Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife?
Q. Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife? Is it just because they can't resist a beautiful person? Is it because they aren't fully committed? Well then, why did they get married in the first place? Is it because their spouse changes? I love my...
A. 15 August 2009: Oh I agree we all function differently. Thats why I posted about each of us having their own threshold. And yours appears to be very high. Just hope for the best, and prepare for the worst. I don't think you insecure at all. Your high threshold p... (read in full...)
Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife?
Q. Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife? Is it just because they can't resist a beautiful person? Is it because they aren't fully committed? Well then, why did they get married in the first place? Is it because their spouse changes? I love my...
A. 15 August 2009: Once again, as I have stated before, everyone has their threshold of how much BS they will take from their partner. some will take a huge amount and stay with their partner because the devil they know is better than the devil they dont.
Many ... (read in full...)
My husband seems to have taken a vacation from work just to sit around all day eating and watching porn!
Q. My husband has taken 6 weeks off work. Nothing odd about that you may think, after all we all have to have a holiday, don't we? Well, it's his behaviour that's worrying me. He just sits in front of the television eating nachos, corn c...
A. 15 August 2009: There could in fact be a medical reson, but I am inclined to agree with those who are saying that he may have lost his job and you are going to be the last one to find out.
What control do you have over your finances? do you see a regular paycheck... (read in full...)
What is causing my low sex drive? Has anyone else had this problem before?
Q. I've had a low sex drive recently. Usually my desire for sex is very high, and whenever I go without sex for long periods it only increases. Recently I've gotten into a relationship with someone. We have had sex together, but it wasn't all that ...
A. 15 August 2009: Go see a doctor...you may have E.D.
Other than that if you dont want to seek medical help maybe you could use some Amyl Nitrate. That will get your Libido up... (read in full...)
Does a man know when his mate has had sex with another?
Q. Does my man feel it when I've just had sex with someone else,maybe a day or two ago?...
A. 15 August 2009: Im sorry, Boitumelo, but I don't swing at fastballs! Any one here on this forum can tell you that. You should consider yourself lucky I don't. LMAO!!!
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Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife?
Q. Why do men/women cheat on their husband/wife? Is it just because they can't resist a beautiful person? Is it because they aren't fully committed? Well then, why did they get married in the first place? Is it because their spouse changes? I love my...
A. 15 August 2009:
We cheat because we care for no one but ourselves.
Simple as that... (read in full...)
Do I have a problem or my hormones running rampant or what?
Q. Why is it so hard to stay faithful? It's almost as if I can't control it. Is it because I'm young maybe? I'm in a new relationship (I just got divorced after a year if that matters, so I was tied down) with a wonderful woman, she has everything I ...
A. 14 August 2009: You don't have a hormonal problem, you have a maturity problem. Its called taking responsibility for your actions. Sounds to me like you will cheat if given the opportunity. Id suggest before you do so to cut things off with the female you are ... (read in full...)
What do you think of our situation? I'm cheating with a girl who can't leave her relationship
Q. im dating a girl but she has a boyfriend. she told me the first time we met so she never lied to me. we talk everyday and we like each other a lot.. she tells me that she likes me more but shes been with him for 5 years now and she cant just ...
A. 12 August 2009: You reap what you sow. You will be left along the way. and why would you want to be with someone whom you cheated with? she will do it to you as well..
Grow up, be a man, be honest with yourself....no good is coming out of this.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that my cheating on my LDR boyfriend will come back to haunt me! What can I do?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2years. We have been on a long distance relationship. But 7months ago my boyfriend kept distance and he barely communicated with me. So ididnt know what to think about our relationship. I tried to talk to him but ...
A. 12 August 2009: Try being honest.
LDR's rarely if ever work. And really if you cheated on him you dont love him. That is simply impossible.
Please grow up, tell him and accept the consequences of your actions. why should he suffer for what you did?... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too perfect a relationship???
Q. Basically before this guy, i didnt believe in serious relationships in your adolescence. i met him freshmen year and now we're going into junior year and still together, even though i switched schools. our relationship has been nearly perfect with ...
A. 12 August 2009: Count your lucky stars...adulthood will bring a whole host of other problems that you haven't run across. I say you should be happy with what you have, becuase as you get older you will realise it most likely will never be this good again.... (read in full...)
Was lied to about wife being a prostitute...
Q. Hello, I've been married to my wife for 6 years. Right when we met and started dating, she told me she had been a prostitute for one night, and felt so bad she never did it again. Throughout our marriage, she's lied to me about a few things (n...
A. 12 August 2009: Well only through actions, and not words can you begin to trust her again.
Id certainly be very wary about this. Also as bad as this sounds, I think now would be a good time that you get tested for STD's. Sadly some can lie dormant for years.
... (read in full...)
How do I trust my boyfriend again after his sex addiction?
Q. I need advice on how to deal with my boyfriends sexual addiction. He is currently in therapy, has been for about a month and a half. How do I begin to trust him again? ...
A. 12 August 2009: Actions not words....
Anyone can tell you anything, but only actions will regain your trust. Hold him to his promises.... (read in full...)
Stay in a sexless marraige or take a chance?
Q. I;m only in my early forties ,and my husband does not want to have any sexual contact with me due to some unclear psychological problems. I need sex, i don't believe in cheating, shoud I leave him? It is a tragedy for me, I never thought it will tur...
A. 7 August 2009: If you have exhausted all your options(Marriage Counselling being a huge part of that) and if you can walk away with your head high saying that you tried every single thing you could, then under no circumstances should you stay in a loveless ... (read in full...)
Why do I suddenly feel guilty after masturbating?
Q. I started masturbating when I was 13 years old, and have never felt any guilt about it until recently (8 years later). It feels great and I don't feel bad while I'm doing it, but afterward I now find that I am feeling very guilty/ashamed/embarrassed ...
A. 7 August 2009: Well considering that you are still pretty young, and also considering that you believe in the Sexuality Spectrum, there may be a couple of things.
Think back to your more formative years, when your peers lacked a lot of maturity, The taunts t... (read in full...)
My partner prefers brunnettes but I'm blonde?
Q. Hi, I need to talk to my partner about this but he gets angry however this is driving me insane i need to talk to him about it or write him an email in a away that he can fully understand me and not shout at me. I have been with my boyfriend ...
A. 5 August 2009: I am sure it drives you nuts, as we men are pretty much a superficial lot.
But in reality, he is with you, isnt he?
Kc100 put it in great terms with the last paragraph of her post... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for girls to watch porn?
Q. Another problem for ye. People think its weird if you/a girl watches porn. I personaly think its natural and everyone should be doing it!! Is there something wrong with me? Or is it them? Am I normal? Is it wrong to look at those kind of things? ...
A. 5 August 2009: Young lady,
As I have stated before(and as an adult website owner) that Pornagraphy in and of itself is neither benevolent or malevolent. It is how the consumer uses it that determines for them whether it is one or the other. Actually my membersh... (read in full...)
I'm 13, I want this 20-year-old to like me, is this OK??
Q. So im 13 going to be 14 and theres this guy that i like but hes 20 and he always come over or we always text my uncle knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like this dude and we he always listens to my problems and ...
A. 5 August 2009: I wish you could have watched Steve Wilkos today. The show today was about a 14 year old girl and her 19 year old live in boyfriend. The mother allowed the BF to live in the house with them under the guise of being a room mate. She was so naive she ... (read in full...)
Why don't I want him to date even though I dumped him?
Q. Well.....I dumped my BF for my EX and well.....he put on his profile that he was single on his website and im jealous cause i still have feelings for him and it seems like i just can't let go of him and i got REALLY jealous and i talked to him about ...
A. 5 August 2009: Cheerleader,
Take solice knowing that maybe since they showed their true colors that you dont need to be around these type of people or situations. They probably did you a favor by showing their true colors..those are people you dont need.
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I just found out that my boyfriend slept with my mom!
Q. This may sound a little sick and twisted and that's cause it is. My boyfriend was my brothers best friend growing up (he's 10 yrs older than me). He's been a friend of the family for years. We have been together going on 4 yrs (no kids or talks ...
A. 5 August 2009: You simply have to make your choice whether or not that this is something that 1) you can move past and 2) feel comfortable in remaining with your BF.
Gosh this must be such an agonizing decision for you, and I really do feel for your plight. ... (read in full...)
How can I feel more positive and stop feeling so down?
Q. I'm think I'm really depressed. I've been thinking about life, about how the good guys die. MLK-shot, JFK-shot, John Lennon-shot, Reagen-wounded. I think about how there's no god. I'm the funny guy in school, everyone thinks I'm happy. Reminds me of ...
A. 4 August 2009: What the hell are you griping about kid, you didn't have to live through Reagan!
Reagan deserves nothing but contempt for his policies...I think you need to go back to history class.
Alexander Haig almost pulled off a coup because our bum... (read in full...)
All he wants to do is play his x-box!
Q. hello aunts...ive been married for about 8 months now and he's not the husband i married..he doesnt hit me or anything like that. But he was really sweet at first and did everything with and we always had sex everyday. But now all he does is work ...
A. 4 August 2009: Tell him that he gets rid of the X box or you are gonna go out and get somebody to put their joystick in your box. See how fast he shuts the Xbox off if you say that..SCARE HIM..He is complacent!
people do not change behavior unless they fear lo... (read in full...)
What can I say to make my GF stay away from this guy?
Q. I think I may be having trouble with jealousy. I've been dating a girl that I'm crazy about for nearly a month, and there's one situation that's bothering me. Prior to being with me, she was "seeing" another guy, but they weren't dating - they ...
A. 4 August 2009: Yeah, you can tell her that its unfair to you that she wants to still hang with a guy she was dating for a year. This "he is just a friend" is about as old as dirt for crappy excuses, and no she wont listen because she is still seeing him and y... (read in full...)
I miss my teacher and I feel bad because I think about him more than I do about my family!
Q. I miss my teacher because he moved. I cry at night thinking that I will never see him again. But i feel bad because I think of him more than I do about my family members that have died. what should I do?...
A. 4 August 2009: Well I think probably because the teacher has made a big impact on you in a positive way. being that I see your gender is male and you must be in perhaps 9th or 10th grade maybe this teacher made you perform at your best, or gave you the motivation ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he get divorced?
Q. I rarely ever ask questions, but this problem is a bit confusing to me. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. We both talk to our previous significant others except he tries to keep his contact secret because he knows it irritates me. ...
A. 4 August 2009: He doesent get divorced because it would cost him more in the,long run financially. And you will put up with it. Oh you will post here, but have you put your foot down with him? Have you? ACTION NOT WORDS! Id rather be alone and uncertain in... (read in full...)
I've dated, inpregnated, in love with, and proposing marriage to a possible half sister!
Q. hi. i'm 23, male, and looking for some advice for a situation that could be really great, or really awkward. i was adopted and raised an only child. i had a vague recollection of my birth mother having another child before me, by a different bio ...
A. 4 August 2009: You are pretty much going to have to submit to a blood test anywhere in the US if you want to get married legally. And probably most countries ion the Western Hemisphere. I think just to be safe that you should be looking into what types ... (read in full...)
Why don't I want him to date even though I dumped him?
Q. Well.....I dumped my BF for my EX and well.....he put on his profile that he was single on his website and im jealous cause i still have feelings for him and it seems like i just can't let go of him and i got REALLY jealous and i talked to him about ...
A. 4 August 2009: Young lady, its simply the age you are at.
Its natural to have second thoughts about our decisions?
I just had a second thought that maybe I should not have put my boot in the eye of that gangbanger who lives down the street this afternoon. ... (read in full...)
I'm affraid he will leave me if I stop acting like a pornstar for him
Q. My boyfriend/fiance of nearly 3 years has always been very kind to me, but I do not know how to get him to treat me like a woman rather than a sex object. I will dress sexy for him and do my hair and makeup, and yes I am very sexual, but he is ...
A. 4 August 2009: WHAT? Why would you want to stick around with this Bum. He sounds like quite a catch to me...a catch you want to throw back in the water. or flush down a toilet. Yep you got a winner on your hands. Well when you decide that you want to be... (read in full...)
Online dating. Should I give up on this fantasy?
Q. well theres this guy i have been with for about 3 months now.. we are online dating. we never met but we promised we will no matter what... he is great and he is the best guy i ever met and i hope one day we will actually end up together.. i know i ...
A. 4 August 2009: In dealing with online relationships, its best to get the initial meeting out of the way and should happen sooner rather than later.
Make him commit to a meeting. Any hesitation, or backpedalling on his part will indicate that he may not be for r... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 4 August 2009: Kid, this girl is so full of shit her teeth are floating.
BUT: Now you have evidence(that will be admissable in a court of Law) about her saying that she waited around for this guy to look up a law on a computer? In light of that, it would be ... (read in full...)
Why is it ok for guys to pleasure themselves but women are considered dirty?
Q. I was wondering why it is so publicly excepted for guys to pleasure themselves and nobody will think anything of it except that they're just being a guy, but when a girl does she is considered dirty, or a slut. What is the difference between ...
A. 4 August 2009: Oh dear...Brenna don't believe a word they say. Tell them they are a bunch of Jackoffs... (read in full...)
Should I leave him, or are our problems partly my fault?
Q. I'm feeling very low and rundown and i blame my husband for the majority of our problems as i feel increasingly bitter towards him, i don't know if i should pull myself together and stop being so selfish or if it really is him thats being ...
A. 3 August 2009: Wait a second....
You have 4 kids with the oldest 6, and you have had these money problems...and this has been going on for how long?
Well he needs to seriously get a grip and swallow his pride. If he has to work for someone else, so be ... (read in full...)
His mum offers him a porn mag and I can't help comparing myself to pornstars
Q. Hi Before me and my bofriend got together 3 years ago, he watched a lot of porn. Now i can't help but compare my body against a porn star. Also i don't know whether my boyfriend is still watching porn. I was once at his house and his mum asked hi...
A. 3 August 2009: Rather than concentrating on the porn, the issue is that this guys mum does not like you. That is painfully obvious. she gives him mags because its her way of telling her son that she does not want him dating YOU! But I am going to go out on a li... (read in full...)
Shes twice my age! Does this matter?
Q. Shes twice my age! is this an issue? ive recently started seeing an older women shes 40 im 20 i never even really considered actualy dating someone older was all a fantasy but its become real. we been meeting and chatting for a few months and we ...
A. 3 August 2009: RifRaf is right. Im 44 and the current woman I am seeing is 21, and the one before her was 20.
I am fully aware that my relationships are for the most part short term, and I am ok with it.
Its about having realistic expectations,and yes you have... (read in full...)
Am I being dramatic or am I right?
Q. me and my fiance have been together for a year and a half and lived together for a year,in the past week we have pretty much split up because i went to my parents house for a few drinks he was invited but decided he didnt want to come,just as i was ...
A. 3 August 2009: You have every right to be pissed!
That was a little too contrived on his part. Listen sweety, Im a guy...Im telling you that whole "got bored and going out" was designed to not include you, for whatever reason.
You dont need these games...I ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for having a problem with this woman calling my husband all the time??
Q. Recently i found out my husband has a female friend who talks to on the phone and texts. One night i pretended to be him and texted her tha last text i sent was that i m going in my bed now before my wife starts to quarrel. next morning he is calli...
A. 3 August 2009: You need to get copies of these messages, dopwnload them to a disk and SEE A LAWYER!
He is cheating on you!
Dont sit on your hands...don't be afraid to strike out on your own. This will continue if you don't do something...he is playing you f... (read in full...)
We do 'stuff' and I get an erection. How do I prevent it?
Q. Hi everyone, so ive been dating this girl for a little while now and have decided to not have sex or anything until we're both 16 in october. Anyway, the question is about other stuff....basically we make out, cuddle and stuff and most of the time...
A. 3 August 2009: In the United States, it is a common practice to serve convicts in prisons food laced with salt peter, after which the Guards like to pump Porno movies into the Prison Closed Circuit TV System, leaving the cons frustrated and the guards laughing.
... (read in full...)
Update: What do you think now?
Q. Hi just some updates on whats been going on please tell me if you think things are going well thankyou. 2 nights ago i went over to her house about ten then left at 4 in the morning. txt her to tell her i got home safe and made a joke about havin...
A. 3 August 2009: I think you are getting all sorts of mixed signals. Id just be friends with her for now, for she seems to change her mind from one day to the next...move on.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was talking about marriage and then out of the blue he decided he has concerns about the relationship!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for a while, and lately things have gotten quite serious, he's been telling me that his mum would love me, and jokingly asking if i will marry him, then out of the blue he said he wants to talk through som...
A. 3 August 2009: because for guys there are women that are Girlfriends and women that are potentially wives. They are not the same. Some women are great Girfriends to have, and terrible wives to have. Girlfriends generally don't have too many problems with the whole ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my affair with an older man?
Q. I am 26 years of age have 2 children aged 1 year and 4 years. Ive been with my husband since I was 17 and have been married 3 years.He is 33 years old. I started an affair 2 months ago with someone at my work he is 50+ he wont tell me his age.It is ...
A. 3 August 2009: You want to know what you should do? Let me ask you a couple of questions before I answer yours...
What did YOU do to try to save your marriage?
Did YOU suggest counseling with your husband?
Did YOU communicate with him that you weren't hap... (read in full...)
Why is it ok for guys to pleasure themselves but women are considered dirty?
Q. I was wondering why it is so publicly excepted for guys to pleasure themselves and nobody will think anything of it except that they're just being a guy, but when a girl does she is considered dirty, or a slut. What is the difference between ...
A. 3 August 2009: Brenna, where did you get this idea? Uncle Phil (aka Buzzkill...lol) hit it right on the head(no pun intended) with the analogy of masturbation being common to all people. Maybe some are a little more embarrassed than others about it. But everyone ... (read in full...)
I want him to leave me alone and respect my privacy without feeling that I hate him
Q. I broke-up with my ex two years ago. Two months ago I decided to return all of his things through a third party. I waited that long because I didn't want to talk to him or see him. I returned his things because I'm a christian and I believe keeping ...
A. 3 August 2009: Why on earth did you ever reply to anything he sent in the first place? why would you keep his stuff for two years, and then send it back and NOT expect him to contact you?
AFTER 2 YEARS? WHY?
You talk about not holding grudges and bein... (read in full...)
Does he need to know everything about my sexual past?
Q. A past boyfriend introduced me to phone sex, and when we broke up, I realized it was still a pretty good sexual outlet for me. It seemed problem-free, because I could easily find a guy on the internet, call him from a blocked number, and have an ...
A. 3 August 2009: No.
But if you feel like you may be judged by him, are you sure that this is someone you want to be with? You know, relationships arent worth a crap unless they are full of trust and honesty, along with communication.
So its your choice to t... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex's friend... and now I think my ex wants to get back with me! Should I tell him?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship and everything was great we were in love then he got scared and dumped me ,then wanted me back then dumped me again (long story cut short) ..........months went by i had a little contact which was all saying the ...
A. 3 August 2009: Well, you werent together, so technically it wasn't cheating.
Please dont use the term "I got drunk" and "made a Mistake" in the same sentence.
Please understand that you slept with this guy because you wanted to, not because you were drunk..... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for having a problem with this woman calling my husband all the time??
Q. Recently i found out my husband has a female friend who talks to on the phone and texts. One night i pretended to be him and texted her tha last text i sent was that i m going in my bed now before my wife starts to quarrel. next morning he is calli...
A. 3 August 2009: Married men only keep friends names secret from their wives if they have reason to. In this case, I am afraid he is looking around the lot seeing if he can get a trade in for a new model. Sorry to be so blunt, but I suggest you at least see a lawyer ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 1 August 2009: Leave her alone...regardless of whether she was raped or not, forced by her grandparents to see him or not, the fact remains is this young lady is most likely damaged beyond any help you can give her. Since you aren't a professional, your duties as ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?
Q. I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...
A. 31 July 2009: If she was raped, why didn't she go to the police? If she was raped, why did she see this guy MULTIPLE TIMES?
Simple as that!... (read in full...)
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