of girlfreinds and more freinds and be very popular ...
A. 20 May 2009: One might say that to some degree that is the case. However, time creeps up on us and what happens to those options once we get older and less good looking. Then you have to rely on your brains. For too many people in the world that is a scary ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid or is she actually cheating?
Q. Im not sure if its my gut or im reading into it too much, but is she cheating on me? I read into things way too much. I feel like shes cheating on me, or seeing other guys. The reasons for me thinking this way: She texts me way less than before....
A. 20 May 2009: Well, you are vague. what is your gut telling you?
Simply put, you need to give us more info so you can get the best advice possible. It could be anything from being busy to a whole host of other things. So think about what is bugging you.... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to stay with her even though she cheats or should I move on?
Q. i have a question,,i have a girl friend who ive known for 11 months and i found out she had been doing any guy she could get her mouth on ..or in her vigina.. this was before me..is it a good idea to stay with her, or let her go.. she is a n...
A. 20 May 2009: You answered your own question...
If you like being hurt and cheated on, then stay with her, cuz cheaters do not change. But I suggest that if you already know you can't trust her...
The curb. Find the nearest one and kick her to it.... (read in full...)
She's just not "in" this relationship...
Q. So I have a dilemma with my current girlfriend and I'm not sure what to do. The problem I am having is I am getting a sense she is not all "there in our relationship". We have been going out for almost 7 months now. She says she is in love me and ...
A. 20 May 2009: Young man,
You are being played.
simple as that.
She won't let you meet her friends? That's because she is dating one of those friends. she disrespects you greatly by this action. I know it takes the heart a while to catch up to the head. But ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend enjoy making me jealous?
Q. Hi, my girlfriend likes making me jealous. She talks about different guys a lot, even her ex-boyfriends and people she used to like. It's getting really annoying, because sometimes she acts as if she still likes them, to see what i would say. I am g...
A. 20 May 2009: Young man,
This seems to be a simple case of a maturity issue on her part. I suspect that she is playing these games because she really doesn't know any better. I would suggest that instead of attempting to make her jealous, to calmly explain ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused and messed up what do I do?
Q. argh ok i'm stuck in a rut. there are two guys i like and they both like me. the one i met a few weeks ago he is like really sweet to me and stuff calls me gorgeous and makes me feel great. then there is this other guy he went to my hig...
A. 19 May 2009: Oh dear...
Well, I can only say "Club Guy" may be a bit of a player. as a male, if I was kissing some gal in a club and went home with her, the routine of "nothing happened and I passed out" means.....
"I had sex with this gal, but I don'... (read in full...)
I feel like he doesn't trust me...
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for three years and things are good between us, he treats me well and is always there when I need him. But the problem is he always asks questions that I find unnecessary like: "did you meet anyone today and did ...
A. 19 May 2009: How in the hell have you put up with this for TWO YEARS? I'm sorry, but as a guy, I would never treat a female like that.
This guy has some insecurity issues. Was he cheated on in a previous relationship? Sounds like it. Be that as it may, unl... (read in full...)
I made out with another guy but am not going to tell fiance
Q. So, I have know my fiance for most of our lives. He's one of my best friends, but the other night I made out with this guy I've known for like 12 years (no sex, just making out). Yes, I was drinking, but I wasn't drunk. I only had one drink. I...
A. 19 May 2009: I would suggest that you do some self evaluation, and be honest. You are immature and selfish. You made out with the guy because YOU COULD.
You will continue this behavior as well. So own what you did.
Simple as that.
Do this guy a favor,if ... (read in full...)
Married woman who loves two men. Should I leave my husband?
Q. I have been married to my husband for three years now during the course of our relationship he has cheated on me several times, some I can prove and some I just have a strong feeling about. Example after being married for three months I found out ...
A. 19 May 2009: Well, you say you love your husband? You say he has cheated on you multiple times? I suggest that if you don't want to try Marriage Counseling, and feel that you want to be with the other man, please leave your husband and DONT CHEAT before you ... (read in full...)
I need to move out, but I don't want to lose his friendship. Help!
Q. Please help I'm not sure what to do. I'm living with a male friend who is also an ex and at first everything was fine until he got a girlfriend. I told him I was moving out and he got upset and begged me to stay, so I did as he had some valid ...
A. 19 May 2009: Well, all I can say is you have to decide whether you will continue to allow this man to manipulate you into staying around. Does the GF still live with both of you? It is certainly a rare occurrence that you 3 could co-exist for as long as you ... (read in full...)
Ever since her affair I have closed the door to tolerance and patience
Q. I'm making the decision today as to whether or not i will remain in my relationship. Over the past year and a half I've been involved with someone whom i thought i loved. She definitely cheated on me and there is plenty of evidence that she d...
A. 19 May 2009: My friend, if there are no children involved...MAN UP AND LEAVE! If you are getting physical as well, it's uncalled for. And revenge cheating is an immature and selfish solution. It makes you no better than the original cheater and solves nothing.
... (read in full...)
What is the best chat up line?
Q. I need some advice please.. I came out of a long term relationship last august and its all most been a year and i think i am now ready to go and meet some one new so me and some friends are going out on the weekend (first time i have been out pr...
A. 18 May 2009: BE YOURSELF!
You are your own best asset! And if that does not work,,,try comedy. The best line(and still very workable) is complimenting a woman's eyes. and to use comedy with it...its gold.
Such as......
"Your eyes are delicious,... (read in full...)
Fiancee says we are never going to have sex!
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for about 7 months, and we love either other very much, but she told me that we are never going to have sex. I love her and i would never cheat on her. but it is getting to me. We used to fool around but lately ...
A. 18 May 2009: What are you talking about your Fiancee after 7 months?
7 months? Thats hardly enough time to know a bus schedule let alone getting engaged. And with this sex thing, are you sure she is even aware you are even engaged? I don't mean to sound fli... (read in full...)
Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 13 May 2009: A Half truth is still a whole lie.
Yeah, since he was concerned how you felt about it, he decided to keep it from you.
Callie, this guy is so full of shit his teeth are floating. Of course he manipulated you, and made you feel guilty.
THAT... (read in full...)
Evidence of cheating on his cellphone, how do I confront him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. Last weekend while visting my boyfriend, I snooped in his cell phone. I had a gut feeling for a few months that something might be up , but everything he said seeme...
A. 3 May 2009: Ok Callie, so you found out he's been texting. One thing I have to say here is that as much as you may not want to hear this...in the end LDRs never work. It didnt in my case, and it was disasterous. I was much in the same boat you were. Whether ... (read in full...)
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