My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!
Q. I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...
A. 31 July 2009: Well I will be Devil's Advocate one final time. Actions are louder than words. And her words are to be followed up by actions if she is to be believed. Ive seen this before, so dont go thinking that this is back to normal. Far from it. She ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!
Q. I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...
A. 25 July 2009: Well I think slowly and surely you are starting to come around...but remember if she wants to fix this its up to HER. She screwed up and ACTION, NOT WORDS are the only way she can really if ever win your trust back. I was harsh because I wanted y... (read in full...)
How can I make sex enjoyable for an older woman?
Q. I have come to really like an older woman. She is 12 years older than me. despite our age difference is it ok for us to have sex? How can I make sex enjoyable for an older woman? Ladies who have any experience with younger men please give advice. ...
A. 25 July 2009: First you gotta get her to throw down her walker....If you hadnt said she was 12 years older Id suspect you were hooking up with an 75 year old...(Is it ok to have sex with her?) lol Im just kidding. I think you should really take this opportunity... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!
Q. I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...
A. 25 July 2009: WHY ARE YOU JUSTIFYING THIS? Listen to yourself...do you think that you told her to go be with him becuase you were so insecure that you figured that was the only way to keep her, only to have it backfire? Then you are surprised when she says ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to be honest with me?
Q. Ok, I have been out of town for 2 months for work and I talk to her everyday or at least try to. She says she will call me back and then she does'nt, she tells me she forgets. So when I get home I find out from other people that she has let guy ...
A. 25 July 2009: The homeless shelter? Uh what is that all about. This relationship is D.O.A. She should have been cast as Sgt. Schultz on Hogan's Heroes with all her forgetfullness. The whole camp could have escaped into Heidelburg for the day and come back re... (read in full...)
Married but have found a FWB relationship
Q. I have been married for MANY MANY years. Last year, my husband and I decided to separate, but to stay together as room mates for while due to finances. I found a married man and started an affair with him. My husband decided that he wanted to stay ...
A. 23 July 2009: When people say "please no criticism" or "please don't be rude" they want someone to tell them what they WANT TO HEAR. Nope, this is what you NEED TO HEAR. For you to say that you love your husband but yet are having an affair is just plain d... (read in full...)
How do I stop hurting my boyfriend..I really don't want to be with him anymore
Q. Over the past year or so, my bf and 5 years and I have had 3 of "those" talks. Each time it was about the same thing - whether I still want to be with him or not as I was not showing it. Each time I have assured him that I do love him and want to be ...
A. 23 July 2009: Well, I am going to ask you a question. Not really anywhere in your post did I see that you had even considered couples counselling. What I am trying to say is that is even though you say you aren't in love with him, do you realize that for all the ... (read in full...)
Do I have a problem with cocaine?
Q. If someone spends £230 on cocaine a week would you say they have a problem? It started off as trying it on a night out and im spending atleast £230 a week on it, and i mainly do by myself. I dont really have a family to turn to, all i have is fr...
A. 23 July 2009: I am a recovering addict (8 years clean)...you spend 230 pounds a day on it? Problem? You smoking or snorting? If you are snorting it all the time, other than the addiction you will blow your septum out in a matter of months. Smoking it ... (read in full...)
I love him...but I think he hates me!!!!
Q. My now ex, isnt with me anymore because since he came back from the war he seems to be way distant than normal. Ive tried to be there for him but he always tells me hes all alone and no one understands him. We were always getting into arguments just ...
A. 23 July 2009: I am very sorry for your quandry. I think you actually did him a favor by inquiring about it to his command. I am sure there are tons of cases of PTSD that go unreported because of the ever present stigma that goes with it. Sometimes the soldier ... (read in full...)
How can I let her go when I love her so much?
Q. After eight years, my g/f and I decided to have a open relationship with others on the internet because she said she was having problems with being faithfully..not cheating on me just liking on getting to know other people. I was having problems ...
A. 22 July 2009: You need to give this up....living for realationships on the internet is pure fantasy.
You opened a can of worms by meeting someone from the net who told you they were in love with you after how long? A week? Give me a break.
You are living i... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!
Q. I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...
A. 22 July 2009: I am, sorry, but you are being 1) Way too hard on yourself and 2) justifying her disrespectful behavior.
Do you notice that you are blaming yourself for a conscious decision that she is making by pursuing this? All the overanalyzing in the worl... (read in full...)
This is only my second serious relationship, and now she drops the bombshell that she has a boyfriend!
Q. Hi there, I fell in love with a woman over a period of time. Nothing physical happened. I've known her for a while. Anyway, It was her birthday few weeks ago, and I had a special night planned for us. She calls me and says her "b/f" is coming ...
A. 22 July 2009: Did she know how you feel about her? I ask that because you call it a relationship, but did she consider herself in a relationship with you?
"bestest male friend ever" sounds like you are simply friends,and being she and you have done nothing ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend might have got caught masturbating through the phone by her parents! I'm nervous!
Q. Ok. well im somewhat young lets say in my early teens. i have known this real cute girl for a few months and today, she told me she was masturbating. she turned me on and i was having so much fun so was she. we were helping each other masturbate by ...
A. 22 July 2009: Well depending on your age(your age says mid 20's but your post says early teens), I would answer different. Well if she got caught, there is nothing much you can do about it and wait for the other shoe to drop,
Then you can be all embarrassed when... (read in full...)
Why do guys stop making an effort after being in a relationship for a while?
Q. Can someone tell me why over time guys stop giving you compliments and other things like that? I've been with my boyfriend for over 9 months and I know he loves me but he's stop giving me compliments and never does x's on his texts when I tex...
A. 22 July 2009: Complacency
plain and simple. You are at the point where the familiarity has superceded the lovey dovey.
It happens at some point if many relationships. Thats why relationships are always works in progress. You have reached a challenge po... (read in full...)
He was billed for a phone sex line but is denying it
Q. ok here goes...my husband got a bill in the mail today well it was for a 6 min talk to phone sex number...he said he didn't do it but I call it back and the first thing they ask you for is your credit card number..and the bill he got had the last ...
A. 22 July 2009: Hmmm. When I was in college I had a part time job working in a call center that took billing dispute calls for Phone Sex lines. Most of the disputes were readily handled and cover stories blown because the company I worked for used a voice print ... (read in full...)
My husband loses his erection during sex, what is this?
Q. My husband gets a good erection sometimes,but when he starts having sex he is losing it. Like instead of he would get really hard from playing with him, he gets limp.Like from any stimulation of his penis.. So ,the opposite happens, what should, ...
A. 21 July 2009: G is right. It could be any number of things medical. Even men that smoke have a better chance of losing an erection. But have him see a doctor for sure.
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Should I tell more people I am bi? Do guys like girls who are bi?
Q. hi well im bi and my girl friend is my best friend at school people know she is bi but only like 5 people know i am should ilet more people know that i am? and do guys like bi girls just wondering plz help...
A. 21 July 2009: Go with what you you feel, It is perfectly alright, Guys like girls if they like girls, and if they like guys. It's no body's business but yours.
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What was your technique in forgetting about your ex? How were you able to do it?
Q. Please give me some effective ways to forget an ex? I have tried everything from listing down the bad things and the reasons why I have to move on. I also tried saving an SMS on my phone reminding me that past is past and there's nothing I ca...
A. 21 July 2009: Time will heal, but delete the person from your life. Delete texts, emails, phone messages and numbers. Any last vestige is to be discarded no ifs ands or buts. All of it..GONE!
The best thing to do is make them insignificant.
The opposite ... (read in full...)
I have a gut instinct that my husband is cheating on me!
Q. hi cupids i am in a dilemma i think my husband cheating just a gut instinct so far an there a few signs he mite be like diet an exercise when i ask he says doing 4 my health he works a lot also i dont no any of is work mates he aint based anywhere ...
A. 20 July 2009: Wait a second...you better have more to go on than that! You need to provide us Aunts and Uncles with more information than that if you want honest and good advice. If you confront him with the fact he is working out and has a local phone numb... (read in full...)
I am very confused by his weird behavior, do you think I am being used? I
Q. I met a guy at a party and thought he was very interested in me. He made out with me and tried to go farther, but I stopped him as I thought it was inappropriate. I went over to his place the next day to watch a movie, but while we were watching it, ...
A. 20 July 2009: Oh young lady,
first off I am sorry that this happened to you. I would venture a guess that he is really in a quandry. The inconsistent behavior on his part would tell me that he wants to be more Friends with benefits than a couple. I would no... (read in full...)
Is it possible that a relationship can survive after one person cheats, please help?
Q. About a week ago I found out my boyfriend cheated on me. I wrote another post regarding this, but now I need so more help. During last week we had no contact at all. It was killing me inside, but I knew I had to be strong. I miss him every single...
A. 20 July 2009: Sure you can forgive him...at your own risk.
People know exactly what they are doing when they cheat. I don't care if your 16 or 60. It is a conscious decision and it is selfish and disrespectful in the extreme. He'll tell you want you want to ... (read in full...)
I've tried to get away, but the harrassment continues ...
Q. Well, if you have followed my other posts, you will know that i had a married woman chasing me at work, tried to get away, finaly got away, had to cry "hostile work enviroment" to management, they changed my schedule, but it still overlaps hers 3-4 ...
A. 20 July 2009: If she has boned members of upper management, and is still doing this after it has been documented that there was harassment, don't hesitate and get lawyered up.
That is a case of Management not enforcing this, and also if you can prove that she... (read in full...)
How do I tell him to bugger off - nicely?
Q. Hi all...I am stuck in a sticky tangled mess :( I met this guy once last year and talked to him twice or so, but a few months ago he invited me over to his place. We got along really well even though i didn't really know him. We started watching...
A. 20 July 2009: SO WHAT IF HE FEELS BAD!
don't listen to his obvious bullshit.,...
RUN FORREST, RUN!... (read in full...)
My BF wrote to the aunts about the things awful he's said to me, and now I am destroyed
Q. Hi Aunts, I think my boyfriend wrote a few days ago (I saw something that was similar to what he said to me on his computer) about some things that he's said to me about our sex life (how "f*cking me is like f*cking a doll...I'm only good when I'm ...
A. 20 July 2009: You have an abusive and immature boyfriend. Let me ask you something? Does he make you feel like no one else could love you like he does, or even want to?
even though I didnt reposnd to his post(nor saw it I don't think, for had I seen it I assure... (read in full...)
There's been no honeymoon period... am I being a drama queen, am I wasting my time or should I give him some time?
Q. Im dating a guy who has a ten year old daughter that he has sole custody for. The ex has only come back recently and takes the daughter every fortnight. Ive a couple of issues Im trying to get my head round at the minute. Firstly, I brought up the ...
A. 20 July 2009: You are not being a drama queen at all. It is just a simpler fact that dating people with children will throw complications into a relationship, for one or the other will complain they dont have the time and/or attention they crave. You did... (read in full...)
He never introduces me to people we bump into who know him, but when I did the same, I was told I'm "spiteful". Help!
Q. My b/f of 3 yrs. and I have had a long-standing disagreement about something. We are always running into people who know him (mostly women) yet he rarely ever introduces me. They give him a hug, ask how the kids are doing, how the job is going, ...
A. 19 July 2009: No you didnt go far enough. You should have grabbed the Doctor's ass and given your BF a real shock...just kidding!
No, he conveniently leaves you out, so he can flirt. Then he has the same treatment done to him(as a little reminder) and blows up... (read in full...)
No sex on my wedding night!
Q. I am writing this a day after getting married. We had a really special day and we retired to our room about 1am. My wife looked amazing and I couldn't wait to consumate the marriage. Unfortunately despite my advances she simply was not interest...
A. 19 July 2009: Well I have to say that you saying you are a "bit of a trdaitionalist" then why doi you have a 1 year old child before you are married? lol
why would you have your child with you in the marriage suite? don't you have a relative that would look aft... (read in full...)
Online relationship-sometimes I feel pressured into talking to him and I don't need to talk every day
Q. Dear Cupid, for the past few months I've been talking to a guy online. It's gotten pretty serious and we've entered into a long-distance relationship. He's coming to visit in a few months and he says he loves me. I think I love him too but I can't ...
A. 19 July 2009: Young lady, Long Distance Relationships rarely if ever work. This guy has put all his eggs in one basket and seems to be relying upon you at all times of the day. The bad thing about online relationships is that since you are talking to a scr... (read in full...)
Lately he's started flirting with lots of girls, and says it's just for fun, but I've lost trust in him!
Q. Hello people. Probably this is just another story for you guys, but I really need some second opinions so here it goes. I've been with this guy for more than 3 years, we went through a lot of things, good and bad, he met my parents and I met his, ...
A. 19 July 2009: He's so full of shit his teeth are floating. He is looking for hookups outside of his relationship. He says ALL men do it? Not men in committed relationships. He isnt doing a very good job of "turning things areound" with these lame dicked ... (read in full...)
The secret cell phone...
Q. Hello, I'd like some opinions on what to do with my out-of-control relationship. I've been with my bf for 8 years and love him sooo much. We lived together for 7, then he split up with me for 6 months and moved out...said he needed time to work ...
A. 19 July 2009: Sorry check that...Men in committed relationships dont go on dating sites. Sorry I read too fast. But in any case, he is not worth your time...move on,... (read in full...)
Looking for advice on how to decipher the future prospects for me and her...
Q. I am in love with this girl I have talked to online for going on 3 years now that I recently met face to face. At the beginning of this year while in college she met this guy that she was all into and they started sleeping together. He has a GF ...
A. 19 July 2009: She wants you for the emotional side, and keep this guy to meet her physical needs. She is giving you an indication by wanting to remain in contact with you she cares, but not too much. For she still goes back to the guy who has the GF, and she is ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my bestfriends husband!
Q. Hey. I have a real problem. I think I am falling in love with my best friends husband. I have known my best friend, lets call her Sarah, for 17 years. She has been with her husband for 4 years and has been married for 5 weeks. When they came back ...
A. 19 July 2009: You need to understand that your friendship is more important than letting your feelings become selfish in nature. Please don't even go there with "Kris". Nothing good will come from it, and letting the cat out of the bag will probably do irre... (read in full...)
The secret cell phone...
Q. Hello, I'd like some opinions on what to do with my out-of-control relationship. I've been with my bf for 8 years and love him sooo much. We lived together for 7, then he split up with me for 6 months and moved out...said he needed time to work ...
A. 19 July 2009: Holmar is correct. I'm afraid that this guy is cheating, and Id be willing to bet physically. Married men do not go on dating sites with no intention of scoring chicks.
I suggest right now you use this time to get yourself in a better position... (read in full...)
Do men think about other women in a sexual way?
Q. Hi I have a question for guys or girls in the know. I was wondering how often men think about women in a sexual way. Does it vary if you are in a relationship; is it a reflection on the girlfriend the amount the guy checks other girls out? Do men ...
A. 19 July 2009: It is a level of maturity in a man that determines if every waking moment is sexually charged or not. Although I am 44 I admit that it is often easier to act like Im 44 going on 19. Although urges to instantaneously look at a female and think of ... (read in full...)
She has developed her own life's needs and wants which does not coincide with mine
Q. Hi ladies and gents, I am 29 going on 30 soon. I have been with my high school sweetheart for the past 13 years. We separated 7 months ago, right after new years. We have 2 kids a 12 year old daughter, and a 6 year old son. We had ups and downs, and ...
A. 19 July 2009: Sorry this is happening to you, but your wife left a long time ago. In her mind anyway. It's time to face facts here.
Its obvious that she was cheating, and is throwing this in your face. The starting of arguments, selfish behavior, digging ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him to bugger off - nicely?
Q. Hi all...I am stuck in a sticky tangled mess :( I met this guy once last year and talked to him twice or so, but a few months ago he invited me over to his place. We got along really well even though i didn't really know him. We started watching...
A. 18 July 2009: You delete this guy from your life and have NO CONTACT! How many times do you intend to go back to this turd of a man and not get crapped on?... (read in full...)
Cheated....how should I feel?
Q. my wife cheated on me just before we separated. she then slept with another 3 guys while we were apart, 1 of them she works with. we are now back together and she finally told me about it after someone let part of the story slip. now she is always ...
A. 18 July 2009: She only told you because she got narced off by someone. You may have never found out for awhile had that not happened. Of course she will come crawling back. She has you as security. You need to at least get yourself tested for an STD i... (read in full...)
He didn't cheat on me when we were together, so how can he cheat on her?
Q. Feel used and abused. My ex has been there as a friend which I am fine with. He has dated since us but said he has no girlfriend although his friends said that he does did. He was there for me when my father was dying, hospital, dinner, etc. He ...
A. 18 July 2009: Well, even having these doubts about his honesty about a relationship with another woman you STILL slept with him. Then why should you feel used. You knew there was this chance he had someone else, yet you threw caution to the wind. You have only ... (read in full...)
For the Ladies: What do you mean when you say, "Hey, you're cute!"
Q. Dear Ladies and Girls, Would you please enlighten me, and many other men no doubt, as to what you ACTUALLY mean when you say to a guy the following:- "Hey you're cute". Thanks. ...
A. 17 July 2009: It means that she sees you as a possible charity shag for her ugly friend eating Hagen Daz in the corner and holding up the building with her hips. It means you are cute, but not hot. which means she may sleep with you if you give her enough alcoh... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my work collegagues?
Q. sorry for the length I work in a hospital, where I am older then a lot of my colleagues, they are in their mid 20s - early 30s. I get along with most ppl and say say hi and how are you? I almost always say hi when i start my shift to everyon...
A. 17 July 2009: Well as much as we'd like to, it is difficult at best to try to convince someone to talk to you.
Work situations where there are multiple employees will always breed cliques. Not everyone gets along with everyone, but that does not mean they can... (read in full...)
My habit really embarrasses me and I need help to stop doing it!
Q. Ummm, ok, first, to get things straight, this is habit ALONE. Right, it's quite embarassing, because at school, guys tease me and say stuff about *it* (if you know what I mean...) I have a bad habit of shaking my legs up and down and up and down, ...
A. 15 July 2009: I would see a doctor. You may have a form of Restless Leg Syndrome. It may sound kind of hokey but it is apparently a real condition. But as the first poster mentioned, you can try meditation.
At any rate here is the link to Restless Leg Foundati... (read in full...)
I think my husband is having an imaginary affair!!! What to do?!
Q. maybe he didn't hide this from me too well because it truly isn't a big deal? for the last year, my husband has been acting increasingly distant from me. it got to the point where i started to feel like he was maybe having an affair. i snoope...
A. 15 July 2009: I wonder just what frame of mind he is in to b e married and create a fake affair online. I guess it's possible, but what end would it serve?
What motive if Sharon is his only friend on his backup page? Is it to make you jealous?
At best you h... (read in full...)
How do I get over him when this is happening?
Q. I need some help. I have no idea what to do, or what to think, or what to feel. I met this guy a couple of months ago in a parking lot at a car shop that I was at with my best friend. The moment we saw each other across the way, there was this ine...
A. 15 July 2009: Well I am glad that he showed his hand. The thing with person's we met online is that as I had said in my previous post that they cant turn the other person on or off without batting an eye. I had a similar situation a couple of years ago where th... (read in full...)
How do I get over him when this is happening?
Q. I need some help. I have no idea what to do, or what to think, or what to feel. I met this guy a couple of months ago in a parking lot at a car shop that I was at with my best friend. The moment we saw each other across the way, there was this ine...
A. 2 July 2009: Uh, It seems that you have run into a guy that is now (and no its not a novel idea) "running into you". Lets face it. This guy had an online relationship with another gal. He told you about her on the 3rd date. He likes the attention that sh... (read in full...)
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