She broke up with me and refused to give me a clear answer.
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me and refused to speak to me in person or even give me a logical reason behind her decision. We are both in our late 30's and have had many relationships before this one. When I met my ex, she was divorced for ove...
A. 15 October 2009: I sure have experienced this...Its called being full of crap...DUMP HER!... (read in full...)
Is it too weird to date my ex's friend?
Q. I dated my ex boyfriend for about 6 months. We have been broken up for about the same amount of time now ( he broke up with me and started dating his ex) i was sad because we got along great and things were getting a bit serious between us, so it ...
A. 5 October 2009: Well, I do know that their is an unwritten code amongst guys that when you break up you don't date their friends, but that may be an out dated notion. I don't know, maybe I'm old fashioned in that department. Actually since you admitted that yo... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he constantly pulls his pants up when he's around you?
Q. Just a quick Q..... What does it mean when a man constantly pulls his pants up when hes near you? I talk to this man and about 70% of the time hes pulling up his pants or adjusting them (hes not wearing them so low they show his boxers....)...
A. 5 October 2009: Well either he needs a new belt or he may have Jock Itch.
Does he seem like he showers?... (read in full...)
I cheated, and I'm afraid my b/f is going to find out
Q. i need urgent help, please. i made a very big mistake. i cheated on my boyfriend. it started off just texting and emailing, then lead to meeting up and kissing. the guy i had an affair with has kept all the texts and one photo. he wont delete them. ...
A. 4 October 2009: Cheating is NEVER a mistake. It is a conscious decision. A selfish one. Not only that but it is selfish of you to even think about keeping it from him for your own reasons.
Being an adult means accepting consequences for our actions.
You can... (read in full...)
Is a live webcam session something I should reasonably be upset about?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend since I was 14. I am 20 now. We have a 3 year old son and have been living together for 4 years now. The other day he accidently left his computer signed onto a porn site. I do not have a problem with him looking at porn, ...
A. 4 October 2009: This is cheating plain and simple.
God only knows what the hell else he is doing.
while you are at it, if you are having unprotected sex with him, see a doctor. For all you know he is cruising craigs list or Ashley Madison.
... (read in full...)
21 year old son in over his head
Q. Please help, I think my 24 year old son is in over his head. In July of this year my son met a girl who he started dating, in September he told me that he wanted to buy a new house in a town 30 minutes from us, I figured it was because his new ...
A. 4 October 2009: You can voice your concerns but to someone who may think he is in love it is probably going to fall on deaf ears. I know it must be a real struggle for you to strike some happy medium. I mean jesus, this gal seems to have a ton of baggage a... (read in full...)
Should I break up with her over this?
Q. I am having an issue with my girlfriend. I have been with her for a bit over 7 months. She has facebook. When i first starting dating her, about a month into our relationship, one of her facebook friends left her a comment on one of her pictures ...
A. 3 October 2009: Well, how many times do I have to say this ... SOCIAL SITES ARE RELATIONSHIP KILLERS! If there is anything wrong in a relationship, a social site will bring it out. Usually unnecessary drama ensues at them. Uh this reminds me more of the cr... (read in full...)
Facebook is used for cheating?
Q. I get the feeling that facebook is used to cheat on each other. how u guys think?...
A. 3 October 2009: Well of course it is. So is the internet in just about every aspect.
Social sites, chatrooms, IM's Adult Sites, Ashley Madison, Myspace.....need I go on?... (read in full...)
I don't think I can trust him after he went off on stage with a stripper....
Q. What would u do in this situation? I met this man a few wks ago and its been going good really getting to know each other. We havent slept together yet. Just kissing a cuddling. Anyway he went on a stag do last wk end to ansterdam. I didnt worry ...
A. 3 October 2009: Well, I used to live in Amsterdam, and I think the place he is referring to is called "The Bananna Bar" At least it was when I was living there. Well I have a bit of news for you... as opposed to what people over here in the states consider ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my boyfriend got mad because my ex posted on my Facebook?
Q. Just wondering if there's a bigger issue at hand or not. Had a wonderful dinner/movie with my boyfriend of almost 2 years and as we got out of the movie he checked his blackberry where he has facebook and it updates you when someone comments on a ...
A. 3 October 2009: Well I am glad that you were both able to calm down a little bit.
Yeah I know for some people it sounds really weird, but the whole social site thing sometimes really brings out the worst in people. Facebook as opposed to Myspace(from what I c... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my boyfriend got mad because my ex posted on my Facebook?
Q. Just wondering if there's a bigger issue at hand or not. Had a wonderful dinner/movie with my boyfriend of almost 2 years and as we got out of the movie he checked his blackberry where he has facebook and it updates you when someone comments on a ...
A. 3 October 2009: Well, being that he knows that you have cheated in the past, this will be in his mind especially if the guy you are in contact with is an ex.
Sadly, social sites like Facebook are RELATIONSHIP KILLERS! If there is anything wrong in any relation... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and refused to give me a clear answer.
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me and refused to speak to me in person or even give me a logical reason behind her decision. We are both in our late 30's and have had many relationships before this one. When I met my ex, she was divorced for ove...
A. 3 October 2009: She is a drama queen. stop looking for closure or answers, you will find none. Sounds to me as if she found someone else and is conflicted whether to keep you around in case guy number 2 doesent pan out. That type of behavior is the type of... (read in full...)
Should I just go on with my life or stay and work it out?
Q. i've been married to my husband for 2 years. we've known each other for over 11 years. we have our share of problems almost everyday. we'll for start he cheated on me and it was going on for the 2 years we was separated. we decide to go into a ...
A. 3 October 2009: You don't live together,
He is seeing other people where he lives
Im sorry but he left this marriage a long time ago.
Time for you to see a lawyer, and get custody of your kids and forget about this jerk.
He is a turd who is throwing this ... (read in full...)
He cheated... whats best for me?
Q. Ive dated this man for 19 months now. When we first started dating, after a month I found out that he was sneaking around with a married woman twenty years younger than him. It didnt bother me too much because I did just meet him and wasnt looking ...
A. 3 October 2009: I am afraid you have about all the proof you need. If you've already caught him, he does not care about you or your relationship. and the longer you stick around the more likely this will continue. No one can find love in their relationship if ... (read in full...)
He's convinced I've cheated so how do I trust he won't cheat on me?
Q. He says he is convinced I cheated on him. In reality, I did not. He says he wants to still make the marriage work, and that he will leave me before he would cheat on me. How can I trust that he will not cheat on me, when he says he is convinced ...
A. 3 October 2009: I'm sorry but we need more information in order to give you any helpful advice/ Like what the episode he claims for you to have cheated on him entailed What happened that he does not trust you. We cant help you if you give us nothing to advis... (read in full...)
Treats me like a queen for awhile and then turns into a monster
Q. I am married and my husband is a cheater and a liar. I been with him every since i was 16 and got married to him when i was 18 every since we have been dating he have been cheating on me. When i leave he comes to my house and beat on the door ...
A. 2 October 2009: Both Eyes Wide Open and Lazy Guy are telling you all that need to be said. Please get out of this toxic relationship at once. He will not change and he is a crud.
RUN SCREAMING!... (read in full...)
He says there is someone else but then says he's lying about it???
Q. Hey, Ive been with my bf for 9mths now, and we are experiencing some difficulties. We got into an argument last week which made me upset, so Ive been trying to communicate all week with him about sorting out the arguement. He says he is busy due to ...
A. 2 October 2009: seriously I am afraid that this guy is playing head games with you.
He is neither worthy of your affection or your time. Anyone that plays games like that this early into a relationship is just giving you a snapshot of a boatload of future d... (read in full...)
Desperate to get over the ex - will appreciate any help (techniques you have used)
Q. I am really struggling to get over my ex. I have recently started the "no contact" and it hurts like hell. I dont want to go into why we broke up all I know is that its over and I just want to forget him and start healing. I have tried friends, r...
A. 2 October 2009: Ah, I have been there believe me.
Yes it does get better with time, but when you find yourself with even more time on your hands and thinking about the ex, it seems like time stops.
People grieve in their own way and own time. I guess what act... (read in full...)
Surprisingly old for a raver!
Q. I'm not attracted to women my own age, either socially or sexually. I'm a healthy, tall and well educated man, single but looking after two children who are now both teenagers and quite independent. Over the years relationships have tended to l...
A. 2 October 2009: Dont worry about it at all.....Go for it..AND LONG LIVE HAWKWIND!!!... (read in full...)
What do I make of his reply?
Q. Hello all, Just a little advice please. I work for a very large organisation, we all work around a 24/7 shift pattern. I noticed a guy at work 1 year ago, thought he was not bad looking. I then met someone on my team, started seeing him, split ...
A. 2 October 2009: Well good for you. Hope it works out and please keep us posted.
I guess I have to mark myself as totally wrong on this one. Gladly I will. GOOD LUCK!... (read in full...)
My busty wife is going to pose nude on the internet, any opinions?
Q. My wife very busty buxom 40DDD and she is going to pose nude for a site on the internet. Its not a hardcore site site , but it is a fully nude site. Its not the posing nude on the internet that bothers me, she can blur her face but i do not k...
A. 2 October 2009: Sure. I own my own Adult sites so it can be very lucrative. However it will not be lucrative if you blur her face out. Word spreads fast and if one peep sees the face blurred out it will get around that your wife is either not serious or maybe not ... (read in full...)
I'm getting bored with my 6 month relationship, please help!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months on the 13th. Things have been kind of rough for us (I cheated on her in the beginning, I told her, we worked through it; I'm experiencing impotence lately that's putting a strain on us; There's ...
A. 1 October 2009: You cheated on her this fast into the relationship? Actions not words, young man. Impotent or not, you need to show her everyday that YOU are worth keeping around. Frankly she should have dumped you to the curb, so you got off light. Relatio... (read in full...)
I'm really hurting from our break-up, I need to know how to get over it
Q. My ex split up with me nearly 2 months ago. I have been doing the thing that everyone keeps telling me to in the last few weeks, giving him his space, not talking about the break up etc etc. But deep down im really really hurt. In the first few ...
A. 1 October 2009: Ok, Now everyone is different, but allow yourself some time to grieve. If that means cutting yourself off for a time then its ok. But please don't feel like your friends are seeing you as pathetic. In most cases they arent, and if they are true... (read in full...)
Why is he so bothered about remaining friends with me now that he has a new girlfriend?
Q. My ex and I finished about 3 weeks ago. He had admitted to having feelings for another girl so I ended it with him. We still kept in contact for a couple of weeks even talking about trying again. However he started going out with her a couple of ...
A. 1 October 2009: He wants to keep you in case his other relationship falls through. Q is right, he wants to be able to drink from your well again remember this was over the course of three weeks that he went from you ending it(that was a positive move for ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend, it was a huge mistake. I don't know whether to tell
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for just over a year now. 2 months ago she left to go overseas on exchange but I'm going to see her in 2 months and stay with her for 3months. I love her enormously and we've had an amazing relationship. 2 week...
A. 1 October 2009: Once again, now its Total Transparency on your part that will be the only thing that will ever regain her trust in you. Frankly she may never trust you again. But of course that is the risk you took when you cheated on her. Of course, when YOU ... (read in full...)
I don't want to watch him die
Q. My bf is 25 and im turning 23. He's got high blood pressure but taking medication right now. Should we even think about getting married or should we end our relationship? I don't want to see him die. I don't want to be left alone to deal w...
A. 1 October 2009: Many people have high blood pressure that is controlable by medication. Please give us something more to go on than having HBP?
Is he terminal?
What is going on with your mother?
I don't want to assume anything on a health question unless you ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to check up?
Q. hi, me and my boyfriend have been together now for almost three years. In that time he has cheated once with a woman for a month, that ended once i found out. He has persued another woman but she didnt want anything with him. Why did i stay? because ...
A. 30 September 2009: No, you are not in the wrong at all, young lady.
I understand how you feel. Even though he has cheated on you in the past, you have given him a second and a third chance.
Always remember that Actions and not words are the only barometer in a r... (read in full...)
Had to leave her due to accidental sex, want her back!
Q. i had a girl, because of an accidental sex i had 2 leave her. but now she's out and i'd like the first one back. (i dont know whats in her mind. what shall i do?...
A. 30 September 2009: An accidental sex I believe is an encounter outside of the relationship. I heard that term only one time, and it was in Nepal.
So I think he is trying to say he may have had to leave her because one of them cheated.
Poster please give us s... (read in full...)
Should I go back to the books and graduate, then try for university again?
Q. My question may not have any relevance to love... But ill give it a try, back in 2007 i did my matric but i failed so i didnt graduate from high school,i was gonna study neurology, since i had a grade 10 certificate i could go to college and opte...
A. 30 September 2009: Hell yes by all means go back to school.
It took me 10 years to figure out what I wanted to do. That was a bachelor's and two masters degrees ago!
Believe me, it will be well worth it.... (read in full...)
The argument was blown way out of proportion and he asked me to move out! Was I over-reacting or was I right to expect an apology?
Q. Last month when my b/f was away on business, I noticed that someone had tried to egg my car but missed almost completely. I wasn't sure at the time that it was even an attempt, but I found broken egg shells and a slime on my tire. I washed it off ...
A. 30 September 2009: Well Anonymous,
I take it you are referring to me about justification and telling the truth?
All I can say is that I have never had the need to post anything on an anonymous basis, nor will I. It is because I stand behind every word I write her... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I'm pregnant again?
Q. Im pregnant for the second time and how do i tel my parents,my first baby is three years and my parents are pastors and wel knwn people they wil b ashamed of me wat must i do...
A. 29 September 2009: Are you ashamed because that your parents are pastors and your child is conceived out of Wedlock? Is that why you are scared of telling your parents?
We really cant help you if you dont give us any info to go on. Because saying you are pregnant... (read in full...)
The argument was blown way out of proportion and he asked me to move out! Was I over-reacting or was I right to expect an apology?
Q. Last month when my b/f was away on business, I noticed that someone had tried to egg my car but missed almost completely. I wasn't sure at the time that it was even an attempt, but I found broken egg shells and a slime on my tire. I washed it off ...
A. 29 September 2009: Quiet Echo and ask Older Sister:
You have heard me post many times about how people come here and fish for answers they WANT to hear as opposed to what they Need to hear.
The most telling part was when she responded that she was trying to "T... (read in full...)
The argument was blown way out of proportion and he asked me to move out! Was I over-reacting or was I right to expect an apology?
Q. Last month when my b/f was away on business, I noticed that someone had tried to egg my car but missed almost completely. I wasn't sure at the time that it was even an attempt, but I found broken egg shells and a slime on my tire. I washed it off ...
A. 29 September 2009: Sounds like you have some issues yourself. If you expect someone to give you a warm fuzzy over getting your car egged and then demand an apology over something so trivial, then I would say that probably is a pattern to your behavior. Not only ... (read in full...)
I can't stop flirting and sleeping with men!
Q. I am 21 yrs old and have 2 beutifull children with my boyfriend of 5 yrs who i love dearly and who dearly loves me, but I cant stop flirting and sleeping with other men. I flirt all the time online as i cant sleep with the men online, but if i go ...
A. 29 September 2009: Yeah I can help....
You can not find love in yoru relationship if you are seeking love outside of it.
Part of being an adult is taking responsibility for our actions.
You are simply too selfish and immature to be in any kind of relationship... (read in full...)
The day I was going to ask her to marry me she told me she had cheated on me
Q. My gf of 4 yrs went on a all girls trip south and when she came home she told me she hooked up with another guy. She claims they never had sex just made out and did alot of touching. The day she came home I actually had plan to ask her to marry me. ...
A. 28 September 2009: Well, I wouldn't. You only got what is called "trickle down truth". Maybe she will try to tell you "it didn't mean anything, or "I was confused, I just wanted to see where we stood". That is typical of this type of behavior. Most likely sh... (read in full...)
She made a new facebook account, lied about it and now I feel very insecure
Q. ive been dating this amazing girl for about 1 yr and 5months. shes amazing and i love her to death. she is my other half. we have been through absolute hell together, from the rumors and drama to the pointless arguements. were together forever. ...
A. 28 September 2009: Well , well.... Young man, Sadly, social sites such as Facebook and Myspace are RELATIONSHIP KILLERS! If there is anything wrong in a relationship, being on a social site is sure to bring it out into the open. Realize that people on those ... (read in full...)
I give the best advice I can, but I feel helpless
Q. When my friends come to me for advice and help, I listen and offer advice to them. I get upset sometimes with them when they don't listen to me. I know they have to learn for themselves, but sometimes when we are in a situation, we can't see clearly ...
A. 27 September 2009: Unfortunately these people are adults and they are within their own right to accept your advice or not. Frankly, it seems a bit selfish to feel like this. Part of being an adult is taking responsibility for one's decisions. And although you may feel... (read in full...)
She's pregnant by another guy and broke up with me, I'm heartbroken
Q. she is the same age as me and in truth weve known each other for about 4 1/2 weeks and we've "liked" each other for just as long. well about a week ago she broke up with her boyfiend so i asked if she'd go out with me and she said yes. well ever ...
A. 27 September 2009: A month and you are like this?
Come on, its a little crush, not love.
You have no concept of what love is, and neither does she.
Be lucky you dont have to deal with thsi chick's baggage, because you can move on and not be suckered in with... (read in full...)
I'm married want to know if its ok to indulge in sex with someone else?
Q. i am a married for last 3 years, last year i met a guy who is single. intially it was a good friendship. he is 3 years younger to me. we used to talk a lot. gradually he started expressing his feeling and talking all about himself. one day i saw his ...
A. 26 September 2009: WOW
Being you are from India and if you are Hindu, I would be very worried about your physical safety at this point. I hope if this is the case that you fully realize that you may be subjecting yourself to serious and painful punishment if this ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with a friend that slept with my good guy friend
Q. I am really losing my mind here. Here is what's going on with me. I have a girlfriend for about 5 years now but our relationship is extremely dysfunctional and we are never intimate nor have I had sex with her in over a year. She has been ...
A. 24 September 2009: What you need to do is stop justifying your immature and selfish behavior.
YOU CANNOT FIND LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR LOVE OUTSIDE OF IT!
Sadly you need to be a man and come clean with your GF and accept the consequences... (read in full...)
I cheated, she broke up with me, but I really want her back!
Q. Please help me Its my Junior year in high school and im really cracking down on my grades this year. and at the end of last year i met this girl that thought i was cute. i saw her around the hallways and she always looked great. her hair is real...
A. 24 September 2009: Actions not words.
Young man, hard as it is going to be for you to hear this here it is. You cheating at this young age shows one thing and one thing only...sadly you are not mature enough to be in any kind of relationship. She is well within h... (read in full...)
How can I change in this relationship
Q. I really need help.I don't know what going on with me. I am extreamly jealous of my husband.Even he go to work I thinking of he make out with someone.We been married for 2years.We always fight. every week.We both tired of it.I try to change, but I ...
A. 24 September 2009: What you failed to mention that whether or not you have brought up the possibility of Marriage Counseling. Realtionships are built on trust and if you really love him and want this to work, then you need to give it a try. MC is very affordable ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend, it was a huge mistake. I don't know whether to tell
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for just over a year now. 2 months ago she left to go overseas on exchange but I'm going to see her in 2 months and stay with her for 3months. I love her enormously and we've had an amazing relationship. 2 week...
A. 24 September 2009: Well I will give you props at least for being a man about it and telling her. And yes now the hard part begins. The cornerstone of any relationship is trust. and for you it will have to mean TOTAL transparency in your relationship with her. And re... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend, it was a huge mistake. I don't know whether to tell
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for just over a year now. 2 months ago she left to go overseas on exchange but I'm going to see her in 2 months and stay with her for 3months. I love her enormously and we've had an amazing relationship. 2 week...
A. 23 September 2009: Enough of these "Mistakes" from cheaters around here dont blame booze or drugs. You both made a conscious decision when you did this. It is always convenient to blame anything other than yourself. Young man,being an adult means taking res... (read in full...)
What do I make of his reply?
Q. Hello all, Just a little advice please. I work for a very large organisation, we all work around a 24/7 shift pattern. I noticed a guy at work 1 year ago, thought he was not bad looking. I then met someone on my team, started seeing him, split ...
A. 15 September 2009: Well being that you were talking about work, I will agree with Echo here. The implication I am getting is that what this guy may have been thinking is that since both of you are single, that you could dedicate yourselves to the project.
Id bet that... (read in full...)
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