He called me a selfish bitch because I don't want to have sex
Q. So I told my boyfriend that I don't want to do anything sexual with him mainly because it makes me feel uncomfortable. Well he gets mad at me cause I told him earlier I was going to gave him my virginity but I realize I wasn't ready. He called me a ...
A. 6 June 2009: GOOD!
he was not deserving of your love in the first place!
Please know that not all men are like that, just little boys. And you do what you need to do to heal from this incident that your moron EX-boyfriend started.
(believe me, say it a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to porn. How can I help him?
Q. Help my boyfriend is obsessed with porn? am with my boyfriend 2 half years, and i had alot problems. woman has been big threat in our relationship cas of cheating and him having them as friends. my boyfriend also loves porn never stop looki...
A. 6 June 2009: To anonymous...I stated I wanted numbers to prove these statistics, and instead I got attacked.
These were your words.
"I guess your case and many others back this statistic up".
so where are they? Where is the empirical evidence?
S... (read in full...)
Wondering how people's 'first times' were?
Q. Okay so I've been awfully curious about how different first times having sex has gone. This isn't like an advice needed thing. I would just like to hear how male and female first times went. Did you regret it after? What made you feel like you were ...
A. 5 June 2009: Oh for me it was "rumblin, bumblin, and stumblin!" It was well over 30 years ago for me, and I can only say I was a "one pump chump". Yep I blew my load before I got my downstroke. Mine was with an 18 year old girl when I was 13. I remember being... (read in full...)
How can I show and prove how sorry I am?
Q. i realy dont no what to do anymore im with my boyfriend over a year now i have done a lot a things on him witch i am really really sorry for. see it hasnt been the same since he found out i cheated on him with my ex but hes even more mad abo...
A. 4 June 2009: Young lady,
If you were an adult, I would be berating you, but you are not an adult, so to do that would serve no purpose,I want you to learn from it.
You ask how you can fix this? I want to ask you about these feelings of guilt that you h... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this friends' zone?
Q. So i've liked this girl for awhile now. We started out as friends what I usually do with girls. I don't fall for someone till I get to know them. We've been friends for about a year now, these feelings for her didnt start right away. I told her one ...
A. 4 June 2009: You simply have got to stop communicating with her, because with what she is telling you, it is only a matter of time that she uses you for an excuse to cheat on her boyfriend.
After all that she has told you about not wanting to ruin your fri... (read in full...)
I can't stay away from him because of my feelings
Q. hello. I really need some advice and help! I broke up with my boyfriend back in March and I was devestated. I started to like a new guy to try and get over the ex. After a while, this new guy seemed to be interested. He was very difficult to ...
A. 4 June 2009: Oh dear,
So let me ask you, do you think because you met this guy and started with him so soon after your last breakup that he was anything more than a rebound?
I only ask because the time frame was pretty short between the "devastating bre... (read in full...)
I want a threesome and my wife feels it too
Q. I am a normal guy, with a good professional career in Banglore. I fantasize a lot about sharing my wife with other men in a threesome fashion, and also about watching her have sex with other men. It has become such a strong part of my sexual life ...
A. 4 June 2009: Well I can only say that from experience, that you may want to be careful for what you wish for.
Simply put, you have to be mentally able to handle watching your wife with another man. In my situations in Three ways I was not married, so being ma... (read in full...)
Men, are you able to forgive your lady for insulting you?
Q. I know we women are emotional creatures and could forgive easily. Men, how easily is it especially if you are the cause of her frustration and have done some things to hurt you. She said some hurtful words like calling you an "idiot", stupid, using ...
A. 4 June 2009: Well I am sorry that he has cheated on you in the past. I have always maintained that cheating is a deal breaker for me, simply because if someone cheats on you, they don't respect you. But regardless, that is strike one against him, and I cant ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to porn. How can I help him?
Q. Help my boyfriend is obsessed with porn? am with my boyfriend 2 half years, and i had alot problems. woman has been big threat in our relationship cas of cheating and him having them as friends. my boyfriend also loves porn never stop looki...
A. 4 June 2009: Excuse me, Poster who is giving props to Naomi Wolf, although you bring up a valid point or two, how can you put so much credence in a woman who not only is not a professional therapist but claims she has recently assumed the form of a 13 year old ... (read in full...)
Men, are you able to forgive your lady for insulting you?
Q. I know we women are emotional creatures and could forgive easily. Men, how easily is it especially if you are the cause of her frustration and have done some things to hurt you. She said some hurtful words like calling you an "idiot", stupid, using ...
A. 4 June 2009: I wouldn't stand for it if I did nothing wrong. That woman would be out of my life, permanently.
I could accept it if I cheated on my woman, stole money from her, beat her or embarrassed her in public and cost her something like a job
B... (read in full...)
I want to come to America to pursue my dream!
Q. when i grow up i want to be a racing car driver and the cars i want to drive are in america. I want to go over to america so i can get used to racing in america but my parents don't want me to be a racing driver but my sister says that she would ...
A. 4 June 2009: Well, parents have a natural tendency to want to not see their children in dangerous professions. I think this most likely is the case. However, you wont be the first young man to go against their wishes if and when you do hop the pond. But remem... (read in full...)
I really liked him, thought he likes me - but he's married!!!
Q. hi hope someone can offer their advice. i work with a guy and have only known him since february. since he joined and especially over the last 2 monts i have found myself physically and mentally attracted to him. he chats to me all the time and we ...
A. 4 June 2009: "For your information grimm reality, i was not avoiding the issue this am, i had a meeting to go to. and where in my post did i say he is totally to blame - NOWHERE"
Oh really? Lets go to the videotape...LOL
"I'd prefer it if you d... (read in full...)
She's pushing me away..unsure what to do about it
Q. Ok! She goes 2 school from 7 to 6 mondays thru thrusdays! And her parents own a drive thru and they r open 7 days a week! She works after she gets out of school to help her parents! And da little time she has we spend it together! She says she loves ...
A. 3 June 2009: Well in light of the additional information you provided, I can safely say that you have your answer for sure then. If she didn't want anything serious in the first place and you agreed, why are you even worried about her pushing you away? Yo... (read in full...)
He called me a selfish bitch because I don't want to have sex
Q. So I told my boyfriend that I don't want to do anything sexual with him mainly because it makes me feel uncomfortable. Well he gets mad at me cause I told him earlier I was going to gave him my virginity but I realize I wasn't ready. He called me a ...
A. 3 June 2009: I agree with Army Medic...(what's this...GrimmReality actually agreeing with somebody?)
You? Selfish? Then calls you a bitch?
If those were the words out of your BF's mouth he deserves to be throttled. Kudos to you young lady for going aga... (read in full...)
If they are just friends then why is he lying about it?
Q. My BF had met a woman 5 years ago over seas (before me) and kept in touch. When we met he mentioned that he slept with her and they had sent some intense emails about him moving there etc. Well now he's with me and she emailed him asking to visit ...
A. 3 June 2009: He is intent on screwing her when she lands at the airport. He is a liar, plain and simple. What more proof do you need?
The curb....find the nearest one and dump this asshole off at it. and don't look back.... (read in full...)
She's pushing me away..unsure what to do about it
Q. Ok! She goes 2 school from 7 to 6 mondays thru thrusdays! And her parents own a drive thru and they r open 7 days a week! She works after she gets out of school to help her parents! And da little time she has we spend it together! She says she loves ...
A. 3 June 2009: It's simple...
Young man, she is trying to give you an out(i.e. she is already in the process of phasing you out as her boyfriend)and she is giving you every indication that she wants you to end it so she wont feel so guilty. When she is using th... (read in full...)
I really liked him, thought he likes me - but he's married!!!
Q. hi hope someone can offer their advice. i work with a guy and have only known him since february. since he joined and especially over the last 2 monts i have found myself physically and mentally attracted to him. he chats to me all the time and we ...
A. 3 June 2009: "I'd prefer it if you didn't come across as saying i'm the villain. i have NOT done or said anything to encourage him, i chat with him as i do everyone else. don't say i have to avoid him as we work together and that is going to be absolutely ... (read in full...)
I feel inferior to my boyfriend because of his popular social life
Q. this may sound very stupid but i feel inferior to my boyfriend in terms of friends and social life. my boyfriend is the kind of guy everyone likes- he's friendly, funny and confident and can hang out with anyone in our grade. the thing is that i'm ...
A. 3 June 2009: Oh dear,
no, no, no...don't you ever feel inferior. I do understand how you feel though. Just realize that at the age group you are in, that so many young boys and girls never take things like this into consideration. And it does suck to be known... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to porn. How can I help him?
Q. Help my boyfriend is obsessed with porn? am with my boyfriend 2 half years, and i had alot problems. woman has been big threat in our relationship cas of cheating and him having them as friends. my boyfriend also loves porn never stop looki...
A. 3 June 2009: First off...Porn is not evil, it is how it is consumed that is either bad or good.
Second, if he has a problem,. he can only stop for himself not for you or anyone else. It does not mean you have to put up with it if you find it objectio... (read in full...)
He cheated, we got engaged. Then I cheated but he doesn't know!
Q. I need help, i am 22 years old and i've been in a relationship with my boyfriend/fiance since highschool (6 yrs) he was my first everything. I was so in love with him, I thought we'd be together forever, but the last few months have been rocky for ...
A. 3 June 2009: No actually your whole post consists of you trying to justify it. Have you read it?
It doesen't matter. You sank to the same level as he did by cheating. revenge cheating never solves anything because the original damage is already done, and it d... (read in full...)
I really liked him, thought he likes me - but he's married!!!
Q. hi hope someone can offer their advice. i work with a guy and have only known him since february. since he joined and especially over the last 2 monts i have found myself physically and mentally attracted to him. he chats to me all the time and we ...
A. 3 June 2009: Well you better UNTHINK ABOUT HIM!
Not only is it insane to think that this is going to go anywhere, but I get the feeling you are trying to talk yourself into sleeping with him.
Take a look at your post.
Don't go down that road. Forget a... (read in full...)
He got another woman pregnant, we have no trust, I'm second to his son... do I leave?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years on and off. during our off period of 6 months he got another woman pregnant, he did not tell me until we had been back together for three months, by that time the child was 2wks old. I feel very ...
A. 3 June 2009: Im sorry this happened to you. Yes he is a liar and got back with you under false pretenses. You owe him nothing, and if he hid this from you, God knows what else he is hiding?
And just because it was nine months total, it either means he got... (read in full...)
I find older women very attractive, is there anything wrong with that?
Q. Ok im 18 f i have this problem. I seem to find older women attractive but i simply cant be coz its just wrong it says in the Bible. I dont know what to do. Please help!...
A. 3 June 2009: Huh? What? The bible is bigoted against old farts like me?
I don't know where that came from, but not even the Satatnic Bible would go for that. Its perfectly normal to find attraction to an older woman, but not too old lest you be cruising... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilty and afraid I'm going to start an affair! But I can't bear the thought of never seeing him again!
Q. Hi Just looking for some friendly advice... Im 18 and have left school officially, still in school for study time until next week. Like many other posters on this site, there is this teacher I am interested in; and so on, you get the picture...
A. 3 June 2009: OH B.S.
WAKE UP!
He's married and he will never leave his wife. Don't be stupid and do this. You have so much more to life than wrecking a marriage right out of high school! And believe me, young lady, no matter how it goes down, you are go... (read in full...)
What gives with her? Is she trying to make me jealous or what?
Q. I have been talking to this girl for over six months, somewhere around there we had a problem which began a lot of tension from there on, now she will talk to me if I want to talk to her and go places with me if I want to go places, etc but I have ...
A. 3 June 2009: First off, you have written the longest sentence I have seen in years...lol
Paragraphs are your friend, young man.
Secondly, you are "talking" to her. That means according to you that you and her are not exclusive. So in reality she is a... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him since we set our date
Q. I'm 22 (female). Met this great guy online and we chatted practically everyday last week! I think he's interested in me. On Saturday we set a date for this upcoming Thursday and I'm excited to finally meet him! He hasn't written to me si...
A. 3 June 2009: Try calling him.maybe something happened to him.....or......maybe he is just full of crap. It has happened to people before (myself included). My best guess is that if you dont hear from him tomorrow that you wont hear from him at all, or get the ... (read in full...)
Would this be considered cheating or unfaithfull?
Q. Well over the weekend my husband and his co-workers threw a retirement/55th B-day party for his work friend "Corey" that they threw at the beach. We had games,alcohol,food and all the typical beach party gear.When we were playing volleyball on a few ...
A. 3 June 2009: Do I think its cheating?
YES!
You think this is acceptable behavior?
Lay off the booze, and grow the hell up.
... (read in full...)
Can someone fall in love just by chatting?
Q. I know that guy from msn for around six months he told me that he is into me in the next day we chatted I told him that can't be real as he barely knows me I'm 18 and he is 27 he asked for my phone number millions of time I gave it to him.now he ...
A. 3 June 2009: Tread carefully! He may be in love with the feelings you give him, but please do not even consider his proposal. People easily can feel something very strong at the other end of the computer. It is fairly common. I would consider that in r... (read in full...)
Dating a bisexual man
Q. Hmmm... well let's see. I have just very recently started seeing a great guy. He is somewhat older than me, but has also told me that he is bisexual, and has slept with men in the past. At the same time, all of our conversations have been very ...
A. 3 June 2009: Why don't you just ask him! And the other poster is right. Sexuality is not a choice. He is not going to just wake up one morning and decide that he isn't going to bump uglies with another guy.
And yes, Bi-sexual (and gay men as well) tend to ... (read in full...)
Am I reading more into this than is there?
Q. I am friends with a married man and he has just come back from an overseas work trip,but while he was there we kept in touch thru email - just very basic stuff like saying how much fun he was having, where he was going etc. Just a few sentences ...
A. 3 June 2009: Well at least you recognize the feeling. Now recognize the feeling you are gonna have if you let your thoughts get the best of you......Not good feelings huh? A crystal ball that looks into the future and sees you getting surprised by Joey Greco and ... (read in full...)
Abusive b/f and his sponging family
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 yrs. i'm 40 and he's 38.Most of the relationship has been very abusive both physical and emotional. He's been arrested 3 times as a result. his family treats me well as long as there's barbecues,parties,or ...
A. 3 June 2009: What do you mean any future? did you read your own question?
It's simple.....GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE!
You can be angry and depressed later, AFTER you get away form this abusive situation.
Why would you even think about staying around? "Bec... (read in full...)
Flirting problem
Q. I'm in a relationship with an assistant manager that I love a lot. So, in order to keep this going I have to keep it a secret from the head manager and other co-workers. So I started flirting with another assistant and his friend that is a cook and ...
A. 3 June 2009: Anonymous is dead on here.
Young lady, having a romantic relationship is bad enough at work, but with a superior it just makes the situation worse. why on earth could you possibly think that flirting with others to deflect them from discover... (read in full...)
Will I ever get another girlfriend?
Q. Hi, I'm eighteen, just graduated from high school, and have a full-ride scholarship to Juilliard; I play concert piano. I'm 6'2" and 195 lbs. I've only ever had one girlfriend and we broke up last year after only two months together. We still have ...
A. 3 June 2009: Julliard attending concert pianist...wondering if he's gonna get another GF. Young man, we should all be so lucky. At your age, you have the world ahead of you. And if you are talented enough to get into Julliard, in a few years you will have mo... (read in full...)
Why do I not care enough to show my husband affection?
Q. Why do I not care enough to show my husband affection? I love him more than anything in the world but I cannot meet his needs regarding communication, companionship and sexual fulfillment. Sometimes I feel like I just don't care to do anything to ...
A. 3 June 2009: Have you considered Marriage Counseling? even though you ask yourself what is the matter with you, it may in fact be with the both of you. It took both of you to arrive at this point, dont forget that and don't assume all of the blame. Id try Ma... (read in full...)
Is it weird to call a guy's penis a "penis"?
Q. this is a really random question and not that big of a deal - i'm just curious... but i read in a girl magazine once that guys don't like for you to call their dick a "penis" when you're screwing around because it's too anatomically correct and ...
A. 3 June 2009: Well lets see, It is a penis, thus will be called a penis. Do you feel that you don't want to use two syllable words while having sex? lol. Please feel free to use the following: Dick Cock Member Phallus Spear Lance Pork Sword Car... (read in full...)
How do I cope with the fact that I was raped by my husband?
Q. The thing that I am having the hardest time dealing with is the fact that I was raped... by my husband. Everyone that I know is always saying "how can you be raped by your spouse?" Well, I would like to know if it is ok for me to feel like I am ...
A. 3 June 2009: Crazy Uncool is putting it LIGHTLY! I am so sorry, but you have got to tell the authorities, for a CRIME has been committed. THAT IS THE ONLY WAY THIS CAN GET RESOLVED. NO means NO in any circumstance. You have got to go to the police. No i... (read in full...)
A lover's rectangle? My dentist, his affair, his wife and me!
Q. Dear aunt agony , Last year I chaned my dentist. He is cute and I instantly fell for him . I lost my sleep and apetite , it has been a year now but whenever I see him I get jitters in my knees. Since he is my neighbor , I know he is married. A...
A. 3 June 2009: Are you serious? How old are you again? Have you been reading those Harlequin Novels again between watching "Maury" and "Jerry Springer"? You control your feelings for him by acting like an adult, and keeping your libido in check and your mouth a... (read in full...)
I can't I seem to forgive him? Please help me! He is the love of my life!
Q. To keep this to the point here are the facts: Subject: I can't seem to forgive or forget my boyfriends past actions. Term: dating about 18 months Actions: one incident of text flirting with a local girl, one incident of sexual email exchang...
A. 3 June 2009: Well thank goodness. Anyway, how can you know for sure that he hasnt met anyone.
I only say that because Social sites like FB and Myspace are relationship killers. People can seemly be perfectly happy in their relationship, then see some image of... (read in full...)
He wants our relationship a secret!
Q. My boyfriend wants our relationship to be a secret and freaked out when my friend put up pictures of us on facebook, what should i do?...
A. 3 June 2009: Get yourself a new boyfriend. If he is secretive and flipping his wig over facebook, you are most likely not the only one that considers herself his girlfriend. Please don't listen to any lame excuses when you ask him, which you should.
Thats... (read in full...)
I can't I seem to forgive him? Please help me! He is the love of my life!
Q. To keep this to the point here are the facts: Subject: I can't seem to forgive or forget my boyfriends past actions. Term: dating about 18 months Actions: one incident of text flirting with a local girl, one incident of sexual email exchang...
A. 2 June 2009: Well you are not alone.
BUT:
You already caught him after pretending to be someone else. After you had discovered his sexual emails. You see, he is using the net to get potential hookups in case you dont work out.
the reality is that y... (read in full...)
Promising relationship off to a rocky start
Q. I'm facing a difficult problem. The guy I am currently with slept with someone else. He did NOT "cheat" because we weren't committed to each other at the time. But we were involved, and he knew I had been cheated on in my past relationship, so I ...
A. 2 June 2009: No there is not, because you chose to tell him to not feel guilty about "hitting it off" you gave him a green light to go ahead and do this anyway. Her may never have done it, but most guys when given those words, look upon that as an ok to go out ... (read in full...)
Is there any way of finding a random stranger to do it with?
Q. my boyfriend has asked me to have a threesome and im fine with it cos ill try anything once but he wants me to ask one of my friends and im not really confortable with the idea of it being a friend so i was wondering is there any way of finding a ...
A. 2 June 2009: try the internet...you are here already. Im sure you can go to Craig's List or Myspace and find a stranger to swap body fluids with!. I am sure it's one click away? I just want to ask are you sure it's what you want? At your age, are you mature e... (read in full...)
Went swimming with cousin, had sex, then went home to my wife
Q. Hi, I was visiting family in another part of the country this weekend, and my cousin and I had to go to another town to run an errand. Whilst driving back, through open countryside, we stopped for a drink and a cigarette, and noticed a gorgeous ...
A. 2 June 2009: Wow I have heard it all now...."to my shame, I soon had an erection":.
What a bunch of bullshit. You don't just "stop by the pond" and decide to skinny dip with your cousin!
And on top of it all...she says no one will ever find out, you bone you... (read in full...)
Promising relationship off to a rocky start
Q. I'm facing a difficult problem. The guy I am currently with slept with someone else. He did NOT "cheat" because we weren't committed to each other at the time. But we were involved, and he knew I had been cheated on in my past relationship, so I ...
A. 2 June 2009: Couple questions....
did he offer this information, or did you get wind of it and ask him about the other woman?
If he has no history with this woman, and just hooked up then what makes you think he wont try to convince himself the next time it... (read in full...)
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