I have low self esteem, slept with another guy and know I should tell my b/f but I'm afraid!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I love him so much; he is gorgeous, intelligent good job etc. I could not ask for someone better. From what he has told me he feels the same way about me. However we have big relationship pro...
A. 22 October 2009: Just becuase you "told him" does not leave you with any right to determine the future of your relationship. You lost that right the minute you screwed somebody else You think his love for you is strong...don't be so sure. These things have a te... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hid the fact she had a son. Could this indicate a potential pattern of lying?
Q. Girlfriend of three months tells me via text message that she has a son. We just started getting slightly serious, and I still feel a little lied to. I am 25, she 23, I have no idea how old her son is. I had no idea that she had a son, not e...
A. 22 October 2009: WHY ARE YOU EVEN LETTING HER BACK INTO YOUR HOUSE? I am sorry, but if you refuse to see the absurdity of her excuses, then there is little any one of us can do to help you. I suggest you go down to the store in the morning and get an etching s... (read in full...)
Am I her booty call?
Q. I met this girl about 2 months ago, we hit it off on the first date, on the second date she spent the entire weekend at my place. This happened for 2 more weekends, then one night during the week she told me that she had been having sex with ...
A. 22 October 2009: Dude...YOU ARE GETTING PLAYED! Don't let this toxic woman into your life...she is up to no good and for all you know wshe is telling this guy the same thing. who's to say that there arent others? Dude, I know the power of the pussy is hard to... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hid the fact she had a son. Could this indicate a potential pattern of lying?
Q. Girlfriend of three months tells me via text message that she has a son. We just started getting slightly serious, and I still feel a little lied to. I am 25, she 23, I have no idea how old her son is. I had no idea that she had a son, not e...
A. 22 October 2009: OH COME ON!
somebody you date for three months waits that long to tell you they have a child?
Uh thats a red flag right there. I am sorry, but that is a HUGE omission to leave out. I'd not be seriously getting involved with this woman at al... (read in full...)
I flashed him online and now I'm worried he'll put it on Youtube...
Q. Hi.I have something worry about last night. I had met with that guy on the internet. We chat at online last night. Its our first time chatting. We was chatting about 3 hours and we have little conversation about sex. And I've show him my upper body ...
A. 21 October 2009: Sure! There is always that possibilty. But not on YouTube I own some adult sites myself and I will tell you many times people post stills from webcams that they take and recieve. And then later use them as profile pics on adult dating sites like ... (read in full...)
I have low self esteem, slept with another guy and know I should tell my b/f but I'm afraid!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I love him so much; he is gorgeous, intelligent good job etc. I could not ask for someone better. From what he has told me he feels the same way about me. However we have big relationship pro...
A. 21 October 2009: Just when I thought there was consensus I ran across this question.. To quote Frank Costanza "SERENITY NOW! SERENITY NOW! SERENITY NOW"!... (read in full...)
Questions about my ex: Does she still have feelings for me and why am I so bothered by the idea of her having sex with her new boyfriend?
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 Questions from the same poster have been merged together into one post] Question 1: Me and my girlfriend recently broke up a week ago after being together for 3 years. We do have a daughter together. Since we broke up, all I ha...
A. 21 October 2009: Why would you even consider getting back together with a game player? Just so you can get hurt again? Dude...MAN UP!... (read in full...)
How do I break it to my boyfriend that I'm in love with my best friend?
Q. How do I break it to my boyfriend that I am in love with my best (guy) friend? Background info: I met my boyfriend and best friend around the same time (2005-2006ish). I met my boyfriend on vacation in another country. I have family who live ...
A. 21 October 2009: How about being honest with your Boyfriend? And be thoughtful about it. He did nothing wrong, but it will make him lose a lot of confidence in any future relationships he has if you don't be honest with him now. remember this is your problem, not ... (read in full...)
She has lied the whole time, should I still be with her?
Q. Hello. Just wondering if I could get some advice please. I met a woman on a dating site and she told me she has not had sex with anyone for over 6 years. She told me she did not bother due to being cheated on in a previouse relationship. I t...
A. 21 October 2009: NO!
Just read this...that is all you need to know
When considering a relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Threes regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has. One lie, one broken prom... (read in full...)
I want this to work since I can't prove he cheated. Any ideas on getting my confidence in him back?
Q. I have been in a relationship with this man for over 3 years now, I'm very committed to this relationship. I've had a hidden fear that he's cheated on me since sometime in our second year together because our sex life drastically changed. Then last ...
A. 21 October 2009: Uh I only had to get as far as the "A freind of his cousin's and they pretended to be gay".
That is a dead giveaway.
You are in denial, young lady. He is a cheater. We are all in consensus(which is rare).
Look, I know that when dealing w... (read in full...)
How can I make her understand that I am not comfortable with her seeing her ex's?
Q. The other day my gf of 4 years (we have known each other well for 9 years) went to see an ex of hers for coffee at his place. She omitted to mention it at the time and it came up in conversation last night. This ex was someone she had and ...
A. 21 October 2009: Yes, it sure seems like she is wanting to control you. All this "can't tell her you love her" stuff is a justification on her part to make herself feel it's ok to carry on with these men. Frankly I am very sorry for your predicament. I think you... (read in full...)
How can I make her understand that I am not comfortable with her seeing her ex's?
Q. The other day my gf of 4 years (we have known each other well for 9 years) went to see an ex of hers for coffee at his place. She omitted to mention it at the time and it came up in conversation last night. This ex was someone she had and ...
A. 21 October 2009: Yeah I have some advice for you. She is placing all this "You are jealous and posessive" stuff and telling him about it because she is full of crap. People in committed relationships do not spend time alone at Exes houses and then omit tellin... (read in full...)
Questions about my ex: Does she still have feelings for me and why am I so bothered by the idea of her having sex with her new boyfriend?
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 Questions from the same poster have been merged together into one post] Question 1: Me and my girlfriend recently broke up a week ago after being together for 3 years. We do have a daughter together. Since we broke up, all I ha...
A. 21 October 2009: (Grimmreality Scratches Head)... Hmmmm.....Savai, Lets take a look at this. You say that your GF and yourself have been broken up for around a week. also that your GF is already dating somebody within 5 days?. And that she claims its... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had a one night stand with a professional athelte before we met.
Q. My girlfriend recently told me that a few months before we met she had a one night stand with a famous professional ball player. She wanted to be open and I think that is a great thing. We have a great relationship, we are madly in love and its ...
A. 21 October 2009: I have to agree with Satin here.
Why she even told you this is beyond me though. I mean there is one thing to being open and honest(which I recommend), but that had nothing to do with your relationship. And by telling you, she knew she had to r... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lied about unprotected sex with other guys, now I'm worried I have an STD
Q. Heyy, im 16 nearly 17 (male). Ive just broken up with my girlfriend and we were sexually active. We had sex a few times without a condom because she told me she hadnt had sex with anyone else. While I was going out with her I caught thrush, a...
A. 21 October 2009: Yes please get tested...but this begs another question...
What reasoning could you possibly use to equate having unprotected sex because some girl TOLD you she hadn't had sex with anyone else?
Did she tell you she was a virgin? If thats the cas... (read in full...)
Did he cheat because he doesn't believe I won't hurt him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out since May 2nd. I had a feeling 2 months ago he had an affair. so one night we were laying in bed and I asked him if he had ever had sex with her. he said no way not with all those stretch marks and flab. I ...
A. 21 October 2009: OMG....
This guy is cheating on you big time. If you keep giving him these chances, you might as well get DOORMAT placed on your head, because he is walking all over you.
Please get rid of this bum. He is a liar and a loser... (read in full...)
My wife is in love with another woman. What now?
Q. I need some advise! I've been with my wife for 20years married for 16. Right now she is involved in a relationship with another women for over a year, I've known about this from day one, It was orginally gonna be the three of us and it was, but now ...
A. 21 October 2009: The ultimatum was good.
BUT...
You invited disaster even allowing this woman into your life. By allowing this to go on you sealed your own fate.
So now she will either accept it or won't.... (read in full...)
Am I totally out of line here? Uncomfortable about a text my girlfriend received.
Q. well it started bad in the first place because i looked on my gf phone at a message that a male friend of hers sent to her. the message said and it was forwarded to her ....you and i do it in the bedroom.we do it in the livingroom we do it all over ...
A. 21 October 2009: Practice this rule with your GF my friend...you can never go wrong with it.
When considering a relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Threes regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has. One... (read in full...)
What to expect with a threesome?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm planning on a having a threesome with two men this weekend. I'm really nervous and I don't know what to expect. What should I expect when I have this kind of threesome?...
A. 20 October 2009: You better make sure that you are comfortable with both men. And that they are comfortable with each other as well as with you.
Sadly things like this tend to spill over(no pun intended) into a macho match between two guys. And if you are curr... (read in full...)
Is it ok to feel this way or am I crossing the line?
Q. My husband's brother is literally the nicest guy I have ever met. He's is genuinely sweet and nice to me when no one else is. I have never in my life been treated so well by someone, not by any friends not by and family members. I've never had a ...
A. 20 October 2009: Oh there is no misunderstanding at all. If you are the original poster and claiming that their is, I once again suggest you reread all of your post.
Your stomach drops as in "AWWW"
You want to talk to him because its your husband upsettin... (read in full...)
Is it ok to feel this way or am I crossing the line?
Q. My husband's brother is literally the nicest guy I have ever met. He's is genuinely sweet and nice to me when no one else is. I have never in my life been treated so well by someone, not by any friends not by and family members. I've never had a ...
A. 20 October 2009: Young lady,
The fact that you are asking this question at this forum is answering your own question.
Yes you are pushing the envelope. I suggest you rethink this because its innocent things like this that end up being a movie of the week with... (read in full...)
Will this LDR work out?
Q. I'm having a terrible time in my LDR. I "met" a woman a few months ago through on online dating service. When she started her account and up until about two weeks before we contacted, she lived only 40 miles from me. After moving (again, a couple of ...
A. 20 October 2009: Ok,
I will tell you straight out that as much as you probably do not want to hear this, Long distance Relationships rarely if ever work.
They take constant communication and trust, neither of which is present in this relationship.
A... (read in full...)
When will this explode?
Q. My wife is actively searching for a new exciting relationship with men, so she said to me. She denies looking for sex or having ever cheated in the past. I honestly believe she has not cheated. She is a sexy young women who attracts alot of ...
A. 19 October 2009: WHAT'S THERE TO UNDERSTAND OR LISTEN TOO?
Timer for some reality here, Johnny
Uh...I think its a foregone conclusion that she has checked out on the marriage. If she is telling you this, she is bracing you for the day when some guy comes ... (read in full...)
If a friend asked you to follow their woman for them would you?
Q. would you stalk someones partner/ex partner for them for money?If it was a friend or relative would you stalk them for free?Would you stalk a complete stranger for someone for money-would you stalk someone for fun-I need to know what percentage of ...
A. 19 October 2009: No poster I was not being sarcastic at all.
In this case I really suggest that you contact the authorities. When there has been physical abuse especially. Regardless of the circumstances and given this physical past I would be very careful.... (read in full...)
If a friend asked you to follow their woman for them would you?
Q. would you stalk someones partner/ex partner for them for money?If it was a friend or relative would you stalk them for free?Would you stalk a complete stranger for someone for money-would you stalk someone for fun-I need to know what percentage of ...
A. 19 October 2009: Well thank god thats cleared up...So you arent a troll. Now that has been established, please give us some background so we can help you.
What initiated the surveillance, if you can point to any incidents?
Has your ex been insanely jealous, or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a rather strong musk coming from his private area.
Q. My boyfriend has a rather strong musk coming from his private area. It is quite potent. I have tried to get used to it but its just...really strong (as I have said before). Is there anything I can do to mask the smell? Will cologne help? Is it wise ...
A. 19 October 2009: Maybe he should change soaps. Many times men's junk responds differently to different soaps. I sure as hell am not using Lifeboy or Lava with Pumice down there unless I want to look like my crotch jumped into a french fryer
I mean listen, why dont... (read in full...)
She doesn't remember what she did when drunk - or does she?
Q. I moved into a new flat a few months with two girls who were friends of my friend. i got a crush on one of the girls and then a month ago me, her and one of our friends got drunk and kissed her and touched her boobs but we couldn't do much. ...
A. 19 October 2009: Waga-Waga,
Come on now, you have already begun the awkwardness in the flat.
I mean come on, there is only a trainwreck of bad feelings that are going to come out of this.
So if you begin dating her, just wait....
Wait until she g... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my girl friend...how can I convince my husband to share?
Q. I have been married for 14 years to a wonderful man that I am very much in love with. However after I got married I realized that I was bisexual. About ten years ago I had a girlfriend that he knew about and I loved her very much. At that time he ...
A. 19 October 2009: Please get divorced so you all will be happy. You can have your girlfriend, and your husband can have someone he can be married to that will respect the vows they made.
... (read in full...)
If a friend asked you to follow their woman for them would you?
Q. would you stalk someones partner/ex partner for them for money?If it was a friend or relative would you stalk them for free?Would you stalk a complete stranger for someone for money-would you stalk someone for fun-I need to know what percentage of ...
A. 19 October 2009: TROLL POST!... (read in full...)
My gay friend keeps grabbing my boobs!
Q. okay so i have this friend he is amazing and i love him to bits. he is gay but i have quite big boobs and he keeps poking at them and grabbing them i didnt really mind at first but now its getting to me and its got worse cause he has asked if he ...
A. 19 October 2009:
Or perhaps maybe he wants a pair himself????... (read in full...)
How do I get over a cheater and end it for good?
Q. To make a long story short, my boyfriend of 4 years is a habitual cheater. I have kicked him out of our home after discovering another affair, but I still find myself thinking of him and wanting to work things out. We remain in contact via phone ...
A. 19 October 2009: You do it by cutting off all contact with him unless it is an issue of your child.
Make him insignificant, other than to set up visitations with the child. But make sure you don't speak ill of him in the child's presence because every kid has the ... (read in full...)
Me and my ex just got back together and I don't think she wants to be with me.
Q. Me and my ex just got back together and i dont know what it is but i dont think she wants to be with me. Two times when i ask her for us to go out she tells me lets just be friends. I ask her y and she says cause she dont like going out she would ...
A. 19 October 2009: Yes I can help you.
She is keeping you on the back burner in case the guy she is seeing does not work out. So she hides at your house when she wants to be with you.
She does not want to spoil something with the other guy by being seen in pu... (read in full...)
How can I tell if hes telling the truth about not wanting to be with her?
Q. okay so my boyfriend and i have been on and off for about a year now. he has and ex gf who he was with for a year but that was 2 years from now. we are living together at his moms and she still calls him and wants to hang out and normally he would ...
A. 19 October 2009: By actions and not words...simple as that.
sounds like you have an idiot for a BF.
His actions are not of someone in a committed relationship. I'd be pissed if I were you as well. ... (read in full...)
Am I being too close minded?
Q. Hello. Ok here is my issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me all the time and I was really hurt by it so I found myself a lover and everytime I knew my boyfriend was cheating on me , I ...
A. 18 October 2009: lol....(rolls eyes)
By cheating, regardless of your BF cheating on you, you sink to the same level as him.
neither of you would know the meaning of love and commitment if it rolled over you in a tank.
Give us a damn damn break
Please grow u... (read in full...)
Is she just punishing me?
Q. I met my girl friend on july 19th 2008, when we met i was seperated for 6 months and i was getting divorced and had no kids. After a month when I realized how much I realy liked her i told her i had to tell her something we met and I told her i had ...
A. 17 October 2009: Dude....
what are you doing here?
You need to not be in any type of relationship with anyone right now. You have more problems than a damn math book. I suggest you just be by yourself until the divorce goes through. sounds like you have a wing ... (read in full...)
What is up with her?
Q. I dont get it. Why do women tell a guy that they aren't interested in them, they don't feel the same way, reject them... then all of a sudden they end up liking you? I had a girl tell me she didn't feel the same way, it hurt so much i didnt tal...
A. 17 October 2009: She's playing games with you like many young people of both genders do. She will tie you up in knots...you can get that treatment by people anywhere. Game players are a dime a dozen. Pay her no mind. She will eventually tire of it if you mak... (read in full...)
Once an abuser, always an abuser??
Q. My ex bf abused me and now he wants me back. He promises hes changed and so on. He says he regrets it and would do anything for me. He admits to be an idiot. He says he loves me- something he never told me when we were in a relationship. He says we ...
A. 17 October 2009: I agree with Old Guy
actions not words...and just like a leopard cant change spots, cheaters and abusers cant change either.
Its impossible.
Please make sure you stay away...Abusers are like terrorists. They lie in wait until you guard ... (read in full...)
Do you think my ex will regret what he's done?
Q. i started talking with my ex after 4 years. in the first email he was very caring and asked if i was ok then i discovered he was married then he was weird in his emails and was sending them at strange times. he said to email anytime. i felt weird be...
A. 17 October 2009: Not unless someone makes him. You see he is acting out on a social site, and what he was basically doing was trolling for someone to cheat with. And when you found out he was married he looked like an even bigger ass in your eyes. The odd hours em... (read in full...)
I have a long distance relationship problem!
Q. Hi, i have a question about a long distance relationship. i just started college around 8 weeks ago and so did my girlfriend. We go to college in different states very far away from each other. We have been dating over a year and it has been the ...
A. 17 October 2009: Yes I do,
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS RARELY WORK ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE IN COLLEGE AT DIFFERENT PLACES.
So let me ask you...I take it this is your Freshman year for both of you? First time away from home? She has feelings for this guy she see... (read in full...)
Did I do the appropriate thing by telling the truth?
Q. Hey Agony Aunts! Well, I have this serious problem. I am involved with two girls, but they don't know that I am with both of them. One of the girls is more secretive and has hide a lot of things from me(even though she was a very nice girl), while ...
A. 17 October 2009: YES...
Young man, the truth hurts, but it is always the best thing in the end.
I don't care if they were online or not. It is always better to be honest...even if it is brutally, than to lie. Because lies hurt even more in the end.
You did ... (read in full...)
Are these actions normal for a man almost 30 yrs old?
Q. My boyfriend (29) and I (25) were really enjoying having sex the other night and when he wanted to have anal sex I said no because I knew that my stomach was not up for it. He knows that I really do not like it yet I have promised to continue doing ...
A. 17 October 2009: LMAO! Are you kidding me?
No thats not normal, he is punishing you for not acceeding to his wishes.
I mean Ive heard of taking a crap on a sandwich and covering it with mustard and corned beef to get somebody back at work for stealing your lu... (read in full...)
Can I convince her I'm not a repetitive liar?
Q. Hi, Well About 12months ago i got with a girl and we were together for months then we broke up. recently she asked about if we cud get back together and i said id love to, but at the time id slept with this girl a few times. she asked, but i denied...
A. 16 October 2009: By actions not words....
Words are cheap, and you have been already exposed to be a liar. Its up to you to back up your words by actions.
Caring Guy says to just keep telling her...that will not work, dude...you can tell her until you are bl... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about the intentions of this guy from Myspace!
Q. dear cupid, i need your help. so this guy requested me on myspace and i never add people unless i know them. he knew me from high school and also knows my brother so i added him. i started to put sad statuses on my myspace(because of my boyfrien...
A. 16 October 2009: Well do what you want...but remember
when you post those statuses over on Myspace everyone else can see them on your friends list. Basically you started unneeded drama by doing it, so of course anyone that has a sense of wanting to get into you... (read in full...)
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