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writes:All right, so most guys already know what it is women want in a guy, smart, handsome, confident, etc.But a question I don't ever see asked that I think would help out my situation as well as some others is, what don't women want in a guy, what are some things guys do that women consider to be a turn off.I guarantee there are some that we don't even notice, personally I can't keep a girl interested in me for very long, I'm guessing it has to do with my personality, I can be overly sarcastic and quite the smartass, not that I do so intentionally though.Any tips ladies? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): I used to ask this question of my female friends, until it dawned on me that they always told me the wrong things. They would tell me what they probably thought they "should" be finding important when picking a guy. But the guys they actually did jump on tended to be totally different (and often exactly what they complained about).Actions speak SO MUCH louder than words. Women will say they don't want certain things once they're in a relationship. But their actions can betray that a lot of women seem to hold those same things as virtually a prerequisite for getting interested in a guy in the first place.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (27 August 2007):
It will vary from person to person. You cant really generalise what girls like in a guy. But me personally, someone who isnt overly confident and up themselves, someone who isnt overly sarcatstic (i want them to show their TRUE emotions and not cover it up with sarcasm), someone who IS emotional. I also liek a guy who doesnt think hes god's gift to women, once again this brings me back to not being up yourself. I dont like guys who check out other girls, espcially when im around. Guys who drink are a turn off.
Nice guys are the best. Guys who genuinly care and think about others, espeically his gf. Guys who have respect for everyone and everything is the best. Being able to be polite and not rude. Respecting others and waht they have to say etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): arrogance and sleeziness are the two that pop into my head first... ie. don't stare at the girls chest, don't be flirtatious with other women when you're going out with someone. Girls like devotion... Anyway, alot of guys get confidence mixed up with arrogance. Often girls don't like to make the first move so perhaps be confident enough to make that move but don't assume that she'll fall head over heels for you. Also there are signs you can look for to see if a girl may like you, sometimes girls send clear signals that they aren't into a certain guy but are pursued anyway which can be frustrating...Hm, what else... generally a lot of girls are very sensitive, even if they don't like to let it on. Girls are becoming more and more insecure so being overly sarcastic and a smartass can be a turn off depending on what sort of comments you are making... Also, sarcastic and smartass comments (joking around sort of thing) are made more frequently when you know a person better but when you first meet someone it's better to be polite and nice. Just think, a guy can be made far more attractive if he has a good personality, and even if you're extremely good looking, if you come across as arrogant, rude, and overall not such a nice person, you'll become significantly less appealing.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (27 August 2007):
 Everyone will have a different answer. Lifes not that simple you know! ha!
But me personally, and bear in mind i'm an oldie so younger women will probably say different.
But i go for someone that i get good vibes from. My senses tell me if someone is a bit snakey or devious, or both, and i switch off from them.
I dont care what they look like, one of my exes i didnt fancy on first sight, but when i got to know him i fancied him like mad!
If a guy has an ability to lie, thats a major turn off for me.
I dont do bad guys, never have and never will. I dont see anything exciting in them. Just a rollercoaster ride to be honest.
Someone that drinks too much isnt my cup of tea either.
And if they aren't working, that sends me alarm bells.
I like a guy that doesnt eye up the women when im out with him too. Thats just rude.
Money doesnt give me a buzz though as long as they get by. Cars nope. Houses no thanks.
In fact in a nut shell, i like normal guys! haha
Hope you get a few replies.
C xxxx
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reader, duce00  +, writes (27 August 2007):
 Great question dude! I cant wait to see the answers. Come on ladies we can use some honest input here.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (27 August 2007):
 well i can be sarcastic and funny and loving at the same time so i dont think that is youre problem and also every women is different in what they want in a guy/ for me, reasonable apperance(as looks is not everything), good teeth, caring romantic, passionate, out going, great sense of humour, job, some sort of home away from parents and some one who can chill out and not get angry over simple things/ someone who doesnt drink too much or do drugs their is a huge list but it depends on how good the finer ones are/ its all about the person and how they are and how they match you although oposites can attract xx A
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Bad manners, lack of respect for women and people in general and bad hygiene to me are a huge turn off!!
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