Is her new guy a bandaid or is she playing mindgames with me?
Q. So, my girlfriend and I of two years broke up. the last year we were living together. We got into a fight and she left the house didn't come home that night. first time she ever did that in a fight. everything was going good the weeks before. I ...
A. 3 August 2009: CONGRATULATIONS! I am sorry you had to arrive at the point especially with someone you obvioulsy loved. But making them insignificant really does help in the long run. The air smells nicer, the days look brighter, and you feel better kn... (read in full...)
How do I get over him when this is happening?
Q. I need some help. I have no idea what to do, or what to think, or what to feel. I met this guy a couple of months ago in a parking lot at a car shop that I was at with my best friend. The moment we saw each other across the way, there was this ine...
A. 15 July 2009: Well I am glad that he showed his hand. The thing with person's we met online is that as I had said in my previous post that they cant turn the other person on or off without batting an eye. I had a similar situation a couple of years ago where th... (read in full...)
I treat him so badly. How do I stop it and tell him how sorry I am?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend about a year now but its suddenly hit me how bad i treat him. We are in a long distance relationship and see each other at the weekends but i have realised i take everything out on him and start stupid arguments for no...
A. 14 July 2009: LDR's are hard to maintain at best. The only thing you can really do is by actions, not words, Because we all know that talk is cheap. Do the little things, it can be as simple as a hug some days. It does not mean you have to lavish gifts upon ... (read in full...)
Would you appear on the show Bachelor or Bachelorette?
Q. Here is something I wanted to float out there to all the Aunties and Uncles. It may seem stupid, but I have just thought I would ask. Right now, between working on my sites, and looking up at the television, I just ran into this trainwreck of a ...
A. 14 July 2009: Thanks for the answers. Yeah T.O.I, I saw the trailer for "More to Love". It looked like the one contestant ate Jerry Lewis before the lights went up. Kind of reminded me of "Average Joe" That was a classic show I can only imagine how much in real... (read in full...)
Stripper problem
Q. Iv been seeing a stripier for a long time at a club i really like her but im not sure it see likes me.Do you think shes just in it for the money and do you think she likes me also she treats me bad when i ask her stuff like how long you gonna be ...
A. 14 July 2009: As someone who has dated many strippers over the years I can only say that you have to understand a couple of things. Strippers have constant attention by men even when not warranted. They always do and always will. They get propositioned while ... (read in full...)
It took me all night to get the truth out of him and now I'm wondering if there's more!
Q. Fiance came home an hour late from work.He told me he had to work late. I didn't believe him and questioned him all night. THe next day he told me a co-worker just broke up with bf and didn't have anyone to talk to so he stayed late to talk to her ...
A. 14 July 2009: Why did he feel the need to lie to you? Because you may get upset?
If he lied to you about what seems such a trivial thing I would be asking him if there is anything else you need to know.
That old "helping a friend with their relationship" is... (read in full...)
He cheated, will these feelings go away?
Q. Dear cupid.... I have been with my partner for 5 years. About two years ago I found out that he had had phone sex with another girl, I found out by snooping (not by him telling me). When he was confronted he was extremely upset, all tears and sai...
A. 14 July 2009: I would submit to you that in some cases a non-physical or an emotional affair is equally as damaging for its victim. When we are cheated on, be it physical or not, we want to believe the cheater's protestations that it wont happen again, or... (read in full...)
Chatting online with his ex....Do you think that's ok?
Q. Do you think it is okay for your fiance to be chatting to an ex on msn??Don't know what they were chatting about but he tells me they don't talk anymore?? ...
A. 14 July 2009: So your fiance is chatting on MSN to his ex.
I will answer your question with a question or three for you:
Do you think it's wrong? What is your gut telling you? Do you know for a fact that he is not talking to her anymore? Does he cle... (read in full...)
How can I get my children's father to step up to the plate?!?
Q. I have been with my children's father off and on for 18 years we are both in our early 40's but he won't commit to us. We have two gorgeous daughters together. We have had our share of trouble along the way. I have lived with him before but he had a ...
A. 14 July 2009: Why are you looking to hoodwink him? "let him think it was his idea" what the hell is that? Do you have so little disregard for this guy that you feel like you have to sucker him into keeping you around? I am having a hard time understanding... (read in full...)
I wasn't nice to him when I bumped into him at a party. Should I text him?
Q. I thank anyone who helps( in advance). I broke up with my boyfriend of twelve years in January. He asked for no contact and I did this. I found out that he has a mutual friend who has been keeping him in touch with what I am doing and his mutual ...
A. 14 July 2009: Rather than call or text him, write him a letter, explaining what you feel. That way, you can rewrite the letter before sending it. If you call him, you only have that one shot to explain yourself and risk tripping on your own words and making the ... (read in full...)
Don't know what to do about these feelings for my ex boyfriends friend!
Q. The father of my child passed away two years ago when I was six months pregnant. He was 19 and in a drunk-driving accident (the guy who hit him was drunk) and I was 17 and a senior in high school. We, admittedly, had only known each other for three ...
A. 14 July 2009: Well being that the father has passed on, his family can always take heart in knowing that he did leave a piece of himself behind with the child you two had together. I am sure it is hard trying to sort out the feelings you have for your friend,... (read in full...)
I had sex with my boyfriend's best friend!
Q. Heyyah Every1 I dont no what to do it was my party on sataday and me and my boyfriend had an arguement and 1 of his best friends jordan, told me to come up stairs so he could talk to me ( we were both drunk ) and he were telling me to talk to da...
A. 13 July 2009: Look at your post! WTF? Your responses to the other posters tell us how remorseful you really are. If you were really remorseful, you'd be accepting and understanding of the criticism that Snowy Water and now I am about to heap upon you, If you... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about the porn I found on his computer!
Q. So recently I was on my boyfriend's computer and saw that he had google searched and dowloaded a porn video. The name sounded weird to me so I looked it up later and it turns out it was from a porn site where men have sex with women while they're ...
A. 13 July 2009: Actually those sleeping porns are fairly common. There's a plethora of Niche adult sites, some fairly innocuous, some very sinister,with the more sinister types usually not free to download.
You can talk to him about it I guess. But I would be... (read in full...)
If I keep going out with him without feeling a connection, am I leading him on?
Q. I met this man and he is a nice person and I open really slowly so I usually need to spend lots of time with someone before I'm really into that person. He's a nice man, polite and seems to be very into me( calls me often, texts me, keeps asking me ...
A. 13 July 2009: Id give it one more date, then if after that you still feel nothing, fly solo... (read in full...)
How can I be sure my internet boyfriend loves me?
Q. Well i am dating this guy online.... i'm 14 almost 15 and he's 19. We've been dating for 9 months now. He says he loves me.. I've seen tons of pics and him even on webcam so i know he's not lying... he seems like he's rlly in love... but how can i ...
A. 13 July 2009: The fact is that the person on the other end of the computer can be anyone. Internet relationships are always dicey. But what Id like to know is what a 19 year old (of legal age) is doing with a 14 year old, internet or not.
Please be very ver... (read in full...)
Love on the rocks, we broke up, should I email her to start anew?
Q. This may sound really stupid to alot of you but here it goes. I met this girl one day for like 1 minute she was a mutal friend of a friend. I felt something the secound I saw her, she admited she did too. Here is where it starts we knew each other ...
A. 13 July 2009: After such a whirlwind romance and breakup I would be reeling myself...wow!
But look at the facts. You know already from the car incident that she was lying to you. she broke up with you suddenly over text messages you sent when she was supposed... (read in full...)
Underappreciated and undervalued, she treated her exes better than me
Q. Hi, I'm new to posting on this website, but i have come here for advice before dealing with my relationship. my girlfriend and i have been going out for almost 8 months now. things were amazing in the beginning. she would do anything to please me ...
A. 13 July 2009: Welcome to the wonderful world of relationships, young man. There is no good that will come from her telling you about her past sexual experiences. For it will only end up putting an expectation in your mind, as it seems to be doing here.
And y... (read in full...)
Help! Have I ruined my chances?
Q. I like this guy, lets call him ben, i met him a few years back and met up with him recently, when we went into town before a friends concert it started raining so we hid in a shelter. we started playfighting, poking and tapping and i pushed him ...
A. 13 July 2009: Not at all sweety, not at all.
Is Ben the same age as you? I am sure he wouldn't have been kissing on you if he didn't like you. Sounds to me like Ben needs to not let his friends reply his messages on his own phone. I think it was the other ki... (read in full...)
Help, my sex drive's too high!
Q. Hello there, I am almost 21 years old male, and i am unhappy with my sex drive. It's too high, it is one step behind to perversion. It almost makes me unable to concentrate anything whole day. I'm asking a way to lower my sex drive, if there ...
A. 13 July 2009: Wow, your sex drive bothers you at this age? Then I would suggest maybe smoking tons of weed. It's not called "Ambition Begone" for nothing.
I'm only kidding....Sorry, bad humor.
Seriously though, if you feel it really is closer to somethi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she loves me, I think she's cheating and I'm insecure, any suggestions to help us?
Q. two days before me and my gf started dateing she was talking dirty to another guy through internet on myspace and i think she lies to me alot i love her and she says she loves me but i think she cheats on me and talks to other guys she dnt want me ...
A. 13 July 2009: Well short of asking her or spying on her, I would simply not put up with any online drama. Ive said it before and I'll say it again, the net can be a relationship killer, so if you feel that insecure about it, you may consider moving on. This thing ... (read in full...)
Is it any big deal if I masturbate 2 or 3 times a day, are there any side effects?
Q. Okay so im a 17 yr old female n i am just wondeting is it weird that I mas turbate 2 or3 times a day ? And does it have any side effects or something ?...
A. 13 July 2009: No problems there! I wish I had enough time on my hands to be able to pull it off a few times a day. I tell ya I'd have a hell of a lot higher ratings on Dear Cupid if I did. LMAO!!!... (read in full...)
I love him but he stinks!
Q. This is a bit weird but wot it is is my bf who i have been with for 2 yrs whome i have a daughter with has bad body odour! Now i have tried everythin 2 tell him, iv been nice, iv been straight up with him, and even told him its a turn off but he ...
A. 12 July 2009: Wow maybe inform him that science is doing wonderful things with soap and water these days....lmao
Who knows maybe he needs his colon cleansed. Having a bunch of impacted waste in his colon could have brought this about. So maybe he is full of ... (read in full...)
Should I put a naked picture of myself on the Internet (covering my face)??
Q. Ok. There has been a previous question about porn and double standards. I have wondered this very thing myself. But thought that physically meeting someone is perhaps not comparable to just watching porn. So... My husband watching p...
A. 11 July 2009: Watching porn and putting your goods on a website that is meant for hookups are two different things altogether. I wish you people would stop using your partner watching porn as an excuse for acting foolishly on the internet. You cant find love in ... (read in full...)
Am I too nervous? Or just not ready for a relationship?
Q. Ok i am like 20 y/o and i wanna know is it normal to be able to talk to a female, on msn/yahoo/aim/games/phone easier than talking upfront to em? i get all nervous while even being near a female, sometimes i have tears coming down my face but i do ...
A. 11 July 2009: Young man, it is very normal in many youths to have this type of anxiety. we all suffer from it at one time or another. And being that with messenger you can shut the computer off and walk away is part and parcel of why messenger is used.
If it... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my family but I'm not happy in the relationship
Q. hi, i need your help/advice im in a relationship have been for seven years we have two children, this is my problem, i love my partner to bits but theres another man that i really like i think i maybe falling in love with him!! i dont want t...
A. 11 July 2009: why don't you try couples counseling?
If you love your man to bits, you wouldn't be thinking about somebody else.
YOU CANT FIND LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IF ARE LOOKING OUTSIDE OF IT!
Please dont cheat on your man, because its a cowardly ,... (read in full...)
We are attracted to each other, but both of us have families
Q. please help, i am deeply confused. i have been with my partner for 14 years and have 3 children. i do love my partner but i am not in love with him any more, we argue a lot and he can be very hurtful with the things he says to me, which i wont g...
A. 11 July 2009: Please do not cheat on your partner! It is cowardice and a complete betrayal of any feelings you ever had for your partner.
Not once did I hear you say anything about couples counseling. Dont you want to be able to walk away from a relation... (read in full...)
She never calls or texts first
Q. Well here's my scenario... ive been with the girlfriend for six months, i went away on holiday for 2 weeks a month back. I called, i told her how much i missed her and that I couldn't wait to see her. We met up as soon as I got back and she was ...
A. 11 July 2009: Well unfortumately there are times when we must withdraw to our separate corners. It seems in this case that with what you said(she has a couple of deaths in her family in a short period of time, etc)that she in fact may really need some space. ... (read in full...)
My sister wont stop teasing me, how do I deal with it?
Q. My older sister is a complete b****. I'm not a very sociable person. I find it difficult to mingle with new people. I'm not an introvert, but making new friends is not something that is easy for me to do. My sister always teases me about this. She ...
A. 11 July 2009: Well, You can always give her a good smack in the mouth...LOL..JUST KIDDING!!! young lady. please don't do that. I do understand though. I had two older sisters that absolutely tormented the dogcrap out of me in high school, and I m... (read in full...)
Why did she have to make a comment like that?
Q. i know this is trivial compared to people with real problems but its upsetting none the less. my boyfriend was at work the other day and said that a girl there mentioned to him that my ex had got married (he used to work there too) she then...
A. 11 July 2009: Ah the dreaded social network...Haters and Hookups I like to call em. This gal obviously has nothing better to do than try to stir up drama. Block her and pay no attention to her. ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me through facebook, then got his parents involved in moving his things out and now wants me back!
Q. I am a 24 year old female and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year. I have my own apartment, work full time and I am a full time student. I allowed him to move in. I was not concerned about the financial piece of things because I ...
A. 11 July 2009: As a recovering Cocaine addict/alcoholic myself (8 years sober) it sounds to me by his actions with you and the way he and his family reacted to all of this, he is back on the drugs and his family most likely are enabling him, and keeping their head ... (read in full...)
Married, but I'm in love with the other man and want to pursue that relationship.
Q. I am a 38 year old woman married for 14 to a 52 year old man. My husband has been a truck driver for the last 12 years. When we originally married he was home everyday, then everyday turned into week and now months for the last 11 years. Nine...
A. 11 July 2009: Thanks, you just proved my point!
"Only God Can Judge Me"?
Well then since that seems to be the case from where you stand, why the hell did you ask advice for anything in the first place? Since your higher power is the authority you an... (read in full...)
Married, but I'm in love with the other man and want to pursue that relationship.
Q. I am a 38 year old woman married for 14 to a 52 year old man. My husband has been a truck driver for the last 12 years. When we originally married he was home everyday, then everyday turned into week and now months for the last 11 years. Nine...
A. 11 July 2009: Give me a break! (since my first response didnt make it through the mods...wonder why...lol. LETS TRY THIS AGAIN WITH FEELING!) All this justification is total hogwash. Make all the excuses you want but at the end of the day since you cheate... (read in full...)
How do I make him forget about the lovers in my past?
Q. when me and my boyfriend started going out he asked me how many people id had sex with before him and i lied and said it was only 4 when its really 9. (he was a virgin before me) recently he found out the truth and said he still loves me but he ...
A. 10 July 2009: Jesus,. how old are are you? You have had a pretty long past for someone your age. That is not good. Well since you lied in the first place, you only have yourself to blame. Thats not a real good foundation to start a relaztionship out on...a... (read in full...)
If it's okay for men to meet visual and sexual needs through porn then surely its okay for married women to date and go on romantic outings with other men to have their romance 'needs' met?
Q. I often hear men (and some women) claim that porn is ok for men within relationships because they are 'visual' and only seeking thrills....etc If this is the case and these people like to stereotype then the other side of this argument is that wom...
A. 10 July 2009: LMAO.......
You go Blondy!!!!!!
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He's going to be sentenced to 2 years, what do I do?
Q. Hey guys! About 6 months ago, i got talkin to a guy who i used to have a crush on! we got on really well and we had such a laugh together! he kept tellin me he liked me but he had a court case coming up and so he thought it would be unfair to ask...
A. 10 July 2009: Young lady,
As someone who has been in a fair share of real trouble and served some serious time over the course of my adult life, I can guarantee you that attempting at your young age to maintain a monogamous relationship while he is in the ho... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves his computer more than I
Q. my boyfriend seems to be more in love with his computer than me. this has only been a recent thing but im really getting angry and frustrated over it. when i try and make plans with him its like im bothering him and he cant even talk on the phone ...
A. 10 July 2009: I can relate to your plight. I would suggest that you ask him to do something with you(like dinner or a movie perhaps?)
It takes two to make a relationship but yet sometimes with all the external stimuli that the net offers, we need to be reminded... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get out of this relationship.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for four and a half years now. Since we first had sex (a month into our relationship), he started calling me bad names and telling me I'm worthless. He's my first love (first boyfriend really) and at first, I ...
A. 9 July 2009: I think that PinkTopaz has said it all here, young lady. First off, you are not worthless at all. You are a human being deserving of respect. If this guy has belittled you to this point I can simply only suggest that maybe in the near future that ... (read in full...)
I made a big fat stupid mistake and I'm scared my boyfriend will end things with me!
Q. Hi there Could really use some advice here. I was seeing a guy for a few weeks after Christmas but it was only casual. He left to work abroad for a few months and i met another guy who happened to be in the same crowd as the first guy (i.e they al...
A. 9 July 2009: Jeeze, I guess you should have thought about that guilt before you spread your legs for the other guy. You can't possibly love your guy and cheat on him. YOU CANT FIND LOVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IF YOU ARE SEEKING LOVE OUTSIDE OF IT... You only ... (read in full...)
He says I've cheated because "it doesn't fit right anymore"!
Q. I have a sex question. Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 years, he is the only person I've ever slept with- about 6 months ago when he have sex my vagina started making a "farting" noise- used to it would only do this in doggie style. For ...
A. 4 July 2009: Yep, Kelly is right. Although just about any position can produce the "quiffing effect"(yes its a crude term but we are adults here...I hope). It is a natural thing because of the onrush of air inside the vagina
Unfortunately with males this see... (read in full...)
My 12 year old stepson is constantly touching me and my husband says to "ignore it"
Q. I have a stepson, 12, who is constantly touching me, rubbing against me and begging to kiss my feet. We don't live together, but this is very disturbing, even on weekends. I alerted his father about this, but he is living in denial, thinking that ...
A. 4 July 2009: WOW!
I really feel for your plight. Having a stepson is hard enough as it is, but when he exhibits fetish behaviors at 12 and dad thinks its a phase, you got a whole mess of trouble.
I think you need to really put your foot down with your ... (read in full...)
Is her new guy a bandaid or is she playing mindgames with me?
Q. So, my girlfriend and I of two years broke up. the last year we were living together. We got into a fight and she left the house didn't come home that night. first time she ever did that in a fight. everything was going good the weeks before. I ...
A. 4 July 2009: SHE CHEATED ON YOU! WHY DIDNT YOU KICK HER ASS OUT?? YOU SHOULD HAVE CALLED HER NEW BOYFRIEND TO COME PICK HER UP!!!
Your girl cheated on you, why even give the piece of shit the time of day? You need to understand that she sees "SUCKER" on ... (read in full...)
He says I'm hotter than his wife and we have sex, what should I do?
Q. We see each other whenever we can, he calls me beautiful and says im hotter than his wife and hasn't seen anyone hotter than me. He speaks to me nearly everyday and everytime we see each other we have sex in his car, i really like him and want him...
A. 4 July 2009: TROLL POST!... (read in full...)
How do I get over him when this is happening?
Q. I need some help. I have no idea what to do, or what to think, or what to feel. I met this guy a couple of months ago in a parking lot at a car shop that I was at with my best friend. The moment we saw each other across the way, there was this ine...
A. 2 July 2009: Uh, It seems that you have run into a guy that is now (and no its not a novel idea) "running into you". Lets face it. This guy had an online relationship with another gal. He told you about her on the 3rd date. He likes the attention that sh... (read in full...)
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