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writes:Ladies,I'm a married man of 2 years, and my wife is still not sure that she wants to swallow while performing oral sex. It creates a kind of vicious circle for me in a sense that I have a hard time "finishing" because the thought of her not swallowing is always in the back of my mind. An ex-girlfriend of mine did enjoy (well at least she acted as if she did) swallowing, and I would "finish" in a reasonable amount of time, but with my wife it tales a looooong time (if ever) for me to finish. Usually the session ends up with me masturbating instead of her finishing me. She does it very well, and there is no real technique differences between her and my ex-girlfriend that I really notice, other than the swallowing. I'm not being totally selfish in wanting her to do it either, because I can tell that she gets down on herself when I do not "finish" from her oral stimulation. How can I convince her to try it out just once.... for both of our sakes?
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reader, xtwinklex  +, writes (22 December 2009):
has she never swallowed and is just assuming, or has she before and hated it? If it's the second, then you're stumped :)
Personally, I enjoy the taste and never considered not swallowing. I'd be a bit put out if it was the other way round :)
If it's something that's really affecting your sexlife then find 'sexy' ways to work up to full on swallowing.. If you don't know what something tastes like, you won't be wanting a mouthful :P
If it's not affecting anything else though, put up with it for what it is?
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female
reader, Not My Name  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 She may just be grossed out at the thought of swallowing a bodily fluid in which case that's life and nothing you can do about it. Take heart tho, I have a friend who literally vomits just at the sight or smell of it, nevermind any notion of her actually swallowing it, so your one up there if your wife is not running off heaving up no matter where your semen ends up. (Luckily she has an understanding hubby who accepts her weak stomach and has learnt not to take offence if she suddenly does a mad dash to go puke.) It may be a taste issue. Unless you have tasted it yourself and found it ok, I dont think any man can really bitch up about a woman not wanting to go there. However, if you want to plead your case with your wife and give her maximum encouragement then you should make a contientious effort to make sure you make it as pleasant for her from your end as possible. There is a product called 'semenex' that improves the taste of semen (making it sweeter) literally overnight. Pineapple, parsley, honey, a low fat diet, etc supposedly help but take several weeks of adherence to make any notable diff. You could perhaps check if she is aware that the positioning of your penis in her mouth at the time of ejaculation will effect how much actually get's on taste buds. If the head of your penis is as far towards the throat as possible (without making her gag of course), then most of it can slip by the tastebuds close to un noticed. Or - why not just wear a flavoured condom, ... you still get to come whilst in her mouth, and it eliminates issues with swallowing for her. Everybody wins.
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reader, malteser +, writes (26 April 2009):
 my boyfriend wants me to swallow in the year that we have been together i have swallowed twice. And i wont do it mainly because it tasts gross. No lie it is horrible, you should try it and see for your self. Popcorn honey and celery are supposed to make it taste better but you would have to eat bucketloads of it to make a diffrence. The way we get around it is for him to come on my tits when he sits on my hips and this works. Or just for him to come inside me. I dont know why it turns a man on to come in a womens mouth. But if your partner dosent like than find an alternitive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Im sorry but if your wife doesnt want to swallow she doesnt want to swallow.
respect her decision and deal with it.
OR
it could be the fact semen can taste absolutely disgusting like swallowing a bucket of very salty sea water. if thats the case eat fruit or some food that isnt salty and fatty then ask her to give it a lick and if it tastes nice to her then she will want to do it more maybe. if not and she doesnt like it dont force it and then just respect her decision as i said before. theres probably things you do not want to do to her in sex or foreplay that she wants you to do.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Some girls just don't like swallowing cum. I hated it when i did and was almost sick.
You can't make your wife do anything she doesn't want to and your going to have to respect that and find something else to do.
Cum doesn't taste that nice to all girls so just take that in mind when you are trying to ask her to do it. Really don't ask her, she will do it if she wants to but just try and enjoy it how it is.
Livia
xx
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male
reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (23 April 2009):
 I had a girlfriend once who swore up and down that she could "guess my lunch" by swallowing me whole!!(she had an affinity for the 3 Martini Lunch)
so maybe I would suggest a five course meal or a five dollar subway footlong(that you eat) before she blows you, just dont get the Spicy Italian..LMAO!!!
In all seriousness though, I dont see any way that you are going to be able to pull this off. Oh she might humor you once and try it. But pal, when you see that youve created an "Angry Dragon" because of the steam coming out of her ears after drinking you and being pissed...you better run for the hills!!!
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reader, introvert +, writes (23 April 2009):
introvert is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks girls.
I didn't make this title. Somehow it got changed, and I don't now how.
I'm sure every woman who sees the question is gonna have it out for me now.
Crap lol.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): She dosen't like it. This is about you, your having a mental block. Your not the only man who has a wife who dosen't swallow and it isn't a big deal or a problem.
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female
reader, kellyxxx +, writes (23 April 2009):
 Demanding was the wrong word, apologies! Xx I'm so glad you don't bring up x's with her! Lol. Just talk to her, but before you talk let her know that this conversation is a 'no pressure' conversation! So then she won't feel as if the convo Is leading somewhere! X
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reader, introvert +, writes (23 April 2009):
introvert is verified as being by the original poster of the questionkellyxxx,
I would never compare her to my x in front of her. I'd be lying if I said that I didn't compare some aspects of sex with her to other women I've been with (who doesn't?)...but I'd never even think about bringing up an x when discussing sex with her. You think I have a deathwish? lol.
The thing is that she really wants to finish me off, but it just doesn't seem to happen.
Thanks for the reply.
I do fail to see why you feel the need to call me "demanding" though. What am I demanding?
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2009): Well, if it's the taste of cum, there are some things that improve the taste, some foods I believe (well some foods also make it taste yucky), and also some pills if I'm correct. Talk with her about this, if it's the taste maybe this could be a solution.
If it simply grosses her out, well, maybe there's no way to make her consider swallowing. Perhaps you could be more creative to finish? for example, maybe she'll agree to let you cum on her breasts? I mean, well, I don't have a problem swallowing, but it's kind of hot when my boyfriend cums on another part of my body after oral.
Maybe she's scared of throwing up, I don't know, there could be a lot of factors involved... talk about this with her if you haven't already, but you know she may never want to do it and that's ok. I also agree with kelly, NEVER compare her to an ex.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (23 April 2009):
Firstly...don't ever compare her to an ex girlfriend! If my boyfriend did that I would dump him!! Each person is different! Secondly, if she doesn't like the taste of cum (which most girls don't) then you can't make her swallow it! Why doesn't she just finish you by hand? Or why doesn't she spend a smaller amount of time giving you oral and then you could have sex and finish inside her (or inside a condom) there are lots of things you can do! Keep reassurring her that its not her fault! Its your fault for being demanding! X
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reader, introvert +, writes (23 April 2009):
introvert is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to clarify, I don't intend to "make my wife swallow" as the title states lol.
Just wondering how I can at least get her to think about it.
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