Don't want drama. Have not talked to FWB since condom broke. So how do I tell him I'm pregnant?
Q. Soo I feel really stupid here but I don't know what to do.... I was in this FWB things for a couple months we used condoms but had an incident when one broke and 9 weeks later here I am pregnant. Problem is I haven't talked to him since the condom b...
A. 16 November 2013: Reading your follow up, you don't want an abortion and you're in need of help financially. So arrange to meet the ex and tell him there's something important you have to tell him. He'll no doubt put two and two together before you meet up (unless ... (read in full...)
After you meet for a date how long do you wait before contacting them again?
Q. Online dating. After you meet for a date, you kiss, you want to see her again, how long should you leave it before contacting her? She seemed interested but I don't want to come on too strong. Also I went online today and she was on there at the ...
A. 16 November 2013: Text her or better yet phone her today and ask if she'd like to meet up again. It's not coming across as too keen.
She could have been online for a variety of reasons, including to see what you were up to since she hadn't heard a peep since yo... (read in full...)
Sex is the best ever but boyfriend is treating me badly! Do I leave or stay for the sex?
Q. Hello everyone. I am in a really hard situation and it is eating away at me emotionally. I am in a relationship with a guy who I care about very much. The relationship is 6 months old although I had known him for a year before that. He has s...
A. 16 November 2013: I've experienced this kind of 'relationship', and through googling I stumbled across the Baggage Reclaim website and these particular articles that might help you:
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-do-men-blow-hot-and-cold/
http://www.ba... (read in full...)
I have a second chance with my ex but its on harsh terms- should I go for it?
Q. Hey all Its day 4 post breakup here, i havent started 'no contact' we are still talking every night all night (i know this is not the way to go) Our split was down to distance..5 years in an LDR with neither of us willing to give up our jobs ...
A. 15 November 2013: You already have very good feedback. I just wanted to answer your very last question, are you pushing her away by over communicating. Not at all - you pushed her away when you finished the LDR. This is why she is sceptical about your sudden change ... (read in full...)
He treats me like I'm a prisoner
Q. I need some advice. I've been with my fiancé for 3 years and he has two kids. His youngest just got into pre school so I got a job for the past 3 years he didn't want me to work just to take of the kids and the house and I was fine with that. But ...
A. 15 November 2013: Yes you should definitely leave him. As others state, this is an abusive relationship. The longer you stay in it, the weaker you'll get so leave now. Good luck, keep safe. ... (read in full...)
Does it make any sense to forgive him and try to move on together?
Q. I have posted here before..I really need my awesome aunt and uncles help again. My boyfriend and I just got back together. We were split up for two months. We split up because one day he just wouldnt return my calls or texts. 4 days go by, I delete ...
A. 15 November 2013: I think you should trust your feelings that he's using excuses for running off. He's now using excuses for running back. If the husband hadn't returned, do you honestly believe he'd be back with you? You know him best, but this has a smell of ... (read in full...)
Divorced in law dating relationship
Q. I'm falling in love with this guy. It is an odd situation, he is my x husbands sister's x husband. We maintained a respectful friendship for many years, I admit I was attracted to him for many years but I never flirted and he never did either. Our ...
A. 14 November 2013: I can understand him (and you) not wanting to tell the children at an early stage - so maybe he just wants to be more confident that your relationship has legs before telling them. However he can't keep you a secret forever, and the children are now ... (read in full...)
We've been tested but my boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms and it worries me!
Q. Hi,I'm a 23yr old female n my boyfriend is 26,we decided to go for an HIV test before we can ingage in sex n the results came back negative,we've been having unprotected sex ever since because even when I suggest we use a condom he tells me he ...
A. 14 November 2013: If you suspect he's having sex with other people then please stop having sex with him! Talk to him about this. If you still wish to date someone you can't trust (I don't know your level of suspicion or evidence), you must insist he uses condoms.
A... (read in full...)
Why is divorce a problem for a liar cheater wife?
Q. My wife started cheating on me around the year 2000. I confronted her and she was extremely sorry, so she made me believe. A few years later she was cheating again and after all the wasted effort I put into salvaging our marriage I knew it was over. ...
A. 14 November 2013: Maybe she foresees the end of her partying/ playing and is thinking of returning to you at some point in the future.
It doesn't really matter what her thinking is, it's more important that you just proceed with the divorce - with a decent lawy... (read in full...)
Should I risk humiliating myself by calling him after one night of sex?
Q. Hi everyone, I met this gorgeous guy online 6 months ago. We ended up meeting up and we had sex. We talked and laughed the night away after sex and it was great. He called me back the next day and then when I tried to call him back he did not ...
A. 14 November 2013: If you already tried calling him with no reply then I would drop it, especially if you'd feel humiliated by a negative (or no) reaction. Presumably he saw a missed call from you and ignored it - I don't think he's interested I'm afraid.
Some ... (read in full...)
I ended it so it should be easy, right?
Q. Hi all I have been with my ex for a very long time (5 years 1 month 2 days) We split 2 days ago. Its been LDR the whole time, spending weekends and holidays together. We probably average 2-3 days/week together We have both been in our j...
A. 12 November 2013: Some people do move on quickly (I'm not one of them so don't know how they do it), some people pretend to for the sake of their pride, especially if they're the dumpee.
Your ex may have moved on emotionally, or started to detach from you, a w... (read in full...)
I'm hurt he ignored me!
Q. Hi OK so i just don't know what to do in this situation and who's right and wrong really. :/ I was seeing my boyfriend for 5 months. We started off lovely, then after about a month he backed off and said he wanted to take it slow. I respec...
A. 12 November 2013: Sounds more like he's the one with control issues, deciding on the day whether he sees you, setting the pace of the relationship himself - sounds like you were quite understanding and accommodating.
Same goes with him not responding to you sinc... (read in full...)
I'm a student nurse with not a lot of money and he has a good job so why is it up to me to pay for the hotel room?
Q. I am a student nurse so not on alot of money and my boyfriend works in IT up in the city, has a good job,we have been together a few months but we decided to spend some privacy time together in a hotel room,so he wants me to book it up,arrange the ...
A. 12 November 2013: It isn't weird to have sex in a hotel rather than at either of your homes, now you've explained children at both homes.
But you'll have to bring up finances with him, particularly if you expect this to become a regular thing rather than a one-of... (read in full...)
I'm a student nurse with not a lot of money and he has a good job so why is it up to me to pay for the hotel room?
Q. I am a student nurse so not on alot of money and my boyfriend works in IT up in the city, has a good job,we have been together a few months but we decided to spend some privacy time together in a hotel room,so he wants me to book it up,arrange the ...
A. 12 November 2013: Why do you need a hotel room for privacy? That's more weird than whether the female or male should pay. ... (read in full...)
I explain to him he's jealous and clingy but hes not getting it!!
Q. I met this guy April 4.and we have been talking since then. At first he was really cool, sweet, loveable but now its like I love him but hes too much He crys all the time over small things And when We argue and someone apologizes he continue...
A. 11 November 2013:
The simplest way to make it stop is to stop all contact him. Stop seeing him, block his number/ change your own, block and remove him from Facebook and anything else.
He doesn't deserve your love and you don't have to worry about hurting him.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be angry about the benefit fraud a person close to me is committing?
Q. What would you do if you found out someone you are close too is committing benefit fraud? I completely disagree with people who do this. I believe benefits are for people who are in real need of them. But what I have found out, that this person...
A. 10 November 2013: No you're not wrong to be angry. Benefits ARE for people who are in real need, not for greedy people who somehow feel entitled.
What would I do in your position? I would tell the person how I feel and then distance myself. I wouldn't personal... (read in full...)
Is he playing games or does he fancy me? Why did he delete my phone number? Yet still flirts with me?
Q. Very brief- The guy is mid 40s. We work together and used to get on really really well, flirting, he use to be my bodyguard, defensive protective and at times jealous. We had a big argument, i told him i didn't fancy him (rumours were going arou...
A. 9 November 2013: Ok you fancy him (lots) but do you really LIKE this guy? He's getting you involved with drama at work, going to your manager, etc.
A lot of people not liking him is a red flag. I think it's much better and safer for you to leave this as a 'crush... (read in full...)
I explain to him he's jealous and clingy but hes not getting it!!
Q. I met this guy April 4.and we have been talking since then. At first he was really cool, sweet, loveable but now its like I love him but hes too much He crys all the time over small things And when We argue and someone apologizes he continue...
A. 9 November 2013: Don't understand. Is he your boyfriend? You say "we aren't anything" but you say you love him? And he got back with his ex - was that before the two of you got closer? Is he still with her?
This sounds too complicated, OP. I really can't understa... (read in full...)
Is he playing games or does he fancy me? Why did he delete my phone number? Yet still flirts with me?
Q. Very brief- The guy is mid 40s. We work together and used to get on really really well, flirting, he use to be my bodyguard, defensive protective and at times jealous. We had a big argument, i told him i didn't fancy him (rumours were going arou...
A. 9 November 2013: He probably didn't make a move because you said you didn't fancy him and had a big argument - that's probably when he deleted your number.
It could also because he realises that relationships between coworkers can get very tricky if/ when thin... (read in full...)
Due to my past experience with acne, I am worried that my boyfriend is trying to tell me something. What do you all think?
Q. I am someone who went through a severe bout of acne when I was younger. I have been left with scars (no acne now) and have been seeing a dermatologist regularly to get filler and laser to deal with it. Its better, but I do still have scars. Anyh...
A. 9 November 2013: Are the acne scars just on your face? And has he only seen your face, i.e. not been more intimate yet?
If he has seen all there is to see then it sounds like he's just making conversation, albeit in a clumsy way.
I once dated a guy with a comple... (read in full...)
Due to my past experience with acne, I am worried that my boyfriend is trying to tell me something. What do you all think?
Q. I am someone who went through a severe bout of acne when I was younger. I have been left with scars (no acne now) and have been seeing a dermatologist regularly to get filler and laser to deal with it. Its better, but I do still have scars. Anyh...
A. 9 November 2013: Are the acne scars just on your face? And has he only seen your face, i.e. not been more intimate yet?
If he has seen all there is to see then it sounds like he's just making conversation, albeit in a clumsy way.
I once dated a guy with a comple... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my cousin?
Q. should i have sex with my cousin hes 4 years older than me im 17 hes 21 nearly 22.Me and my cousin have been having a special connection for years a couple of years back we kissed and i touched his penis we both remember that night till this ...
A. 8 November 2013: A couple of years ago, when you were 14-15, you kissed and touched his penis. He was 19-20. No OP, don't have sex with him. Bad, bad idea. ... (read in full...)
His story put me off -- am I just naive?
Q. So I met this guy and I'm trying to decide if he's dodgy. He said he went on holiday to a 5 star hotel which was practically empty because it was a front for money laundering, so they have fake guests staying in suites for 2000 a night, staying for ...
A. 8 November 2013: No you're not being too idealistic, whether his story is true or not. It gives me the creeps, too. ... (read in full...)
I want him to respect me and want me again, but am I pushing him away?
Q. So I've posted here twice the last week about my ex who I've been dating for 2 months. We broke up because I started pressuring him for more of a commitment. He wasn't ready. Weve been fighting for 2 weeks. He finally called me a drama queen and ...
A. 7 November 2013: I don't think you should have to play these games. With the right person, it shouldn't be necessary.
You did the right thing not going to the sleep over - plenty of people still have sex or intimacy when on their period so don't assume that was... (read in full...)
Confused by this man dipping in and out of my life, saying he's not ready for a GF. I like him. What do I do?
Q. Please I need help. I am mature going to school, and working at the same time living my life like any individual do but I can't figure out what is happening to me. I met a guy about a month a go and everything was perfect in the beginning, he was c...
A. 6 November 2013: I really think he's just bored and texts you for a bit of attention. Don't take it personally because 1) he sounds like an odd ball and 2) he stated he's not ready for a relationship.
What do you like about him? He sounds like a complete pest?
... (read in full...)
I've been a little obsessive about looking at my ex's facebook and pictures, I know it hurts my girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. Hi all, So I broke it off with my controlling ex girlfriend over three years ago, we were together for about a year and a half and she had a young son from a previous relationship. She didn't treat me well and while I sort of hate her, it's more tha...
A. 6 November 2013: Yes it does hurt your girlfriend. This is what a woman in your girlfriends position wrote here very recently:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-has-been-facebook-stalking-his-exes.html
I think you are being unfair to your girlfrie... (read in full...)
Both of my friends with benefits don't want to see me anymore. What now?
Q. I guess that this doesn't fall under the traditional, or conventional, relationship topics, but I lost two friends with benefits and I'm going to have a tough time getting back into the dating world. The dynamics of our relationship bas...
A. 3 November 2013: OP, this post is bugging me because you talk about being disingenuous when that's exactly what you're being. You know that you lied/ omitted the truth about being non-exclusive to one of your "friends". You know that one of the women most likely ... (read in full...)
Need advice on a connection I made online that's got messy please.
Q. This may be long but please bear with me I really need some insight from everyone. So I'll start with I'm a 28 y/o lesbian and about four months ago I did the whole online dating profile thing and found a young lady who seemed more or less interest...
A. 3 November 2013: You have no obligations to this woman whatsoever. You clearly don't need the drama, she's not friend material never mind girlfriend material. Tell her that you being in contact with her could jeopardise your career, ask her to stop writing and ... (read in full...)
Is my husband picking up vibes between me and another man?
Q. The other day, my husband and I got together with a couple for dinner. I know the couple well enough, and my husband was meeting them officially for the first time. To make a long story short, I have shared a "look" with the husband of this other ...
A. 3 November 2013: "Why do you always talk about this guy like he's something?" - do you often mention this man in conversation with your husband? I'd say that would be what he's picking up on rather than anything on the night. Unless your avoiding behaviour was so ... (read in full...)
How can I remain strong once my lying cheating ex begins his apologetic stage?
Q. Hello and thanks I just broke up with my bf yesterday and I'm feeling saddened that it had to come to this. We were together on and off for 3 yrs. We had issues yrs ago when I caught him cheating with two different women online one woman was hi...
A. 3 November 2013: Repeating advise already given but you cut all contact. You don't share children so it is simple. Block him on your phone or change your number. In moments of weakness, come back here and read your post. You did the right thing in ditching this guy. ... (read in full...)
Is dripping in sweat normal when you both have sex together??
Q. My boyfriend and I are dripping in sweat when we have sex together. I mean, it is as if somebody sprayed a hose on both of us. Dripping wet in tons and tons of sweat!! Lol Is this NORMAL at all? And... we usually fog up all the windows ...
A. 3 November 2013: If you're both personal trainers then you already know a thing or two about strenuous exercise and how it results in sweating. It's the bodys way of cooling off. Women sweat just as much as men do, if exerting the same energy. If it doesn't bother ... (read in full...)
Both of my friends with benefits don't want to see me anymore. What now?
Q. I guess that this doesn't fall under the traditional, or conventional, relationship topics, but I lost two friends with benefits and I'm going to have a tough time getting back into the dating world. The dynamics of our relationship bas...
A. 3 November 2013: Male anon,
I think it's highly unlikely that a woman would write a similar post to the OP, because women don't tend to seek FWB arrangements. They often find themselves in those arrangements and are unhappy, trapped by low self esteem, etc. Tha... (read in full...)
How can I get my dear bunny girlfriend back?
Q. Six weeks ago, I met a beautiful young woman online who I ended up falling head over heels in love with. She was affectionate, caring, beautiful, we got on fantastically, the sex was amazing, and she seemed to be into me just as much as I was into ...
A. 3 November 2013: If she has blocked you on the dating website and on her phone, it's a clear signal that she doesn't want you to contact her. I think you should accept that. All you can really do is learn from this. You were deceitful. She probably wondered what ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with childlessness issues?
Q. How do I deal with childlessness issues? Especially the qustion "why haven't I had any"? I'm single and don't have any fertility issues - I've just never met a guy who wanted to get that serious with me. My chances of conceiving a child ha...
A. 2 November 2013: OP,
Your family and friends must know about your past health problems and also your past relationships (or lack of).
May I ask, who is asking these questions of you? It's really very personal, and you don't have to explain yourself to every To... (read in full...)
We've been having NSA sex and I'm confused
Q. Female, 17. Soooo...there's this guy and we've been having sex on and off (no strings attached) for about a year and some change. I know he's having sex with other people...and I'm not. It kind of makes me jealous that he can just go around having ...
A. 2 November 2013: Yes you should break it off because you feel jealous and confused i.e. you are getting attached to him, through the process of having sex (yes it can happen even if you don't like the person).
Also if he's sleeping around, you are at higher r... (read in full...)
Is dripping in sweat normal when you both have sex together??
Q. My boyfriend and I are dripping in sweat when we have sex together. I mean, it is as if somebody sprayed a hose on both of us. Dripping wet in tons and tons of sweat!! Lol Is this NORMAL at all? And... we usually fog up all the windows ...
A. 2 November 2013: I think you should stop showing off!!
Yes it's normal to sweat when 'exercising', in any format. ... (read in full...)
Both of my friends with benefits don't want to see me anymore. What now?
Q. I guess that this doesn't fall under the traditional, or conventional, relationship topics, but I lost two friends with benefits and I'm going to have a tough time getting back into the dating world. The dynamics of our relationship bas...
A. 2 November 2013: I still say, try dating sites. There are sites where you post on your profile what you're looking for, in your case it would be casual seeking casual. That doesn't mean random hook ups with strangers, but going on a few dates and seeing if you have ... (read in full...)
How can I be sure our relationship won't just turn into a FWB?
Q. I wrote earlier in the week and got some great responses. So thank u.My original post was about a guy ive been seeing for 2 months. We got into a huge fight (started by me) about being more committed. I flipped out on him and he told me it was done. ...
A. 2 November 2013: Bad idea - if you want a committed relationship you should be discussing that (and try to resolve what the fight was about).
Joking about sex sends him entirely the wrong signals, since you want more than FWB.
Forgetting about the past is just ... (read in full...)
Both of my friends with benefits don't want to see me anymore. What now?
Q. I guess that this doesn't fall under the traditional, or conventional, relationship topics, but I lost two friends with benefits and I'm going to have a tough time getting back into the dating world. The dynamics of our relationship bas...
A. 1 November 2013: You did "fool and trick" at least one of these women, because she had no idea you were screwing some one else. Be honest with yourself for goodness sake.
What you describe as drama free friends with benefits is a situation that women often be... (read in full...)
He's a great guy, except for his sex drive
Q. I am frustrated beyond belief and the worst part is, I will NEVER EVER cheat. My boyfriend (who is, admittedly, a very good guy) and I have been together almost 3.5 years. No engagement ring yet and he always claims it's money which I get because ...
A. 31 October 2013: My first thought was that he's scared of getting you pregnant. It makes sense that he's happy with oral and anal but holds back on mutually satisfying (vaginal) sex ... that could result in a baby.
Are you trying for a baby? Have you discusse... (read in full...)
What should I do about a guy I met online? He didn't reply to a text but had time to log in to dating site.
Q. Please need some advice! I have been going out with a guy I met online. He told me he only had one other girl friend in his life ( hes 37). He was quiet and seemed lovely. Well it's been 4 dates. As we have great chemistry he has spent the...
A. 30 October 2013: I think that after four dates, he's not sure and that's fair enough from his point of view, though not brilliant news for you. It's also fair enough that you don't want to have sex until (if) you are in a monogamous relationship, and it's good that ... (read in full...)
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