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writes:My husband left me last night. We had a furious row where lots of things in the past were dragged up. He says he's going up north. I am left here with four children, his business to run and I don't know how I'm going to cope. On Sunday it's our little girls Christening - how do I tell all the relations where he is and what has happened? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advise. He has returned and apologised but I'm not sure how much more I can take of this emotional turmoil! We've obviously got some serious issues that won't get resolved unless we talk about them (I suppose). He's done this before - we make up and then maybe 6months down the line we have a furious row leaving me even more resentful of him. He's not always at fault I'll dig and dig but he accuses me of some terrible things and expects me to just accept it and get on with it. I haven't done these things if so he'd be justified. How can I get him to believe I'm not this bad person he thinks I am? Any advice would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): ps i have had to call off 1 christening before about 8 wks ago as we had a row then and he didnt come home for the christening,i am so sick and tierd of the whole situation x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): hi there,i im going through the exact same thing it is my little boys christening 2mora and i have had a hugh row with my husband,he has run off somewhere and turned his fone off,he is probably at the pub.i am worried about telling my family the reasons for calling the christening off also.my husband prob wont come home all night as he usually doesnt when we have had an argument,and is then sorry the day after.he always runs off. i hate him at this moment in time!! i just want to let you know that you are not the only person at this present moment in time going through this.i have just been searching on the comp as i am upset also.and i found your question! and i agree with the other replys our men need to grow up,and that answer that said to write a letter to every1 was a gr8 answer,every1 will suport u as my family will.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Hopefully by now you would have heard from him, and perhaps he may have decided that he needs to be there on Sunday for the Christening. Because to have walked out at such a special time is really unacceptable. Your argument must have been very intense for him to do such a thing. Has he walked out before? If so, then he really needs to grow up and stay to deal with things. You should be honest with your family - say that he has decided to leave for a little while to sort out some personal issues you're both dealing with and don't put all the blame onto him, keep it simple - people will understand (it's amazing how supportive our families can be when we need them). Best of luck XX
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reader, duce00  +, writes (8 September 2007):
 Maybe this is the best time to tell your family. I didnt say it would be easy though. While I dont know the content of your argument I dont agree with walking out on your family like that under anything but the absolute WORST circumstances. It takes a little more than a "row" to walk off like that. If you know that your clear of any serious wrong doing then let him go off and pout.
Talk plainly and honestly with your family. Take on the responsibilities that you have to and get what ever help you can from friends and family. Start doing it on your own.
I would even suggest that you tell him to continue his little time out. Tell him your doing just fine without him and hes welcome to come back when hes willing to stand by his family and behave like a real man.
Sorry to come off so harsh my dear but like I said, he better have a very dammed good reason for doing this, otherwise he has some serious growing up to do.
Duce
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): May I suggest you write a note to all explaining the situation and that you would still like the event to go ahead and would value everyone's support at this difficult time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Tell them the truth. Why should you cover up for him? You are left with the business to run, er why??? More info please or contact me direct.
take care
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