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writes: I met this guy April 4.and we have been talking since then. At first he was really cool, sweet, loveable but now its like I love him but hes too muchHe crys all the time over small thingsAnd when We argue and someone apologizes he continues to bring it up and how it was a problem which leads to more arguments because he cant seem to let anything go... Even when I tell him im not mad he keeps talking about it and apologizing to the point where it frustrates me and I actually get mad. ON top of that hes super clingy... If I don't text him back for 10mins he will send me a boat load of messages like (example. :'( , talk to me plz, are u busy, wat r u doin, reply back, helllllloooo)Ive done that to him once and it was because i really needed his help and now everytime i tell him to calm down and stop sending me messages like that he brings it up basically telling me I cant get mad because I've done it to him before. And another thing. Everytime I mention a guys name he gets irritated and then he just isn't very talkative, then he get mad. When while we were talking he decided to get back with his ex... He doesn't have the right to be mad and I tell him that all the time because we aren't anything. But I just end up not talking to guys because he doesn't shut up about it and how it makes him feel. I mentioned a restaurant called "SHylers" and I meant to send that to my sister. And the message said "I really want shylers, I haven't been there in forever...its all im thinking about", but I sent it to him by accident and he complained the whole day because he thought i was talking about a guy even though I explained to him it was a restaurant afterwards Last but not least hes one of those people where you can cater too but as soon as you tell him no he complains that you never do anything at all for themHe has a good heart and I know he just wants things to work out but He is starting to push me away with the jealousy and clinginess... I told him on multiple occasions to calm down and stop being so jealous and stop messaging me so much when I take a little longer to text back but hes not getting it.. I don't know what else I can say or doWhat do I do, please help me ?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (11 November 2013):
 Cut him off. Block his number (many cell phones have free apps to block numbers), delete him of FB and anywhere else. Pretend he doesn't exist any more.
Take some control. Obviously telling him stop talking to me doesn't work, and my guess is... because you ANSWER him.
Just stop.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (11 November 2013):
The simplest way to make it stop is to stop all contact him. Stop seeing him, block his number/ change your own, block and remove him from Facebook and anything else.
He doesn't deserve your love and you don't have to worry about hurting him. Instead, look after yourself x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI apologize hopefully I can clarify a bit.
When we first started talking he was single as far as I know. He said him and his gf broke up a while ago.
while we were "talking" he got back with her, and I told him I didn't want anything to do with him but he wont allow me to leave or date or anything and I love him even though he did me completely dirty and I donot want to hurt him even though he hurt me so even though its unfair I end up calling it off with anyone im interested in because he doesn't shut up about it.
I do believe they are still together and I have already informed him of the fact that I don't want o pursue anything more with him but he just wont stop and Idk how to make it stop.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (9 November 2013):
Don't understand. Is he your boyfriend? You say "we aren't anything" but you say you love him? And he got back with his ex - was that before the two of you got closer? Is he still with her?
This sounds too complicated, OP. I really can't understand whether or not you two are a couple?
He sounds top much hard work to me. You can't make him less clingy or cry less or anything else - this is who he is.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 November 2013):
Yikes. It's been 7 months and it's THAT full of drama? Personally, I would take that as a hint that you two aren't compatible.
He is super insecure and that in itself is just a huge turn on for most people.
You can either continue (he won't change be sure of that) or you can end it. You can't fix this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2013): My dear, clingy people don't pay attention when you ask them to lighten up. Your boyfriend is insecure, very immature, and not used to being in a real relationship. This is probably the first serious one he has ever had. He has a lot to learn, and he is making it tough on you. This is a trial-relationship that is going to teach him a few lessons on how to behave like an adult. What the consequences are if you don't.It's starting to get to you. You shouldn't be having major disagreements in a relationship so new. You have conflicting personality-types; so your incompatibility is going to fuel a lot of disagreements and fights.I'm afraid you're going to have to break his heart and end it. You've tried to work it out, but he's too immature to get the point.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (9 November 2013):
 In my experience, these things don't get better, they just get worse. There is literally nothing you can do to help him unless he decides to help himself. He's too much work OP. Do you really want this drama in your life? Is it worth it?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (9 November 2013):
Uhhhh, dump him? Why are you putting up with someone who has so many issues when there are 3.5 billion guys out there?
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