My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!
Q. I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...
A. 31 July 2009: Well I will be Devil's Advocate one final time. Actions are louder than words. And her words are to be followed up by actions if she is to be believed. Ive seen this before, so dont go thinking that this is back to normal. Far from it. She ... (read in full...)
My flirting has given a few guys the wrong impression, what do to?
Q. For various reasons, right now I'm very happy being single and dating here and there. But it turns out that me having a boyfriend is the only thing stopping a lot of guys I know from letting their imaginations run wild. As a few of my girlfriends ...
A. 29 July 2009: The ability to stop flirting is one that only you can control by actions. If you have had a similar experience in the past, then you must recognize the actions that you took that made those incidents not end well. Basically you can either decid... (read in full...)
Which should I believe, his action or words?
Q. My ex insisted to see me recently and won't stop bugging me until I said yes, I will talk to him. On the phone he sounded like he was going to cry. When I saw him, he said he prayed so hard I would agree to see him which i did. He looked shy and w...
A. 29 July 2009: Once again....this is not rocket science. every time you have contact with him it will continue. It does not take four paragraphs of beating this dead horse to figure this out.
Do not contact him, delete him from your life, or this low drama wi... (read in full...)
Which are the best sex positions for me?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I'm 20 years old and I have an amazing boyfriend. We started our sex life about 3 months ago and since then we've done it a few times and it's always been very enjoyable... but we have a bit of trouble with positions. We pr...
A. 29 July 2009: You bet! Try the Jackhammer! Let him stand up and pull you up by your legs so you are practically vertical. Bend your legs back a bit and WHAMMO! I use it all the time. It will give you a great head rush on top of your orgasm( If he's doi... (read in full...)
My blood boils with rage when a good looking young woman is present!
Q. dear cupid, my life is ruined by insane jealousy. i cannot bear any man i have been with to even look at another woman, not even on television. my blood boils with rage when a good looking woman especially if they are young and sexy are present. i ...
A. 29 July 2009: You can do nothing about it except to accept the fact that their are millions of gorgeous women out there. You probably are lamenting the fact that you are getting older, and maybe feel you missed out on something. But who's fault is that? I su... (read in full...)
2 years on and I still haven't told him I kissed my ex. Should I?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 2 years nad love him dearly. When we were together 3 months I kissed my ex. It was a very brief kiss and I immediately knew it was a mistake. I didn't tell my boyfriend as I was petrified of losing him. He is amazing and ...
A. 29 July 2009: I agree....in this instance dont tell him...but please understand that the kiss was not a mistake. Did your ex force you to kiss him? No you did it of your own free will, so cut the BS about a "mistake". You did it because you could. Be honest... (read in full...)
What does he mean by saying they have a great 'personality'?
Q. Hi Everyone I would like to know: My husband (been married almost 10 y) always says the same thing... What does it mean?When he sees a naked woman, on TV or in the newspaper or in a magazine, he looks her up and down, and says: she looks like s...
A. 28 July 2009: He may be a good hubby and father, he just has a maturity issue when it comes to watching tv. I had a friend who did that to his wife all the time, so she got mad and got him back. After a day of constant needling we were watching Ronald... (read in full...)
I found out I have Herpes... is there anyone that's going to accept me now?
Q. I just found out I have herpes...got it from the last guy I was with and am not very happy. Been in bed all day depressed, crying. I feel like my life is over and nobody will ever accept me. I was already having a hard time dating and I feel like ...
A. 28 July 2009: I am so sorry this happened, but both Kayla and Gina have given very sound advice.
In the meantime until you get a chance to speak to a medical professional, I took the liberty of posting a link to a site that may answer some questions you have... (read in full...)
Do you ever find a good relationship again after a break up?
Q. I'm not sure if anyone can help but i'm just looking for a bit of hope. Ive recently found myself single again after a very hopeful relationship. I'm devastated, although we had our problems it was basically a v good relationship. This man was the ...
A. 28 July 2009: Oh I am sorry original poster, I actually was adressing the female anonymous poster below me who had stated she had cheated on her man 9 months aqo. Sorry for that confusion.... (read in full...)
Why is he still in contact with his ex when she clearly is after him!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year. His ex won't stop texting him. They had an on /off relationship for 2 years where she cheated on him a lot and eventually got pregnant by somebody else. They split up nearly 8 months before we met. ...
A. 28 July 2009: He is still in contact with her because 1) He hasn't gotten her out of his system. Even though she cheated on him, he holds on to some hope and keeps her on the back burner in case you two don't work out. 2) He is spineless as many victim... (read in full...)
She said she's ok with us breaking up but her behaviour says otherwise!
Q. Hi all, hope your well. I split from my ex 4 and a bit weeks ago and as time goes on the feelings for her are going pretty quick really. We went out last week together for a few drinks which was good although i didnt particularly like the male ...
A. 28 July 2009: Well at this rate you will be asking yourself this same question at the same time next year, and the next, and the next.
Both of you are just trying to one up each other in the mind fuck department. You are blaming her when you are doing the ex... (read in full...)
Do you ever find a good relationship again after a break up?
Q. I'm not sure if anyone can help but i'm just looking for a bit of hope. Ive recently found myself single again after a very hopeful relationship. I'm devastated, although we had our problems it was basically a v good relationship. This man was the ...
A. 28 July 2009: Female Anonymous,
I will commend you for at least recognizing that cheating has its consequences. You probably know that I am notoriously brutal on anyone that is a cheater, but I am going to go out on a limb and say you are the first person I... (read in full...)
Which should I believe, his action or words?
Q. My ex insisted to see me recently and won't stop bugging me until I said yes, I will talk to him. On the phone he sounded like he was going to cry. When I saw him, he said he prayed so hard I would agree to see him which i did. He looked shy and w...
A. 28 July 2009: I think you need to check yourself here. If you are thinking about entering into a new relationship, why are you giving this guy whom you've been broken up with mixed signals?
You agreed to see him, (surely you are intelligent enough to know tha... (read in full...)
Do you ever find a good relationship again after a break up?
Q. I'm not sure if anyone can help but i'm just looking for a bit of hope. Ive recently found myself single again after a very hopeful relationship. I'm devastated, although we had our problems it was basically a v good relationship. This man was the ...
A. 28 July 2009: I had what I thought was a good thing end when my Fiance cheated on me three weeks before the wedding. I didnt trust a female or have anything other than casual encounters or short term FWBs for the next 20 years. Then I thought I found the one.
... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: LOL @ KC100
You beat me to it, and of course put it in such a great way as opposed to my tactless "Don Rickles" delivery.
Don Rickles in a porn? Mr Warmth? That is a great thought but EWWWWWW...I would'nt even distribute that...well maybe on... (read in full...)
The man I was dating has been cheating on me. What should I do if he contacts me?
Q. I'm so sad tonight. I have been dating this guy for 4 mths. we have met families. talk everyday. He actss like a boyfriend. Things didnt add up so I surprised him tonight by showing up at his house because this morning he texted saying he would call ...
A. 28 July 2009: Yes you may know its true(most likely is) but with him being surprised by you, it is apparent that indeed its the case. I mean after you met the family, wouldn't he want to show you off to his aunt?
So if you don't want to deal with him anymore,... (read in full...)
He constantly makes up lies! Do you think he's cheating?
Q. I am in a long distance relashionship.I am a registered nurse with two children, uprooting my life is complicated.The person I am in the relashionship with lives at home with his Grandmother,works but is not really successful.When I first met him he ...
A. 28 July 2009: Long Distance Relationships RARELY IF EVER WORK!
There are some that do, but the ones that do are between people that have honesty, communication and mutual respect. Sounds to me like you have none of these important facets to yours.
Frankly... (read in full...)
What is a womans perspective on a threesome? Why does my girlfriend want one?
Q. What is my girlfriend looking for in a threesome? My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year. We are very close, and have a really good relationship. My girlfriend asked me if we could try a threesome with another guy (no g...
A. 28 July 2009: Well my only advice is that you better be comfortable with watching your GF get spit roasted by you and some other dude.
You have to make sure you are really both comfy with it. There are tons of guys who would say they are, and then when it happe... (read in full...)
Would your ex try and get you into bed even though he's with someone else?
Q. If your ex was in a relationship with someone already who lived in another country who he had spent 2 weeks with and came back and was talking to you, wud he say anything to try and get you into his bed? for example, he said "while I was on my trip ...
A. 28 July 2009: Yep I have to agree with the other posters here...
He just wants a trip down memory lane...that being YOUR LANE!
The choice is yours, but in my opinion, he just wants to hit it and quit it.... (read in full...)
I just want someones view on what I've done and learnt from it : )
Q. Hello I've been wanting to get this off my chest for a while as it keeps coming back to bite me. A few months ago i visited a brothel. The reason i did this is clear to me now as i was very lonely had not many good friends and was addicted...
A. 28 July 2009: Well if you feel you are addicted to porn, then I can only say that you at least recognize it. Porn in and of itself is not harmful(as I have tried to tell the mass of pussified boneheads who think it is) but it is how it is consumed that is either ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...
A. 28 July 2009: He may be, but what is the big deal if he is? As long as he is 18 he can come join any of the porn sites I own and operate! (shocking isnt it that someone who gives relationship advice also owns a PORN SITE!)
Boy O Boy I have some damn nerve hu... (read in full...)
What is it she wants from me?
Q. Hi, I have a question. My ex-girlfriend had contacted me through facebook out of the blue. We haven't spoke in good terms for about 9 months. When she contacted me, I read on her facebook that she is arguing with a guy and told him that she just ...
A. 28 July 2009: She wants to make someone jealous. She is a drama queen and she wants to use you through the computer to play games. Facebook is not nearly as dramatic as Myspace with the moronic games(But Facebook is truly boring too, I certainly don't want to ... (read in full...)
I think he's still logging into his online dating profile! Help!
Q. Ok, so I've been with my boyfriend (6 months). Things are going good!! Anyways, we met online and still have our profiles up. In the beginning he had mentioned..'yeah, I should delete this profile that I hardly log into.' And as time went by I n...
A. 28 July 2009: Well it could also be one of two things. At some sites if you close your browser without logging off your page, it can stay logged in continuously. One way to verify it for the site in question is to look at the sign in screen. If there is a check... (read in full...)
Having her cake and eating it too...
Q. my wife works at a small buisness run bye a close friend of the family. i think she is having her cake and eating it with the bosses son who is working with my wife she comes home from work and does not shut up about this person when i ask her about ...
A. 27 July 2009: Yep, take it for what it is, but at least keep your eyes open. as opposed to what some here say, women being able to keep an affair a secret is a myth. They eventually get caught just like men...don't believe that bs...lol wtf? Read the posts here ... (read in full...)
Moves in one day, dumps me for his ex the next day??
Q. I started dating this guy about a month and a half ago and we hit it off right away. I knew he had gotten out of a long-term relationship about a month or two prior, but he reassured me that the relationship was long dead to him. Everything seemed ...
A. 27 July 2009: It makes perfect sense to me...The guy is a fucking asshole. Straight the hell up. I am very sorry that this hap[pened to you, BUT: Look at it this way... You luckily did not invest that much time in it. It was apparent by his willingness to b... (read in full...)
He's too thoughtful and considerate to his family! But it's not mutual!
Q. i don't know where to start... I am married with kids. my husband is like a little puppet or puppy whenever things concern his family. he loves them too much he is too thoughtful and considerate when it comes to them. the thing is it is not ...
A. 27 July 2009: You can't do anything. He is obviously close to his family(on his part) and is probably controlled by them. He probably has no inkling.
Bsts you can do is either accept or leave him. Maybe he needs you to wear the pants in the family while he... (read in full...)
What does he mean by saying "you know you owe me"? I'm freaked out!
Q. Me and this guy had a huge crush on each other. He is very popular and handsome. All the women wants him and he has slept around so many times. We met at work. Anyway, things didn't work out especially since I found out he is married. We didn't ...
A. 27 July 2009: What do you think it means? That he wants you to bake him a cake? don't forget the frosting!
sorry about the levity, but its painfully obvious what he means
He means that in his opinion, that since you didnt have sex with him, that he expects y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a lump but he wont go to the doctor!
Q. Hello Everyone, My byfriend is 29 and he has a lump on his testicals (inside his scrotum not on the outside) and he tells me it has been there for a good few years. Its nothing you could feel froma general play but he showed me where it was the...
A. 27 July 2009: He is scared it's something serious and he is figuring that since its been there and his nuts havent fallen off that he is good...He isnt. It could be any number of testicular problems. Your boyfriend has got his head in the sand.
He needs to... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my boyfriend that I'm making an effort to change?
Q. My b/f and I have a lot of problems lately. He said that he couldn't take it anymore because I supposily changed. I think I changed alittle but not a lot. But he don't see me trying. He said that he is only going to give me one last chance. For me ...
A. 26 July 2009: ACTIONS NOT WORDS.
You can tell someone you are trying until you are blue in the face, but words are hollow....what actions are YOU taking?... (read in full...)
Tired of being the housekeeper!
Q. I am sick of doing everything in my house. I am 19, i live with my mum dad and 4yo brother. I cook dinner EVERY night, while i dont mind cooking because i do live rent free, it would be nice for someone to at least help me out, or cook for one ...
A. 26 July 2009: Get a student loan, get a part time job, but get the hell out of that house. You are running the day to day operations of your family, who is more than happy to let you do it. You will be happier if you get out of there. They sound like they a... (read in full...)
He says horrible things to me because he doesn't like my past!
Q. My boyfriend says he says things he doesn't mean when he is mad, and i should not take them personally. here is some examples : slut, whore, dirty, i am going to throw you off this balcony, you deserved to get raped no one is going to want you now, ...
A. 26 July 2009: Wow, so you think this to be acceptable behavior from someone who professes to love you? RESPECT....your BF has not one clue what that word means. The telling one is the line about the rape..."the no one will want you" part. This guy is an ... (read in full...)
Opinions needed. Should we stay together?
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been living together for a while now and we just broke up. I screwed up in the past while out with my friends(not cheated or anything)and lied about it. So we came to an agreement that to gain her trust back I wou...
A. 26 July 2009: Well you screwed yourself by lying about your activities in the first place. Regardless of whether you did it so she wouldn't be upset, you must have honesty even when aboujt such trivial matters. Because trivial matters (when lying is involved) ... (read in full...)
I am badly bullied!
Q. I am badly bullied. I have a black eye because a boy punched me for disagreeing with an idea of his. I'm scared to sleep. Girls have threatend to do things... bad things. The throw stones at me. They, hit and kick me. I don't ride my bike ...
A. 26 July 2009: young lady, may I be so bold to ask how your parents are dealing with this? If they are abusing you at school, then this needs to be taken up with the authorities at school. No one has a right to put a finger on you. I assume from your desc... (read in full...)
Should I act on my attraction?
Q. My husband has a friend I am extremely attracted to physically. I think he feels the same about me. My marriage over 23 years is OK not spectacular. Should I act on my attraction? Not looking for an emotional relationship just physical. ...
A. 26 July 2009: Seek counseling in your relationshiup before you take a drastic, immature and selfish step of cheating on your husband. Once you cross that line, you are not worthy of your husbands love, or anyone's respect. Be a damn adult!
Its common sense. T... (read in full...)
How do I get over the disappointment that I wasn't meant to have a religion? And what about this unresolved anger I feel for mean, stupid, ignorant people?
Q. This is a relationship question, although I'm not sure which category of relationships it belongs to. I'm hoping someone in the forum can help me, because I'm angry all the time. I need to get over this, but I just can't get closure. I don't k...
A. 25 July 2009: Just remember a couple of things... 1) All religion is MAN MADE! ALL OF THEM! EVERY ORGANISED RELIGION IS MAN MADE! 2) Those in organised religion who claim to be the most devout or pious are generally the most intolerant (of anyone else, their r... (read in full...)
I'm young and scared and worried he's been cheating on me!
Q. ok here goes i have been married a little over 7 months and everything was going great for the first couple of months. but now everything is going wrong. ive caught him talking to 2 other girls and flirting with them. well i had a long talk with him ...
A. 25 July 2009: So let me get this straight...
you cheated on him TWO WEEKS after you started dating, and now being married you worry if he is cheating?
LMAO!
Is he capable of it...sure! After all you were capable of it...you outta know. Takes one to know ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!
Q. I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...
A. 25 July 2009: Well I think slowly and surely you are starting to come around...but remember if she wants to fix this its up to HER. She screwed up and ACTION, NOT WORDS are the only way she can really if ever win your trust back. I was harsh because I wanted y... (read in full...)
I love her but she is not giving me what I need in this relationship. What can we do?
Q. I am unsure as to what I can do about the intimacy with my girlfriend. The first few months with her, she was the one getting all of the action and calling all of the shots. Now that I have more of a say, the sex and being physical is erratic and ...
A. 25 July 2009: well being that you have already voiced your concerns, and you are getting nowhere, I suggest that you find someone that will. But be respectful enough to let your GF go first...and don't cheat on her.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she shouldn't have to stop hanging out with her ex. What do you think?
Q. Ive been with my partner (we are a lesbian couple) close to a year and she still wants to text and talk and hang out with her ex and its killing me inside. Whenever my gf and I fight she goes to her ex and tells her about the fight in detail. Not ...
A. 25 July 2009: You've answered your own question, young lady. Straight or Gay, comitted relationships are just that. Your GF is playing you for a sucker and it is evidenced by her running to her ex when you fight, You are her trial run to see if she can stay away ... (read in full...)
Help needed! What can I organise for my friends Bachelorette Party?
Q. My best friend and her fiance (another friend of mine) are getting married in a month and seeing as I'm the Maid-of-Honor, one of my responsibilities is to throw the Bachelorette Party. Well, my best friend and I have some pretty opposite ideas o...
A. 25 July 2009: GET RESRERVATIONS TO A SPA!!!! If she isnt going for the strippers...pamper her!... (read in full...)
Friend's husband is pursuing me and she suspects something about him
Q. Hello aunts, its 3.30am here in england and my mobile is ringing over and over with texts and calls from my friends husband. His wife, one of my best friends is away in spain at the moment. Hes done this before, a few months ago. He made me swear id ...
A. 25 July 2009: Oh my, what a choice? I'm sorry this is happening to you. But he is playing on your friendship with his wife to continue to attempt this, with the unspoken blackmail. He is using you and thinks that since he assumes you will never tell her, that h... (read in full...)
How can I make sex enjoyable for an older woman?
Q. I have come to really like an older woman. She is 12 years older than me. despite our age difference is it ok for us to have sex? How can I make sex enjoyable for an older woman? Ladies who have any experience with younger men please give advice. ...
A. 25 July 2009: First you gotta get her to throw down her walker....If you hadnt said she was 12 years older Id suspect you were hooking up with an 75 year old...(Is it ok to have sex with her?) lol Im just kidding. I think you should really take this opportunity... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!
Q. I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...
A. 25 July 2009: WHY ARE YOU JUSTIFYING THIS? Listen to yourself...do you think that you told her to go be with him becuase you were so insecure that you figured that was the only way to keep her, only to have it backfire? Then you are surprised when she says ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!
Q. I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...
A. 22 July 2009: I am, sorry, but you are being 1) Way too hard on yourself and 2) justifying her disrespectful behavior.
Do you notice that you are blaming yourself for a conscious decision that she is making by pursuing this? All the overanalyzing in the worl... (read in full...)
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