What do I make of his reply?
Q. Hello all, Just a little advice please. I work for a very large organisation, we all work around a 24/7 shift pattern. I noticed a guy at work 1 year ago, thought he was not bad looking. I then met someone on my team, started seeing him, split ...
A. 2 October 2009: Well good for you. Hope it works out and please keep us posted.
I guess I have to mark myself as totally wrong on this one. Gladly I will. GOOD LUCK!... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend, it was a huge mistake. I don't know whether to tell
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for just over a year now. 2 months ago she left to go overseas on exchange but I'm going to see her in 2 months and stay with her for 3months. I love her enormously and we've had an amazing relationship. 2 week...
A. 1 October 2009: Once again, now its Total Transparency on your part that will be the only thing that will ever regain her trust in you. Frankly she may never trust you again. But of course that is the risk you took when you cheated on her. Of course, when YOU ... (read in full...)
How can I change in this relationship
Q. I really need help.I don't know what going on with me. I am extreamly jealous of my husband.Even he go to work I thinking of he make out with someone.We been married for 2years.We always fight. every week.We both tired of it.I try to change, but I ...
A. 24 September 2009: What you failed to mention that whether or not you have brought up the possibility of Marriage Counseling. Realtionships are built on trust and if you really love him and want this to work, then you need to give it a try. MC is very affordable ... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on how to do this the right way?
Q. my girlfriend told me randomly one morning when she was really horny that she had dreamt about us having a mmf threesome. i was schocked at the time and i was pretty much speechless as she masturbated just thinking of the idea. later she took it ...
A. 24 September 2009: Well young man... You better be real confident in your relationship with her in order to do this. You better make sure you are going to be able to handle watching your GF moan perhaps a little more differently or deeper or louder with this guy in... (read in full...)
Do you think it is worth it to forgive someone who did this to you?
Q. I have been dating a girl for 3 years. We graduated college and had a long distance relationship. In this time she broke up with me for someone else. Im am pretty sure she cheated on me before she broke up with me for this other person. Well ...
A. 24 September 2009: Well you realize that you can't really know whether she cheated on you or not. She certainly is not going to just announce that to you, However, By her begging that she will never hurt you again, I would be very leery of this woman. I smell a r... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend, it was a huge mistake. I don't know whether to tell
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for just over a year now. 2 months ago she left to go overseas on exchange but I'm going to see her in 2 months and stay with her for 3months. I love her enormously and we've had an amazing relationship. 2 week...
A. 24 September 2009: Well I will give you props at least for being a man about it and telling her. And yes now the hard part begins. The cornerstone of any relationship is trust. and for you it will have to mean TOTAL transparency in your relationship with her. And re... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend, it was a huge mistake. I don't know whether to tell
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for just over a year now. 2 months ago she left to go overseas on exchange but I'm going to see her in 2 months and stay with her for 3months. I love her enormously and we've had an amazing relationship. 2 week...
A. 23 September 2009: Enough of these "Mistakes" from cheaters around here dont blame booze or drugs. You both made a conscious decision when you did this. It is always convenient to blame anything other than yourself. Young man,being an adult means taking res... (read in full...)
I hurt her because I told her about my mixed up feelings about my ex
Q. First to understand my situation..you have to know what I have been through the last year. For the last 3 years I have been a recreational/serious poker player. I'd go the casino on a decent basis. There was this poker dealer that I slowly ...
A. 21 September 2009: Sorry, but "mistakes" are wrong lane changes...you helped a married woman cheat. Thats a conscious decision on your part that shows a deficiency of character.
... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion? I really want to get a divorce because I feel like this is going to be a never ending pattern
Q. OK well i have been married for two years in october and total time together will be 3yrs. My husband is a solider and we got married before he went to iraq. After seven month when he got a 2 week break everything was fine and loving but he used my ...
A. 20 September 2009: Oh Im so sorry this happened to you.
See a lawyer and get your financial affairs in order(start saving what money you can)
Get checked for STD's...If he's at the club...he may have brought something home to you from the club
And last but mo... (read in full...)
I hurt her because I told her about my mixed up feelings about my ex
Q. First to understand my situation..you have to know what I have been through the last year. For the last 3 years I have been a recreational/serious poker player. I'd go the casino on a decent basis. There was this poker dealer that I slowly ...
A. 20 September 2009: Well young man, you are a prime example of the old saying about Karma.
See you helped a married woman to cheat. So after meeting #2 you emotionally went back to the well by looking at Myspace.
What did you expect?...#2 is
A) Long Distanc... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had sex with someone else more than a week after our break up. We're back together, is she more likely to cheat?
Q. My girlfriend and i were dating for a year and i broke up with her on our one year anniversary due to constant fighting and other bullshit. (nothing big though) after i realized that i shouldnt have been so quick to let her go, i quickly asked her ...
A. 20 September 2009: Who's to say the next time you get into a tiff that she wont be running back to this other guy...and a co-worker at that. which means they are together at work?
lol...this has bad ending written all over it young man.
Sorry for the levity but t... (read in full...)
Why is this working for him???
Q. How's this working for him? Does this sound happy? My husband of l0 years lost his business and basically hit a mid life crisis. He decided to leave to sort out his anxiety over having lied about money issues. I doubt that now..but about a month af...
A. 20 September 2009: Well, then as long as you can walk away from the marriage knowing you did everything you could to help him and he ended up on this path, then I for one can not blame you. You can only do so much and if you have children, then I certainly ... (read in full...)
Why is this working for him???
Q. How's this working for him? Does this sound happy? My husband of l0 years lost his business and basically hit a mid life crisis. He decided to leave to sort out his anxiety over having lied about money issues. I doubt that now..but about a month af...
A. 20 September 2009: Well did you suggest any type of Marriage Counseling before this entire debacle happened, or did it just come as a complete shock to you?
Was there anything else that led to the separation other than money issues?
I mean all I am getting here ... (read in full...)
My LDR seems to be fading away
Q. My boyfriend and I started college not too long ago. It's a long distance relationship. I had the upper hand since I started it during summer, and everytime class ended or between my classes, I'd call him and he would always pick up. The long ...
A. 20 September 2009: Young Lady,
LDR's rarely if ever work. They involve a lot of trust and constant communication. None of which it seems you have in this case
9 out of ten LDR's are doomed to failure. And it leaves more wiggle room for him and you to actually ... (read in full...)
Any sexual fantasies about him have evaporated due to his size. Is this shallow?
Q. This is directed mainly at other women Hi, I've been out on a few dates with a guy and I'm ready to take it futher than just kissing if you know what I mean. However, the other day he was round at my house, I put my hand down his pants and h...
A. 20 September 2009: YEP...
Move on. And yes, you are very shallow... (read in full...)
Should I tell her husband she was cheating on him?
Q. ok, so I was seeing a girl who lied to me...I later found out she was married. Apparently the husband was away overseas; she has gotten back together with him and has cut off all communication with me. My question is should I email/ tell the ...
A. 17 September 2009: OF COURSE YOU TELL HIM!
THERE IS NO OTHER OPTION!
Please read my story about what happened when I caught my fiance cheating on me in my bed 3 weeks before my wedding. And then ask yourself "Would Grimm have been better served if he had known ... (read in full...)
Do the aunts feel the love here?
Q. I have been seeing a married man for the past 14 months we have great sex but we get on well together and have similar interests, i am separated from my husband. The man I am seeing has never told me he loves me nor have I told him that I love him. ...
A. 17 September 2009: There is no love there. You made a conscious decision by continuing this farce with a married man. And now you are y about to deservedly learn what so many mistresses find out far too late. He will not leave her for you You are sex. That is i... (read in full...)
Met up with ex girlfriend, please please!
Q. hey guys, so basically tonight, me and my friend went to see a show and my ex from 3 years ago was there, we bumped into her and ended up hanging out with her and her friend all night. however, my ex was just hanging out with me most of the nigh...
A. 15 September 2009: DONT DO IT! You cant find love in your relationship if you are looking outside of it. You will be very sorry and hurt your current GF needlessly if you pursue this. And why you even let it go this far with the picture taking and all of that s... (read in full...)
What do I make of his reply?
Q. Hello all, Just a little advice please. I work for a very large organisation, we all work around a 24/7 shift pattern. I noticed a guy at work 1 year ago, thought he was not bad looking. I then met someone on my team, started seeing him, split ...
A. 15 September 2009: Well being that you were talking about work, I will agree with Echo here. The implication I am getting is that what this guy may have been thinking is that since both of you are single, that you could dedicate yourselves to the project.
Id bet that... (read in full...)
We both cheated I don't know wether to forgive him or forget him
Q. Well I recently found out my bf had been cheating on me a couple times with another girl. They never had sex but got close to it. I found out and broke up with him. But I also cheated on him once, only I just kissed the other guy. But I feel its ...
A. 15 September 2009: There is basically NO DIFFERENCE. Regardless you both engaged in activity outside of your relationship. 3 weeks or 3 months DOES NOT MATTER ONE IOTA. You are not any better than him. You are basically the same animal. How you can justify it by us... (read in full...)
I feel really ashamed of myself.. how can I get over this event?
Q. Last weekend was the worst weekend of my life. I went to a concernt Friday and Saturday night (same band). I have been in contact with one of the crew guys and we were going to get together after the shows. Friday he ditched me, no biggy because ...
A. 10 September 2009: Original Poster,
I was out of town and I did receive your PM but for some unexplained reason I have tried to respond for the past two hours without success. Maybe you deleted your account. Or it may be because I am working with a very slow int... (read in full...)
Why can some women be so cruel and man hating?
Q. Hello i would like opinons first from the guys have you experenced this secondly from the girls do you treat guys like this and why. I was out the other day saw some beautful women many of them so decided to talk to a few i had a beer so decded ...
A. 5 September 2009: You have crossed the line from being inquisitive to being creepy. You sound a bit desperate don't ya think? Uh coming on strong like that to complete strangers is probably ok in a fantasy world or a romance novel, but not in real life. Pe... (read in full...)
Do I take him back or not?
Q. About a month ago, I found out my boyfriend had cheated on me four times. Three of the times were just kissing, one time was more (it involved taking clothes off), all with the same girl. Two days before I found out he told me he loved me. We had ...
A. 5 September 2009: Young Lady, This guy has given you a snapshot into what kind of long term boyfriend he will be. He is not worth your time or your effort. You are so young. Please take this opportunity to thank him for showing you what an idiot he is. and bel... (read in full...)
Should I ignore what I think are lies and try to move forward in our marriage?
Q. Several years ago my wife and I had a real problem. My wife moved in with another man. We had 2 young children (2 and 3). At first she asked me to move out and take the kids with me. Anything my wife really wants I will do (within reason). A good ...
A. 5 September 2009: Well sir, You have yourself a liar for a wife. If you are to believe any of her story at all, then stop by my office because I have the Brooklyn Bridge to sell you. I know its hard, but the children will adjust. What you need to do now is ... (read in full...)
She slept with someone else while we were on a break
Q. Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years, recently moved into my own apartment. was feeling very confused and anxious about my life at the time of the move, esp since it was the first time I ever lived alone, and began to doubt my relationship. see a ...
A. 5 September 2009: OH GIVE ME A BREAK! "Confused, Messed Up, etc." Jesus why does NO ONE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANY ACTIONS ANYMORE. Both of you are no where near mature enough to handle a relationship. You because you kept giving her mixed s... (read in full...)
Did I handle things wrong? I don't want to be labeled as "the crazy bitch"
Q. I would like to get your take on this. I want to apologize but not sure if it’s even worth it. I’ve been dating a guy for about a month ½. Total gentleman, pays all the time, opens doors, can speak for himself and hold a conversation, helps when nee...
A. 4 September 2009: Just let it go. Your mistake was letting him sleep over at your house in the first place. Respect for EACH OTHER starts at hello. It is not the sole onus of the man. You need to show some respect as well. Your first paragraph belies the fact ... (read in full...)
Travelling in Australia and met someone, what do I do about my boyfriend back home?
Q. Hi everybody, Im currently travelling around the world. So before I came away I was on a website for travellers and met lots of friends who ive met up with along the way and turned into great friends. There was a guy I was chatting to alot...
A. 2 September 2009: What is all this nonsense about Separating while you are away? Either this guy is your BF or he isn't. Apparently he isn't. And you have found someone else anyway after chatting online. So don't call this poor guy back home your BF. You are j... (read in full...)
She had sex with this guy and 6 of his friends and now they're all calling her an easy slut!
Q. One of best friends is Lily she is 20 and is a cool girl. She is really quite and jsut a really good girl , the kind of girl parents they had. She really lieks this jock type guy from our college and she just confided in me that a few nights ago she ...
A. 1 September 2009: Sorry ...Young Man...I wrote to fast. Sorry about that. But the fact remains, if it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck....not much she or you can do about that. Part of adulthood if taking responsibility for our actions. And she will pay thr... (read in full...)
She had sex with this guy and 6 of his friends and now they're all calling her an easy slut!
Q. One of best friends is Lily she is 20 and is a cool girl. She is really quite and jsut a really good girl , the kind of girl parents they had. She really lieks this jock type guy from our college and she just confided in me that a few nights ago she ...
A. 1 September 2009: Young Lady, There is only so much you can do. It is what it is. I mean 6 guys at one time? Sorry, but if it quacks like a duck........ (read in full...)
My sister married a loser, and how she and I never speak.
Q. My Older sister was in love once before, and engaged. Her previous relationship cheated on her and got the girl pregnant. Now, she left that guy and met the guy she is married to now. and he is a total loser. No job, no drive, no personality. He...
A. 1 September 2009: You can't repair anything by sticking your nose in her business. She is an adult, and she is allowed to make her own decisions. If I had a sister who disapproved of my spouse as much as you disapprove of hers, I'd probably have moved 3000 miles away ... (read in full...)
After a threesome, my gf is pregnant. What do we do now?
Q. My girlfriend and I are both 25. Normally she has a very regualar menstrual cycle, the pill make her sick so we avoid sex on the days she ovulates. Her last period was period was July 1, which means she should have ovualted from June 12-15, we had ...
A. 1 September 2009: Threesomes with 3 different guys? Well you will have to take a paternity test obviously. Can I get the last 2 minutes of my life back? Jeeze how old are you again?... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but I cant stay faithful? How can I stop?
Q. I have a women and I love her but I like having sex with other women. I want to get help for my promblem. What can i do? ...
A. 31 August 2009: How about growing up? If you cheat on your GF, you don't love her. THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE! Or you are a serial cheater, or a sex addict. But I tend to think that people who claim to suffer from sex addiction are really looking for a justi... (read in full...)
Goodbye to all at Dear Cupid
Q. Well, this is not a question. I have just decided to opt out as an agony aunt, "uncle". I seem not to have had much success lately. I think it is just an age thing. I am probably to old to give advice to the questioners who seem to be of a much ...
A. 31 August 2009: Well sorry that you feel that way. I understand if you feel too old. But listen... Your ratings have NO impact on the value of your advice. Take it from me...you thing I give one good damn about ratings? HELL NO! People who rate me low just ca... (read in full...)
I hooked up with former porn star and now my ex wants me back, and I can't tell him what I did
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years, we were high school sweethearts, and after our first year of college decided to give it a break. After 2 weeks of being sad and lonely my friend and I decided to go out and party a bit and let ...
A. 27 August 2009: Well you certainly didnt miss your BF too much if youu had this amazing weekend with the stud just two weeks into your breakup. Own what you did. Your BF probably wouldn't take you back, but its HIS decision to make, not YOURS! Be honest and let h... (read in full...)
More advice needed please! Is he just being a smooth-talker when he says he doesn't want sex with my friend unless I'm included?
Q. Hi, want to know under a regestered user name an answer, my hang up is I just dont want him to be more attractied to her than I. He agreed that he would never contact her without me or would he have any sexual activity with her without me, he says ...
A. 27 August 2009: Good Job original poster!!! BRAVO! I have always said when it comes to three ways to be careful what you wish for... It is painfully obvious that you were not ready for this. Well really nothing you can do about it now. For it wasnt the turn on... (read in full...)
I feel really ashamed of myself.. how can I get over this event?
Q. Last weekend was the worst weekend of my life. I went to a concernt Friday and Saturday night (same band). I have been in contact with one of the crew guys and we were going to get together after the shows. Friday he ditched me, no biggy because ...
A. 27 August 2009: Young Lady you have nothing to be ashamed of. Really you don't. And I am not blaming you at all. Really that crap happens alot. The Rock and Roll Lifestyle lends itself to the objectification of women. Roadies usually get better tail than the ac... (read in full...)
Please give me some input about how I can permanently leave this loser!
Q. I have asked this question a couple of times. Why do I keep going back to a guy who has been an abuser, physically and verbally and who has cheated on me..Every time, I try to leave him, I end up with him..I've been with him for 4 years off and on ...
A. 27 August 2009: It often takes us many times before we can go through with the actual act. But I can only say that there is only one way you can do it and that is by making him INSIGNIFICANT. Your post belies the fact that you will take this abuse because you... (read in full...)
I found out she cheated on me a year ago!
Q. My partner and I have been together for four and a half years. Since the middle of our sophomore year of college. We started at the same graduate school last year and I'm planning on finishing with my Master's in Education while she wants to go on ...
A. 27 August 2009: Fact is ....YOU CANT BE SURE! Two things...she cheated on you, and lied by keeping it a secret. Just be glad you found out now instead of finding out after perhaps having a civil union, or having a mortgage or having a family...etc. Sadly,... (read in full...)
I feel really ashamed of myself.. how can I get over this event?
Q. Last weekend was the worst weekend of my life. I went to a concernt Friday and Saturday night (same band). I have been in contact with one of the crew guys and we were going to get together after the shows. Friday he ditched me, no biggy because ...
A. 27 August 2009: Young Lady,
I worked as a roadie in the 80's. Sadly part of the tradition of many a crew is simply to get hot chicks in bed with the promises of meeting the band, etc.
The intention is simply to get YOU in bed and get another notch on his bel... (read in full...)
Should I tell this woman that her husband was cheating on her?
Q. Hi, i have a bit of a dilemma, my new girlfriend has admitted to me that before we got together she was having sexual relations with a man who is engaged over the period of a few months. She shows no remorse for her actions, and i really think i ...
A. 22 August 2009: Scratch that..not him but her (my bad)...yeah tell her. She will be crushed but you will be saving her a life of heartache in the long run and a marriage that begins on a lie.... (read in full...)
Should I tell this woman that her husband was cheating on her?
Q. Hi, i have a bit of a dilemma, my new girlfriend has admitted to me that before we got together she was having sexual relations with a man who is engaged over the period of a few months. She shows no remorse for her actions, and i really think i ...
A. 22 August 2009: Well let me ask you this question poster. If you found out that your fiance was cheating on you before you were married and that you had a friend that new about it for awhile but did not lift a finger to let you know, how would you feel? Yeah... (read in full...)
I no longer trust my friend because of her promiscusous ways
Q. A very good friend of mine is very promiscous. She has a very high sex drive and does it like a guy. A few years ago, we were at a party and a guy who liked me was also there. He liked me and I didn't like him coz of his casanova ways. We all hung ...
A. 20 August 2009: why is this a problem after so much time has passed? Has there been other incidents as well? I mean if this was a few years ago and this is the ONLY incident that has bothered you? I guess I am just not understanding you here. If you didnt like t... (read in full...)
Friend disappeared to do a job in the middle of my 50th bithday party
Q. Last sunday I had my big 50th lunch for a lot of friends. My best friend is unemployed, and does some taxi driving for people he knows to earn some extra cash. During the lunch he just disappeared .I asked where he'd gone and all anyone knew was ...
A. 19 August 2009: Birthdays are over-rated. Things are tough all over. And Miss Anne makes a great point. If this guy is in financial straits as desperate as that for money, I think you really should consider the circumstance here.
People tend to get very emotiona... (read in full...)
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