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*aisy93
writes:I'm 17 and I got my first boyfriend a year and a half ago. We're still together, but recently he's been acting differently around me. I feel like now he doesn't care about me at all. He started acting differently when his brother died a couple of months ago, which i totally understood. He asked for a lot of space and we didnt talk or see eachother. But he still wants space now, and now i feel like he wants me out his life completely. I'm finding it hard to cope, and 2 days ago he texted me saying "we're finished" . it was such a shock and i'm not sure if he meant it or not because i dont know if it's just a phase. when his brother died i just wanted to be there for him, but he didn't want me to be. now i don't know where i stand. i don't feel i can tell him how i feel because it would be insensitive with everything he's going through. Our relationship was always on and off. i stuck by him through a lot, even when he was angry and sometimes became verbally and physically abusive. i can't believe our relationship has fallen apart after everything we've been through, and because he was my first boyfriend i don't know how to move on because i don't feel like i ever will. i find myself just sitting around my house letting my social life and work slip. how can i get back on track ?
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reader, ArizTerry  +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Your just 17 . The best years of your life are ahead of you. You really dont need this guy and all his problems .. Shake him off and start over..
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reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (30 November 2010):
 I think you need to accept that this relationship is over. He has disconnected himself emotionally. Sometimes this is the way that death affects people. I don't know his thought process, but it seems that he doesn't have the energy emotionally to continue.
This relationship took a lot of work, and he just doesn't have what it takes to maintain it.
You need to let go and move on...this is hard especially with a first boyfriend. It is painful to let go of hopes and dreams, but it can be done. Find something to occupy your time, stay busy, be with friends, and go out even when you don't feel like it. You are stronger than you think, and you will get thru this. hugs
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