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writes:What are the best ways to be cool and calm with guys you like? I need all the advice anyone could POSSIBLY get.Different methods and different ways to deal with butterflies.Thanks. Please post answers!!! xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, penta  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Self-confidence is sexy. Work on ways to feel good about who you are. When you're comfortable in your own skin, it won't matter what the boys think. And when THAT happens, you'll be able to be around them without sweating. (And, btw, that will attract the guy who's right for you.) Good luck.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (29 August 2007):
 When I was your age I thought girls didnt really care about guys. I thought we were the goofy, dorky, clumsy fools and they were all sooooooooo cool. I hope you can see the humor in that. I also hope you can see that the boys you like are not really quite as cool as you probably think. That should help you take them off the pedestal you have got them on. They are just boys my dear! If you want to impress them dont behave in a way that makes you appear needy or desperate. Thats a turn off for both sexes. Dont become somebody you arnt. Eventually that will backfire. Try to be your own individual and show how you are different and unique. Stop comparing yourself to others to figure out who you are. And by all means enjoy being a teenager, it can be fun if you dont stress out so much!!
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reader, Juliet  +, writes (29 August 2007):
1. Try this. When you are having fun,(relaxed) and feeling confident somewhere, squeeze your thumb and finger together on each hand. Also think back to good times and repeat the finger test. Do it whenever you feel like this.
Practice this, it takes time! But then when you see him, get the butterflies, squeese the fingers again, and automatically after taking a moment to do this, you'll feel great and less nervous and will BE ( not seem ) calm and cool :0)
2. Breathe! Sometimes we forget to slow down, take a breath and think calmly when mr.wow apprears, so do it, because it will calm you and you'll look more relaxed and sound more confident.
3. talk slower! dont feel like you have to get tons of talking done in the quickest time possible. tell yourself, " I will see them again tomorrow" if it helps you not waffle!
4.Imagine one of your mates ( who you know likes you and who you couldnt care less of their opinion ) is there instead of the person you like, talk to them like a friend, and feel ok to ask questions, and end the chat first.
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