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Why has my husband stopped being affectionate with me?

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Question - (17 October 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 27 October 2009)
A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I wonder why my husband stopped being affectionate with me.

He never looks at me,or touching me. He also losing his erections,but no medical problems.

I asked him why is that, but he says ,he loves me,and I have no reason to worry. But I do worry, what happens ,if its stays like that? He used to be very affectionate, and it's not like him. What should I do to help him, or to not loose my mind?

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A male reader, duce00 United States +, writes (27 October 2009):

duce00 agony auntI feel that there is some information missing here. Do you have kids and a demanding home life? Is he in a high stress job or situation? Is there some unresolved tension between you guys?

Try thinking about this stuff first before you personalize his sexual interest in you.

All of that aside, when was the last time you guys snuggled on the couch for a movie or took a drive together? Don't subscribe to the theory that men are robotic or primitive in what triggers they're sexual desire (I do admit we are generally less complex though). Sometimes we need a little mental stimulation too!

Good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009):

Thanks for your answers .Well, he went to the doctor, and he does get morning erections. The doctor does not know what is wrong ,because all the tests are k. Well ,we did talk about this a lot,but he can't say more,what he already said, he does not know.

What else is possible?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009):

if it is not ED or any other explainable medicl problem there is a another woman involved.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (17 October 2009):

Gina has it right. Men have very fragile egos, so we end up ashamed if we can't perform. Encourage him gently to see a doctor. Also, gently speak to him and see if everything is okay at work. He may be stressed or depressed. The emphasis is on gently, here, because he might clam up even more if he thinks it's his fault, or that you're being a judgemental. Just be there and try to speak to him.

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A female reader, Blackbird86 United States +, writes (17 October 2009):

If your husband is not able to have or maintain an erection it is considered a medical problem and you should go see your doctor. But men go through different points in their lives just like woman do. Is he under a lot of stress? Has he had any disappoints in his life recently? All of these things can effect how a man feels about himself as well as how well they perform sexually.

I would suggest having your husband go to see your regular doctor if his problem continues.

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